Hello all, im in a relationship with a wonderful girl, who I love dearly. I've been talking with a girl online, on a messenger service of mine, who i've known for a while, lives close by me, and goes to school in Minn. Well, she knows about my fetish, and wants me to suck her toes. I keep telling her no, because I consider it cheating. She tells me it's not, and then were talking other night, how about she wants to get laid and all of this stuff, and she wants me to do it. What should I do? I would never think about sucking the toes of another girl. Should I get a new screen name? Sorry for such a long post.
Posted by bobthemonkey (Member # 5876) on :
well, i mean i dont know the extent of your relationship with your girl but i would do it but im a young single guy who hasnt had much feet action in his life so my opinion is kinda skewed.
Posted by imasoleman (Member # 5044) on :
were close, so much so in fact were talking about marriage. I don't want to lose her, granted it hasn't been that long, only about 6 months, but this is the best relationship i've been in, and she likes my fetish, and getting foot massages
Posted by IAmSpartachris (Member # 3289) on :
Seems pretty obvious to me that you should not do anything to jeapordize a good thing. And in the end, if YOU feel that it's cheating, then you answered your own question. It doesn't matter how anyone else feels, because you will always feel as if you cheated, and the guilt will eat you up.
Not worth it brother. Leave it alone.
Posted by Calico Jack (Member # 2299) on :
quote:Originally posted by IAmSpartachris: Not worth it brother. Leave it alone.
Agree 100%.
Calico Jack
Posted by Ben Del Amitri (Member # 2724) on :
That was a great answer, IAmSpartaChris!!! Outstanding, and I think you really captured it well in just a few sharp sentences. "If YOU feel that it's cheating, you answered your own question".
I think if you even have to ask if something is cheating, then you probably feel that it is, at least inside.
Posted by ledaemon (Member # 198) on :
My wife would consider it teaching if I touched another woman's foot much less licked her toes! For a foot fetishist it is definitely cheating!
Posted by Gimme (Member # 6872) on :
I ve had similar kind of esoteric dialogue with myself regarding themes such as this one: is it cheating or not just to taste another woman's feet.
Plain and simple truth according to the universal laws of mutual bonding and relationships between a man and woman: it is considered cheating. Actually it is considered cheating by the time one might think of it. (but I totaly agree with this theory since the entire world would be full of thieves, liars, cheaters, murders, etc etc just by thinking of something).
On the other hand, I believe that this preference we all have in this Forum, i.e. of female feet, "purifies" us from sins which might be considered "deadly" from people out of this "group". I personally have made similar thoughts like imasoleman and If I have the chance only once to do I d certainly do it without even thinking about it. It depends on what each one of us thinks what cheating is and carries on. I believe that cheating has to do only with sexual behaviour and sexual encounter (for the reasons I stated earlier) and there is nothing wrong in this as long as both parts are into this kind of game.
Gimme.
Posted by Beetletoe (Member # 2803) on :
it scares me to think that a guy would come have to ask the advise of people he dosent even know about a relationship. why not make your own decesion about your own relationship diffrent girls will be more accepting of diffrent things. everyone will have a diffrent answer, i would love to have your girlfriend get mad at you for sucking another womans toes and you saying that it was ok cause the guys on the foot forum said so. my 2 cents
Posted by Bondo (Member # 1403) on :
Toe sucking = cheating (most definitely)
If you love her dearly like you stated, you should focus your "foot energy" on her rather than on someone your secretly chatting with.
Fight the temptation.
Bondo
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by Bondo: Toe sucking = cheating (most definitely)
If you love her dearly like you stated, you should focus your "foot energy" on her rather than on someone your secretly chatting with.
Fight the temptation.
I agree.
Posted by vineofthorns (Member # 1313) on :
Been in this situation many times in my 7 year relationship.women who want you will tease you wit their feet as much as possible(if they know about your fetish) n act like they don't know what their doin,but they use it along with their other flirtations that they would admit to.this is how they will lure you in.I've been situations where I'd go hang with a girl n she would have knee high boots on n wed stop by house or somthing n even tho we would stay for 5 mins,she insisted on taking her boots off(wich took as long to take off as I was gonna stay in the house).speads her legs out,wiggling her toes,moving her feet around,others who would get extreme types of pedicures n ask if I liked,and if I did,all fkn day move em aorund wile looking @ grinnin.I have a list of thease stories(some more extreme then thease forinstances)but we're talkin about u n all I gotta say is shit is rough man,stay strong.yes it is cheating if you feel it is,and I'm sure if your current gf understands your fetish,she would feel the same way....my advice is this if your sooo temped;have her give you pix of her feet,or take pix of her feet n do whatcha gotta do wit those pics .then post them pix up here hehe.
Posted by mystik (Member # 1420) on :
Would you like it if she, oh I dont know, licked another guys neck or something? If you're talking about marriage, theres absolutely no way you should even consider sucking another girls toes. Sounds to me like you love the girl though and you really don't want to do it, so just tell her to back off and leave you alone about it. It is NOT worth it. You shouldnt do that to her and you know it.
Posted by AndyUK (Member # 3419) on :
Rule of thumb: If you wouldn't do it with your sister, it's cheating! Posted by Wu (Member # 1) on :
quote:Originally posted by AndyUK: Rule of thumb: If you wouldn't do it with your sister, it's cheating!
LOL! Good one! Posted by soleslurp (Member # 2442) on :
You know what bro,since you've brought it up you kinda want to do it.Go for it bro Your not married man,and its only a six month relationship.Hey if things go sour with your girl you'll be kicking yourself for not taking this great opportunity.The online girl sounds like a great no strings attached foot and otherthings adventure,live it up.If you and your girl do get married ,think of this as a pre marriage fling. Posted by Bondo (Member # 1403) on :
quote:Originally posted by AndyUK: Rule of thumb: If you wouldn't do it with your sister, it's cheating!
Interesting. Definitely gross to think about but it keeps you on track.
Bondo
Posted by Sam 4 Feet (Member # 2222) on :
Do it in secret, tell your girlfriend that your going to the pub but really go to a hotel where the online firls will meet you. you girlfriend won't know you'll be happy and the online girl will be happy, its a win-win situation.
Posted by mywifesfeet (Member # 2630) on :
imasoleman,
Have you told your girlfriend that you chat with this other chick? You should.
Does she know that you and this IM chick talk about sex? She should.
If your girlfriend doesn't know about the IM chick and your hiding it from her... it's cheating.
You wanted my opinion? There it is.
Posted by imasoleman (Member # 5044) on :
oh she knows, and I stopped talking the the im chic because she kept pushing and pushing me to do it, and I told her I was commited to some1 that, in the next few months, i'll be asking the question to, so I haven't had contact with the im chic for about a month
Posted by Plastercast to thank (Member # 827) on :
Bondo, It's all very well telling that guy to fight the temptation but sadly somtimes that really easier said than done as I have discovered myself.
Posted by Plastercast to thank (Member # 827) on :
quote:Originally posted by soleman225: you like the girl your with too much, if you suck the other one's toes your going to feel guilty and tell the girl your with at some point, or sulk and be miserable forever..and if you tell her, things will be weird, if you dont..things will be weird. either way you lose, bottom line..dont do it, and you probably should tell your current girl that youve been talking with one online, just dont tell her the extent of it.
On the other hand, the question that has to be asked is how can he be sure she's not cheating when'he's not around & the answer of cause is that he can't none of us can so as, Solsslurp has pointed out he may as well go for it after all he's only doing things with the online girls feet, it's not as if he's shaging her is it?
Posted by Plastercast to thank (Member # 827) on :
quote:Originally posted by imasoleman: oh she knows, and I stopped talking the the im chic because she kept pushing and pushing me to do it, and I told her I was commited to some1 that, in the next few months, i'll be asking the question to, so I haven't had contact with the im chic for about a month
Have you had any contact since your previous post in this thread?
Posted by Flicker (Member # 11860) on :
Wow! I am really impressed by the number of responses and by the thoughts expressed here, on both sides.
I've got to tell you, though... if you don't think you could tell your girlfriend about your chatting and your potential toe-sucking rendezvous with another woman, then, of course, it would be cheating.
Nearly all relationships that begin in an Internet chatroom and focus on sex go bad. Sometimes VERY bad. This other woman could be a nut and try to ruin your relationship with your girlfriend, or blackmail you, or worse.
The simple fact that you're willing to get into bed with another woman when you're thinking about marrying someone else is a bad sign. I know, I know, it's that toe-sucking, sole-licking fetish that drives us insane. Go masturbate three times in rapid succession and then see if it still sounds like a good idea.
It's very easy to break the heart of a wonderful lady and destroy the trust between you with a quick and "meaningless" fling with some toe temptress you really wouldn't want to spend any time with once you got to know her. If you do this, and it screws up your life with your girlfriend, you may hate yourself forever.
One relationship at a time, my friend. Too many of us have learned that lesson the hard way. Pick ONE woman and give her all you've got -- honesty, love, and respect. (And maybe a nibble or two on her little piggies!)
Good luck!
Posted by mywifesfeet (Member # 2630) on :
Sucking another chicks toes is cheating.
My suggestion... If this online chick won't respect the boundaries you have set then stop chatting with her.
There is a double standard out there and here it is. When a woman says "No" it means no. When a guy says "No" it means...
That's as far as I am going to take this one.
Posted by priyatalreja (Member # 10503) on :
mywifesfeet...you are in a unique position in that you have a wife with gorgeous feet. There are tons of guys stuck with an old sow with trotters. What are they supposed to do?
Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
Hold and maintain what you got (the good relationship) because they are hard to get ... just add some spices to your homemade soup for a new kick, if you think it is worth it .
Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
god damn tempting i know, for a woman to ask you to suck her toes as its usually you that has to ask. BUT NO!! is the answer if you wonna keep your real gf.
TS II
Posted by martinmatte (Member # 319) on :
It is cheating.A sexual satisfaction of some form surely will be gained from it so to us, foot fetishists, cheating it is. But then again, knowing what I am, I could never be in a relationship where none of this would occur, at very least occasionally.So if she's ok with it, what could possibly make me to suck on another girl's toes? Can't say I never think about it though but that's pretty much it.
Life's a long way down if you can only think in toes...
Posted by Plastercast to thank (Member # 827) on :
quote:Originally posted by imasoleman: oh she knows, and I stopped talking the the im chic because she kept pushing and pushing me to do it, and I told her I was commited to some1 that, in the next few months, i'll be asking the question to, so I haven't had contact with the im chic for about a month
Fairplay too you as it must have took hours if not nights of lost sleep too come too that decision but don't go beating yourself up too much because as I said on a more recent post in this thread , none of us can ever be sure of what our ladies are up too when were not about: ie I used too have a neighbour who had a bit on the side with some bouncer in a nightclub & everyone in our neighbourhood knew about it & yet she still had the barefaced cheek too accuse her husband of playing away even though it was obvious too everyone that the poor sod only had eyes for her.
Posted by iluvfeet4me (Member # 12488) on :
quote:Originally posted by Calico Jack:
quote:Originally posted by IAmSpartachris: Not worth it brother. Leave it alone.
Agree 100%.
Calico Jack
It's not worth it. Don't ruin a good thing.
Posted by feetness (Member # 3546) on :
I agree with i think more then the majority in here! It is just not worth it and especially if you have such a 'great' relationship with your girl.. what is the point!
Feetness Posted by daemoness (Member # 1980) on :
here's one girl's prospective. If my boyfriend sucked another girl's toes I would leave him and he would be kicking himself for throwing away something real for some flimsy sexual gratification that would last no more than a half hour when he could have got way better with me. I don't know if your relationship is as solid as you say, talking about marriage and all, but if it means something to you i don't know why you're chatting with some other girl on the internet about her feet. and i agree with the person who said it's pathetic of you to decide about cheating on your girl because of people's opinions on a forum. oh, a second rule of thumb, if you can't tell your GF that you are going to go out and suck some girl you met on the internet's toes BEFORE you walk out the door and do it, it IS cheating, duh. ::end rant::
Posted by ilikesoftpeds (Member # 9269) on :
quote:Originally posted by daemoness: here's one girl's prospective. If my boyfriend sucked another girl's toes I would leave him and he would be kicking himself for throwing away something real for some flimsy sexual gratification that would last no more than a half hour when he could have got way better with me. I don't know if your relationship is as solid as you say, talking about marriage and all, but if it means something to you i don't know why you're chatting with some other girl on the internet about her feet. and i agree with the person who said it's pathetic of you to decide about cheating on your girl because of people's opinions on a forum. oh, a second rule of thumb, if you can't tell your GF that you are going to go out and suck some girl you met on the internet's toes BEFORE you walk out the door and do it, it IS cheating, duh. ::end rant::
Well said Deamoness!!
If this guy is in a serious relationship and all is going just great, he should not even consider any other girl. He is engaged and supposedly has a great girl and they love each other.
It's a no brainer!
Posted by scarlet (Member # 2117) on :
quote:Originally posted by daemoness: If my boyfriend sucked another girl's toes
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.then post them pix up here hehe.
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