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Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
 
sorry for taking up valuable time and space on the board, but i just feel fucking ashamed with my foot fetish. it's not easy having it and being, oh how should i say it, socially inept. i don't know, i just feel fucking cursed or something. anyone who looks at this is open to say anything they want.
 

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Posted by thosetoes (Member # 2489) on :
 
FUCK'EM. I get my nut. And chicks will never forget me for kissing thier feet. Anytime my ex's talk to me, they tell me they think of me when they get thier toes done.
 

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Posted by ozkar (Member # 13264) on :
 
dude, relax. you have nothing to be ashamed of. it's luck of the draw what turns you on first about a woman. my guess is you haven't had a lot of sex yet. when you do you'll start finding that you like doing all kinds of seemingly crazy shit. then you'll feel like even more of a freak until you start talking to more people and realize that everyone's doing the same stuff... hence it's not really weird.

i remember you from before. I don't think you are socially inept. i think you probably just come on too strong... like your social comfort levels are higher then most people so when you come at them they're not ready. take your time and figure out how to gauge how fast people are able to move.
 

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Posted by FootLongSub Zero (Member # 19380) on :
 
Hey hey hey..... Your makin' it sound like a disability. It aint'. Like I've said in other posts "I think we are really fucking lucky to have a foot-fetish to view feet everywhere openly. To me it's like a Tit guy around in a world with exopsed titties..... C'mon man, I feel I'm blessed with this foot-fetish, not cursed.... There's a whole heap of us here so your not alone....


Stand strong fellow foot-brother, "FOOT GUYS RULE"!!!!
 

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Posted by Gigi (Member # 1552) on :
 
well i think you are not cursed but lucky to have a foot fetish.

i look at it this way. a guy who has a foot fetish looks at a woman beyond the obvious tits and ass and is attracted to a part of a woman that many do not equate with sexuality. But yet there is a whole group of guys who are into feet sexually, its not weird. i enjoy it, i can tell a foot guy when i catch him staring at my feet in public, they are usually embarrassd and i just smile at him and he smiles back. thats you.....and there is nothign wrong with it. I love it that a guy would adore my feet instead of the other obvious bodily features i have.
 

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Posted by Maxmillion (Member # 15651) on :
 
Im sad that Gigi doesnt have stinky feet
 

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Posted by Salvy_Mic (Member # 13384) on :
 
I know it's hard to feel such discomfort in your own skin, but the sooner you come to grips with your fetish, the better you'll feel. If being ashamed and trying to hide the fact that you like feet is making you feel so bad, then maybe you ought to go a different direction and embrace it.
 

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Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
 
yeah.. Salvy_Mic is right.

I've been down the road of feeling socialy inept and being ashamed that I like feet.

here's what i've learned.... i've learned this insane quilt from my mom. she was always tying a noose around my neck socially (figuratively speaking). she hates the fact i'm a talker and wants me to be more conservative in life. i'm not that conservative. this is not me.. it's my mom!!! didn't help my dad agrees with her!

the foot thing.. trust me.. you're not alone.. and i know all to well how one can feel weird about it. my co-workers to make me feel comfy.. have not stopped talking about feet for the past 3 weeks.. and always pushing the envelope. i felt weird to the max. but then.. i let it drop.. embraced it.. and now.. i'm even more accepted by the crew I work with! (thankfully it's not all the shifts that way.. since i float between shifts.. and it's only the coolest shifts that embraced it)

bottom line.... give yourself a break.. don't measrue up to someone else's standards. find your own... and as long as they're not illegal or morally bankrupt (you're the judge of that by the way).. then you're cool.

sadly.. not everywhere is cool with the subject of feet.. that is just human nature and geography. but......when you find the place that is more cool.. you'll feel so at home and wonder why you felt weird to begin with.

you're a bright fella.. you aren't just focused exclusively on feet... use your other assets to get cool with the gals.. then... they'll be more enclined to accept and even endulge you a bit.

trust me I know.. now that i'm cool with my interest.. i've got feet offers left and right... but being i'm in a serious relationship.. i don't take full advantage.. i just smile.. because i know.. i'm cool... and the gals know it!!!!!


only wish i came to this realisation earlier.. but.. i wont' cry over spilled milk.. just move on... and enjoy the view!!!

RPM

p..s i've got tons of pics on the hard drive taken by me to prove.. when you're cool.... you can get all the feet you want!!!!!! but you have to be cool so others see it as cool.. when you're ashamed... they'll respond to that and treat you as if your taste is dirty! trust me.. i've heard it from women.. who will let me play with their feet, but not their S/O.. because i'm cool with it.. and the S/O isn't.
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
i feel like that sometimes. im only a young man of 20 but i decided that i must accept i love feet and i go with it. its the best advise i can give!

i have opened up to my girlfriend about it and even she accepts it more that i can, even if at times she is not willing to fullfill my fantasys!

we are all born what we are and we cannot choose what turns us on. Just think some people embrace all kinds of strange sexual practises! but we should not be kept back by what we are told should be the "social norm".
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
i feel like that sometimes. im only a young man of 20 but i decided that i must accept i love feet and i go with it. its the best advise i can give!

i have opened up to my girlfriend about it and even she accepts it more that i can, even if at times she is not willing to fullfill my fantasys!

we are all born what we are and we cannot choose what turns us on. Just think some people embrace all kinds of strange sexual practises! but we should not be kept back by what we are told should be the "social norm".
 

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Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
 
damn, i didn't know i'd get a respones like this. and lamp: DOUBLE POST!!!
 

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Posted by AFfootdude05 (Member # 2999) on :
 
To get a more refreshed feel, take the "sex" out of it for starters, and just try to comprehend the truth that when you ask a guy the first thing he notices on a woman; the answers will vary from the ass, to legs, to eyes, back, hair, feet etc. When you look at it from this perspective, it may help to realize that putting great emphasis on one body part isn't so weird after all...

~AF05~


*When society put forth a group of body parts that are sexy about a female....it left one out....feet
 

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Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
 
i just feel bad because i'm not the greatest socially. i mean, i've got friends on my soccer team. but i'm supposed to get on with those guys. and me and girls is just getting worse and worse and worse.
 

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Posted by Foot Lover Of London (Member # 2420) on :
 
Dude...Just keep plugging away...Rome wasnt built in a day...I used to think it was weird to like feet...And not the general (tits n arse)...All i can say is be open about it...And good will come, ooh and the feet too lol
 

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Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
 
give yourself a break... you can do it.. just easy. it's hardest when you think about it. and this girl thing.. .if it's not working... move on.. there are way more fishes in the pond! some take time to get up to speed. trust me. i know.. i wasn't always smooth with the ladies.. i even falter to this day.. but i'm making it work!!!!

RPM
 

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Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
 

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Originally posted by RPM:
give yourself a break... you can do it.. just easy. it's hardest when you think about it. and this girl thing.. .if it's not working... move on.. there are way more fishes in the pond! some take time to get up to speed. trust me. i know.. i wasn't always smooth with the ladies.. i even falter to this day.. but i'm making it work!!!!

RPM

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Originally posted by RPM:
again... don't be so hard on yourself. the biggest lesson i've learned early..i apologized way too much and was way to clumbsy about the whole thing.

so.. when i stopped being so sorry... and started to think before I acted (not your problem)... i got smooth.

let's just say.. now... i'm cool enough that if i wasn't "shy" i'd be able to land any gal I wanted. by shy.. i mean... respectful of my lady. i don't test my suave... because i'm happy with my lady.

but.. it wasn't over-night... i was a late bloomer so to speak.. but man.. glad i took the time.. even married women say i've got the goods to take them off their husband's hands (not just because i'm nice or give killer massages.. mainly because i listen)

so... if you're not sure what to do.. listen.. women drop clues to themselves all the time, even when they're trying not to.

so.. think before you meet the gal.. but when you're with her... just chill.. listen to what she says and what she says (body language).. then... respond to it. go with the flow.. don't do like me and over analyze.. just relax.

and lastly... it's not a race... it's a long long long marathon. pace yourself. you'll be surprised as to how well things go!

RPM

p.s. by the way... it's cool to rant and vent here.. that is what we're herre for. so... rant away

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thanks, i guess.
 

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Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
 
please permit me to 'bust your chops' a little. and this is done strictly in kindness.


you said...... "thanks, i guess.".... try simply... Thanks

why am I busting your chops.. your language says a lot about who you are.. the way you phrased it... sounds to me like a situation of low-self-esteem... poor confidence.. lots of frustration.. self-pity... hopelessnes.

even if those assumptions were to be true.. a woman needs not know this. sometimes you got to fake it to make it!

when i'm after a woman's feet... i put on the most confidence act I can muster (although lately.. it's less an act).. then I go for it.

i got a woman's feet once in my lap and hands.. after about 7 minutes of conversation. all because I was cool about it.

Sure.. she's the type that enjoys a massage.. and she's more free spirited.. but she also pointed out to me.. many guys have tried and she read the perversion right through. but in my case.. i was so sure i'd get her feet without being cocky and that i was sure she'd enjoy it.. she let me go for it. later, she confessed.. i was so good (partly because she anticipated it to be so).. that if i wasn't taken.. i'd have to be available to massage her feet on a regular basis. Trust me.. this gal has some seriously hot sexy feet!! everything I love in feet!!!!!

so.. long story short.... as you continue to be you, be a bit more confident in your wording.. because.. it doesn't always paint the best pic of you. i know you're not the assumptions i've painted.. but the phrasing suggests it.

now.. i'm going to stop busting your chop. you've got enough from me. i'll step off the soap box

RPM
 

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Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
 

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Originally posted by pedactor:
as an attempt to find the root of the problem, lemme ask you this...


how does a typical interaction / conversation that you have with a girl tend to go/flow??... in some ways you tend to remind me of myself

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Originally posted by pedactor:
There has to be girls on campus that think your attractive based on looks alone (hopefully) so i mean if thats the case, then i only say that to spark a flame of hope that you will have your share of chances. I know that your problem is being " socially inept" but im just trying to make a pt.

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i wish i could say there are, but i can't.
 

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Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
 
i just say live with it man and don't be ashamed. the more ashamed u are, the more creepy you'll come off.

and besides, you'll probably get some real big hard boners when you think about some hot girls' feet and then you can join the ranks of the rest of us respectable people who beat off to feet on the internet

"nothing to be ashamed of here people, move on move on"
 

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Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
 

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Originally posted by Tyler D.:
i just say live with it man and don't be ashamed. the more ashamed u are, the more creepy you'll come off.

and besides, you'll probably get some real big hard boners when you think about some hot girls' feet and then you can join the ranks of the rest of us respectable people who beat off to feet on the internet

"nothing to be ashamed of here people, move on move on"

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ehh...
 

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Posted by Salvy_Mic (Member # 13384) on :
 
*laughs*
Don't worry black, that's just Tyler's offbeat sense of humor working there, he means good by what he says.
 

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Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
 
i know, he just caught me by surprise with it.
 

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Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
 

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Originally posted by Salvy_Mic:
Well, how is it your fault, if you don't mind me asking blackHxC88? It may not be your fault to begin with. The whole girl thing takes time. I'm not that great with the ladies myself, but I don't sweat it. I'm young too, and I've got a lot of sand left in my hourglass, so to speak. How old are you, I get the impression you're pretty young and new to this whole thing. Everybody makes mistakes at the whole guy/girl game that we all play; what matters is whether or not you learn from them.

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Originally posted by DeepBlue:


And don't be afraid to seek out counselling. ITs not a sign of weakness. What matter what steps you take to acclimatise with your sexuality. At the end of the day, you'll be fine.

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Originally posted by Salvy_Mic:
Well, how is it your fault, if you don't mind me asking blackHxC88? It may not be your fault to begin with. The whole girl thing takes time. I'm not that great with the ladies myself, but I don't sweat it. I'm young too, and I've got a lot of sand left in my hourglass, so to speak. How old are you, I get the impression you're pretty young and new to this whole thing. Everybody makes mistakes at the whole guy/girl game that we all play; what matters is whether or not you learn from them.

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just can't learn from my mistakes. either that or i just ooze creepiness or something. like i fear that i'm on the road to being that one dude on "to catch a predator"(there was a topic on here somewhere, but i think some of you know what i mean)

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Originally posted by Salvy_Mic:
Well, how is it your fault, if you don't mind me asking blackHxC88? It may not be your fault to begin with. The whole girl thing takes time. I'm not that great with the ladies myself, but I don't sweat it. I'm young too, and I've got a lot of sand left in my hourglass, so to speak. How old are you, I get the impression you're pretty young and new to this whole thing. Everybody makes mistakes at the whole guy/girl game that we all play; what matters is whether or not you learn from them.

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just can't learn from my mistakes. either that or i just ooze creepiness or something. like i fear that i'm on the road to being that one dude on "to catch a predator"(there was a topic on here somewhere, but i think some of you know what i mean)

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Well, if you keep with that sort of attitude, you're never gonna be able to change. You're already defeating yourself when you say things like that, even if it's a sort of mild joke. The more you put yourself down, the deeper and steeper a hole you're digging and it'll get so deep that you can't dig yourself back out. Think positive! That, above all else will help you out. Think. There has to be things that you like about yourself, positive things that you can focus on and work from there. It seems to me that you're too caught up in what you perceive as flaws and let that dominate your whole mode of thinking. Forget about the flaws, put them aside for a bit and think to yourself "What's good about me?" Are things you know? Are you polite? Do you carry yourself in a dignified manner? Do you have a sense of humor? Are you compassionate? Things like that.

I hate to see you put yourself down like that, because you're the only one doing it. And honestly, if you can't thing of a single positive thing about yourself, than you probably need advice beyond what your buddies here at Wu's can give you. Positive, remember that!

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Originally posted by RPM:
hey buddy.. i've been away from the web a little... but i really hope you're taking to heart the great support you're getting here!

seriously.. i didn't have the easiest growing up experience either. got poked and proded and made fun of.. never once did i try to internalize it.

the part that was the toughest for me.. my folks.. in the love... tried so hard to be supportive it was hurtful. they would say hurtful things only meaning well.. but it hurt.

the year i took it to heart.. I lost everything i was working on professionally.. because i turned into my worse enemy. as soon as I stopped beating myself up.. i've been able to start digging out of the mess I made.

trust me.. beating yourself up is not worth it. I lost everything because of that.. trust me.. it's not worth it.

i won't preach like i usually do.. but Salvy Mic is extending you a great hand of support (along with everyone else). take it.. change your mindset for the better.. don't loose everything like i did. (lost housing.. career.. money... relationship... all in less than a year by beating myself up).

building it back is so much harder... but doable.. why make it tougher than it already is. just pick yourself up.. be your best friend.. pump yourself up.. go for the gold. be the person you want folks to like (not changing your character.. but be the best you there is)

now.. i'm enjoying a great life.. and i'm still building back what i lost.. but better yet.. i'm a better more genuine person with a whole lot more going and to live for!!!

hope this helps

RPM

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Originally posted by Chuckles:
I've often been worried about other people, especially young girls, knowing about my foot fetish. I've dealt with it for most all of my life, but I've gotten fairly comfortable about it. Unfortuantely I can be rather shy at times, though you wouldn't know it to talk to me, and have only told a select few girls about my "fetish" (I'm not sure if I'm really obsessed about female feet... am I?) Either way, I've accepted my lust for sexy female feet and it doesn't seem to control my life too much.

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