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How long did it take for you guys to tell your wives about your foot fetishes? Did they know prior to your marriage, do they still not know, or how long into the marriage did it take to confess your fetish???
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My wife knew after we had sex the first time (several weeks). By then we had established a relationship based on other things and she accepted it right away. My belief is that if you FIRST establish a relationship she will accept your foot fetish. BUT.... to dump that on a girl right away is very risky and STUPID!!!.
Think of it this way.......would a tit guy say right away, "God I LOVE your tits"? Dumb move.
My wife gives me her feet any way I want them!!
Get the relationship going first. Most girls will indulge you AFTER they know that there is promise in the relationship. Don't be stupid and tell her right away. Besides, wouldn't you like to check her feet out first?
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my wife and i have never really said it like it was a label. but there are times when we discuss things related to it like pedicures and shoes and positions and activities during sex. im sure at any time if i bothered to say that i liked feet she would say well duh... but its not like i had to sit down and say hunny i have this foot thing...
usually things that she does that trigger me are done subtly, if we happen to be in the right position at the right time i will get a foot planted on my chest or face just as a general gesture, not because i want to spend an hour just focusing on her feet only. we typically work her feet into what we are doing just as part of the whole ordeal, not anything specific. so im sure she knows and gets it, but its not something we need to put alot of focus to or have a coming out discussion about. she would be neutral and open minded on the topic, if it needed to be discussed, as she is on most things. and i know she enjoys shoes and getting nails done so it works out good on its own without alot of talking over.
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I'm kinda like xm1 because we didn't put label on things. When me and my wife were dating I gave always gave attention to her toes and she loved the foor massages. It wasn't until later when I showed her this forum that we began refering to it as a foot fetish. I hate that label because it it automatically made my wife assume I was also into the things that other guys would post. Things became a little weird until I explained that all foot guys were not the same.
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i made dinner for her at my place. as soon as she got inside the door, she slipped off her shoes, revealing some pearly pink polish. she saw me looking at her feet and asked me if i minded. i don't know what possessed me to be so bold upfront, but i told her, "not at all! i have a thing for pretty feet" and went back to chopping the peppers. she smiled and said, "that's good to know!"
after dinner, we went to the living room to have some wine and listen to music, and we sat on the couch. immediately, she swung her feet into my lap and i started rubbing them. things simply took off from there.
i knew right then that i was going to marry this girl some day. and we've been together for 16 years now.
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It didn't take very long for us either. I think it was actually the end of our first date where I got my first footjob from her. I was living at home at the time so she used her feet on me through my jeans just in case my parents happened to pop into the living room. Clean up was a bitch.
That was back in the fall of 1990 and been going on strong since then.
quote:Originally posted by LeDaemon: That was back in the fall of 1990 and been going on strong since then.
I know we've chatted about this before, but congratulations to you from another long-term guy. From your clips and pics, I can tell you two are definitely into each other -- just as much as Dee and I are.
quote:Originally posted by spartanguy: My wife knew after we had sex the first time (several weeks). By then we had established a relationship based on other things and she accepted it right away. My belief is that if you FIRST establish a relationship she will accept your foot fetish. BUT.... to dump that on a girl right away is very risky and STUPID!!!.
Think of it this way.......would a tit guy say right away, "God I LOVE your tits"? Dumb move.
My wife gives me her feet any way I want them!!
Get the relationship going first. Most girls will indulge you AFTER they know that there is promise in the relationship. Don't be stupid and tell her right away. Besides, wouldn't you like to check her feet out first?
This man speaks the truth. Most girls you have to show them you like the whole them first if you want them to accept your foot thing and keep seeing you. Although some girls you can get a footjob from on the first date, like my last ex girlfriend for example.
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I told my wife about my foot fetish when we were dating, but she didn't realize how important it is to me until a couple of years into out marriage.
quote:Originally posted by AFfootdude05: How long did it take for you guys to tell your wives about your foot fetishes?
Well, not that I'm proud of it at all, but I probably take the award for taking the longest time- somewhere around 22 years. (Though in self-defense I did give her some clues). I was such a WUS.
quote:Did they know prior to your marriage?
I don't think she had the slightest clue, largely because I didn't "let on" to her. She regularly wore some really short shorts back then and Dr. Scholl's (I remember them vividly). She looked great!
In a way it's amazing that I never told her before we became a couple (though I had not done any foot stuff with the girl I dated all through high school). But we became very close platonic friends during late high school and early college years even though I was dating another girl. We talked about everything, including sex, but I never mentioned my love of feet.
quote:how long into the marriage did it take to confess your fetish???
As mentioned above, about 22 years. My getting the nerve up to finally "take the leap" was due largely to my friends here at WU's, but another part of it was just the feeling of not being true to myself and my sexual desires.
If I had it to do all over again I would have told my wife before or during our engagement. I deeply regret not telling her before. I honestly don't think she would have had a problem with it at all. And to think of all the years of footstuff I could have enjoyed. Posts: 9728 | Registered: Feb 2004
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My wife and I met via telephone dating (12 years ago, pre-internet dating). First thing she asked me was why my ad was in the "fetishes" category. I chickened out and said I moved around in all the categories. Mostly a lie. But still I like to think the seed was planted.
I had a whole process with women by then. Videos at home always included Pulp Fiction, War of the Roses, like that. I had a list. I showered her with anklets and toe rings.
I went slow with sex. A *lot* of making out. I probably felt up her feet during such sessions but for the most part I let the sex be pretty vanilla at first. This to head off the predicatable post-"coming out" concern that I'd be a bad lay. Mostly during the vanilla sex I thought about the fact that there were feet in the bed with us, and what I would do to them.
Her personality is such that we could have one of those subtle-no-label things going on with the footsex, but not mine. Plus, I was kind of producing foot porn at the time, so honesty in my case was a lot more concrete.
Fortunately - and I bet a lot of us can and have benefited from this - the last guy liked her finger up his ass. So getting her feet licked was like getting a promotion.
The high point - like, of my life - was one night when we were about to go to bed, and we were still kind of new together so bed meant sex for sure. And she said, "OK - I'll go wash my feet." And *I* said, "That won't be necessary," all weasley and Mr. Burns and shit. LOL!
Anyway, that was a long time ago. Recently, sex columnist Dan Savage put out the word to the partners of kinky people to write in testimonials if they were happy with the kink, cuz all he ever hears about is problems. And my baby wrote in. Didn't get printed but still.
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Wow... you guys may have read my story about the girl I started going out with.
We started going out and then she started footplay after I started throwing hints at her. Now she does whatever I want with her feet. She will usually offer me footjobs every time we have sex. It's awesome.
One day after a few weeks of that she asked me if I like feet? And I just said something like well ya, they feel good and that was it.
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The 3rd date and we have been married for 13 years now.
-------------------- V/R, FM9 aka Mr. Footbooty "She had real pretty feet. I was always a sucker for pretty little feet... Outside of her being pretty and hip, with a good body, her feet is what attracted me." - p. 39 of "Miles" (Davis) The Autobiography Posts: 8821 | Registered: Sep 2003
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im not married but i think i told my girlfriend after a few months and we're quite young. in my opinion i dont see how someone could go through married life without telling their partner.
i understand its not an easy thing to do but the worst they can do is feel weird about it for a few days! its hardly a good enough reason to get a divorce or break up with someone so go for it!
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quote:Originally posted by beamont: She will usually offer me footjobs every time we have sex.
Treat her like gold man- 'cause that's what she is!
quote:One day after a few weeks of that she asked me if I like feet? And I just said something like well ya, they feel good and that was it.
Man you gotta be a little more effusive with your feelings- or she will not really understand just how much you like feet! Woman want that kibda feedback. Let her know the when, what, how, where and why of it!
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