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So, I have been with my girlfriend for five years, and things are great. What I am about to report might well seem trivial, but I hope some will understand.
My girlfriend doesn't know about my fetish. Why? Because she likes nightly foot massages, and this, mixed with the fact that she loves to wear flip-flops in the summer (having said that, I am in the UK, where the weather isn't great), and go barefoot in the house in the summer, means that my fetish is satisfied, without needing to risk freaking her out, by telling her.
"Barefoot in the house in summer", I say? Well, until recently, that is. The UK has been experiencing a heatwave, for the last few days. Accordingly, and pleasingly, my girlfriend was barefoot a lot.
Then, two days ago, I came home from work, looking forward to seeing her feet. Instead, in the HOT weather, I was greeted with.....backless/mule-type SLIPPERS!
I had never seen these slippers, and have only previously seen her wear slipper-type boots, and not in summer; she always previously been barefoot at home, in nice weather.
I was taken aback, and in an attempt to make a discouraging remark, said, "isn't it a little hot, for slippers?". Worryingly, she replied, "no, well, I think I prefer slippers; especially if I am walking back and forth to the kitchen".
Doesn't sound promising, does it? She actually stated a preference, and this in hot weather!
Yesterday evening, I returned home from work, dreading seeing her wearing them; and, alas, she was; on another hot day.
Tonight, it wasn't as hot, and she was just wearing socks.
I have been left feeling a little depressed, as extreme as that may sound. Feet are such a big part of physical attraction for me, and it would seem such a shame, if she ends up covering her feet in slippers. I love not just the sight, but also the THOUGHT of a girlfriend who likes to walk barefoot, if people catch my drift.
In my experience, about 95% of women are barefoot at home, in the summer; and I can't believe it if my girlfriend is going to be in the 5% who don't.
I am left wondering what I can say or do, to try to discourage her. Having made the comment I did, I am now thinking of making stronger ones, such as 'slippers? In summer? Why on earth do you need them?', or, 'those slippers look a bit frumpy/grannyish'.
I have even thought of hiding them, from time to time, or, if going on vacation, sneaking them out of her travel bag, so she does not take them.
Does anyone have any similar experiences, with girlfriends not satisfying their fetish, or just any comments to add? Any would be very welcomed.
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Sounds like you need to come clean about your foot fetish, especially with your girlfriend. At this point she isn't going anywhere when she finds out, next time when your giving her a foot massage, drop her foot on your cock and let her know your hard. Then of course, you can say something about how HER feet turn you on.
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What about being honest and simply telling her that you think her feet are beautiful, and a highlight of your day is coming home and being able to see her walk around barefoot?
I guessed my boyfriend had a foot fetish before we were actually even a couple. Not that he was overly outward about it. But, a couple of comments he mentioned had me curious, so I just came out and asked him. And, he answered honestly that he did. I had never been in a relationship with someone who was into feet, but I am definitely open-minded. I was attracted to him, and I was intrigued about the fetish. So, it certainly didn't send me running.
Women love compliments. And, hearing that the man they love thinks anything about them is beautiful is a huge plus. She already loves foot rubs, so that is great. You aren't asking for a whole lot here since you seem satisfied with the foot rubs, and seeing her go barefoot. In my case, I loved finding out more about what my boyfriend likes (part of the reason I am on this forum), and doing the little things he likes that please him. It is hugely rewarding for me as well.
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You need to be straight forward. Rather than find more ways to contort your desire into a "less creepy" package, you need to own your fetish, it's part of who you are, for better or worse. One's sexuality is nothing to mask in order to avoid "creeping" someone out, namely a partner in a long-term relationship.
To be sure, my experience on the matter is this: I'm a shy soft-spoken social type. Yet, I am also a silent but strong personality type as well as a dominant in the bedroom. At fairly young age, the beginning of my sexual life, I realized that as painfully shy and respectful of girls as I was, I would have to risk harm to my ego and 'creeping' out the girls in my life by asking that my needs to be respected in each relationship, whether the relation be romantic or purely sexual. I guess my deep-seeded personality type and bedroom persona (assuming these are distinct) arose from within and sort of (in a manner of speaking) forced my surface personality to comply with my wishes out of a broader self-respect. Asserting myself in this way, though like a gentleman and with ease and even some humor, is one of the best rules I ever set for myself in life. Because of this rule, I've NEVER had to settle or give "subtle" hints or hide my sexuality. Why should I?
And I'll tell you "discouraging" or any other type of 'hinting' is a slippery-slope. For one thing, it's based on false premise, a lie, even if a "white" lie or mere 'omission'. For another thing, it seems as though your girlfriend might have already caught on to something and is 'creeped' out as a result. But, this is merely a weak hypothesis based on what you communicated on your post (an extrapolation) and so I could be wrong. Nonetheless, I strongly think that dropping more "suggestions" will reveal you and your fetish in the very manner you say you wish to avoid. Also, your nudging at the subject could become (for her) quite cumbersome. Please, from one guy to another, be direct! What's more, as you say, your fetish is not strong, so I cannot imagine it would be difficult for someone to be willing to "compromise" (at worst) a bit until they get used to it for a loved one.
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Thanks for the replies, to everyone. It is late here now,so I will reply in more depth tomorrow.
Regarding telling her about my fetish, I am reluctant, for a few reasons. Firstly, she finds the fact that I give her massages to be really sweet and loving, and confessing will spoil that image. This isn't as deceitful as it sounds, as I am actually like that, anyway. Admittedly, I can't say that I would have done this as much as I have, had I not had the fetish, but I would have done other things of a similar nature.
Secondly, I actually like feet more, if they're presented naturally: that is, if my girlfriend goes barefoot because she likes it, rather than to please me; it's not just the aesthetics, but also the thought of a girl who likes to go barefoot; the very concept is also attractive. When I watch foot 'porn', it's more often candid scenes, rather than explicit material.
I am thinking that some not too severe comments might not be harmful, such as those I mentioned; she can sometimes be honest with me, if she thinks I am wearing something silly, or if I need somehow to groom myself in some way.
Any further comments, or replies to this one, are much welcomed; you guys are the only ones I can talk to about this.
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You should just tell her about your foot fetish. I don't see how you can wait 5 years (much less the rest of your life) without indulging it. If you've been together that long, she'll probably be accepting.
To me, expressing your disappointment to her about the slippers seems kind of irrelevant. If you're honest, she'll probably walk around barefoot for your sake anyway. How you decide to tell her is up to you, but I think being straight up about it without being too aggressive is the best way to go.
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Tell her you’re into feet. There’s no other options. At this point, the only one holding you back from getting what you want is you and your insecurities, not your girlfriend.
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The thing is, for me, there is a balance I have been happy to strike, between being turned on, and risking her finding it strange/losing the 'innocence' of it.
As I say, I am more turned on by her being barefoot because she WANTS to be, than I would be at the idea of her being so because she wants to please me.
It is this school of thought that causes me to look at candid foot porn, more than explicit foot 'porn'.
Also, as much as I would like to be licking her feet and whatnot, seeing her barefoot a lot, and massaging her feet has satisfied my fetish quite well.
However, I am thinking that I could perhaps compromise, and say that I like HER feet, rather than all feet; she might find it more palatable, and it would make her feel special. If quizzed, I could even say that I wasn't completely turned on by her feet, but just that I find them pretty, and that slippers spoil that.
I still think I will try with them, 'aren't those slippers a bit unsummerish and frumpy?', but if that does not work, maybe I should consider what many of you are saying.
Thanks again for the replies, and any more are welcome; our world can be a lonely world.
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I think that you're just going to have to come out. Since she happily lets you massage them, I doubt that she'll freak out.
I think she'll freak out if she finds out you're hiding her slippers, then you'll be in an awkward position or have to admit it then. At that point your fetish may seem even sneakier or strange to her.
Her wanting to please you isn't a bad thing. It shows that she really likes you.
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Like the others have said, come clean and tell her your fetish. If she understands--and she probably will--great. If not, she's probably not the right girl for you.
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Dougie said it just right, if she doesn't accept than have her kick rocks. Relationships are about each other. Come on man, grow a pair take her foot and to your mouth and go to town.
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I fell in love with my currant wife while married to my past wife. Im with my fantasy come true now, spent a good 20 plus years secretly jacking off to her while thinking about her sexy feet. Thinking i would never get to play with them.
Fast forward to us starting our relationship..
Laying in bed one day watching TV she had her little white socks on and my dick wouldnt stop twitching.. i was going nuts being so close to them.. "Hey babe, time to come clean, ive got a confession to make." "Yeah, whats up?" she said "i have a huge fetish for your feet, they turn me on like no other feet ever have.. i jack off to them all the time and would rather worship them while i fuck you"
i wasnt sure if i was killing the relationship or not by telling her.
Now, every time we have sex i worship her feet, she will sometimes wear socks and hose to make them really smelly for me.. she lets me worship them while she sleeps, she sends me sexy feet pictures all the time. She saves porn she watches that might have some sexy feet shots in it "Hey babe check out this porn video, she has some really cute feet" -- when my wife says that kind of shit to me i swear, instant hard on.. i love that she knows, i love that she feeds my fetish.. i am definitely one of the lucky ones.
Tell your girlfriend/wife about your fetish, than go to town on her feet like you have always wanted to
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