I found this fantastic site a several months ago and am just now getting around to joining. Congrats Wu! This is a dream for foot lovers.
Also, I need some advice that the people of this forum are uniquely qualified to answer.
I've had a huge foot fetish since I was a kid, and although I'm now married and have had many long term relationships before that, all the women reacted with unqualified revulsion whenever I casually expressed interest in their feet, no matter how subtly. So it's been a dirty little secret my whole life.
Lately I have been thinking about contacting a woman in Atlanta where I live who advertises foot worship sessions (among other activities like erotic massage).
Do you think I will enjoy it as much as I think I would, or would the actual experience probably not live up to my fantasy?
Also, I'm nervous about my privacy and any law enforcement risks I might be taking in visiting such a person. I know this is not prostitution because there is no intercourse involved, but I'm wholly unclear on the legality of "erotic" physical contact for money and can't seem to find any info on it.
Long story short, I have a life and don't want to take any stupid risks that will ruin it. But lately the "not knowing" has been very pre-occupying for me. Any advice you may have would be extremely welcome.
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My adivse would be to be honest and open with your wife about your fetish. Being married should mean that you can express yourself openly to your wife and not be judged for your fantasy. I would assume she would love foot rubs and massages and should take of your needs. No reason to risk what you have for feet, just try with the wife first and foremost.
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No way..go with the other...be like a little fantasy you've always wanted!! Has she got a web address??
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Don't cheat on your wife. Most of the guys here will tell you that, and probably all of the gurls. Be honest with her and I bet you will be surprised.
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This is a tough one... I want to suck tons of girls toes but I have to hold off because I have a wife and a family. I have thought about sessions and everything and doing stuff on the sneak. But I have never done it, I just have fun over the internet. It isn't the real thing but it satisfies me and I am happy.
It would be a great fantasy but this fantasy could come with a price if you get caught.
Then is also depends on what you see as cheating. Is toe sucking cheating? is a massage cheating? or does it have to involved sex and kissing and such... But that a whole other topic.
If you do take the chance, you can't be surprised by results if something bad happens.
With your wife you don't have to pay...
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As I mentioned in my original post, feet are no-go with my wife, who is VERY conservative sexually. I try to give her a little kiss on the toes during foreplay, and she acts as if as if I've brought a small billy goat in the bed for a 3 way. I've tried everything you can imagine for 15 years, and her responses have ranged from "eeew Gross!" to "I didn't marry a pervert!" I don't want to cheat on my wife and I guess my fantasy will have to remain just that.
Again all the advice was very helpful, and reconfirmed my convictions to keep everything above board.
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I know this isn't a popular opinion here, but this foot session girl can take care of a need you are just not going to get at home no matter how honest you are it sounds like. Feet just disgust some people, simple as that. Be careful and discreet. There is a risk involved (legal, emotional, or whatever). You just have to make the choice; is the reward worth the risk, and the guilt pangs you'll undoubtedly feel afterward?
BTW, what does the size of the billy goat matter????
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The size of the Billy Goat matters, because humor with descriptives works better. Just "a Billy Goat" just seemed a little flat...
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Brad, you asked for opinions, and here's mine. Unfortunately, I'm on board with most of the others and am going to say that it would be a form of cheating on your wife. If it's sexual to you.... then it's sex in my book.
I agree with ToeLovinFirefighter above that you should concentrate on your wife. I fear you may have been somewhat of an 'eager beaver' in the beginning of your relationship and like some of the other guys on here who have not been able to successfully introduce their significant others to the pleasures of our particular lifestyle and now face an uphill battle.
I've NEVER met a woman yet that did not appreciate attention from her man. You should give her back rubs and all-over body massages and NOT focus your attention on her feet alone... Next, I would do a search on here and find one of the threads that lists all of the MANY movies which feature foot-play in a romantic setting in some MAINSTREAM movie, rent those and get her to watch them with you and just 'casually' point out the nicely done foot involvement in them. The downside is you may have to sit through some boring movies or worse yet, some 'chick flicks' however, you are on a mission here... (When you've been doing these things for a while and have gotten positive feedback, come back and we'll give you the next step)
Remember, you want to reinforce to your wife that you love and adore ALL of her, from her nose to her toes. You have spent 15+ years getting into and living with this situation, it is NOT going to change overnight.
The upside is, if it works you will have the best payoff of all, enjoying your wife's feet along with the rest of her. Not bad....
Having given you my 2 cents worth, let me just add that regret is a terrible thing to live with and you cannot undo guilt feelings over some momentary and fleeting pleasure.
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I didn't want to waste people's time by telling them all my details, but I'm someone who's always been very attentive to all my wife's needs, and her as a whole person. I've never been anything but subtle in my approach regarding my preference. I I've tried all of the above and much, much more with no results. Actually, with negative results, as she views anyone who finds feet sexually attractive a pervert -- no gray area. I think the previous poster got it right in my case -- some girls just aren't into feet and there's no way around that, no matter subtly you approach the subject.
As long as I get no where near her feet, we have a great relationship sexually and otherwise. It's just the not knowing what it's like (foot worship) that has gotten me wondering lately, and I'm wrestling with that. This forum has actually helped -- just to be able to express it in a non-judgemental environment is a bit a of a relief. If you can't get it, talk about it, right?
Anyway, thanks for you input...
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I'm sorry your wife finds it perverted. There's nothing perverted about liking feet. It always makes me sad to hear how closed-minded some women can be.
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quote:Originally posted by Eliza Durden: I'm sorry your wife finds it perverted. There's nothing perverted about liking feet. It always makes me sad to hear how closed-minded some women can be.
quote:Originally posted by Curious Brad: The size of the Billy Goat matters, because humor with descriptives works better. Just "a Billy Goat" just seemed a little flat...
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YOu can't make your wife see things your way, but being she's very conservative sexually (as you put it).. any source of pleasure provided to you by anyone or anything other than herself will constitue cheating (this may well include Wu's)
so.. if this is a point that is causing you a lot of emotional distress and adversely affecting the nature of your marriage, the one thing you've not mentioned to do may be the only thing that may prove helpful. get qualified professional advice.
by that i mean, someone she will most likely be willing to listen to who happens to understand her unique conservative beliefs yet is able to bridge the gap to your more liberated beliefs.
why the professional advice? feet aren't perverted... contrary to her belief. there is an underlining root to that problem. once addressed, may be reversable if she chooses.
example. i have a co-worker who hates feet. hubbie of hers loves feet. she hates the fact i like feet. but, with much patiences, she's gotten over the hatred of it enough to talk to me about it many many times. and on rare occassions, she's let her hubby play with her peds (with strict negotiations and boundaries that both can live with). the cause of her hatred, a horrible experience in her youth.
talking about it got her to realize that it's just a bad experience. she is now open to me taking pics of her peds, but we can't seem to find the right setting. (trust me on this, her peds would be an instant hit here based on what is a hit here)
the point i'm making, you may be in need of additional support to help you here. you may never get what you want, but anything to improve the situation is much better than nothing.
worse case deal, you can find the support to be a little less "hooked" and better able to cope wiht the lack of feet.. ie.. not get so rejected or feel that way. and best case, she may just open up to you.
going outside your marriage would slide if she was more open.. but as closed as she is... the funny thing about life, she'll eventually figure it out (how.. is beyond me.. but women jsut have a gift for finding things that can damn us).
hope this helps. with much patience, my wife went from no-way (dating) to now I can have fun! most days.. if not all days.. if i approach her smoothly!
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