Earlier today, when my lady was waiting for me to pick her up (she was outside, standing at a busy downtown intersection), she kept noticing a guy stealthily staring at her feet while pretending to wait for a bus. This went on for around 15-20 minutes.
Eventually she looked right at him, and he knew he was busted. So he asked her, "Can I take a picture of your feet?" She agreed. But he blew it by actually wanting to take her somewhere else to take the picture (hahah ... good luck buddy). That she refused, but she told him if he gives her his email address, she'd email him a picture.
He was totally excited by this, and gave her his email. Then he thanked her repeatedly, and left (waiting for the bus, huh? )
She's given me his email address, and has told me to decide what to do. Send him some pics of her feet that'll have his arms in a cast from masturbating excessively? Let him know I've got a foot fetish the size of Canada? Not send him anything? Pass it back to her, and let her email him instead of me?
Decisions, decisions. What would you do?
Posted by Thundercracker (Member # 7778) on :
Interesting that he'd pick a woman who's guy also digs feet. Your lady must have some real eye-catchers!
But on a serious note, I'd just say its a done deal. He blew his chance by not just snapping pix then and there. Who waits at a bus stop for the hell of it? She had some place to go. So why would he want her to go elsewhere?
It might be all innocent, but better safe than sorry. Especially with your lady. You never know if sending a pic to this guy will cause him to fixate on her. I'd call it a done deal. He got his nice, long ogle. Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
Well at first(considering my thread that I started)I wouldnt be too pleased...but after some thought I woiuld give him props for actually having the balls to ask to take a picture..then give him a pic...innocent one though.
Posted by Jak (Member # 7343) on :
before sending the pics, i'd probably email him myself and tell him about my fetish as well, just to see maybe if hes a cool dude or not. the odds of that happening are crazy, it would interest me a lot. your girl's feet must be really sexy, if those are hers in the avatar, then im definitely right.
Posted by FTPHANTOM (Member # 47) on :
I agree with Jak,I'd check that guy out first,then send him a few pic's if he's cool.
Posted by nose4toes (Member # 16640) on :
quote:Originally posted by Thundercracker: You never know if sending a pic to this guy will cause him to fixate on her.
That's a good point. But really, even if we converse with the guy via e-mail, it doesn't give away our whereabouts; it's a big city.
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: I woiuld give him props for actually having the balls to ask to take a picture..then give him a pic...innocent one though.
quote:Originally posted by Jak: before sending the pics, i'd probably email him myself and tell him about my fetish as well, just to see maybe if hes a cool dude or not.
quote:Originally posted by FTPHANTOM: ... I'd check that guy out first,then send him a few pic's if he's cool.
Those are great points. I should probably send him a "feeler" email, and if he's a down-to-earth guy, like all of you gents here, awesome; I'll be happy to share with a foot-brother.
quote:Originally posted by Jak: ... your girl's feet must be really sexy, if those are hers in the avatar, then im definitely right.
Thanks for the kind words, Jak, and those are indeed her feet in my Avatar. She's a cute, 5'8" busty red-head with long, wavy, hair and very shapely legs. Her toes were painted black, with dark red sparkle topcoat ... quite eye-catching. I happen to think her feet are awesome - they're size 7 or 7-1/2 depending on the shoe. I took a couple of hurried pictures to try to simulate what our friend the foot-fetishist was looking at.
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Posted by nose4toes (Member # 16640) on :
I'm a supreme 'tard this morning ... I hit reply instead of edit. Please ignore this "reply." Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
i've been in his boat once... had a gal with knock out feet and asked for a pic.. and my instinct (to prevent my feeling 'stupid') asked to go some place of her choosing more comfy. she looked at me weird. i said.. never mind.. didn't know if you'd enjoy a pic of your feet in mid public.
then.. i backed up a few steps.. took a quick shot... then.. approached her a little.. with the camera facing her to show her what i took... while saying I wanted her to see i kept her identity out of it.
she smile.. thanked me.. and i asked if she wanted a copy via email.. she said no.. i walked away. drenched in nervous sweat.
sadly.. i was so shaken by the opportunity.. the pic came out super bad. oh well. i've not tried that before or after that.
but back on topic.. those pics you posted would be a nice one to send to him. i wouldn't over think it.. or make a bigger deal than that. your wife offering you the email is a great thing in my opinion.
i highly doubt the guy will even reply back more than once.. he may have been waiting for the bus... but being so taken by her feet. felt he had to walk away.
and i can understand why he was so impacted.. your wife has great looking feet from that point of view.. and i'm sure it gets better (but only you know that)
RPM
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
It's different when "the shoe's on the other foot"--so to speak! I used to often ask women to let me take photos of them with their shoes off. (I don't do that so much, any more.) But I think I'd be a little upset if a guy asked that of my girlfriend. I agree with everyone else. Email the guy for a bit to make sure he's not a mental case. Then send him a fairly innocent photo of her barefooted.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
the funny thing... and gougiezerts made me think of it..
now that i've got a fiance.. i don't take nearly as much foot or heel pics as I used to. at first.. i thought it was age kicking in.. and the lack of discrete camera i used to have.
but now.. i'm thinking it's just that i've got woman I care about and the situation is a bit different now. food for thought
RPM
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
That's how I feel! But even if my girlfriend and I broke up, I don't think I'd take quite as many candid barefoot photos as I used to.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
yeah... I hear ya! had i not aged any.. i might go back to cndids like before.
RPM
Posted by nose4toes (Member # 16640) on :
I admire you guys for doing that - going out and taking candid photographs. Perhaps one of the better examples of this is Bondo's Flash Your Feet page. The spirit in which those pictures are taken (honestly and openly, not sneakily) makes them really exciting - to me anyway; the women are genuinely interested in participating, and the pictures are taken with their full consent.
Similarly, I do admire "the infamous foot-guy" for having the guts to finally admit he wanted a picture of my lady's feet. He's no Bondo, but as has already been said, he gets points for fessing up and being honest about it.
I considered everyone's opinions before taking any action regarding email (or not emailing) "the foot guy." I also had a long talk with my lady about what we should do. She said she would trust any decision I made, and would support it as she had no problem with me sharing pictures of her feet with people I decide to share them with.
My decision? I sent him a friendly email in which I introduced myself, told him that I share his love for feet, and then I asked him what type of picture he would like. I didn't get all wordy and wind-baggy in the email like I do on these forums.
I'll keep you all posted on how he responds. Stay tuned!
Posted by coedfeet (Member # 2738) on :
so the guy is essentially stalking her, and then wants to take her to a place out of the public eye to "take pics" of her feet, and you want to be buddies with the guy?
Not only does he sound nutty, but he is stupid for passing up a chance.
I would've sent him pics of my feet and told him happy jacking....
Posted by nose4toes (Member # 16640) on :
quote:Originally posted by coedfeet: so the guy is essentially stalking her ...
Uhhh ... no.
Stalking is a legal term for repeated harassment or other forms of invasion of a person's privacy in a manner that causes fear to its target.
quote:Originally posted by coedfeet: ... and you want to be buddies with the guy?
So, you think I wanna be friends with a stalker? Let me think about that for a second. No. (Duh!).
quote:Originally posted by coedfeet: Not only does he sound nutty, but he is stupid for passing up a chance.
He's nutty for staring at her feet, I presume? And stupid because he didn't press himself on her? I see.
quote:Originally posted by coedfeet: I would've sent him pics of my feet and told him happy jacking....
Charming.
Amusing post, coedfeet, if not entirely constructive.
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by FTPHANTOM: I agree with those who suggested checking the guy out first, then sending him a few pic's if he's cool.
I'd do that for sure- and a little additional "detective" work.
I'd want to know whether where this happened was a chance place she just happened to be in, or a part of her daily routine. Does she remember seeing him before? If it was a chance place and the chances of her ever seeing him again were very slim to nill, I'd be more open to sending him something. But if it was part of her daily routine, I'd want to be sure he wasn't stalking her or likely to see her again.
That may sound a bit heretical to those of us, like me, who have been into voyeurism and some minor stalking in the past. I was only a visual stalker, with no intention of photographing, interacting with or doing anything to anyone. That being said I'm very happy that phase of my life is well in my past and has never occured again. Anyway, I wouldn't want to take any chances as far as my wife was concerned.
Posted by coedfeet (Member # 2738) on :
quote:Uhhh ... no.
Uhhh....yeah.
Stalking:
1 : to pursue quarry or prey stealthily.
quote:So, you think I wanna be friends with a stalker? Let me think about that for a second. No. (Duh!).
Well obviously you do since he was stalking your "girlfriend", and you couldn't wait to tell everybody you sent a sweet introduction email.
quote:He's nutty for staring at her feet, I presume? And stupid because he didn't press himself on her? I see.
Try reversing that there slick. Nutty for wanting to take a stranger to a secluded space, and stupid for passing up the offer of your "girlfriend" to take pics of her feet right there.
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
The love in this thread is overwhelming I can see why you sent the intro email and imagine he will be surprised as hell to read it...but if that is in fact part of her daily routine then I wouldnt want to feed his appetite by sending him a pic because a pic will probably just never be enough. Hopefully that it was a "chance" meeting. I never took into account that her taking the bus was part of her routine and he could be "studying" her, but I still got to give him a pat on the back so to speak for actually going up to her and asking because I'll be the first to admit that I would never dream of asking a random hottie on the street to take a picture of her feet..I mean how many people can honestly say that they would? Whether it be fear of rejection or just plain ol' being a pussy I dunno but you will never catch me asking a girl that.I have enough trouble as it is asking to play with my girls feet. I also agree that your girl has some talented toes! Posted by Macbrother (Member # 8907) on :
quote:Uhhh....yeah.
Stalking:
1 : to pursue quarry or prey stealthily.
No. The quick, 2 second definition you provided is meaningless in a legal context, and assumes out of hand that this person is a predator. For a person to stalk another person in this context is, and only is: * repeated following; * unwanted contact (by letter or other means of communication); * observing a person's actions closely for an extended period of time (i.e., not 15 minutes at a bus stop); or * contacting family members, friends, or associates of a target inappropriately * cyberstalking
So some chap checks out someone's feet for a while and then asks to go somewhere to take a picture. Big deal. Hardly worthy of the hoopla you're throwing over this. He could be a predator, could be just some nervous dude with little social skills who wants to see this girl's feet. Best thing to do as advised is to send him in email and try to feel him out, if you're comfortable with him and are into that sort of thing, send him some pics, if not, just ignore the encounter.
Posted by coedfeet (Member # 2738) on :
it's not stalking in a legal context, never said it was a legal case of stalking, why the hell are you stuck on that definition? He was stalking her with his camera, hoping to seperate her from the pack, to do who knows what. I'm astounded that people can be so naive as to his intentions, almost like a child that thinks all strangers are it's friends. Either that or there are some fellow stalkers on the board. Not the legal defination type Posted by Macbrother (Member # 8907) on :
It's a definition that fits two people and makes certain a person's actions are harmful and unwanted, that's all; unlike yours, which assumed automatically that she was his "prey." I don't pick up hitchikers, but that doesn't mean every single one of them has a knife ready to rob me. Of course no person should go with a random stranger to a secluded location -- and no one is advocating that, but just because he checked out her feet and asked to take some pictures at a less public area doesn't make him a stalker.
Posted by nose4toes (Member # 16640) on :
coed, in all fairness, I do see where you're coming from, and I respect your opinions. I don't see the need for there to be an argument about this any further.
Macbrother made some excellent points, and I tend to agree with them.
Back to the topic at hand; let's say "bus-stop-dude" were a stalker, just for the sake of argument. I am a huge, pretty scary looking dude, so I do not feel my lady, and particularly me, would have much to worry about. So perhaps that makes me a little more fearless, or arrogant ("naive" in cood's view, but again he's wrong) than I should be.
At any rate, the fellow emailed me back, and we did a fair bit of mail volleying throughout the day while I was at work. It turns he's an utter gentleman. I had to flat out insist he stop apologising. He was embarassed by his "outburst," as he put it, with my lady. Here are some snippets:
"First of all, please accept my apology for the big surprise to your lady. Was she upset?, I'm sorry but I meant absolutely no offence!"
"If you don't mind (only if you don't mind), I would like for you to share some pics of your fiance's feet, some toes, soles, and heels. I think I should fully respect you in this matter."
H went on to say that her found her feet unusually attractive, and was mesmerised by them. Been there, done that - I think we all have at some point or the other.
So, I am pleased to say that he's just a regular foot dude who is embarassed about his fetish, and who is having extreme difficulty broaching the subject with his lady, whose feet he isn't particularly fond of anyway. Poor guy.
I will continue to keep you posted, but I don't want to divulge too much of the guy's personal details in case he decides to join this forum; I figure I will reserve for him the right to tell his stories, should he choose to.
Best wishes, and I look forward to your comments (even yours coed) as always!
Posted by Dub (Member # 12547) on :
Send him a couple with your girls permission and see what his response is like and proceed to the next step?
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
nose4toes.. you're a standup guy... nice way of handling it!
if he's looking for pics.. hopefully he'll come here (or my site).
I'm just happy for him that he met a nice person to handle this. imagine if someone had gone off on him cussing him out in email.. the damage could be worse.
yeah.. i can play the devil's advocate.. but that isn't my job. cudos to you Nose4toes
RPM
Posted by nose4toes (Member # 16640) on :
Thanks for the kind words RPM!
I sent "bus-stop foot-guy" a few pictures, which started up another volley of emails. I think that was the true test of the fellow's personality; how he reacted to the photographs I sent.
The good news: he's still the same gent he was when he sent his first reply - still ultra polite and respectful. We seem to have a bunch of other stuff in common, so we'll probably head out for a pizza one of these days, and talk feet all evening!
My friends, and quite a few of my colleagues, know I like feet, but they don't really understand why, and can't relate. It'll be cool for both of us to have someone "local" to have a good chin-wag over feet. I'm glad we made this connection. If nothing else, maybe the guy won't feel quite so "weird" for liking feet anymore.
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
point in him the direction of the forum...meet a shitload of more people all over the world that shares his interest/love of feet. Congrats of meeting a fellow foot lover locally that you can chat up and hang out with. Glad it all worked out for you.
Posted by Sid11711 (Member # 16785) on :
Why aren't you alarmed by your woman’s plan to e-mail erotic photos of herself to an aggressively creepy stranger? After all, every e-mail does have a return address that can easily be traced to your home address and phone number. Those kinds of traces require cheap, readily available, and easy to use software now.
Posted by FTPHANTOM (Member # 47) on :
That's great to,get to have a fellow foot dude as a friend out side of cyberspace Posted by nose4toes (Member # 16640) on :
quote:Originally posted by FTPHANTOM: That's great to,get to have a fellow foot dude as a friend out side of cyberspace
It's definitely cool. Most of my friends and colleagues know I love feet, but they can't relate. It'll be fun to get together with someone who can!
quote:Originally posted by Sid11711: Why aren't you alarmed by your woman’s plan to e-mail erotic photos of herself to an aggressively creepy stranger?
Clearly, either you didn't read my post, or you found it challenging to understand.
I'll also point out here that you're making value judgements on two things you're not in a position to make.
quote:Originally posted by Sid11711: After all, every e-mail does have a return address that can easily be traced to your home address and phone number.
Does that include yahoo, hotmail, gmail, and even the servers I run, that are fully anonymous?
A quick update though on the friendship that is emerging between me, "bus-stop foot-guy" and our significant others: the four of us (bus-stop foot-guy, his lady, my lady and myself) are all going out for dinner on Friday evening.
One of our plans is for us to talk about feet a little bit. His lady sees it as "strange" that he loves feet, so our plan is to talk about it in a natural way, to try to remove the stigma from it as far as she is concerned. It'll also help him not feel quite so ashamed about his love of feet.
Life's good, if you can learn to enjoy it!
Posted by coedfeet (Member # 2738) on :
Just when I thought the thread couldn't get any creepier. Actually going out socially with the guy, one can't be that desperate?
Posted by nose4toes (Member # 16640) on :
coed,
That you take up a differing or opposing viewpoint matters not to me. But the manner in which you post is appauling.
The aggressiveness of your insults, and childlike namecalling / petty mud-slinging, are not only hilariously immature, but they're completely uncalled for in this scenario.
I would invite you to message me privately if you have any further namecalling or insults, so as not to pollute this board, or this thread, any further.
For everyone else, I look forward to your continued comments. The "going out for pizza" as two couples ought to be interesting! I will keep you posted.
Posted by coedfeet (Member # 2738) on :
Well dude, you actually started it with your smarmy sarcastic replies to my original post, so you can save the "oh I'm so mature and taking the high road attitude". You have already shown you don't like it if anyone hasn't agreed and patted you on the back. that's not the way forums operate, you post something and you will get differing opinions. Normally I let a lot of stuff go that I don't agree with, but I find this whole scenario so odd, that it had to be responded to.
As for the guy and the situation, I am not only speaking for myself, but for society in general I believe. I have actually posed this scenario to several females. I do this to lots of subjects discussed on fetish boards, as I find foot guys opinions to be very biased, and sometimes out of touch with what women think.
I had my own woman put herself in place of yours, and asked her reactions. Not only to the camera guy, but what would she think if i then tried to pursue a friendship with camera guy. Her desription for the guy was also "creepy", and she would be very uncomfortable if i emailed him, let alone actually wanting to see him socially as a couple.
A few of models have stated the same thing. i have yet to ask a couple, a model and her guy, but I would bet they all would not have a favorable opinion of the guy or pursuing a social relationship.
I also am disagreeing with the assumption that if one is a foot guy, he couldn't possibly have any ill intentions in the original scenario, and must automatically be a great guy. I have certainly seen the opposite, but don't assume either way. I don't get this thinking that all foot guys are as one and the desire of some people to befriend every single one of them.
Basically that is why i have responded as such before, because I believe this is just not how the vast majority of society would think and handle it. people are just not going to befriend people off the street just because they share a similar interest. especially if the first contact was uncomfortable. That's it....
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
While I respect both viewpoints of nose4toes and coed, I will say that, yeah, it is a unique situation and the circumstances of meeting bus-stop foot guy were quite different. However, I can't agree with coed's original assessment that what this guy was doing was "stalking". Stalking requires, as someone pointed out before, repearted harassment and this was a one time only and isolated incident. Yeah, it was weird for bus-stop foot guy to ask nose's wife to go somewhere else to take pics of her feet. However, he hasn't come off as creepy from what nose's interaction via email has been. Most of us here can relate to the fact that we have different degrees of how comfortable we are with our fetish and some are more open about it than others. It could be a case where bus-stop foot guy just isn't as comfortable as some other guys out there with it and, as a result of not being entirely comfortable, and probably over zealous in the moment, asked an unreasonable question to nose's wife. That doesn't make him weird or a stalker.
Nose has proceeded with caution by first emailing bus-stop foot guy himself and checking him out to make sure that he's not on the lunatic fringe with his fetish. If bus-stop foot guy was really "out there", I think nose emailing him in the first place would've made the guy "run in the other direction" so to speak and no other correspondence would've been made back to nose. Ultimately, it's nose's decision as to what he's going to do and how he's going to proceed. If he wants to get together and have dinner with bus-stop foot guy, bus-stop foot guy's wife, nose and nose's wife, then that's his perogative. To sit there and say that the situation keeps getting "creepier" because nose followed up with the guy and calling nose "desperate" just because he's willing to meet him in a social setting is really uncalled for, in my opinion, and it's not very constructive. I can agree on coed's stance that this is quite a unique scenario and that caution should be taken. However, the spirit in which coed made his point via the dialogue used was not constructive. Plus, there are quite a few variables within the situation because of the people involved. It could be that nose and his wife are more open minded than others would be in the same situation. If that's the case, then great. I hope that some sort of friendship can develop between bus-stop foot guy, bus-stop's wife, nose and his wife. People can meet under strange and unusual circumstances and from that can develop a friendship. While this situation was definitely unusual, I applaud nose for following up with this guy and befriending him. However, I will say that he should still definitely be cautious because he doesn't know these people all that well yet and they are still strangers.
Posted by UK_luckyguy (Member # 15149) on :
If your wife wasn't creeped out by the guy then I guess it's no harm done... I wouldn't be too easy feeling that he knows where she catches the bus though - I shared pics of my g/f's feet on the pictures board a while back safe in the knowledge it was nice and anonymous.
Just my "2 cents" - but I am a very paranoid person lol. You seem very level headed and so does your wife, so I dare say you'll be able to judge this guy ok.
Kind of a big coincidence though!! Maybe a woman who knows what feet can do with a man really does know how to show em off.
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I'm a supreme 'tard this morning ... I hit reply instead of edit. Please ignore this "reply." ![[Wink]](wink.gif)
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The "going out for pizza" as two couples ought to be interesting! I will keep you posted.