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recently i've been learning a lot about my lady and my relationship in aid of improving our sex life. however, there are some areas of foot fetishism which i am curious to find out about from a lady's perspective..
through reading stories on here it feels like theres some good positive vibes & mostly males (like myself) sharing good spirited stories about foot encounters etc. but there is less talk about how women feel about taking part.
the reason i ask these questions is because i struggle to incorporate my lady's feet in my sex life. she does not feel particulary excited or sensetive to me massaging/touching her feet. i got to suck her toes a couple of times but she sorta squirms about and doesnt like it too much. also the big killer for me is that she has now told me that she hates giving footjobs (which of course i understand due to the pain). however, at the right moment and in the right mood my lady has happily used her feet to arouse me and i think she may enjoy that power.
the thing that makes me wonder is, do some women have foot fetishes and others dont, in the same way as us men? or is foot fetishm practised by females something that they only do to please men? it seems to me that my girlfriend gets little or no pleasure out of any foot activity...it may be that she has not admitted it or feels uncomfortable doing it due to her shyness. i also understand that in order to recieve sexual favours i must give back and do a number of things to make her feel comfy about it.
what makes me wonder is if there are girls out there that would love a guy like me to worship their feet? who gets pleasure from me sucking toes and gets pleasure from giving a footjob? maybe i do need to understand my girlfriend more but if any lady's could give me insight to how they feel about using their feet in their sex life i would be most gratefull! also if you have any pointers for me to get my girlfriend to be more relaxed about it that would be much appreciated.
thank you for reading my long winded post
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I think that is all about to finding out what type of girl she is. by this i mean the following: a) there are girls that love the fact that they have one more or extra thing that turns there man on. they get pleasure out of having that extra something beside vagina, breast and ass.
b) there are girls who can get very excited by having their feet kissed and sucked. they can sometimes get to orgasm by having their feet made love to.
c) men who love feet usually really love feet, i mean they go crazy for their girl' feet and there are women who get pleasure out of seeing their man going so crazy.
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A woman's attitude, and consequent interest in involving her feet in sex is totally individual for each one, based on a myriad of factors including their personality and their attitude about sex. It's also a matter of whether they're willing to try, learn and do new things.
I didn't tell my wife about my fetish until we'd been married 23 years. Though she's never really told me what she REALLY thinks, I've sensed at times that she's not deeply into it, but she's been a real trooper with participating and pleasing me with her feet.
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I know exactly what your feeling. Believe me, most guys on this board have or are experiencing the same thing as you.
I wouldn't go as far as say that a woman has a foot fetish in the sense that she enjoys giving footjobs and gets pleasure from them. Why would they? Would you get pleasure from giving her a rim job if that's what she was into? However, I'm sure that most women would enjoy doing this for you because they know how much you enjoy it and how happy it makes you.
The way to incorporate more foot fetish activities is simply to communicate... plain and simple. It's amazing how many guys fail to communicate their sexual fantasies to women and get frustrated as a result. The younger you are the harder it is to accept this fetish and the harder it is to talk to a woman about it. By your post, I'm guessing that your in your late teens or early 20's. You'll definately learn a lot about woman as you get older and how they think.
I'm 35 and just starting to realize how to navigate a woman's mind which is like a maze whose walls continually change. But you'll find that if you approach things in the right way, you can get a woman to accept just about any fantasy you may have. But you have to reciprocate. By that I mean that it's a two way street. What fantasies/quirks does she have? Do you indulge them? Do you even know what they are? These are questions you should have the answers to if you've been dating a girl for an extended period of time.
I have dated woman who enjoyed having their feet rubbed and cared for. I've also dated woman who didn't. In most every case, each has accepted my foot fetish and has indulged me. I can't stress enough that it's a two way street. You need to cater to her needs as well. When you accomplish this, you'll see that the opportunities are endless. If you can make a woman moan with pleasure, she'll do everything in her power to reciprocate... believe me!
Something else that works is doing little things for her. Wash her car, buy her a gift, compliment her... these little things go a long way with woman.
I will also say this: If you do engage a woman and treat her right and she doesn't reciprocate or indulge in your foot fetish... dump her, and dump her quick. She is shelfish and doesn't give a shit about you. Life is too short to be sexually frustrated, and nothing good will come out of this relationship in the long run. Believe me.
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wow, thank you so much for all your insight. i'd posted another topic recenty about the troubles i've been having in my relationship, but we are now on the mend and our sex life is improving.
i am 21 this summer so you are right! my girlfriend is almost 19 so being a young couple explains a lot!
our anniversary is coming up so it could be a good chance to do something nice for her. i must try to make her more comfortable about her sexuallity and find ways of really pleasing her..i find it difficult because she says she has no fantasies! she enjoys sex but i dont know what more i can do when she's not alwa a sexual person.
thanks for the tips, hopefully it'll work!
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quote:Originally posted by lamp: i find it difficult because she says she has no fantasies! she enjoys sex but i dont know what more i can do when she's not alwa a sexual person.
This will come with time. She may say that she has no fantasies, but she does... she just doesn't know how to communicate them or she is uneasy about talking about them. Your job is to find out what they are.
Pay attention to her reactions when having sex and try to notice what pushes her buttons and make mental notes. You can also try different things and see how she responds. Then later, mention that you noticed her pleasure when you did this or that, and ask her about it. Why did she like it and what did she like about it? Is there anything you could have done differently that she would have enjoyed? I have found that woman are more open and receptive right after sex in the afterglow haze, right after they have had an orgasm (make sure she has one!!!). When she finally feels comfortable talking about it, the flood gates will open and watch out! Trust me on this one!
A woman's body is a thing of beauty that cannot be mastered overnight. It takes a lot of time and effort to learn about it, as each woman is a little different. If you stick with it, the payoff is AMAZING!!!!!
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i agre with the great words of advice you got lamp.
each woman is different.. but it takes work and time to get that 'magic' set up.. and just like all NASCAR fans knows.. sometimes you race the track.. sometimes you race to stay ahead of the track.. other times to catch up..other timnes you race competitors.. other times yourself.. but.. you can't quit until the checkered is waved and you crossed.
with women.. though it's not the same.. the prinicpal works.. keep communicating.. learn to be better at it.. be patient. be smooth.. listen.. listen.. listen.. using all 5 senses and your intuition.. mainly your ears and heart!!!
my lady says she has no fantasies.. trust me.. when your'e paying close attention.. she'll drop hints (like while grocery shopping.. or i'm trying to watch the game.. or working) but.. from those hints.. romance means a lot to her.. and being in charge but not heavyhanded at it. makes her boat float!!! that mixed with adjusting to her needs as fast as they change. when that is met.. boy.. she's hot and ready!!!
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ahh thank you guys you are so kind. my girlfriend is a little shy when it comes to expressing herself and i get sexually frustrated which doesnt help i guess. i'll try n find more ways to communicated and make her feel relaxed. thank you for all your advice, i shall try my best!
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ok, after much sexual frustration, angst and time i finally think i've got my foot sex life back on track!
RECIVIEVING ONE AMAZING FOOTJOB THIS MORNING!
as ive complained a lot in my posts recently, my girlfriend of 2 years who was initially open to my foot fetish had decided to deny me of her feet totally. there have been a lot of other complications in the relationship and last night she wouldnt let me touch her feet. i was in such despair that i just turned into an emotional mess, i guess it did'nt help..
what did help however was making up after the arguement and communicating like you guys have told me. i explained that i can't suppress my feelings for her feet and she explained that she does'nt want me to be obssessed with them. seems like we've come to a happy compromise as i gave her some good sex this morning and had the best foot job of my life!
now i can continue to live my life without being consumed by frustration and the one track mind of trying to get my lady's feet!
i now intend to focus on catering for my lady's needs too, learning, stop obsessing, and letting my foot fetish grown in confidence instead of defeating me.
all i can say is thank you so much to the guys who have given me excellent advice which i should have listened to instead of getting angry. you guys rule and are so important to the foot fetish community.
quote:Originally posted by lamp: i now intend to focus on catering for my lady's needs too, learning, stop obsessing, and letting my foot fetish grown in confidence instead of defeating me.
By George, I think he's got it!!!!!
There is also one thing I should mention that will help you out... romance. You have to understand a woman's definition of this word is not physical sex. I'm talking about shoulder rubs, candle lit dinners, hand holding, smiles and winks, or even a bike ride. To romance a woman is to engage her mind (ie, to have sex with her on an emotional level). You have to understand that to men sex is primarily physical, but to women it is primarily emotional. This is paramount in developing a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Congratulations and best wishes moving forward! I'm glad we could help.
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thank you long hitter! that would explain why she is so fussy about having sex and being in the right mood! i also cooked a meal for her last night too which explains why she was more open to sex. us men would do it anytime anywhere but like you say women are different..
looking back i can now see how our sex life deteriorated. during the first 6 months of the relationship it was all lovey dovey and sex a plenty. i guess after a while i'd forgotten how to get it right and too much stress got in the way.
just gonna chill out for now and try to enjoy the relationship, then hopefully sex should come naturally next time we're in the mood!
thanks again for your help which i'll keep in mind. its much appreciated
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