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This is more of a story, told in retrospect, than anything else.
Well, around the beginning of this year I found myself in a difficult situation. I have been in an online relationship with a woman for quite a while now, I could, and still can say that I love her, however strange that may sound. Unfortunately there is quite an age gap between us, her being my senior by a few years, and us being at different stages of our lives. And while this relationship is not exactly healthy for either of us, I'm not sure I have the heart to break it up, it would hurt her immensely, something I can't bear.
Now a while after I had been with this woman, a girl I had been friendly with began talking to me privately, discussing life, and the things that friends do, nothing serious here. This girl has problems in her life, and was going through a difficult patch in her life, I helped her cheer up a few times, and then she decided that she loved me... Now I had a problem.
This girl is close to my age, lives near me, knows about my foot fetish and actively brought it up, asking for foot rubs and waving her feet in my face. Once she learned the extent of my obsession, she turned it up a notch, pressing her feet to my face and asking me to kiss them, putting them on my chest and just generally bringing up her feet as often as possible. When I asked her about it, she told me that she actually enjoyed it, and was not just doing it because I enjoyed it, whether this is truth or not, I don't know.
Both of these relationships are online for the time being, the second girl and I were planning on meeting, as friends. All of this happened at a time where I thought the original relationship was about to break, we barely talked anymore, and the conversation had run thin, at times, we never spoke, even when we we're both available. I also learned that the second girl had found a guy, and they were now in a relationship, but at the same time I knew if I asked her, she'd break up with him.
Eventually this hit breaking point, the first realised what the second was doing, and I had a decision to make, a woman who needed and loved me, or a girl, who I may not be compatible with, but could possibly fulfill every foot related dream I've ever had, and then some. I chose the first. I have not spoken to the second girl in over three months, but I still think about her, unhealthy I know, but I still wonder, if I made contact with her again, what would happen?
Well, that's been on my mind a while, I know how I can make contact with her, and believe me I am more than tempted by the idea. But she seems happy with her guy, and I still have not been able to part with the first, and I've resisted this so far, breaking two relationships to form one that may never work? I don't think I can do that, not to mention, I don't think she'd leave her current guy for me anymore anyway.
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Nope, telephone conversations are the closest I've gotten, the conflict ended up happening about a week before I was going to meet one of them. I understand online relationships aren't healthy, I've admitted that. I live my life normally, I don't dwell everyday on this, after all, it is only online, and I do have a real life, simply something I thought about while browsing and decided to post. At this point, I feel I'm simply a constant in the first woman's life, our relationship itself has dwindled to a short chat whenever we have time, but I'm a rock in her life at this point, a rock she needs as she's losing her job.
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quote:Originally posted by Sardelic: This girl is close to my age, lives near me, knows about my foot fetish and actively brought it up, asking for foot rubs and waving her feet in my face. Once she learned the extent of my obsession, she turned it up a notch, pressing her feet to my face and asking me to kiss them, putting them on my chest and just generally bringing up her feet as often as possible.
Wait a minute... You said you never met either face to face, so how did the above activities happen?
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I think he meant he hasnt seen the first girl in person.
My advice is stick with the young one that you HAVE seen in person. The girl online that you haven't seen you don't REALLY know since you have only talked to her online and you even admit its not that much. Break it off or do whatever you do with online relationships and get serious with the girl who likes your foot fetish and with whom you have seen in person.
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In my humble opinion, Spotlight is correct. It's an online relationship, you have never met and it is now time to move on. Get out, put yourself out there and meet someone that can give you human interaction, touch, smell, taste etc. You can not be truly happy living in a virtual world.
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as a counter arguement to footgirl.. i met my wife online and we've been married for over 7 years and if you guys are familar with my posts, you'll know i am pretty damn happy in my marriage and with my wife.. and its getting less and less unusual to find someone you click with online. you can actually get to know someone online just as well as you know someone offline because you spend so much time just talking without the distractions of staring at her feet or cleavage dont let closeminded individuals tell you that something online isnt real. that being said, dont put all your focus into anything just online.
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Dude, online relationships arent always the hottest ideas. If you've got someone right there that you were there for and she let's you have fun with her feet (added mega bonus!) I'd keep hold of that REALITY and see where that may take you.
Onile girl: Far Old no feet online old
Real shorty dwon the way: Close your age feet not online feet
So when you look at it, which sounds better? The 'round the way girl may not be excatly what you want, but hey she's into you. Try it on and see how it fits.
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Footgirl there are many people who due to busy schedules and I'm sure several other things don't have the time or desire to form relationships in person at least at first. They also feel that they can be there true selves until they feel comfortable enough with the person they are communicating with to perhaps meet them. I get it up to a point but eventually there is nothing to compare with true physical/emotional/spiritual connection with a partner. I do not of a buddy back in DC who's wife left him after months of communicating online with someone else. Out of balance in my opinion but it happened. Probably more stories out there like that but I for one would much rater look at a peson when I'm communicating with them. This is not meant to be judgemental in any wayjust conversational.
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Long distance relationships don't work. I tried it and was miserable. Get with the girl that is closer to your age. You will be happier. You'll get to see each other, have more things in common and she wants to satisfy your foot fetish.
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Ha, the guy stopped talking after someone asked how is it possible to say that the most he has ever done was talk on the phone when he clearly stated she pressed her feet on his face/chest. either way, i do not believe in online relationships, grow a pair and meet a real girl. then use the newly grown pair to foot bang bang her.
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quote:Originally posted by nusuth: as a counter arguement to footgirl.. i met my wife online and we've been married for over 7 years and if you guys are familar with my posts, you'll know i am pretty damn happy in my marriage and with my wife.. and its getting less and less unusual to find someone you click with online. you can actually get to know someone online just as well as you know someone offline because you spend so much time just talking without the distractions of staring at her feet or cleavage dont let closeminded individuals tell you that something online isnt real. that being said, dont put all your focus into anything just online.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamen Nutsth! You know all those posts of Athena K you see?...she took all those coz we're in an online relationship and I'd say it's a REALLY healthy one, Footgirl