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I work at a gym as a personal trainer and last night one of the front desk girls went to do ab exercises. She was barefoot and I completely didn't notice until I had to call her to tell her that she had a phone call then she said she was leaving but then I was like why not finish the ab exercises then she was like ok (but she had these slippers on) so then as she was doing the crunches I was like why did you take your shoes off before then I took them off then held down her barefeet and she was like ewww I hate when people touch my feet. As she was getting up I was like in a teasing way you don't like people touching your feet, are you ticklish then I touched her soles but she was like getting mad like what are you doing? Does this get anyone else mad? I'm yet to meet a girl who doesn't think feet are disgusting.
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I know a few who don't find feet discusting.. but they all are a bit warry of guys who are cool about feet.. and you need to be patient with them to put down their guards.
most such gals either don't know anyting about us guys and are going on the fears of what they heard.. or others have had bad to horrible experiences with nut cases. either way.. it takes a while to warm up.
secondly.. welcome!!!!!!
thirdly.. you're bold.. when a gal is working out.. i never get into the foot topic.. they think they're sweating hardest while working out (not always true).. and feel their feet are the yuckiest at that point.
so.... you had the deck of cards stacked against you.
form her statement.. she has had her feet touched many times.. and not all with her consent...and not all in a way she appreciated.. so.. becareful.. her guard is way up!
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Ya you have to be careful there. As soon as she says "ewwww" that's your queue to move on. More often than not if there that uptight about it they will be too weirded out if you continue.
What I might have replied back with when she said that she doesn't like people touching her feet would've been something like, "Really? I can't see why anyone would even want to touch your feet in the first place. When you go shoe shopping, what size shoe do you get in men's anyway?" This would've totally challenged her and would have been good for a laugh while busting on her all at the same time. By using that frame of almost reverse psychology, I'm sure you would've gotten a reaction out of her, and probably a response about how her feet aren't as bad as you're portraying them out to be, maybe even to the point of her standing up for how good looking her feet really are.
While I'm not sure about how long you've known this girl, I think maybe touching her feet like you did may have crossed the line to a degree. Again, this would all depend on how well you know her, how long you've known her, etc.. I'm sure that if you don't really know her all that well, she probably felt uncomfortable in that situation and the red flags and bells may have been going off in her head. There's also the fact that she was doing her workout and she probably didn't feel all that fresh when you did touch her feet. Probably the last thing she expected (or wanted) was someone touching a part of her that she probably thinks is "dirty" or "smelly" to begin with.
I do admit that it does suck when you get a woman who doesn't like to have her feet touched and yet there's really nothing wrong with them. It has to do with her upbringing and conditioning, which can be difficult to undo or break. There are, however, open minded women out there who, once you get to know them and they get to know you, are receptive to a guy admiring their feet and getting off on them. It does take some time to get on that level with a woman though and it doesn't happen overnight. The real key is her getting comfortable being around you.
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I agree with Fate111's point about busting on women. They'll always love that challenge because it demonstrates that you have higher value than them. Who isn't instinctively more attracted to higher people, even if it IS superficial. They're almost forced to prove themselves to you at that point.
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Don`t make a big deal about it and move on. Some women hate feet and don`t want anyone touching or looking at thier feet. Plus you are at your work place,so I hope you are smart and not talk bad about the woman`s feet. I would hate for this to blow up in your face.
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Only thing is I've known her for a couple of years and it wasn't a high intense workout. She shouldn't have even been working out she had to be at the front desk, so she was like in her jeans and just so happens she took her sort of Ugg slippers and socks off.
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one of my co-workers hates her feet. she had a bad experience as teen with a set of super ugly feet. she told me her hubby is a major foot guy.. and for nearly 25 years.. he's been working to get her to open up and let him touch her feet. she just flat out refuses.. brings back the traumatic memory.
before that experience.. she was cool with her feet. she admits her feet look very nice.. and i've only seen them once (not her choice.. just 'accidental').. she has such pretty feet. it kills me.... and i'm sure it kills hubby.
she says....if she has it her way.. no one will have access to her feet.
that is just how she and some women feel about the whole thing. so.. just move along.. let it be!
quote:Originally posted by RPM: one of my co-workers hates her feet. she had a bad experience as teen with a set of super ugly feet. she told me her hubby is a major foot guy.. and for nearly 25 years.. he's been working to get her to open up and let him touch her feet. she just flat out refuses.. brings back the traumatic memory.
before that experience.. she was cool with her feet. she admits her feet look very nice.. and i've only seen them once (not her choice.. just 'accidental').. she has such pretty feet. it kills me.... and i'm sure it kills hubby.
she says....if she has it her way.. no one will have access to her feet.
that is just how she and some women feel about the whole thing. so.. just move along.. let it be!
RPM
p.s. poor hubby though
Wow! I don't think I would ever get married to a woman who completely dislikes feet and/or won't allow me access to her feet at all. That would be a deal breaker for me.... Either that or it would just lead to affairs with women allowing me access to their feet later on.
But, back on topic, I wouldn't make a big deal about the situation. She either had an issue with you touching her feet or just plain doesn't like her feet touched. She has her reasons, whatever those reasons are. I still would remember to bust on her in a humorous way if this type of scenario repeats itself in the future. Then, gauge her reaction and see if she starts to defend herself and the way her feet look. If she does that, then the whole line about her wanting no one touching her feet is just a line of crap. "Talking bad" about her feet isn't going to get you in trouble, since you're doing it in a way that should be obvious to her that you're busting her about it in a fun way. What Pete said about the "higher value" thing is exactly what those type of ball-busting comments do. They're done in a fun, humorous way, but in a way that challenges the woman, since you're giving off the vibe that she's "not good enough" because her feet "don't look good" (even though it's such a trivial thing). You're also doing something completely opposite of what most guys would do in that situation, which would be to try and give her compliments and suck up to her.
If she can't understand the humor, then it's better off that you have nothing to do with her, or her feet.
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