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I think that every woman has there own opinions on this subject. That being said first...
I think that masterbation is perfectly normal. Men need to be stimulated visually. Women need to be stimulated emotionally and physically. I see masterbation as a quick release for guys. They get the "release" without the emotional garb. I applaud masterbating! If I don't feel like "it", then who am I to tell you that you can't feel like "it" either? Or vise versa? That's my opinion. But... if your gf/wife feels threatened by your masterbating, then for goodness sakes don't tell her!! And don't get "caught" !!
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quote: Unfortunately my wife wants to be the only one who satisfies me and gets very hurt if she knows (she's caught me twice) that I masturbate.
I was in the same situation when I was married feetluvr. I never quite understood where the hurt come from...I mean, what's the alternative? Cheating? The way I figure, my ex should've been happy that I would resort to wanking instead of cheating when she wasn't in the mood. Eventually she relented...I kinda'...well...lied and said I was thinking of her when I did it, so she backed off. I don't feel guilty for lying to her now, but at the time it kinda' bothered me...
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You say that you masturbate on the days you're not with her, but when you do it, you ain't dreaming of having sex with her, and ain't trying to imagine her body, but surfing adult sites - am I right?
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usually...but I do think of her feet sometimes and when I am with her, I get hard real easy, but when I mb, I sometimes have to manually get it hard.
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Masturbating is perfectly normal behavior. If your girl has problems with this then she's a neurotic and needs to go find a shrink who loves a challenge or she's a major control freak.
If you feel guilty, why? You're not actually cheating on her, you're only releasing pent up sexual energy. All guys have these same impulses how you act on them is up to you. If all you do is masturbate fine. But if you get started on pets buddy, Get help.
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Of all the women I know, including myself, I've never heard of a woman having a problem with her boyfriend masturbating. Like popsicletoes, I encourage it! Masturbating is almost like sexually exercising. When you are with your gf, you'll be able to perform better by having more control, stamina & might be able to go for a second round.
I think it's crazy to expect a man (or a woman, for that matter) to get romantically involved & then become to blind to all other people. Having fantasies about other women isn't something to be ashamed of. ACTING on those fantasies is where the trouble starts.
I should also mention that there's a difference between noticing a beautiful model or actress & rubbing your girlfriend's nose in it. If she has self-confidence, she'll be able to compliment another woman's beauty, but your answer should always be "not as beautiful as you though!"
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Thanks for all the replys. And no, its not an issue with my girlfriend, I even asked her if she masturbated once, and she said of course, I'm only human and if it feels good...Funny thing is having sex with her makes me even hornier. The first time we did it, I did'nt finish, now its not uncommon for me to do it twice each time we do it (this is the first girl I've ever done that with and I'm kind of proud of it since I just turned 36).
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I agree,it's perfectly normal,you should just respect the two conditions pointed out by Calico Jack.
There might be a sort of "trick" too,but it does not work on anyone. When you are masturbating starting from a pic or a video you could concentrate on gradually let the image in that pic or video fade and be replaced by the corrispondent image of your girl. I don't know if i wrote it clearly so I'll try to be clearer with an example.
Example: You are watching a pic of a girl spreading her toes and smiling at you. When you feel close to explode try to think of your girlfriend in the same exact position of that model,shut you eyes for a second and imagine your girl at her place.Then let it go.
If you can keep a strong enough control to apply this trick and IF that works on you (which of course is HIGHLY subjective),you might even find out that you girl's feet look more attractive the next time you see them.It's like you have subconsciously converted the appeal for that foot model's feet into appeal for your girl'sfeet.
This has his pro and con of course.
PRO: if you feel a "sense of guilt" when you shoot your load thinking of another girl,then it gets totally (or almost so) erased.
CON: you might not fully enjoy your masturbating experience. Maybe variety,thinking of other girls is one of the aspect of this that you like the most,and this could be lost.Or maybe you might not like it because is not a completely istinctive experience anymore.
However, I once started to apply this when I had you same "guiltiness sense" problem and it worked for me. And I can say that after a quite short time I was also able to switch back to the "normal",usual,not "guided" masturbation without feeling ANY sense of guilt anymore. I reckon that if i would not succeed at this in a short time maybe masturbation would have lost his fun,and that is a risk too,isnt' it?
I can't assure it will work,but if you feel VERY guilty this MIGHT help.
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