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i think you should take the girl you ended up choosing and get her to be as affectionate with her feet as the other girl. this way you get the best of both worlds, Hee Hee
great thing is that it is entirely possible to do that
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: or if you creep people out in person or have no friends. despite the epic inconsistencies in this story, i get it
lol - is that an unfounded, unjustified accusation of me, blackHxC88?
What inconsistencies are there? - I'll try and clear them up.
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: or if you creep people out in person or have no friends. despite the epic inconsistencies in this story, i get it
lol - is that an unfounded, unjustified accusation of me, blackHxC88?
What inconsistencies are there? - I'll try and clear them up.
first line was talking about me, second line was about the OP
sorry for the confusion
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quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: or if you creep people out in person or have no friends. despite the epic inconsistencies in this story, i get it
lol - is that an unfounded, unjustified accusation of me, blackHxC88?
What inconsistencies are there? - I'll try and clear them up.
first line was talking about me
hey blackhawk, we're ur friends & ur not creepy m8
just look at yourself as a good fetishist and it will all get better in due time
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: or if you creep people out in person or have no friends. despite the epic inconsistencies in this story, i get it
lol - is that an unfounded, unjustified accusation of me, blackHxC88?
What inconsistencies are there? - I'll try and clear them up.
first line was talking about me
hey blackhawk, we're ur friends & ur not creepy m8
just look at yourself as a good fetishist and it will all get better in due time
typing "inconsistencies" right on the first try is all the good that's gonna happen today
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quote:Originally posted by nusuth: yes, yes, yes, yes.. or something like that.
when my wife and i were still in different countries, we definitely considered ourselves as 'taken'. we definitely were in a committed relationship.
why wouldnt we go out and be around other single people?? it's not like i cant be around an attractive single woman and not control myself. which answers your last question. its called self control. its the same thing that keeps me taking things too far with women now. as for the fliring, omg, i am in a relationship, not dead! of course i flirt.. i did then, i do now and as long as someone woman finds me attractive, i will continue to flirt.. as does my wife. it's completely harmless and means nothing. it's not like i dont find other women attractive and i dont expect my wife to never find another guy attractive ever again.. so why would i care if she batted her eyelashes at the hot detective that frequents her restaurant?
i don't know, i just don't understand how somebody can feel obligated to be loyal to somebody they've never touched or even spoken to in person
i don't understand how somebody can pass on opportunities that are right in front of their face for somebody that lives 1000's of miles away
i don't understand how somebody can come off "special" over the internet, heck many people lie over the internet
reading the myspace and facebook profile of people that i know, they describe themselves in a way that is completely different than the way they come off in person
some claim to be kind and considerate, they aren't
some claim to be successful cool and the life of the party, they aren't
they describe the "cool" way they want to be, not the way they actually are
the internet is often a fantasy world for the socially inept, i'm not singling out anybody here but that seems to be the case from what i've seen and experienced
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quote:Originally posted by Michael P: i don't know, i just don't understand how somebody can feel obligated to be loyal to somebody they've never touched or even spoken to in person
i don't understand how somebody can pass on opportunities that are right in front of their face for somebody that lives 1000's of miles away
i don't understand how somebody can come off "special" over the internet, heck many people lie over the internet
reading the myspace and facebook profile of people that i know, they describe themselves in a way that is completely different than the way they come off in person
some claim to be kind and considerate, they aren't
some claim to be successful cool and the life of the party, they aren't
they describe the "cool" way they want to be, not the way they actually are
the internet is often a fantasy world for the socially inept, i'm not singling out anybody here but that seems to be the case from what i've seen and experienced
Fair comments, but I think all you really need to have is common sense and some bollocks to actually go through with it - some guys like you perhaps couldn't handle the strain that it (admittedly) is to maintain a healthy online relationship (whether you consider that a contradiction in terms or not I don't know...).
It needs some determination, common sense (to make sure s/he isn't a fucking psycho), will-power and emotional strength to be able to be together. It's not for everyone - it wasn't for me...before it accidentally happened.
Maybe I'm weird, but I find it quite easy to maintain the relationship despite the obvious drawbacks; I don't get tempted by other women, I always TRY to put her feelings in the forefront of my mind, we send each other presents and all the normal, couple-y typical (non-contact)stuff...
I mean just a few months ago I was asked to feel up a woman's feet (to "feel how wet they were") and I just didn't want to. What's the point in a touch of feet if I've got a gorgeous pair of feet for life - after a small wait?
I suppose the main thing to establish in an online relationship is that the other person is REAL and not just some sadistic fuck tricking you: easy to find out - a sign-pic, phone call, webcam etc... all do the trick.
It's just a matter of what you're capacity for commitment is after you realise you've fallen in love - I wasn't IN an online relationship UNTIL we fell in love - I agree it seems a bit stupid to be in one with someone you don't love. Online friendship works, but I think it's just gotta happen - no forcing it, no looking for love or it will most likely result in a strategically gentle wank, over porn between your sobs.
quote:i don't know, i just don't understand how somebody can feel obligated to be loyal to somebody they've never touched or even spoken to in person
i don't understand how somebody can pass on opportunities that are right in front of their face for somebody that lives 1000's of miles away
because your 'obligation' (a poor word choice when speaking about a relationship online or real) is based on an emotional connection. when i pass on opportunity that is right in front of my face, i dont care if my wife is in the next room or another country. i do/did so because i am committed to her emotionally.. not physically.
how someone comes across as 'special'.. i cant explain that. my wife and i both actually struggled to deny what we almost immediately felt. of course we couldnt be sure if who we chatted with was who they really were, but the connection we felt seemed right and we couldnt deny it so we went with it. there many MANY MANY discussions of it not being real, what if in person it didnt translate, etc. i fell in love who i thought she was.. and when we met she was exactly the person she portrayed to me online. to be honest though, we didnt really commit ourselves to each other until we met. i wasnt with anyone before that and neither was she, but i dont think either of us would have totally committed to that before our first face to face.
quote:i don't know, i just don't understand how somebody can feel obligated to be loyal to somebody they've never touched or even spoken to in person
i don't understand how somebody can pass on opportunities that are right in front of their face for somebody that lives 1000's of miles away
because your 'obligation' (a poor word choice when speaking about a relationship online or real) is based on an emotional connection. when i pass on opportunity that is right in front of my face, i dont care if my wife is in the next room or another country. i do/did so because i am committed to her emotionally.. not physically.
how someone comes across as 'special'.. i cant explain that. my wife and i both actually struggled to deny what we almost immediately felt. of course we couldnt be sure if who we chatted with was who they really were, but the connection we felt seemed right and we couldnt deny it so we went with it. there many MANY MANY discussions of it not being real, what if in person it didnt translate, etc. i fell in love who i thought she was.. and when we met she was exactly the person she portrayed to me online. to be honest though, we didnt really commit ourselves to each other until we met. i wasnt with anyone before that and neither was she, but i dont think either of us would have totally committed to that before our first face to face.
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