It the past sex has been a mechanical action for me that I wouldn't want to partake in unless I had to. Even seeing couples perfoming sex is like watching a bowel movement.
Does anyone else here feel their foot fetish has robbed them of a conventional sexuality?
Posted by Reinforcedheelstoes (Member # 1099) on :
You need to see someone.
Now.
Posted by doitny (Member # 14061) on :
feet are a form of foreplay for me, to start my engine. man can't live on feet alone.....nothing beats a nice warm pussy.
Posted by tom (Member # 223) on :
never felt robbed - i just got a gift !
love to screw - especially with her feet in my face !
Posted by guitardrew (Member # 6635) on :
i know what you mean Lick, i have experienced stuff like that, but just as your sexual interests develop and fetishes change or multiply the more you feel comfortable in exploring your sexuality with women, this can be the same way. i have gotten more into conventional sex simply by being able to feel totally comfortable with girls (a couple, im not that experienced with footlovin yet) and my love of feet, being able to have access to a girl's feet, the main thing that turns you on, and having that totally intimate openness will allow you to see a girl in different lights than youd even think. connecting with the girl is the first and most important thing, from there try getting some feet as a warm up then straight up sex and see how it develops, and sex with feet in the face and access to the feet at the same time is perfect for the situation. dont worry about it dude there are much more guys that have little issues like that than would like to talk about it im sure.
Posted by huntduck458 (Member # 7295) on :
lick i feel you man...i cant seem to over the feet...the pussy just doesn't do it any more
Posted by Lick (Member # 2412) on :
The advice often given to fetishists is to try and incorporate their fetish into sex. Easier said than done.
What you do during foot fetish activity couldn't be further from a conventional screw.
Posted by Wrinklesguy (Member # 732) on :
I feel you too Lick..i am so absorbed by feet sometimes..there's nothing i'd rather have at the moment.Sometimes,a relationship with someone can be less complicated without sex, and just some foot play.
Posted by Jack Bauer12 (Member # 13592) on :
I like it all dude. Sex is fun.
Posted by babeflover (Member # 2953) on :
the only reason why my fetish is so enjoyable is because its nature is of a sexual one. in other words, without the sexualification(i hope i'm spelling it right)of the foot, i'd not have a footfetish. i don't get you bro. why foot then?
Posted by Lick (Member # 2412) on :
I don't see how the sexualisation is even connected to feet.
Penetration and foot worship are on totally different tracks. One is a humilation ritual and the other, well, makes babies.
Posted by Jack Bauer12 (Member # 13592) on :
quote:Originally posted by Lick: I don't see how the sexualisation is even connected to feet.
Penetration and foot worship are on totally different tracks. One is a humilation ritual and the other, well, makes babies.
Us wanting feet means we still want the the snatch. Same goes for breat lovers.
Posted by babeflover (Member # 2953) on :
wow! i'm shot. he has a footfetish that, somehow is not connected or related to sex. A sexless fetish. maybe i'm wrong here, maybe there such a thing as a fetish that has not connetion what so ever with sex. please someone help me here.
Posted by babeflover (Member # 2953) on :
it is like eating your favorite meal just for the hell of it, what makes it your favorite?
Posted by Lick (Member # 2412) on :
No don't get me wrong it is sexual.
But it's so different to penetration that's why I can't see how FF and usual sex is the same.
Posted by Dazzz (Member # 12539) on :
no i love feet and also really enjoy sex with my girl friend
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
I certainly will admit that my fetish has been struggling to overtake my desire, and even ability to perform "normal sex."
At first I'd participate and function normally during intercourse- simply looking at and touching her feet while I banged her, but climaxing during intercourse.
But over the last year it's gotten to the point that even if I do manage intercourse I can't climax from it, I have to have her feet. It's the sight and feel of her feet that arouse me, keep me aroused, and drive me to climax when I have them. I'm hoping in many ways that this is a phase I'm going through, because she doesn't feel as emotionally attached and close, when I cum on her feet all the time.
Posted by Lou Gojira (Member # 983) on :
Lick, is this something you're worried about fixing, or are you just wondering if you're not alone?
If you're not concerned with it, don't worry about it.
If you are bothered by it, and if you're involved with a girl, try holding off on anything foot related...that means looking at pics, playing with her feet, everything...until you two get frisky again. You should be so blue-balled and pent-up that "normal" sexual intercourse should be no problem at all. Try it...try to "back your boys up" to the point to where you can and will happily have sex without her feet being involved, and it might help you gain another perspective.
Posted by Romona Rockwell (Member # 14511) on :
quote:Originally posted by Lick:
Does anyone else here feel their foot fetish has robbed them of a conventional sexuality?
What a fantastic post.
I know what you mean.
I find that unless my feet are being pleasured while having sex I tend to take awhile to orgasm.
If I am with another girl and we are having sex and I can't see her feet, it takes me ages.
But if I can enjoy her feet, or have my feet enjoyed while having sex, its much more exciting and I orgasm much much faster.
Ordernairy sex I just find lacking..
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
this thread is one of the reasons why i say I don't have a foot fetish. the way I've always heard it.. when one has a fetish, they need the subject of their fetish involved to even enjoy sex (one extreme) or to get to climax (another extreme) or just to go through the motions with a partner (another extreme) or just to get aroused at all( another extreme).
me, feet is just an added bonus that I don't miss if I don't have it. it's like this. I love driving. I don't have a race car to drive everyday, but I enjoy driving. Of course, when I'm in an exotic car, it's even more fun, but still the same enjoyable act... just more buzz to it. I'll never give up driving.. even if it's a piece of crap that dies at every light. i just love driving.
same goes with the whole sexual encounter. I love it period. even if i never see feet or touch feet or smell feet. i love the whole encounter. getting to have fun with the gal's feet is just like getting out of a nissan to drive a high end mercedes or a Diablo. makes it that much more fun!
So, to me, i've got a healthy interest in feet (hosed being the prefered choice). but not a fetish for it.
personally, i'd rather not have a fetish. because the way i view fetishes... i'd be screwed for life if my future wife had less than perfect feet (in my case... she's doesn't have my version of perfect feet.. but i love em just the same). but because it's an interest... i can adapt and be just fine. I think that in a fetish situation.. i might pick who I date based on how their feet are and work for me.. to me a much riskier propotion in that it's personalities that make relationships work, not feet.
but that is my long theory on this matter. i just don't get the scenario Lick proposed. I feel that it's more a 'burden' than a joy when you can only enjoy feet and not the rest of the feast. but... to each his own. and there is a lady out there who get's you Lick and may much prefer you enjoy her feet than have intercourse with her.. now that would be a match for you!
RPM
p.s. romona, which works better for you... hosed feet or bare feet?
Posted by Lick (Member # 2412) on :
quote:Originally posted by Lou Gojira: Lick, is this something you're worried about fixing, or are you just wondering if you're not alone?
Both really. I can't sem to get my head round the fact that people can have a fetish alongside a 'normal' sexuality. Believe me, I would LOVE to have both, but given a preference it would have to be the conventional baby-making technique!
This is what I mean when I say I feel robbed of the usual sexuality because of FF. Girls don't want to be involved with someone with a one-tracked sexuality, and on a fairer note they shouldn't.
I even saw a psychosexual therapist once who suggested that I should open up to other areas rather than this one interest. Fact is, the other areas never get it up.
I have a serious problem where FF isn't a bit of foreplay - but the MAIN act.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
Lick... until you find a solution to it.. which i've got none to offer, best bet is to find a woman who likes your feet attention and doesn't really care for the rest. even if that sounds impossible, i've heard a few women saying that other than for the sake of childbearing, they'd not mind not ever having sex. i thought of them weird.. but hey... if you met one who much rather you play with her feet than have sex.. you'd hit the jackpot!!!!
wish i could offer you more without getting all sappy and religious on you
RPM
Posted by peewee (Member # 2274) on :
maybe you just havent had enough sex yet .... get a girlfrtiend and plow the crap out of her all the time and maybe itll turn u onto it more
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by Lick: I can't sem to get my head round the fact that people can have a fetish alongside a 'normal' sexuality.
That's because most have a partialism or "favor" feet, but don't have a true fetish for them. (and please believe me, in the vein of this discussion I'm not bragging about apparently having a true fetish myself because I'm just as concerned about my long-term sex life because of it.)
And it's not like feet are the only body parts that I love. I get highly aroused by a nice, tight, flat stomach, or long, lean legs and like most men, very appreciative of an overall good-looking girl. And, though my wife's 48 like I am, she's got great breasts, a relatively flat tummy, great long legs and is, for the most part, pretty lean.
But there's still no doubt that a switch can be thrown in your brain that puts your feet desire into overdrive and essentially gives it top priority. My wife can be laying naked on the bed, and although I love looking at and touching all her body parts, it's looking at and touching her feet that will get me the most aroused.
quote:Girls don't want to be involved with someone with a one-tracked sexuality, and on a fairer note they shouldn't.
Though not always true, this can be very important to some women, including my wife.
Though she's been a trooper up to this point by allowing me, even encouraging me to use, enjoy and climax onto her feet when I couldn't finish during intercourse, I try my best to finish inside her every few times. (which I usually manage by still thinking about her feet)
My wife likes, and needs emotional attachment. She doesn't like to feel that things are being done to her and not with her. Although I don't understand it, I have want to make her happy to so I have to be sensitive to this.
So, as someone said, you might want to be on the lookout for a girl who doesn't mind stuff being done to her (maybe a little more submissive?) or who just doesn't think that foot stuff is any different than "normal" sex.
My only other suggestion, and I think someone else might have shared this, would be to try and desensitize yourself to feet somewhat. Cut back on looking at feet and talking about them all the time. It's tough, and not fun, but it might be enough to get your focus off feet enough to give you the desire to perform other sexual activities.
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
I think sex is great, especially if it's with a hot woman's feet.
Though regular missionary stuff has lost it's appeal to me, that need has certainly been replaced by the excitement of women's soles rubbing up against my happy guy
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