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Is there a cure for foot fetishism? (I know its not a disease or anything, but I cant htink of a better way to word it.)
I (obviously) have a foot fetish and really wish I didn't, is there anyway of getting round it other than just trying to ignore it?
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Like all fetishes, if it's just a sideline thing to sexual intercourse (like foreplay) then there's really no problem. If on the other hand if you're like me where it's the ONLY sexuality you have then I understand why you want to get rid of it.
I really wish I didn't have this fetish and long for a conventional sexuality but to be honest sex just makes me want to throw up!!
The best thing I can suggest is to go out and explore your fetish with foot hookers etc. You might come to terms with it, or better still might get turned off by it which means the fetish will be on its way out Posts: 89 | Registered: Aug 2004
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I cant see you "getting rid of it". Consider it a gift but seriously though, its something you are pretty much born with it you might be able to broaden it by exploring new aspects of it but as for getting rid of it..no. So embrace it rather than hating it.
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Lick - it is like you with the only sexuality you have. I'm kinda hoping to find some way out/round it soon though, 'cause I have a lady-friend and everyone at college/work keeps pressuring me to do things, and it does disgust me Posts: 184 | Registered: Jan 2007
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quote:Originally posted by cliveman: Lick - it is like you with the only sexuality you have. I'm kinda hoping to find some way out/round it soon though, 'cause I have a lady-friend and everyone at college/work keeps pressuring me to do things, and it does disgust me
Rather than worrying about how to get rid of this attraction you have to pretty feet so you can "get busy" with your ladyfriend, why not worry about cutting yourself loose from this anxiety induced by peer-pressure?
If you've got people telling you that you need to get a little more physical with the lady you're with...you seriously need to tell them to get their own life! What you and your ladyfriend do is y'all's business and nobody else's...who the HELL are they to put pressure on you?! Seriously, answer that question first.
As for what you're attracted to, my Brother bluetoelover is spot on. You will NEVER get around it...attractions are mental, and you need a will of solid steel to be able to control your thought-processes. What you can control however are your actions: how are you going to act on these kinds of attractions?
My advice to you is this cliveman: Step 1. Start telling these nosey fucks you work with and go to college with to shut the hell up about sex. If these kinds of people can actually put the pressure on you, then you are WAY to susceptible to outside influence. Keep your convo's with these people clean on their behalf and your behalf...don't go into redlight areas because obviously this is something you're not comfortable with discussing.
Step 2. Just give up the ghost right now of ever getting around or abandoning your attraction to feet. Like it or not that's a part of who you are. Do however try to implement "normal" sexual activity into your attraction to feet, but ONLY if you're ready for sex with your ladyfriend, which leads me to step three...
Step 3. Don't give a flying rat's ass about sex until YOU are ready for it! I'm serious Bro, men can feel pressured just as much as women into doing things they're not entirely ready for. There is no "code" or "system" to how a man should behave when it comes to this...you have to do what feels right for you.
Hope this helps.
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quote:Originally posted by cliveman: Lick - it is like you with the only sexuality you have. I'm kinda hoping to find some way out/round it soon though, 'cause I have a lady-friend and everyone at college/work keeps pressuring me to do things, and it does disgust me
Rather than worrying about how to get rid of this attraction you have to pretty feet so you can "get busy" with your ladyfriend, why not worry about cutting yourself loose from this anxiety induced by peer-pressure?
If you've got people telling you that you need to get a little more physical with the lady you're with...you seriously need to tell them to get their own life! What you and your ladyfriend do is y'all's business and nobody else's...who the HELL are they to put pressure on you?! Seriously, answer that question first.
As for what you're attracted to, my Brother bluetoelover is spot on. You will NEVER get around it...attractions are mental, and you need a will of solid steel to be able to control your thought-processes. What you can control however are your actions: how are you going to act on these kinds of attractions?
My advice to you is this cliveman: Step 1. Start telling these nosey fucks you work with and go to college with to shut the hell up about sex. If these kinds of people can actually put the pressure on you, then you are WAY to susceptible to outside influence. Keep your convo's with these people clean on their behalf and your behalf...don't go into redlight areas because obviously this is something you're not comfortable with discussing.
Step 2. Just give up the ghost right now of ever getting around or abandoning your attraction to feet. Like it or not that's a part of who you are. Do however try to implement "normal" sexual activity into your attraction to feet, but ONLY if you're ready for sex with your ladyfriend, which leads me to step three...
Step 3. Don't give a flying rat's ass about sex until YOU are ready for it! I'm serious Bro, men can feel pressured just as much as women into doing things they're not entirely ready for. There is no "code" or "system" to how a man should behave when it comes to this...you have to do what feels right for you.
Hope this helps.
It doesnt help alot, but it does make me feel a whole lot better about the situation, which does help Thanks alot man!
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quote: It doesnt help alot, but it does make me feel a whole lot better about the situation, which does help Thanks alot man!
Cool...just put this shit out of your mind man. There's way more worthwhile things to worry about in this world than impressing your friends with your sex life. Enjoy your ladyfriend's company and get to love her fully and wholly as a person...and the natural, physical stuff to be enjoyed with her will flow freely when the time is right.
Best wishes Bro. Now, chin up man! You ain't got a thing to worry about...
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I'm curious: Why do you want to get rid of it? Are you ashamed of it? Has it resulted in getting you involved in embarassing situations? Did your last girlfriend break up with you over it? When I was 13, I had a fantasy of going to a mental hospital. They'd give me an operation, and I'd be "cured" of my attraction to feet! But nowadays, I'm happy about the way I am. And you should be, too!
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quote:Originally posted by feetlover2: Hey, If lovin pretty female feet is wrong.....I don't wanna be right
Exactly. I know a lot of people think foot fetish is weird, but I love having it. Plus, in the summer i get to look at all the feet I want. Girls walking around in flip flops or barefoot. When me and my friends go to the beach, they're looking at the ass and breast which are covered by bikini's. I'm looking at the many foot shots that are out. Its the best fetish to have.
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I'm of the philosophy that nothing on the female body needs to be taboo when it comes to sex and forplay. I'm a normal, sane, contributing member of society. I'm spiritual, have more hobbies then I can keep track of, hang out with friends, and will tell anybody anything about me if they ask.
There is no part of the female body I wouldn't consentually touch, lick, prod, or do anything else sexual to.
You like feet and whatever else. There are a hell of a lot of women out there that are into exactly what you're into. Ya'll were made for each other. Don't take yourself out of the pool.
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Well, here's my answer, a verse from a Diana Ross song: "If there's a cure for this, I don't want it...I don't want it."
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a cure???? I will echo my fellow foot lovers " if loving female feet is wrong.....etc.etc. man I never want to know what its like NOT to adore pretty feet,I love my fetish,i mean what other attraction can you see anywhere anytime,just think if you had a breast fetish you cant just walk down main street and see breast, but we get to indulge our fetish anywhere,anytime.
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If I can wager a guess, I'd say our Brother cliveman's dilemma is that the idea of actual vaginal sexual intercourse with his ladyfriend is wigging him out some, and he's thinking his attraction to female feet is the cause of it. In other words, I think he feels that his attraction to feet has overpowered any possible attraction he may have for the other goods his girl has to offer...and if he was as attracted to, say, breasts the way he was to feet, he'd feel more confident in having sex, and perhaps look more forward to it.
If this is the case, Brother ozkar hit the nail on the head when he said:
quote: nothing on the female body needs to be taboo when it comes to sex and forplay
Amen and amen again! So what if cliveman's attracted to feet? They're still part of the girl, and if he'd cast his eyes higher he'd appreciate the girl the feet belong to. Feet are like boobs, butts, legs, lips, hips, etc when it comes to visual stimulation...they're just another drawing point of attention. Nothing more nothing less. It all classifies as female anatomy, so why not love and appreciate this strong attraction to feet?
I may be mistaken, but I think cliveman's dilemma could be solved by simply building his confidence in other areas of his sexuality, not by trying to fight down a perfectly normal part he already has.
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quote:Originally posted by cliveman: Is there a cure for foot fetishism?
Yes there is- intensive psychotherapy.
quote:I (obviously) have a foot fetish and really wish I didn't, is there anyway of getting round it other than just trying to ignore it?
I don't think so, not without what I mentioned above.
There's two predominant reasons some of us struggle mightily with the fetish:
1) We think/feel it's "wrong" or "abnormal".
Usually after seeing the amount of foot-related vids and pics on the web and finding a foot-related forum or two, you quickly comprehend that you're not the "only one" who likes feet. There are thousands of others.
2) The pre-occupation with feet interferes with our "normal" sex life. I've struggled with this myself. Once I told my wife about my fetish and she started indulging me it's been incresingly difficult not to focus on seeing, touching, playing with and cumming on her feet. The "kid in a candy store" effect. Fortunately, so far, she's been very understanding. On a positive note, after 25 years of marriage it's given us some much needed variety. But she also loves "normal" sexual attention too, so I know I have to be careful and meet her needs. Still, I can't see ever wishing my fetish away. As mentioned, it's part of who I am, not something I came up with, asked for, or developed.
Lou had outstanding advice for you as far as the other aspects of your question too. Take heed!
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