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ever since i'm been in college it seems like everyone (and i do mean EVERYONE) on campus is hooking up but me. it's causing me to have petty flashbacks to high school and everything that happened there. not being able to relate to anyone. not being able to get females to like me. all that. even my foot fetish is starting to get out of control and it sucks. sorry if this sounds like a stupid ass posts, but i just thought i'd get this off my chest.
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life is full of mysteries.. I never dated in high school.. couldn't hold a relationship throughout college (only tried one time)... couldn't get a girl in grad school either.. then.. met the ex from hell!!!!!!!!!!!
now.. i'm super happily engaged planning a wedding and not regretting a single thing!!!
what i'm saying.. not everyone gets the hook up.. especially right out of the gate (meaning just in a new environment).
nothing wrong with you.. just.. pace yourself. I can say.. i've only seriously dated two people my whole life.. and only casually dated two others (less than a total of 5 days each). and spoke with two other gals for months hoping to build a relationship that never came. <just realize.. the number two is a theme for me here>
bottom line.. go way super easy on yourself!!!! school just started man!!!!!! you've got a whole school year ahead of you!!! nothing to sound worried about.
i got my first serious relationship in my mid 20's... can you imagine the thoughts in my head knowing that the first woman to go out steady with me was in my mid 20's? before that.. nothing could be landed? yet.. many times.. i was the so called stud that most women would whisper about and give me looks and flirt with me.. but never got a hook up. i was always told.. i was too serious for a date.. i was marriage material.. or too nice.. or some crap like that.
but now.. i've got the woman of my dreams who I can't wait to marry!!!!!!!!!!!! and she's hot!!
so.. pace yourself buddy.. can't stress it enough.. pace yourself.. sometimes.. it's a great thing that good guys do finish last!!!!! because they finish.. whereas the others (the other folks i hated who had all the dates).. now aren't in the good position I am in.. some in jail.. others dying with disease.. others on welfare because they were too busy chasing skirts instead of a degree.. or other predictament (not saying some aren't doing well for themselves either)
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: ever since i'm been in college it seems like everyone (and i do mean EVERYONE) on campus is hooking up but me. it's causing me to have petty flashbacks to high school and everything that happened there. not being able to relate to anyone. not being able to get females to like me. all that. even my foot fetish is starting to get out of control and it sucks. sorry if this sounds like a stupid ass posts, but i just thought i'd get this off my chest.
Brother RPM said it best: pace yourself and cut yourself some slack.
I can't remember where I heard this before, but I've heard that women who want to be pregnant, who want a baby and for some reason can't get it...tend to always, without fail, take notice of pregnant women no matter where they go.
Now ask yourself this: do YOU take notice of every pregnant woman you pass while out in public? Of course not, because you're not longing to have that for yourself (and if you are a guy longing to be pregnant you've got deeper issues than can ever get resolved on a message forum ). Do you think it'd stand to reason that a woman who longs for a child would have her perceptions skewed a bit, since she's envying what these other women have?
That's the thing...you're wanting a sweet lil' gal to put your arms around, so since the longing is there inside of you, you're noticing every other guy who has a girl. What you're not noticing are all the guys who DON'T have a girl, and let me tell you Bro, there's just as many lonely guys as there are guys in a relationships. In other words, it balances out and you are not alone!
Just don't sweat it. Hell, you've got your whole life ahead of you, so what's the rush? Believe me, I'm an ugly dude and I get girls. The minute you stop longing for it to happen is when it'll happen for you. Every dog has his day sooner or later.
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RPM and Lou bring up some great points in their posts. I totally agree that you not be so hard on yourself. You have plenty of time to hook up with someone and there's no reason to get all upset because you think you see everyone around you hooking up. It's so true what Lou said about you noticing something that you want and not noticing what may be right in front of you all along. Since you want to hook up with a girl, you're noticing all the girls that are hooked up with guys.
I would stop focusing on those who are hooking up or that are already hooked up and focus more on those who aren't. Also, I wouldn't worry very much about not having a girlfriend, especially since you're in college. You have plenty of time for that to happen. Also, a good piece of advice to remember: Those who don't look or act hungry are the ones who always get fed. In other words, lay back some and don't make trying to hook up with any girl you meet a top priority for yourself. Women can sense when a guy is needy or wanting something. It doesn't have to be something they pick up from what you say. It could be in your body language. The more you can play a girl off and act like you don't need her or don't want her and just be a strong and confident person, the more she will want you. Bust on girls like you would bust on your guy friends, even those girls who may not know you too well or those you've just met. It's something they're not used to happening and it let's them know in a subtle way that you're not totally buying into just their good looks. By doing that, you suddenly become interesting to them. Just go out, have fun and don't make hooking up such a huge priority.
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