No longer am I worried about a girl accepting my fetish, but what concerns me is what if her ex was into feet as well and she would be against such acts as they would remind her of the ex. Anyone else have this worry or has it even been a reality? If this issue arises how would I deflate it?
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
Interesting thoughts. I guess it would depend on what she now thinks of him. Did they part on good, or bad terms? Also, did she love the attentions he gave to her feet, or was she turned off by it?
Posted by scarlet (Member # 2117) on :
Is my reality.
Doesn't make her think of the ex at all.
Posted by ozkar (Member # 13264) on :
That would be analogous to losing your taste for sex because you did it with an ex.
While unlikely, if the situation did arise, consider it a warning sign that you are dealing with a really obtuse personality...head for the hills. Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
Don't over analyze it too much. You just said, "If her ex...." "If" is not an absolute or definite condition. You are worried about someone who is not around and putting too much mental energy into her ex guy. Don't make him apart of your tango, its all about you two (or should be). You are letting him get the upper hand in your mind and he probably doesn't know how much he is a factor in your concern of intimacy. If he did, he probably would beam with devilish joy. If she is worth your time investment, assess the situation, tactfully speak your point and adjust to the new bonding variable in the (two of you) equation. Don't let her past steal your current joy with her. Remember everyone has a past history of some sort.
[ November 30, 2006, 11:57 PM: Message edited by: Footman9 ]
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by ozkar: That would be analogous to losing your taste for sex because you did it with an ex.
That was my exact reaction too.
I think the only true danger is if you do something exactly the way the ex did. The chances of that are incredibly slim, and even if that is the case you just change the way you do that one thing, at least temporarily.
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
I agree with those who said that a girl not liking footplay because her ex did it would be her not liking sex because her ex did it too.
Although we may have similar drives, how we go about expressing those drives varies from one person to the next. It also revolves around the way two people feel about each other. I would think that a woman would have more emotional attachment to the guy she's going out with than her ex-bf. Because there's more emotional feelings at stake, the way you connect with her physically isn't going to be the same if you compare it to her ex. Since she now has feelings for you, how she responds to you should definitely be more enhanced than the way she would respond to someone who is no longer in her life. This includes everything from the way she feels a guy's touch, to the way she feels his kiss, etc..
If this is not the case with a woman and she feels the same way about you as her ex, then don't just walk..... RUN away! She's either still messing around with her ex or she has some really deep-rooted issues.
Posted by SOOTS (Member # 18350) on :
IM NEW TO THIS SITE SO PLEASE EXCUSE ANY IGNORANCE ON MY PART I MANAGED TO GET TO THE GRAND OLD AGE OF 47 BEFORE I REALISED I AM TOTALLY BESOTTED WITH WOMENS FEET PLEASE DONT VIEW ME AS A DIRTY OLD MAN BECAUSE IM NOT IHAVE BEEN HAPPILY MARRIED FOR TWENTY FOUR YEARS AND I HAVE A DAUGHTER OF 22 AND A SON OF 18 CAN YOU OFFER ANY ADVICE TO TELL MY WIFE HOW I FEEL
Posted by imasoleman (Member # 5044) on :
my wife HATES her ex boyfriend, so I try to not act like him as much as I can (like a dumbass). I was massaging her feet for the first time, and I asked if she's ever been with someone with a foot fetish before, she says she hasn't, which is good for the both of us. I hardly did anything with my ex's feet (she said I did footplay "to much"). She emailed me and said it creeped her out, and she couldn't get with another person with a foot fetish. Boy did I chew that bit** out.
Posted by AFfootdude05 (Member # 2999) on :
Welcome aboard Soots. Here's my "FootFetish101" for ya - just give your wife frequent foot massages and don't forget to offer compliments when she either paints her nails or get pedicures. The little things can lead to the big things! When it feels right incorporate a tad bit of licking (maybe a heckuva lot!) into the massage. I'd say from there, just take it at your own pace and have fun!
Posted by niche25 (Member # 18317) on :
Did her ex like sex? Hopefully that doesn't remind her, or maybe going to the movies? Don't spend to much time stressing over your fetish, I did and it took far to long before I gained the courage to ask.
Posted by DaBootman (Member # 1280) on :
quote:Originally posted by scarlet: Is my reality.
Doesn't make her think of the ex at all.
wow, that kinda had to be nice, a girl who knew all about it already... Not so much work involved in that one
was there alot of differences in how she had done things with the guy before that you had to change about foot play or anything?
somebody already experienced in the foot fetish world, AND accepting of it. WOW. Posted by SOOTS (Member # 18350) on :
affootdude05 thanks 4 the advice
Posted by herb 4 (Member # 6786) on :
It's happened to me. One woman I dated has had THREE boyfriends with foot fetishes (counting myself). She could never figure out why she seemed to be attracting them (I could)...
Whatever. The guy she left me for wound up having the same problem because I was the first guy she ever gave a footjob to and I guess he wanted to to be The First or whatever.
Sucks for him, I guess...My wife dated a guy who had a foot fetish, but it was more about shoes the way she describes it...
You should probably consider yourself lucky since at least you don't have to introduce her to the idea or "break her in' so to speak....
Posted by Lissa (Member # 995) on :
You know, I just don't think this should be a problem. I agree with the guy who said "that's like thinking she'll never like sex with you becasue she had it with her ex", I mean really life does go on and you're probably going to be a lot more interesting and exciting to her anyway becasue your the "new guy".
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