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how have you guys shared your fetish with the ladies?
i've had a couple of girlfriends who have let me play with their feet over the years... in my longest relationship so far, of about 2.5 years, i just started out by giving her foot massages, then one day i just kissed her feet after one, and after time i tried to suck her toes, but she thought it felt gross. she loved the massages, but that was about as far as she let me go with it, unless she had been drinking i made a point to always have some wine around, hehe. she told me she liked it because i did, but i don't think she liked it at all, honestly.
another gf i had, and this one only lasted about a month, because she was moving away... we got hot and heavy pretty quick, and we were talking about what we masturbated to, and i told her 'foot porn' so i showed her some on wusfeetlinks then she put her foot in my face and said "suck em" so i did, obviously, and she absolutely loved it. it was her first time doing that kind of thing, and she was really into it. unfortunately she had to leave, and even if she stayed, she refused to paint her toenails... one of those natural girls i guess. not a turn-off, but i'm much more turned on by some color on the toes
ever since then, i've had pretty bad luck with women, in general. the couple of girls i've met over the last couple of years have been really, really turned off by it. i don't know if i'm coming out with my 'secret' too quickly, or what.
i like to walk to the local grocery store a few times a week - they have a cafe where i like to read a book and grab some food... always good looking feet to see there.
any advice on how to approach a stranger and tell her she has nice feet, without having her call the cops on you? i'm usually kind of reserved anyway, so it's difficult for me to approach people in general...
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Some of these Bro's might say otherwise, but I personally never approach women with compliments on their feet. I have no qualms talking about it or acting on it with a girl after I get to know her or start going out with her, but I could never get over the fear of scaring a girl off if that was the first thing I ever said to her.
I'm not putting a compliment on feet on the same par as complimenting a girl's boobs or her ass. I mean seriously, a chick is going to know right off the bat that these are sexual comments. But at the same time, if the first words out of your mouth to a girl are nice words about her feet, one of these things could possibly happen:
*She will most likely be surprised by the comment(s), and at best you're off to an awkward start.
*She will be surprised by the comment and automatically assume that you're weird because it'll probably be the first time she's heard it, and then your chances of anything else with her are slim to none.
*She will chalk you up as one of "those weird foot guys" and cut you off right away.
And for an extreme case:
*She will think you've got a little sugar in your tank because she's only heard comments about female feet from other women, and therefore treat you like "one of the girls", becoming your friend and any chance of something more ever happening with her being a pipe dream at best.
A cool case:
*She's already moonlighting as a foot model and asks if you've been enjoying her site...and then offers you the chance to be in a pic set, paying you to do things to her feet.
And finally the perfect scenario:
*She will be flabergasted at the fact that a man can take notice of her feet...she figures you for macho yet attentive enough to notice something like that, and falls madly in love with you, then you two spend the rest of your lives happily and joyfully exploring all the fantasies you've been harboring all these years.
Now think realistically...how likely is this final option apt to take place?
So save the foot compliments my friend...worry about hooking up with the girl first, and then let the compliments flow.
Hope this helps.
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There's hardly a thing to add except to put it in just a slightly different way.
I would suppose a woman's open-mindedness and intelligence plays a big factor in this, unless she's one of those extremely rare women who actually has a foot fetish herself; so it's luck of the draw as to whether or not the lady you're with will open her mind to the foot fetish. That's not to say women who aren't into the foot fetish aren't intelligent - they may have arrived at their hatred for feet in an entirely intelligent manner.
So, when to share your appreciation of feet with others? Probably about the same time you talk about films you like, books you enjoy, music you like ... then you can talk a little about how you like feet. Indicate it's one of many things you'd appreciate sharing with the person.
I haven't had any objections to my foot fetish yet, but I've never made a huge deal of it either. I'm just pretty casual about it - I don't make a production of it, and I'm not nervous to talk about it, I just talk about it the way I tell people I love astrophotography, or whatever. My friends know, my girlfriends think it's pretty cool and are always showing off their nailpolish, pedicures, new shoes or whatever to me. Even my girlfriend's sister and mom are in on it and show off their feet to me (sweet feet run in the family it seems!) ... so it's all good.
Common sense, really.
Best of luck!
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I happen to share most views with Lou here... i only make compliments filled with humor in the voice only if i'm 100% sure i won't see the gal ever again!
if i will see her again.. i wait! though some friendship started that way.
take your time... feel the person out.. then go for it.
the more awkward you feel.. the more a girl is going to pick it up. so relax!!!!
quote:Originally posted by RPM: take your time... feel the person out.. then go for it.
Lou and RPM had great comments, but I think the one above pretty well sums it up for me and is what I would do if I was playing the field again.
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I'm not saying you should do this, but the I told my girl was by saying that one of my friends had a foot thing. By using him I was able to tell her certain aspects of the fetish that I liked and was able to gauge her feelings toward it, I mean I felt like a bit of a dick using my friend like that but it worked because when I finally felt comfortable enough to come clean with her about it she was accepting of it and its been great ever since with her. But like RPM said....take your time......
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If i can add a female opinion here..i want to say something. Stop treating it like its a dirty little secret or something you have to "come out" about. just make foot fetish a normal part of what you do when your intimate with someone. and have confidence in it as part of sex. my opinion of something also depends on how the person treats it. if a man is confident about something, its much more appealing than getting the impression that he's embarrassed and has to force it out into the open like dirty laundry. its only going to seem "strange and abnormal" if you treat it that way yourself.
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quote:Originally posted by 8cuteToes20f: ...just make foot fetish a normal part of what you do when your intimate with someone. and have confidence in it...
That is a very true statement and a lesson I've learned. It's alot easier said than done, but self comfort and acceptance of your fetish are important keys to the success of sharing with another partner.
If you think of yourself as weird, so will everyone else.
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What you're doing is fine. It's a numbers game. Keep doing what you're doing and the next girl you meet, will probably be cool about it. All the others here have given excellent advice on how to approach the matter so I'll just add one more...approach it as tho it is as natural as kissing.
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I often compliment a ladies feet if I think she has nice ones. Just about all the girls I talk to are pretty cool with me having a foot fetish. I pretty much let them know it from the get-go.
I figure the ones who get upset are basically shallow princessy brats or complete neurotics who just aren't worth wasting time on. I've learned at a young age that the longer you persist in dealing with a neurotic the more likely you'll end up one too.
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You are right Lou, excellent post, but I cannot say that I necessarily follow it. Sometimes I think with my lower body rather than with my brains, and the results resemble your predictions.
The thing is: Once you get to know a lady, this reaction(s) will happen at the first hint at feet love if she feels it is something weird. It might be "forgiven" (for it is our eternal sin) because some other aspects of our character overshadow it, but you cannot avoid. Working somebody who is not into foot play into it is usually considered a sacrifice, and we pay for it.
Is it turning to a skeptical thread ?
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The foot fetish can be intimate, but can it also be the opposite? How do you become open to someone about it that you don't necessarily know all too well?
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here's my two cents. you have to feel out the lady. As said above its important to be CONFIDENT in your self and be a good communicator , which many take for granted. If im attracted to her I see nothing wrong with saying "its those beautiful toenails that attracted me". But dont beat the foot thing into the ground. Or else you could come off appearing like a weirdo! I respectfully disagree with Lou and say "take it slow, try to gauge her reaction and good luck doesnt hurt! Otherwise if you dont take a chance you dont get many feet in a short lifetime!
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quote: I respectfully disagree with Lou and say "take it slow, try to gauge her reaction and good luck doesnt hurt! Otherwise if you dont take a chance you dont get many feet in a short lifetime!
That's what I said too mjl...I probably just didn't word it clearly since I got off on a tangent of "what if" scenario's. Check it out:
"So save the foot compliments my friend...worry about hooking up with the girl first, and then let the compliments flow."
Basically, you and I are on the same page...we both say to take it slow...gauge...and then let the compliments on her feet commence.
quote: It might be "forgiven" (for it is our eternal sin) because some other aspects of our character overshadow it, but you cannot avoid. Working somebody who is not into foot play into it is usually considered a sacrifice, and we pay for it.
True enough Zamora. Sometimes, no matter how much we gauge and wait, the girl just won't be into it. It depends on how much you like the girl as to whether or not you want to hang around after the initial let-down (if she's not into it and shows no signs of getting into it of course). Some girls can be "made" into our barefoot dreamgirls with enough time and dedication, but then some never will...I'd say it basically boils down to a case-by-case situation at that point.
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