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Posted by FarmerFred (Member # 20345) on :

Just wondering how many people here are actually open about their fetish?

If you are married or have a girlfriend, does she know about it?
Do your friends know about it?
Does anyone know about it? Have you kept it a secret or do you not mind people knowing?

I only ask because I have to admit I am rather embarrassed about my foot fetish and have never told anyone and don't dare let my mates know!

It's only via the anonymity of the internet that I ever discuss it, and that's only since I joined this forum a few weeks ago.

Posted by Pete-The-Feet-Lover (Member # 3260) on :

I'll just say that I'm as open about it as most guys are open about liking breasts and ass. That is to say, I consider my foot fetish so perfectly normal that I don't care who knows. And in my own experience, anybody whose found out about my fetish has also treated it as normal.

Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :

My girlfriend knows(obvisouly)indulges me to the fullest with it too,my friends know..although it was unplanned that they knew(fucking google search bar) but now taht they know its no big deal!

Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :

i've been super secretive about it until about 3 years ago. then.. i've started to open up, but selectively. today.. i'm not as open as last year... but still open. more folks know that i love feet than any other period of my life. i'm adjusting to it.

for the most part.. folks are cool. however.. a few are pains in the butt.. and i just move/shift away from their negative vibe. i keep it super tight secret from family.. though some suspect.. they really don't know.. and i hope to keep it that way!

my fiance knows and sometimes endulges me. some friends endugle me (photo wise and massage wise). for the most part.. I do keep a lid on it though.. only because it could affect my career in the long term.

if it comes up in conversation.. that is cool.. if it doesn't.. i don't sweat it. i don't rub it in anyone's face. i'm no longer embarassed (or as easily).. but at times.. i can get red-faced over it.

RPM

Posted by alonsogd7 (Member # 14196) on :

My friend a bible piece of advise.........people always going to talk trash about you no matter what, if it's your sexual orientation or your sexual tastes, or the color of your shirt, or what ever, i think in my opinion that you should be just cool with it, you don't have to say to everybody hey i'm a foot fetish guy, no man, if it's the case in a conversation with a girl or with someone you can say that you like womans feet like all guys say i love womans tits, or woman ass or pussy, it's the same freaking thing, the key it's just to be cool and you expresing about it as a normal thing, i like womans feet, don't say you have a foot fetish, that's like the "scientific term for our orientation" and most of the people will freak about that term, also you don't have to say it out loud to your mates, or family or girls, if the subject comes up, give your point of view.

in case you have a girlfriend man tell her open that you like womans feet, tell her, hey you have nice feet, you know someday you see her in flip flops or other open shoes, don't tell her oh what a pair of peds i want to cum all over them or smell them, jajajaja man takes time to be accepted by your girl or wife, in my case i have to say proud that she likes a lot when i kiss her feet, or smell them or more things that i do, but it has been a process of being honest about it, that's the key brother, that's my advise.

hope it works for you, or at least take it as an experience of a fellow brother of this comunity.

[ March 12, 2007, 08:57 PM: Message edited by: alonsogd7 ]

Posted by Pete-The-Feet-Lover (Member # 3260) on :

Most excellent advice alonsogd7.

Posted by mattu2 (Member # 9895) on :

Most of my friends know, and I told my girlfriend at the end of last summer.

Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :

i haven't really told too many people about my fetish, just a few friends and only because i knew they wouldn't say anything. i don't know if it's so much that i'm embarrassed or i just am not sure how people would react. there's a few women at work i would like to tell, just to see if anything might come of it, but as of yet i haven't.

Posted by babeflover (Member # 2953) on :

only my wife for sixteen years knows, i would not and will not tell anyone else. i like to keep it private, just between my wife and i. I told her about my fetish soon after we stated going out.

To those who have kept it from your wives/girlfriends, do it, tell them, your might be missing too much, feet that is.

Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :

quote:
Originally posted by FarmerFred:
If you are married or have a girlfriend, does she know about it?

Though we were married for many years before I told her, my wife's been amazing receptive to it. One of the best things I ever did. You should never keep that kind of secret from your wife.

quote:
Do your friends know about it?

Though I have friends i spend some time with each week- we're not really close friends that are frequently doing things together. I spend the time with my wife. Consequently we really don't discuss each other's private lives. Were someone to breach the subject however I would not be afraid to share my views and likes because there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

quote:
Does anyone know about it? Have you kept it a secret or do you not mind people knowing?

I have kept it a secret but would not mind people knowing. No one else in my family (or friends as mentioned above) know about it. I'd handle any inquisition about it by a family member like I would with my friends, as detailed above.

Posted by imasoleman (Member # 5044) on :

I'm quite about my fetish, I told my wife before we started dating, and she was very open to it. We now engage in foot play almost every night. She did tell her best friend though, her friend didn't seem to mind.

Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :

quote:
Originally posted by FarmerFred:
Just wondering how many people here are actually open about their fetish?

If you are married or have a girlfriend, does she know about it?
Do your friends know about it?
Does anyone know about it? Have you kept it a secret or do you not mind people knowing?

I only ask because I have to admit I am rather embarrassed about my foot fetish and have never told anyone and don't dare let my mates know!

It's only via the anonymity of the internet that I ever discuss it, and that's only since I joined this forum a few weeks ago.

search my topics, i talked about this sometime ago [Cry]

Posted by russ (Member # 10866) on :

all my girlfriends or girls ive hooked up with have known...honestly i dont see how some of u guys keep it from your girlfriends or wives especially, or why you would keep it from them. as for my friends..they know..i never really hid it from them but didnt make it a big deal either. they definitely know after this time we were at a party, a girl asked me to suck her toes and not privately. Its worth it to not keep it a secret, cuz i've had girl friends ask me for foot massages..show me their feet, etc...
maybe its cuz im a younger generation (only 20) that i feel this way, but i think girls from my generation are more open than they used to be.

Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :

russ... you said it right.. your generation is more open to feet than any other!!!

i've got friends in their 20's.. 30's and 40's. what i've learned.... 20's is most open to it.. even in casual settings. 30's it's more individual... and has to be a more intimate trust situation.. 40's.. women are more confident in themselves... and they appreciate the touch more... but also get it far less. if they trust you and have no hangup about it and are single.. you may be able to touch.

gals in their 20's.. i don't have to be that close to them.. as long as they don't think i'm a creep.. i can almost do anything to their feet (never tried more than a massage and pic though)

RPM

p.s back on topic.. i live in a religiously conservative arena... any sort of fetish.. man.. spells major headaches in all walks of life!!!

Posted by FootLongSub Zero (Member # 19380) on :

I'm open about mine. My mrs knows and is aware and all my mates do too.

With your mates just bring it up over your next drinkin' session or night out wit the boys. Tell them straight up, They'll probably look at you with a weird look and laugh and probably tease you all night about it. But in the mornin' you'll feel much better that it's out in the open as from experience. Later like a few weeks later a mate came out of his foot-closet too but it was funny, he thanked me for bringin' mine up.

With the mrs is a lil' tougher. I let her in slowly. While were fucking in the missionary position I would lick her feet and suck her toes payin' more attention to em'. Then while she's watchin' tv or on the computer. I would just play with em' and touch em' but only lil' by lil' gettin' more touchy touchy. Then I massaged her feet and started to kiss em'. More and more til she got the hint. Now I'm full on unloadin juice on her feet whenever I want....

Just lettin' you know 1 of my experiences. Hope this helps [Smile]

Posted by Bman (Member # 2267) on :

I dont think that I have ever admitted to having a foot fetish. I have kissed women on the head, on the ears, legs, backs, hands, and espessialy nyloned soles and toes.If they asked if I had a foot fetish I usually say (nothing sexual) Its just that your feet are so cute and femenine. However i've never asked for or had a foot job. Its not my thing But my Wife knows and at times enjoyes the foot worship.

Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :

Open my ass to be honest(well, maybe in my neck of the woods) but it doesn't help to have a foot fetish and be socially inept:(

Posted by mr pedro (Member # 21386) on :

im not open about it either but before me n my ex split up i got her 2 rub my cock with her feet.

i am quite embarressed about it i guess. but with me its weird sometimes im in a mood where if someone puts their feet anywhere near me i'll cringe but the next minute i want to kiss them

Posted by Rae124 (Member # 328) on :

No need to bring it up with your mates. Why risk being ridiculed when it's none of their business? Every girl I've been with I've sucked their toes from day one, fuck this hiding it crap. That only leaves you frustrated and going back to porn. To the dude with the Fiancee who only 'sometimes' indulges him, how do you really feel about it?

And I would never tell a girl 'I have a foot fetish'. That's lame and creepy. Just suck their toes when you're getting hot and heavy with them and ask her to rub your cock with her feet or just guide her feet down there, if she's got 2 brain cells or more she'll put 2 and 2 together pretty quickly!

Posted by conerz (Member # 12451) on :

Am I embarased? I'm a timid person but its who I am so no, I'm not embarased per se. I'm def. private though, and I realize that most people think it's weird or creepy as a gut reaction. So no I don't tell people, in fact my fiancee is the only person I've ever flat out told. Except for minor things like saying a girl's gotta have cute feet when discussing shit with guy friends or telling an ex her feet looked really pretty after she got a pedicure, Ive never brought it up. I trust my girl not to tell anyone, but we have a lot of mutual friends and a lot of hers are guys anyway, so it prolly would never come up.

Posted by justHosiery (Member # 18870) on :

Solid advice/insight Rae, no need for your friends to know, and most girls like it and like making their guy hot especially when it's part of their body (no toys needed).

Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :

Rae,

great question. here is my answer.. I do prefer my lady endulge me more than she does. however.. over time, she's done more endulging than in the past.

early in the relationship.. it was very frustrating and at times very aggrevating. I used to get upset and have to hide it from her. i was torn.. i felt i shouldn't want her feet so much to consider leaving her because she wasn't as involved into it as I was.

She's the most amazing woman I met. so, i leaned heavily on the fact that i don't feel i have a fetish.. but a very acute interest. that warmed her up.. she said she rather live with an acute interest than a fetish.

as of today.. if i request it.. she won't say no.. unless she's having a horrible day. I can nibble.. touch.. massage nearly as often as I please. however.. on days she feels she sweats too much (warm days when she works).. she is resistive.. i can insist and she'll go for it.. but her body language suggests she'd rather i not... so i don't.

she's verbalized the desire to let me have more of her feet when we're married. she just started painting her toes the color I love.. she's more attentive to the care she gives her feet so they feel as soft as I like.. and are as smooth as I like.

so.. now.. i'm not frustrated... and i dont' get upset that i've not had enough feet. i'm still a bit 'wary' that when married she won't continue to open up. but i have to cross that bridge when i get there.

what helps me the most.. i've got other 'related interst/fetish'.. so i can mix it up and feel satisifed without her feeling like i'm only focused on one thing. that is why i keep calling it an acute interest. i love her bare feet rubbing on me.. i thoroughly enjoy her hosed feet.. i am floored by her in heels... and i love massaging her feet. (plus love her in a short skirt too).

so.. with that mix.. i don't feel like i'm always on the short end of the stick. and she doesnt' feel preasured. to me.. that was the key to getting her to open up.

with this long winded answer.. i hope it enlightens. i will say this.. if i had a fetish.. i would be much harder pressed and much more annoyed with her. if i had to do it over again.. i'd be more 'aggressive' to get her feet in the manner you suggested Rae. I was too 'nice' about it... and didn't just "get" her feet while making out.

so.. from my experience.. if anyone has a girlfriend who isn't totally against feet.. just go for it.. make it as natural as anything esle you do.. saves you much headach and talk. and nowadays.. i just go for her feet. unless she pulls back (she has a way that means she's not game)... or asks me not to.... then.. i get her feet.

the wish of her just initiating... i think is where i've got to draw the line of understanding. she won't really initiate footplay.. but.. she will at times request a foot massage... and that is her way of getting relief from heels.. or letting me know i've 'neglected' her feet.

the future looks good.. so this long post will come to an end.

RPM

p.s. but.. trust me... it's much easier when the gal is already open to you touching her feet. my fiance comes from a cultural background where feet and any sweaty part of you is to be hiden from your man at all cost! believe me.. i've dated gals from similar background. it's drilled in. i got lucky, mines is adjusting slowly. but if i ever have to do it again (hopefully never)... it's best to have one who is already open to it!

Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :

it feels very liberating to open up to your partner but i am still embaressed to tell my friends! even though i know they would accept it as thats what friends are for. its nothing to be ashamed of but i guess broadcasting it would be asking fro shit from a few narrow minded people!..

i also think there is something quite exciting about keeping it secret!

Posted by natalya_night (Member # 21652) on :

I DO NOT have a foot fetish but I must say I really wish that that having a foot fetish was like buying a box of trash bags you know like no one looks at you funny. I know you guys are looking at the screen like how do you know BUT as a Foot Model I get ridiculed as well a couple people that matter in my life thinks that I am breaking the 11th commandment. I would like to say I don't care but I do...a little. I guess being myself overpowers my concern because I don't hide a thing. I don't always tell what goes on behind closed doors but I wouldn't do that no matter what it was.

Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :

good to hear a woman's perspective on it. i know one of my friends who has modelled for me.. got teased once because her friends found some of her pics on her digital cam (destined to be emailed to me). she said it was hurtful the things said to her.. and she tried hard to write it off as if she was comparing nail designs next to each other.

shame really. but.. it's not just the guys who struggle with it sometimes... and what of the S/O who live with a guy into feet.. i'm sure they have some heat to take if it slips out of their mouths in conversation.

RPM

Posted by Cain (Member # 8492) on :

I don't openly tell people about my fetish but i am not embarassed about it either. One day i believe certain aspects of it will be accepted more. My wife knows of my fetish she accepts it even though she finds it weird. And about 3-4 of my friends know and share the same fetish. My closest friend is just as foot happy as i am.

Posted by aron (Member # 13913) on :

i dont understand why people think its gross. Its part of a woman. Since guys like women, why wouldnt you like a hot pair of feet on her?

Posted by Knows2Tows (Member # 20589) on :

Your fortunate russ, that in your generation the girls accept a footlover. It seems to be coming out in the open more now-a-days. Like in movies, commercials even. I'm not embarrased of my insatiable love for feet. Subtle Maybe. i.e. Standing in line at the cafeteria waiting for my order to be taken, a very attractive lady with sandles and red painted pedicured toes was next to me. When asked what I wanted I told him French Toes and looked to see what her reaction would be. She smiled and blushed. [Wink]

Posted by Winged_Travesty (Member # 22080) on :

There's a couple of people I've told about it, and they dont think it's a big deal. Everyone's got their 'buzz' factor, mine just happens to be feet.

Having said that, it's not the sort of thing that you talk about in casual conversation. It's private stuff.

Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :

I think i've gotten more embarrassed about it since i've been in college then before.

Posted by cliveman (Member # 19258) on :

My little brother knows (he was pressuring me about some other similar topic, so I told him that to shut him up) and my mate from work does (I told him because he was all depressed about his sex life, so I figured it might cheer him up...It made sense at the time!)

I didn't tell my girlfriend from work because, hell, she'll just tell everyone else, and its like a playground where I work. Its not about how friendly/intelligent/funny you are, its about who got off with who last night and who got the most drunk sorta thing. So they'd have a field day if they found out about that [Violent]

Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :

quote:
Originally posted by cliveman:
My little brother knows (he was pressuring me about some other similar topic, so I told him that to shut him up) and my mate from work does (I told him because he was all depressed about his sex life, so I figured it might cheer him up...It made sense at the time!)

I didn't tell my girlfriend from work because, hell, she'll just tell everyone else, and its like a playground where I work. Its not about how friendly/intelligent/funny you are, its about who got off with who last night and who got the most drunk sorta thing. So they'd have a field day if they found out about that

i feel ya there [Cry]

Posted by Web Cruiser (Member # 1019) on :

I think, let it out when you feel you can, you then don't react badly if someone else starts to joke about it. To be fair, only has happened once, and i didn't react to it at all, and so they stopped. I think ended up 'winning' by saying "wasn't it you who like shemales?"

On a serious note, if you think it will be an issue, it will be. The more relaxed you are about it, and the less of a big deal YOU make it, the less of a deal it is to anyone else. My mates female and male just point out hot ass feet now, so all is good.

Web

Posted by Rae124 (Member # 328) on :

Time and a place. But no, I wouldn't say I'm open in real life about it to just anybody. It's on a need to know basis for me.

Posted by Shaddix (Member # 11176) on :

everyone I know know's that I have a foot fetish. Plus,the more chicks that know you have a foot fetish,the more of a chance one of them might stick thier foot in your face..ya dig?

Posted by clean_feet_only (Member # 22306) on :

only the wife knows I'm into her feet. I waited 5 years to tell her but her first footjob was amazing!