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I've been off and on with this girl for the past 3 years or so and I'm in looooove with her feet. She LOVES foot rubs and lets me rub them and touch them while we have sex. They turn me on so much and I've been dying to tell her about my fetish and ask if I could suck and lick her toes for so long but I don't know how to bring it up with her. Should I just bite the bullet and flat out ask or just do it? I'm afraid she's going to think I'm a wack job or something lol. My ex girlfriend used to let me do w/e I wanted with her feet so I'm dying to get this girl into it. Any suggestions?
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well, i'll tell her. she seems to enjoy it. so why hide your feelings? my ex hated feet. but, she would let me rub them always. so go for it man.
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Be prepared to talk about it if she wants to, but a conversation may not even be necessary in the moment, it may come after, it may not even have to come up as a "big subject" ever and just become something than can be talked about breifley in passing like the weather or something depending on the girl.
I'd say your best bet is to just kiss em out of the blue during a routine rubbing as if it's all part of the massage and see how she reacts, if she doesn't pull away, kiss em a little longer and throw in a little lick, if she doesn't object just suck her toes a little bit and just see how she reacts. If she stops you and questions it, just confidently tell her that you find her feet sexy, kiss em again, and be like "What, does it like not feel good?" If she objects again, then it's time to back off, don't focus on it unless she wants to talk about it and if she does confidently explain that you are attracted to her, her ass, her legs, and naturally her feet, etc.
I'd highly doubt she'll even stop you because it should feel good for her, and if you're confident in your actions there's no reason for any chick to get freaked out. What freaks girls out is if you pay more attention to their feet than you do to them overall, or even worse if you are uncomfortable with yourself and worship her feet in a shameful manner as if you're expecting her to react poorly or be disgusted, or if you dive right into it all at once like a maniac it's going to make her uncomfortable and probably a bit wierded out.
If you just go about it as if it's totally natural and a passonate show of affection I'd be very surprised if she stops you, she may even be intrigued and go with it to the point where you end up with a footjob and a future exploring the fetish even further with her as long as you don't focus solely on her feet alone. (No pun intended)
It's been my experience that if you're able to make your girl feel satisfied and comfortable right from the get go, chances are she'll be open to pretty much anything and curious as to what type of reactions she can get out of you with her tootsies or whatever else you maybe into going forward. It definatly helps to always be interested and open to trying anything unique that she may be into as well, but never allow a negitive reaction from her to sway your confidence in yoursef and what your into.
If she reacts poorly, just drop it in the moment and wait for another time and place to maybe try it again, but don't ever apologize for it or do anything that would feed into her idea of feet being disgusting or your attraction to them being anything less than cool. No need to make a discussion of it unless she wants to talk about it, but if she does be prepared to confidently explain your attraction as best you can and hopefully she'll be openminded enough to at least understand where you're comming from even if she's not quite ready to try and indulge it just yet.
I think the biggest problem that keeps foot fetishes "in the closet" so to speak is that they tend to make too big a deal out of their fetish. I was guilty of this in the past myself, but when you think about it, everyone has their unique little fantasies and quirks and this day & age there's no reason for anyone to be ashamed or embarassed by them.
Being attracted to the female foot may not be something that society sees as completely normal, but it's not something that's disgusting or harmful to anyone and on the grand scale of things it's certianly not that big a deal. If she can't accept the fact that you're attracted to her feet, and it's something that's an important part of your sexuality then maybe she's not the girl for you and there's no sense being in a relationship trying to be someone your not.
It's the guy you see in the news crawling out from under a car to kiss a woman's feet whom they've never met before that can create a "perverted freak" image to a woman who's never experienced or even really thought of foot play in their relationship. If you're stringing her along for months or I guess in some people's cases years denying who you are to a girl, when it does come out it's going to seem like that much more of a big deal and that much more strange to her because it obviously is something you felt a need to hide for so long.
Always better for both sides to lay the cards on the table and be upfront about everything in a relationship so that if there's an issue that creates a problem too big to work through you'll realize it from the start and won't waste one anothers time...Instead you'll gain a better understanding of your partner and hopefully that'll make it that much easier to go about making her happy and satisfying her completely.
Most women I've encountered are fairly openminded and they appreciate honesty, so more often than not they find a foot fetish to be uniquely flattering even if they don't quite understand it, if all other aspects of the relationship are in order, they're more than likely to do their best to satisfy your urges and perhaps even take an interest in it and grow to appreciate it right along with you. Best of Luck Man!
my take.. if she is 'letting' you touch them during sexual activities, i would just take the initiative and get more comfortable with them until you feel comfortable sucking on her toes. it's not that hard to do and its almost hard NOT to.. well to us anyway. when you are having sex missionary position, just get up on your knees and get her legs up against your chest, grabbing her thighs. this will put her feet somewhere by your head depending on the height difference between you two. you can then easily get them right in your face and the next step is to do what comes naturally.
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She obviously likes you rubbing them while having sex so the idea of feet being used in a pleasurable way is already in her thoughts. The next step is to get the near your face so you can kiss and lick them. Nusuth is right. Manuver into a position where they are already near your face and give them a little kiss for starters. After that nature will take its course and you'll know how far to go. Good Luck.
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There are two ways to handle a problem (politicians take heed): you can talk about it or you can do something about it. Thus the questions arise: Why tell her about it? Why not show her?
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