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Alot of posts on here about guys not knowing how to approach women with their fetish. I find it so easy. I was just thinking about it and counting in my head and I've had sexual experiences with feet with almost half the girls I've dated.
There was a time when I was a bit secretive about it. But now I've gotten to the point when it does come up I talk about it and talk about it with confidence. I find most women totally open to it or having experienced it themselves already. There are alot who hate feet or say "I'd rather you suck on something else". But guys, dont underestimate how many women like it or want it. Women in general love the attention a guy gives so most wont complain.
I have a friend coming over to hang out soon. And we joked around about it being like a teenage sleep-over since she's spending the night. She joked saying she'll do my hair and I in turn said then I'm painting your toenails. She said ok and wants me to...Years ago I might have been hesitant to offer that. But now I have nothing holding me back. And during it I'm gonna make sure she realizes I like feet and hopefully it'll progress from there
So yeah my whole point is guys...regretting something is the worst. So if you get up the courage, just put it out there. You'll be surprised how many women welcome it with open arms...or feet...lol. Just dont give them the feeling that you're embarrassed about it. Women love confidence. Women love a guy who takes his time with foreplay...so the odds are in your favor!
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quote:Originally posted by Christian: Alot of posts on here about guys not knowing how to approach women with their fetish. I find it so easy. I was just thinking about it and counting in my head and I've had sexual experiences with feet with almost half the girls I've dated.
There was a time when I was a bit secretive about it. But now I've gotten to the point when it does come up I talk about it and talk about it with confidence. I find most women totally open to it or having experienced it themselves already. There are alot who hate feet or say "I'd rather you suck on something else". But guys, dont underestimate how many women like it or want it. Women in general love the attention a guy gives so most wont complain.
I have a friend coming over to hang out soon. And we joked around about it being like a teenage sleep-over since she's spending the night. She joked saying she'll do my hair and I in turn said then I'm painting your toenails. She said ok and wants me to...Years ago I might have been hesitant to offer that. But now I have nothing holding me back. And during it I'm gonna make sure she realizes I like feet and hopefully it'll progress from there
So yeah my whole point is guys...regretting something is the worst. So if you get up the courage, just put it out there. You'll be surprised how many women welcome it with open arms...or feet...lol. Just dont give them the feeling that you're embarrassed about it. Women love confidence. Women love a guy who takes his time with foreplay...so the odds are in your favor!
Well, Ben Del Amitri is "DA Man" in the category of courage. Ben can get some of the most gorgeous babes around to pose and show off their pretty feet for him. Well,
-------------------- V/R, FM9 aka Mr. Footbooty "She had real pretty feet. I was always a sucker for pretty little feet... Outside of her being pretty and hip, with a good body, her feet is what attracted me." - p. 39 of "Miles" (Davis) The Autobiography Posts: 8821 | Registered: Sep 2003
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I agree with you 110% Cristian. If you act shy or reserved when talking about your fetish, people will detect it.
Emotions are contageous
If you treat your fetish as a normal part of who you are, people are more receptive to accept it. It doesn't always mean they'll understand it, but at least they're more likely to accept your preferences. If you treat your fetish as weird, other people will treat it as weird too.
Confidence doesn't always come naturally. Sometimes you have to learn it to earn it.
Realistically, having a foot fetish is not a very uncommon trait. That's my story and I'm stickin' to it.
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That last paragraph really said it all, Christian. I've uttered those same sentiments out here on the forum more times than I can count and they still ring truer than ever for me. Here's the condensed version of my sermon in a nutshell:
I've always said that foot fetish is not a spectator sport. The Calico Jack school of thought endorses active involvement, taking initiative and seizing the day. It endorses being cool, collected, confident and charismatic. Couple that with good hygiene, excellent listening skills and an unbridled sense of humor, and I believe that there's very little that a foot fetishist can't accomplish. Always remember to never treat your fetish as if it's something weird or abnormal, because if you do then other people are likely to see it in precisely that light. On the contrary, treat your foot fetish as the normal & healthy part of your sexual identity that it is. And finally, never lose sight of the distinction between indulgence and compulsion. To be successful, one must master their fetish rather than be mastered by it. Amen!
quote:Originally posted by Calico Jack: ...never lose sight of the distinction between indulgence and compulsion. To be successful, one must master their fetish rather than be mastered by it. Amen!
quote:Originally posted by Calico Jack: That last paragraph really said it all, Christian. I've uttered those same sentiments out here on the forum more times than I can count and they still ring truer than ever for me. Here's the condensed version of my sermon in a nutshell:
... Always remember to never treat your fetish as if it's something weird or abnormal, because if you do then other people are likely to see it in precisely that light. On the contrary, treat your foot fetish as the normal & healthy part of your sexual identity that it is. And finally, never lose sight of the distinction between indulgence and compulsion. To be successful, one must master their fetish rather than be mastered by it. Amen!
Calico Jack
I agree 100%. Step up and be strong/confident ...if you're a footman, say you're a footman with fearless pride.
-------------------- V/R, FM9 aka Mr. Footbooty "She had real pretty feet. I was always a sucker for pretty little feet... Outside of her being pretty and hip, with a good body, her feet is what attracted me." - p. 39 of "Miles" (Davis) The Autobiography Posts: 8821 | Registered: Sep 2003
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Yeah I'm one of those guys, who is embarrassed about it. I just don't know anyone around me with the same care for feet as I do. I guess I should be strong/confident..idk...I do thank you guys for opening up my eyes, and realizing It really is a normal thing
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I am so up front with it now. It seems to be one of my srtong points now. All of my friends know i have a foot fetish. It's part of who I am and I let people know. And it has got me very far. I have girls just come over to chill and hang out while I play with their feet. It is true that they like the attention.
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Thanks everyone for the good words and agreement.
For those who need to take it step by step..which I did myself. I find an easy way to introduce it to a women is to first get the topic of convo on kinky things. I've told girls indirectly about my fetish by mixing it in with others. For instance...I also love dom-sub role play, bondage, cuffs tying up...throw it in the middle of other things you like and first see if she picks it out. If she doesnt mention it, ask her which one's she's tried, which she's interested in trying and which one's she's not into. This way you steer the convo onto the exact subject without making it the focal point.
I've done this and if they react good to it, then I go further. If they seem unsure, I tell them how fun and erotic and sensual it is. If they are totally turned off by it...well then I may just leave it where it is. I've turned a handfull of women into feet gals now by opening up their eyes to it.
I have found the most opposition to it is from men. I've made foot related chat room names and have gotten alot of flack for it. Guys with dumb-ass comments like "Who wants feet...be a man and suck on tits and pussy.". I just ridicule them for being one dimensional. I say yes I love those things too and on top of that I do more than you. Guys into feet are generally way more sensitive and better lovers. And thats the key to why it will go over well with most women. We pay more attention to foreplay instead of wanting to just fuck.
I also got attacked with guys into feet or submissive guys have no backbone and are not men....lol. This was said to me by some guy last week. I just laughed and told him I bet I've been with more hot women cuz of my fetishes than he has overall.
So yeah...dont worry about what women will think. If she hasnt experienced it, show her a world she hasnt yet experienced and I bet she falls in love with your admiration for her feet. As for the guys who try to laugh at it...pity them cuz they are the one's inferrior to our love-making skills Posts: 80 | Registered: Mar 2005
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me, i havent gotten past a few things yet. i mean i know i should have cos of the intimacy issue (if youre totally open with your partner they should accept it) but honestly, i get nervous about goin too far. my girlfriend already liked going barefoot a lot which was a plus, and i let her know i think it's sexy when a women is free and natural about being in bare feet and that attitude turns me on. i mentioned in passing that i think ankle bracelets are sexy so she wears her hemp beaded one now (and maaaaan was i thankful ). i give her foot massages now and then usually in the mix with other types of massage, i'll rub or kiss her feet during foreplay....i know i shouldnt but i just feel weird about bringing feet up exsplicitley during sex. i love her, i dont wanna lose her, i know she probably wont freak out, but im nervous about her thinking im a weirdo or getting turned off while im totally in the moment. our sex life is healthy. we both enjoy giving oral sex, and she has no problem swallowing me. during lovemaking she'll let me spill my cum on her belly or breasts....why should it be weird if i want to spill it on her toes or soles? i ask myself this knowing im not crazy but i still get weirded out.
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Christians on point,....cj school of thought,classic material lol...I'm not the oldest guy on this board but I've come to the conclution age/experiance plays a big part.I was quiet about my fetish,even to gf's in highschool(eccept 1 and that was a nitemare till I met my current girlfriend 8 years ago and even then I kept it quiet for a wile)I wouldn't keep foot mags in my room scared they would be found,and eventually opened up to my gf(around age 17 or so),I use to have to hide my foot porn and wasn't open to friends till maybe 20 or so.once I understood human nature and all of that,I have no problem admitting my fetish most of the time.there will always be somthing in the back of your head when ya telling people u don't know too well like "they might think I'm weird"but its not overpowering like it is when your young.I think exploring and seeing all the differant types of weird fetishes that are out there made me feel that hey,we really aren't as bad as liking some of thease other things that people can be into,and also going to parties that mashed the goth, bdsm/fetish cultures in clubs showed me how common our fetish is.when you go to places like that,you see us everywhere and it made me realise that hey its not as obscure and out there as we thought it was.
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quote:Originally posted by conerz: during lovemaking she'll let me spill my cum on her belly or breasts....why should it be weird if i want to spill it on her toes or soles?
It shouldn't because it isn't. As long as you feel that it's a perfectly normal way to release yourself sexually, you'll have less of an uphill battle to climb in convincing your partner of that. Chances are that convincing won't even be necessary because it sounds like you have a real good foundation to build upon in your relationship, conerz. That's all the more reason I'd recommend being honest and up front with your girlfriend about your desires. The sooner it's out there on the table, the more free and open things can readily be, and a relationship between loving and understanding partners can only stand to benefit from that.
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