I went out to a bar for my b'day the other nite with some friends and one of them brought my friends x boyfriend who according to my friend had a foot fetish and would ask her for footjobs.so being I like to talk to others of our kind I tried breaking the ice with him that we should all go to paddles for some spankings,s&m and some foot worship.so two mins later I turnt to him and said fuck it,lets all go to fwp(all my friends know my fetish),and worship feet and get footjobs there.he then tells me ''id rather go to paddles''with an earatated look on his face..so I'm jus wondering why do u think he completely steered from the whole topic and have any of u guys ever delt with meeting a closet footguy
Posted by Dave888 (Member # 13797) on :
plainly that some people are embarrassed by their fetish because they fear other ppl will think they/it is gross in some way or another.
Posted by vineofthorns (Member # 1313) on :
yea but if the guy knows that's what I'm into(i pretty much stated that's what I wanted)why hide from it nah mean?
Posted by Dave888 (Member # 13797) on :
yeah guess he's a puss. dunno.
Posted by imation_pc (Member # 1480) on :
maybe hes ashamed..or not ashamed but embarassed about it still. Just like how for example, a guy is "in the closet" and u make some kind of gay comment the guy freaks and like, over does it to show hes not gay. Do you get what im saying? You may just have caught him off guard, and he might have thought that since u were w/ and ex that maybe you were making fun of him. Just my thoughts.
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
it is quite odd that he's in denial to fellow fetishists but I can certainly understand to some degree the reason why he feels the need to be in denial in the 1st place and that is the potential consequences in his regular life.
on some level, most everyone is in denial to at least some small degree about their foot fetish.
just imagine if any of your parents confronted you and said they received an anonymous email saying that you masterbated to some really weird things that involved feet.
how honest would you then be about your fetish?
on some level, I think there is a lot of hiding that goes on in our crevices. the guy who is talked about in the 1st post is someone who is merely in further denial than most of us.
Posted by vineofthorns (Member # 1313) on :
it could be it cought him off guard and he's not use to speaking to somone who is open about it,but you think he would being he had quite a few drinks.I woulda loved tohave gone to that dungeon jus to what his behavior woulda been like hehe
Posted by scrunchlover (Member # 21542) on :
Some people fear ridicule and avoid it at all costs.
Posted by A&F_FootDude_05 (Member # 2999) on :
I've denied it to a fellow fetishist for four years. I'm part of what this post is all about. I've become slightly more open about it since revealing it to him following joining this forum.
Posted by russ (Member # 10866) on :
I don't know any other foot guys, at least ones that are open about it..but most of my friends know about my fetish, and they're all cool about it (wouldn't want friends who were so close-minded.) he may have just been embarrassed because even though you also have a foot fetish, was everyone involved in the convo a foot-person? was this guys ex at the bar as well? there could be some bitterness or something involving that...it's hard to know whats going through this dudes head.
Posted by A&F_FootDude_05 (Member # 2999) on :
Russ, from what I've noticed, the more you interact with others at Wu's, the easier it becomes to tell people about it!
Posted by GeorgyPorgy (Member # 20439) on :
They have no gonads.
Posted by vineofthorns (Member # 1313) on :
quote:Originally posted by russ: I don't know any other foot guys, at least ones that are open about it..but most of my friends know about my fetish, and they're all cool about it (wouldn't want friends who were so close-minded.) he may have just been embarrassed because even though you also have a foot fetish, was everyone involved in the convo a foot-person? was this guys ex at the bar as well? there could be some bitterness or something involving that...it's hard to know whats going through this dudes head.
nah his ex wasn't there,but I know if she was she prob woulda chimed in...when I did bring up fwp it was jus my gf and her friend and him...
Posted by oscarthemonkey (Member # 1692) on :
I had a friend years ago who I suspected liked feet, and came out to my girlfriend at the time-saying she had suckable toes. She told him that I loved feet as well.I alluded to this shorty after- and he pretended he knew nothing- so I did not pursue it.
I was amazed thinking that he thought that she would not tell me about that incident (purely harmless, nothing inappropriate)... but why he denied it I don't know. I was kind of excited that we had a new topic for discussion- and was disappointed that he avoided that subject all together.
Posted by RT509 (Member # 25493) on :
Maybe he doesn't want to talk about it with a guy. Sounds normal to me. Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
- The guy may not be fully comfortable with his likes to come out with it. - Denial... fighting his true feelings/wants. - Embarrassed that someone else is all about it and he is not, yet or could be jealousy he is slow with accepting it with open arms. - It is a big step to really step out out there and say I LOVE PRETTY FEET.
Hey, you tried guy; Don't sweat it too much. He will beat his brain up saying, "If I coulda, woulda, shoulda..." because he didn't accept the fact he had a teammate on the same team with the same goal in mind of scoring for some pretty feet. It is his lost.
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