i'm just curious. has anyone ever gotten depressed over the lack of feet action they've gotten???
Posted by GimmeFeet (Member # 13817) on :
a little. just the fact that foot fetish has gotten WAY too mainstream, and women keep them away because they know what we look at. It's now harder to get a woman's feet than it is to get her virginity. Kinda leaves you feeling hopeless to foot action, which is, yes, in a word... depressing.
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
nope, just depressed in general
Posted by Bootman (Member # 1280) on :
I'm with You on this one. I've never been depressed really about the lack of feet action. Just depressed in general. It usually takes more than a lack of any type of action to get me down, i like the companionship of having a girlfriend and somebody who cares for me so as i care for them as well. If i need some foot action i just swing by wu's or go find some fun videos to watch, i like using my imagination when i can't get any on my own.
But if i'm getting foot action, i'm generally getting real action to begin with so it doesn't depress me.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by Bootman: But if i'm getting foot action, i'm generally getting real action to begin with so it doesn't depress me.
i meant it that way. if you're not getting any to the point you'll become depressed.
Posted by Web Cruiser (Member # 1019) on :
Just depressed anyway too. Not all the time mind you
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
I used to get depressed when I was younger, but it never got to a point where I was unable to motivate myself to function. I'm basically not a bright and cheery person most of the time (hence my weird avatars and screen name) but not depressed.
Posted by Wing-Washer (Member # 3013) on :
I used to get depressed too, now I'm just bitterly cynical.
[hijack] LeDaemon, your avatars are f'ing hilarious! I always look forward to seeing new ones. [/hijack]
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
i don't think i made myself clear enough in the question.
has anyone ever gotten depressed about the lack of foot action they get???
Posted by Camille (Member # 21761) on :
never. therefore I'm a woman, it's 100 times harder for me to get girls' feet than for a guy. but still... that would never make me depressed. I enjoy every little moment, every secretly seen little toe, every stolen nylon stocking if i don't get to see feet for a while, it only encourages me to go out and to do something about it. if I don't get to see feet in nylons, I convince myself how beautiful barefoot girls are. and opposite. if I don't see clean feet with sweet smell, I start thinking of smelly stinky feet, and here you go...I'm all excited again!
that's me talking after a bottle of wine! I had a lovely evening with my beautiful redhair friend in blue flip-flops... I'm all horny and excited! hay, life is beautiful, don't let "lack of foot action" or how you call it make you depressed. it's not worth! enjoy what you can, and it will be so much easier to have fun.
not sure if you understand what I'm talking about. I warned you - it's that wine talking! goodnight Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
nope.. but, the closest is a little feeling of being bummed that i don't have feet in a while.. but.. nothing that slows me down or is worht dwelling on.
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
quote:Originally posted by Camille: I warned you - it's that wine talking!
red or white? Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by RPM: nope.. but, the closest is a little feeling of being bummed that i don't have feet in a while.. but.. nothing that slows me down or is worht dwelling on.
the reason i ask this question is because i've been feeling very depressed about it. not just not getting any, but everything with it.
Posted by octoberbaseball (Member # 20977) on :
Hmmm wow seems like there's a connection on this topic. Most of us seem depressed in general at times I do feel depressed also but not because lack of feet, more for lack of someone to be with and I might have posted this tons of times on other topics, but if I'm with a girl who I like I'm not really concentrating on her feet because for me that's more of a lust thing and I'm looking for the love in a relationship.
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
quote:Originally posted by octoberbaseball: Hmmm wow seems like there's a connection on this topic. Most of us seem depressed in general at times I do feel depressed also but not because lack of feet, more for lack of someone to be with and I might have posted this tons of times on other topics, but if I'm with a girl who I like I'm not really concentrating on her feet because for me that's more of a lust thing and I'm looking for the love in a relationship.
me sentiments exactly
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by You:
quote:Originally posted by octoberbaseball: Hmmm wow seems like there's a connection on this topic. Most of us seem depressed in general at times I do feel depressed also but not because lack of feet, more for lack of someone to be with and I might have posted this tons of times on other topics, but if I'm with a girl who I like I'm not really concentrating on her feet because for me that's more of a lust thing and I'm looking for the love in a relationship.
me sentiments exactly
same here. but it's more of being ahsamed and not knowing how to handle it. i've posted topics about it before.
Posted by JustJoe (Member # 9641) on :
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: i don't think i made myself clear enough in the question.
has anyone ever gotten depressed about the lack of foot action they get???
Not so much depressed, maybe, who knows...but I do get frustrated if I don't get feet for awhile.
Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
I wouldnt call it outright depression where I walk around in a depressed state all the time, but let's just say that I can at times feel down about it. It's more frustration as opposed to outright depression. I have a strong desire to have a girlfriend with a cute pair of feet to play with. Alas, hopefully it will happen for me at some point not long off.
Mitch
Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
not at all.
im just so fustrated. i want to stop time and go and steal all the sweaty smelly socks and hose from all the female changing rooms in the world and bury my face in some sweaty meaty toes!! mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Posted by LovelyLadies (Member # 5079) on :
quote:Originally posted by octoberbaseball: Hmmm wow seems like there's a connection on this topic. Most of us seem depressed in general at times I do feel depressed also but not because lack of feet, more for lack of someone to be with and I might have posted this tons of times on other topics, but if I'm with a girl who I like I'm not really concentrating on her feet because for me that's more of a lust thing and I'm looking for the love in a relationship.
Exactly my situation. Last Friday night I took this beautiful girl I'm trying to hook up with to a movie. She's absolutely the cutest thing you'd ever see. Her feet are flawless and she wore flip flips that night. As big a foot nut as I am, I didn't even eye are feet once while I was with her. I'm just trying to make it work I guess first before getting all weird on her. Although I'm sure she'd except it because she's open to anything. I just hope all goes well because those feet are waaaaay too fine to not be worshipped.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
He fellas..lighten up. The foot fetish is something that should bring joy to one's life...not despair! Finding a girl that you click with isn't easy. I know this. But the search doesn't have to be a sad one. And your foot fetish shouldn't feel like a hurdle to cross into happiness. I've dated alot of women and not once have I had a bad reaction to my foot fetish. I've heard "thats different" "really feet?" and the list goes on but nothing bad. As men we must be leaders. Especially in the dating game. We pick the girl(usually) we pick the date ect ect. When it comes to girls you have to like yourself before she or anyone can like you. If you don't like yourself, ask yourself why and fix it! Same thing with the foot fetish. How can she be cool with it if you are ashamed? When you lead by accepting so will she. In the mean time , while you're single get out there and mingle. Make out with a girl whose last name you don't know. Have fun! Women like guys that have fun. I bet alot of you depressed guys aren't having any fun. When you start meeting women, learn how to please them sexually. It's a 2 way street. Get her off and usually she is more than willing to do the same. Tell her how her feet make you feel and she'll handle the rest. Sure I oversimplified a few things but you get the point. Have you guys seen the show "the pick up artist" on VH1? Lots of good stuff. It's cool seeing guys that had no luck with women go ahead and do something about it. It's not about getting laid...but it is about being interesting enough to get your foot in the door. check out this vid from the season finale. He started of a depressed dude too. http://www.vh1.com/vspot/player.jhtml?name=shows&id=1570148&launchedFrom=/shows/dyn/the_pick_up_artist/series.jhtml
good stuff
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
If a lack of action generated depression, I would have spent much of the last decade with a gun pointed at my temple or a razor at my wrist. I have to agree with GQguy; you've got to stay upbeat, knowing that you have to walk through a lot of Sahara to find a little oasis. The search continues, for me, genuinely savoring those bright spots as they come and for as long as they last (such is the lot of an itinerant musician). In the meantime, there are very few problems that are so big that a liberal application of bourbon can't ameliorate them.
Posted by Bootman (Member # 1280) on :
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88:
quote:Originally posted by You:
quote:Originally posted by octoberbaseball: Hmmm wow seems like there's a connection on this topic. Most of us seem depressed in general at times I do feel depressed also but not because lack of feet, more for lack of someone to be with and I might have posted this tons of times on other topics, but if I'm with a girl who I like I'm not really concentrating on her feet because for me that's more of a lust thing and I'm looking for the love in a relationship.
me sentiments exactly
same here. but it's more of being ahsamed and not knowing how to handle it. i've posted topics about it before.
And everytime blackhcx we try to tell ya there's not a damn thing to be ashamed of! Be happy you have it, i think it's one of my best qualities, and it's always great to get into talking to girls that are open about it. Most of the girls i've met dig the hell out of pedicures when i give them, the idea of a guy paintin her toes, and as long as you're not afraid of it yourself, they usually won't be either.
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
Frustrated at times, when I lived up North during the winter and barefeet were hard to come by (visually), but never depressed. Since I had not told my wife about my fetish, my outlet for feet was voyeurism, so I spent a good bit of time looking for barefooted girls. Sometimes I just didn't see any.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
[/qb][/QUOTE]And everytime blackhcx we try to tell ya there's not a damn thing to be ashamed of! Be happy you have it, i think it's one of my best qualities, and it's always great to get into talking to girls that are open about it. Most of the girls i've met dig the hell out of pedicures when i give them, the idea of a guy paintin her toes, and as long as you're not afraid of it yourself, they usually won't be either. [/QB][/QUOTE] I'm not so sure about the toe painting stuff.Can you imagine a non foot fetishist painting his girlfriends finger nails? In my humble opinion it reminds me of the actions of a girl friend or a platonic guy friend thats stuck in the frien zone or a gay friend.I can see a woman liking a straight guy painting her toe nails but I can't see it creating attraction.But to each thier own
Posted by Broly (Member # 504) on :
I'm looking to settle down with a wife. But gotta find one first! I get depressed and lonely sometimes. But all in due time! It'll happen! Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
The hurdle I think that needs to be overcome in this situation is liking and accepting yourself as a person and who you are.
Too many times, guys will stop short of "pulling the trigger" so to speak with women they have met or that they know or like simply because they're too worried about "What will she think?" Ultimately, the bottom line is who cares what the woman in question, or anyone else for that matter, thinks. They're just thoughts and, as such, we can't control the way others think about us. It's really all about having confidence and being comfortable with who you are. What other people think isn't important because it all boils down to the way you think about yourself. If you think well of yourself and are comfortable and confident in who you are, that translates over into other areas of your life - i.e. how you carry yourself, how you communicate with others (verbally and non-verbally), etc.. If you carry yourself with confidence, people will feel at ease around you naturally and you won't come off "weird" or threatening or making people feel ill at ease because you're not feeling comfortable with yourself.
I don't know. I guess I've never really been all that depressed when it comes to a time when I'm not able to give a woman a foot massage or be involved in any other foot related activity for a time period. Yeah, it can be frustrating when that time period happens. However, it doesn't mean that I should feel so badly about it.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by Fate111: The hurdle I think that needs to be overcome in this situation is liking and accepting yourself as a person and who you are.
Too many times, guys will stop short of "pulling the trigger" so to speak with women they have met or that they know or like simply because they're too worried about "What will she think?" Ultimately, the bottom line is who cares what the woman in question, or anyone else for that matter, thinks. They're just thoughts and, as such, we can't control the way others think about us. It's really all about having confidence and being comfortable with who you are. What other people think isn't important because it all boils down to the way you think about yourself. If you think well of yourself and are comfortable and confident in who you are, that translates over into other areas of your life - i.e. how you carry yourself, how you communicate with others (verbally and non-verbally), etc.. If you carry yourself with confidence, people will feel at ease around you naturally and you won't come off "weird" or threatening or making people feel ill at ease because you're not feeling comfortable with yourself.
I don't know. I guess I've never really been all that depressed when it comes to a time when I'm not able to give a woman a foot massage or be involved in any other foot related activity for a time period. Yeah, it can be frustrating when that time period happens. However, it doesn't mean that I should feel so badly about it.
well, it involves a couple of things along with the lack of action. mostly getting angry about the lack of job openings i can find. plus, i'm out of school for a semester because i owe them money. so the combination of that, plus my issue with the fetish puts a huge amount of pressure on me. i would go on further about it, but i don't wanna annoy certain people in the forum.
Posted by Gameon (Member # 20877) on :
Frustrated but not depressed but that has been resolved recently by my GF's desire to remove her nightgown and jump into bed wearing heels Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by Fate111: you won't come off "weird" or threatening or making people feel ill at ease
Damn. It's not that I THINK I'm weird and threatening. I AM. LOL!
Posted by ozkar (Member # 13264) on :
A good job may be hard to find, but just any old job isn't. Sometimes you have to work a job you feel like you're overqualified for, especially when you're younger. Fact of the matter is, if you have bills to pay you aren't overqualified for any kind of work.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by ozkar: A good job may be hard to find, but just any old job isn't. Sometimes you have to work a job you feel like you're overqualified for, especially when you're younger. Fact of the matter is, if you have bills to pay you aren't overqualified for any kind of work.
i understand that, but i can't even get a "any old job"
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
The only thing I can think of to offer in terms of jobs would be military...join up as reserve..they pay for your education dont they??
As for the depression..yes I do sometimes... I know I know..."but you have a g/f that gives you foot play" yes..but its not like an everyday occurence...more like once every two weeks ish...I know I know you guys are going to be like at least you GET some! But I think it only gets magnified when I DONT get any..therefore adding more frustration/depression..
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: The only thing I can think of to offer in terms of jobs would be military...join up as reserve..they pay for your education dont they??
As for the depression..yes I do sometimes... I know I know..."but you have a g/f that gives you foot play" yes..but its not like an everyday occurence...more like once every two weeks ish...I know I know you guys are going to be like at least you GET some! But I think it only gets magnified when I DONT get any..therefore adding more frustration/depression..
i would never sign up for the military. no offense to anyone who's a vet or in it, but i know that is not for me.
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
ya..understandable. Its not for everyone..but it does offer at least a way to pay for your education AND give you income!
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: ya..understandable. Its not for everyone..but it does offer at least a way to pay for your education AND give you income!
my college is already paid for, just back owe for dropping a major.
Posted by conerz (Member # 12451) on :
I wouldnt say depressed but there was a long period in my life where I was really frustrated about it...even when I was sexually active on the regular I still couldnt tell a girl I wanted to do things w/ her feet. Believe it or not i really did contemplate getting a hooker just so I could jerk off on her feet. I was basiocally frustrated that I had this fantasy that really really turned me on but I was too scared to ever try it
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
Hey! I'm active duty military. I didn't think of myself as a "military man" prior to joining but now I see that i've grown alot since making the jump. You'll definitely be a better man afterward. I think everyone should serve a term in the military....but that's another thread.
blackHxC88
I must say that God helps me a ton with my depression. I'm very blessed, even though I can't see it all the time God helps me see it when i'm down. God also gives me the strengh to do something about what causes me heartache. It's all about action in my opinion. Getting a job is tough. Pray and network. Get aggressive. Take the first job you can get and search for a better one while you've got the one. Keep an open mind.
As for the women. I won't lie and say "they'll come eventually". B.S. Sure, after they've hooked up with athletes, players and frat boys. Get your game tight. Your mental game. Women far prefer personality to anything else. You've seen the ugly short poor guy with the model on his arm. Attraction isn't a choice. Look at our foot fetish. We have no choice. Like yourself and they'll like you. In the mean time as you're starting to like yourself get a make over. Dress like a guy that gets laid. Groom yourself. Then learn how to talk to women. Pick up "the mystery method". Should be cheaper than a months subscription to any pay site for a month and it will lay the ground work for you interacting with women. It helped me out tons. Search "double your dating" and I could hook you up with that e-book. I had to get out of the mind frame that women deserve to be put on pedastals. A lie most mothers teach thier sons. My dating life took a life of it's own after I left that way of thinking behind.
The funny thing about women is that the way you approach them is the way you approach life. If you're a risk taker, you're the type to talk to lots of women. If you're scared of life, odds are you're scared of women too. If you conquer women...oddly enough the conquering of life will soon follow. Good luck my friend. Remember. Think action. eet so busy you have no time to be depressed. GQguy
Posted by ozkar (Member # 13264) on :
quote:Originally posted by ozkar: A good job may be hard to find, but just any old job isn't. Sometimes you have to work a job you feel like you're overqualified for, especially when you're younger. Fact of the matter is, if you have bills to pay you aren't overqualified for any kind of work.
I'm sure you can get a job at a restaurant or retail or the library or something. Those kinds of places are always hiring. Pick a street in the commercial district, start at one end, and fill out everyone's application until you get to the other end. You'll get some kind of job.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: Hey! I'm active duty military. I didn't think of myself as a "military man" prior to joining but now I see that i've grown alot since making the jump. You'll definitely be a better man afterward. I think everyone should serve a term in the military....but that's another thread.
blackHxC88
I must say that God helps me a ton with my depression. I'm very blessed, even though I can't see it all the time God helps me see it when i'm down. God also gives me the strengh to do something about what causes me heartache. It's all about action in my opinion. Getting a job is tough. Pray and network. Get aggressive. Take the first job you can get and search for a better one while you've got the one. Keep an open mind.
As for the women. I won't lie and say "they'll come eventually". B.S. Sure, after they've hooked up with athletes, players and frat boys. Get your game tight. Your mental game. Women far prefer personality to anything else. You've seen the ugly short poor guy with the model on his arm. Attraction isn't a choice. Look at our foot fetish. We have no choice. Like yourself and they'll like you. In the mean time as you're starting to like yourself get a make over. Dress like a guy that gets laid. Groom yourself. Then learn how to talk to women. Pick up "the mystery method". Should be cheaper than a months subscription to any pay site for a month and it will lay the ground work for you interacting with women. It helped me out tons. Search "double your dating" and I could hook you up with that e-book. I had to get out of the mind frame that women deserve to be put on pedastals. A lie most mothers teach thier sons. My dating life took a life of it's own after I left that way of thinking behind.
The funny thing about women is that the way you approach them is the way you approach life. If you're a risk taker, you're the type to talk to lots of women. If you're scared of life, odds are you're scared of women too. If you conquer women...oddly enough the conquering of life will soon follow. Good luck my friend. Remember. Think action. eet so busy you have no time to be depressed. GQguy
i have 4 sisters, so i know FULL AND WELL to not put a girl on a pedastal. but it's just the feeling like a creep and having girls (and guys) think of me the same way for it. i don't know if i can even live with it.
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
Just stop blowing it outta proprotion...the foot fetish I mean. If you treat it like a dark cloud hanging over your head then you cant expect to get a girl to accept it. I mean put yourself in a girl's shoes(no pun intended), would you want your b/f to tell you about his foot fetish and by telling you he is basically crying about it and makes it sound like a disease. The most important thing to do would be to accept it for what it is...a sexual "kink" that makes you even more unique! Once you have accepted it then and only then can you move forward in terms of getting a girl and becoming more outgoing and enjoyable to be around...because based on what you have told us here in your posts is that you hate going out to parties and being around people in general...and the reason behind this is to do mostly with your fetish for feet. So accept it and start living life...and consider yourself lucky to be able to enjoy a part of the body that is almost always in the open!
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: Just stop blowing it outta proprotion...the foot fetish I mean. If you treat it like a dark cloud hanging over your head then you cant expect to get a girl to accept it. I mean put yourself in a girl's shoes(no pun intended), would you want your b/f to tell you about his foot fetish and by telling you he is basically crying about it and makes it sound like a disease. The most important thing to do would be to accept it for what it is...a sexual "kink" that makes you even more unique! Once you have accepted it then and only then can you move forward in terms of getting a girl and becoming more outgoing and enjoyable to be around...because based on what you have told us here in your posts is that you hate going out to parties and being around people in general...and the reason behind this is to do mostly with your fetish for feet. So accept it and start living life...and consider yourself lucky to be able to enjoy a part of the body that is almost always in the open!
how am i supposed to accept it when i'll still be a freak nonetheless??? this things a fucking burden, thankfully it hasn't gotten to the point i'd kill myself over it.
Posted by octoberbaseball (Member # 20977) on :
blackHxC88- Wow dude you're going pretty far you're not a freak, you're accepted in this community. I don't consider myself a freak, I'm sure everyone here has had ups and downs with feet experiences. I'm yet to find a girl who is accepting of my foot fetish and I've probably had more downs and ups when associating with feet. What experiences have you had?
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88:
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: Just stop blowing it outta proprotion...the foot fetish I mean. If you treat it like a dark cloud hanging over your head then you cant expect to get a girl to accept it. I mean put yourself in a girl's shoes(no pun intended), would you want your b/f to tell you about his foot fetish and by telling you he is basically crying about it and makes it sound like a disease. The most important thing to do would be to accept it for what it is...a sexual "kink" that makes you even more unique! Once you have accepted it then and only then can you move forward in terms of getting a girl and becoming more outgoing and enjoyable to be around...because based on what you have told us here in your posts is that you hate going out to parties and being around people in general...and the reason behind this is to do mostly with your fetish for feet. So accept it and start living life...and consider yourself lucky to be able to enjoy a part of the body that is almost always in the open!
how am i supposed to accept it when i'll still be a freak nonetheless??? this things a fucking burden, thankfully it hasn't gotten to the point i'd kill myself over it.
You're so set in your ways. It appears as though you like being depressed and you are comfortable being alone. I might even go further andsay you're scared of happiness. The people on this forum have given tons of great advice yet I haven't read a reply from you that says...hmmm I might try that. The only replies I see are more self pity. The foot fetish isn't your problem. You're using it as a scape goat. It's your attitude and your take on reality. People tend to get a distorted view on reality when they isolate themselves. For instane, you don' meet or talk to women in social settings. But rather than your mind saying that your lack of femal interaction is attributed to your introverted behaviour, your mind instead blames it on your foot fetish. Of course asking any outside source i.e. this forum and they'll tell you it's not because of the fetish. You're 19 and thats an awesome age! Don't waste it inside playing WOW and Halo. You have plety of time when you're in the nursing home to do that. Have fun!! Like yourself!! Be social!! And your depression will go away. Feet will be the last of your worries. Mind you...your feelings aren't unique, as much as you'd like them to be. All of us on this forum go through the same thing but we all deal with it in our own ways: 1)Be that guy stealing socks and licking the feet of strangers 2)Be that guy that only surfs the net pics and is depressed about his current situation but does nothing to fix it 3)Be that guy that invest money into his fetish by going to parties and hiring women 4)Be the guy thas excited about his fetish and gets the women that are lucky enough to be invited into his life excited about his fetish too.
Where do you want to be? I've seen all 4 types of guys on the forum and i'm sure that there are guys out there willing to help you fit into any category you wish.
GQguy
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
amen GQguy, you said pretty much what i wanted to say but with more tact heh. i hope he will listen
Posted by Dudster (Member # 20677) on :
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: how am i supposed to accept it when i'll still be a freak nonetheless??? this things a fucking burden, thankfully it hasn't gotten to the point i'd kill myself over it.
If you think you are a freak because of your foot fetish, I have one thing to reply with: Foot fetish is the most common fetish, and it is now so common that you can hardly call it a fetish anymore.
(I havent read all of this topic yet, I just saw a link to it on the front page, so sorry if I have misunderstood soomething.)
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by GQguy:
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88:
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: Just stop blowing it outta proprotion...the foot fetish I mean. If you treat it like a dark cloud hanging over your head then you cant expect to get a girl to accept it. I mean put yourself in a girl's shoes(no pun intended), would you want your b/f to tell you about his foot fetish and by telling you he is basically crying about it and makes it sound like a disease. The most important thing to do would be to accept it for what it is...a sexual "kink" that makes you even more unique! Once you have accepted it then and only then can you move forward in terms of getting a girl and becoming more outgoing and enjoyable to be around...because based on what you have told us here in your posts is that you hate going out to parties and being around people in general...and the reason behind this is to do mostly with your fetish for feet. So accept it and start living life...and consider yourself lucky to be able to enjoy a part of the body that is almost always in the open!
how am i supposed to accept it when i'll still be a freak nonetheless??? this things a fucking burden, thankfully it hasn't gotten to the point i'd kill myself over it.
You're so set in your ways. It appears as though you like being depressed and you are comfortable being alone. I might even go further andsay you're scared of happiness. The people on this forum have given tons of great advice yet I haven't read a reply from you that says...hmmm I might try that. The only replies I see are more self pity. The foot fetish isn't your problem. You're using it as a scape goat. It's your attitude and your take on reality. People tend to get a distorted view on reality when they isolate themselves. For instane, you don' meet or talk to women in social settings. But rather than your mind saying that your lack of femal interaction is attributed to your introverted behaviour, your mind instead blames it on your foot fetish. Of course asking any outside source i.e. this forum and they'll tell you it's not because of the fetish. You're 19 and thats an awesome age! Don't waste it inside playing WOW and Halo. You have plety of time when you're in the nursing home to do that. Have fun!! Like yourself!! Be social!! And your depression will go away. Feet will be the last of your worries. Mind you...your feelings aren't unique, as much as you'd like them to be. All of us on this forum go through the same thing but we all deal with it in our own ways: 1)Be that guy stealing socks and licking the feet of strangers 2)Be that guy that only surfs the net pics and is depressed about his current situation but does nothing to fix it 3)Be that guy that invest money into his fetish by going to parties and hiring women 4)Be the guy thas excited about his fetish and gets the women that are lucky enough to be invited into his life excited about his fetish too.
Where do you want to be? I've seen all 4 types of guys on the forum and i'm sure that there are guys out there willing to help you fit into any category you wish.
GQguy
i'm not sitting at home playing halo and shit like that(i don't think i've played a video games in years) but YOU are making out ot be i don't TRY to do SOMETHING about it. you're right i'm set in it, because it's been like this for as long as i can remember. from what i can tell from that reply, you're telling me i'm already a freak. that's for agreeing with me.
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
ok so i guess we can stop replying to this thread from now on. its all said and DONE, right?
hopefully one day you will see yourself as a cool freak who happens to like feet...like the rest of us.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by You: ok so i guess we can stop replying to this thread from now on. its all said and DONE, right?
hopefully one day you will see yourself as a cool freak who happens to like feet...like the rest of us.
just because i don't reply with some positive doesn't mean anything. sorry if you think i'm not paying attention to any of this, i'm venting
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
venting is good. i suppose the general feeling is that we cant seem to say anything to make you realize it is and will be ok. its frustrating. ultimately, you are the one with this problem and it is up to you to solve it.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by You: venting is good. i suppose the general feeling is that we cant seem to say anything to make you realize it is and will be ok. its frustrating. ultimately, you are the one with this problem and it is up to you to solve it.
well, i don't know. even tho you all say it's ok, i'm the one who runs into people who say it isn't. it's sad in a way when i girl is more willing to have a dick shoved up her ass then to let a guy give them a foot massage.
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
there will always be people saying or thinking differently, i think we all have had our share of that. the key here is for you to not let those people dictate the way you should feel about it. yes, it is a fetish. yes, its weird for some. yes yes yes who the fuck cares, it is your life and the best advice i can give you is to accept it and embrace it as part of who you are. there is absolutely nothing wrong with you..with us foot guys. You have looked around this forum, you know by now that there are A LOT of girls who love this.
its a given if i tell you that soon enough you will see things 100% differently. even if you dont think so right now.
Posted by trukr (Member # 25391) on :
wow alot of good advice floating around here. It may sound to me that u might need to move from where u r. I have never run into anyone that has frownd on it so much or badly ever. and thats not ment to b dog'n on ya either. Just a thought. It is probably one of the largest fetish's out here today. Good Luck
Posted by Wing-Washer (Member # 3013) on :
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: ya..understandable. Its not for everyone..but it does offer at least a way to pay for your education AND give you income!
Best decision I ever made...
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: it's sad in a way when i girl is more willing to have a dick shoved up her ass then to let a guy give them a foot massage.
I lol'd
Posted by octoberbaseball (Member # 20977) on :
To: blackHxC88 when you say it's sad how a girl is more willing to have a dick shoved up her ass than to let a guy give them a foot massage don't tell that to us tell that to the people putting you down for your fetish make them feel like the weird ones. Say well if a girl can accept a dick up the ass I see nothing wrong with a foot massage. Who knows maybe it will make them think but odds are maybe not bc anal sex seems hmm popular should i say?
To: GQguy wow you really hit the spot with your long quote about feeling pity for oneself. That hit me pretty hard because I'm a quiet shy type. I'm not open about my fetish but I'm not ashamed but when it comes to girls I've had bad experiences and like blackHxC88 (who rejects his fetish) I'm one who is set to say screw this I don't want a girlfriend it will only mean more trouble.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by octoberbaseball: To: blackHxC88 when you say it's sad how a girl is more willing to have a dick shoved up her ass than to let a guy give them a foot massage don't tell that to us tell that to the people putting you down for your fetish make them feel like the weird ones. Say well if a girl can accept a dick up the ass I see nothing wrong with a foot massage. Who knows maybe it will make them think but odds are maybe not bc anal sex seems hmm popular should i say?
To: GQguy wow you really hit the spot with your long quote about feeling pity for oneself. That hit me pretty hard because I'm a quiet shy type. I'm not open about my fetish but I'm not ashamed but when it comes to girls I've had bad experiences and like blackHxC88 (who rejects his fetish) I'm one who is set to say screw this I don't want a girlfriend it will only mean more trouble.
i don't even know why it's so popular. look up the temr "pink sock" if you don't know it. THAT's why i frown upon it. but i don't judge. i'm not rejecting it as much as i don't know why or how to accpet it. i'm awkward with people anyway when it doesn't involve sports. so having it isn't really helping. i don't go to parties because it's a waste of time and at the school i go to there's alot of drama. and i'm not paying for school for the drama. and the way campus is, the only people i hang around with are my soccer teammates. which is a good thing since most of us were in the same dorm. but it has more to do with the 6 to 1 ratio then anything.
P.S. For someone like me, that is BAD!!! so, bootman, don't come running in here calling me a pussy because i'm not that 1 guy. ok, i'm probably 5 or 6 in that. so don't say anything.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by DeadGoon:
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: it's sad in a way when i girl is more willing to have a dick shoved up her ass then to let a guy give them a foot massage.
I lol'd
that was meant to be funny, but true as well from my experiences.
Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
everybody get depressed and down from time to time.
i got a bit depressed about a lack of feet action with my girlfriend not so long ago earlier this year.
but discovered that lack of feet wasnt the only reason for my sadness, it was actually a number of personal problems and relationship problems getting to me, i was looking to cure my problems with foot fetishm as sex makes ya feel good!
but thats not the answere. you gotta look at the big picture and tackle the roots of your problems.
also to be in perspective. there are far worse things that can happen to someone than be sexually frustrated. of course its horrible i do know, but the only way to solve this problem is to be practical. my gf wont give me any footlove if i mope around looking miserable or pester her to give me a footjob.
i thought she was a typical ignorant girl who wouldnt accept my fetish but by going the right way about it ive opened her mind. and she regularly uses her feet in foreplay & even initiated a footjob the other day which amazes me!
us lucky guys could brag all day long but we know we've worked and given some love to recieve what we desire.
with a more positive mindset you'll get there buddy
Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
ps. i have days when im really tired and down and i loose all perspective. its totally normall to feel down from time to time.
but if you have depression issues you must try to find ways of tackling them.
not only that but you must stop thinking you are a freak.there are millions of people with a foot fetish, just look at this forum. theres much more crazier shit that a foot fetish.
and to be honest even in my early days when i thought i was alone with my fetish and maybe thought i was a freak, i was still happy to have this fetish and the thought that i will love feet for the rest of my life truely makes me feel incredibly happy.
even if i was a freak i would be a happy one. it is diversity, love, passion and creativeness which makes life so beautifull even if it can be a dark horrible place at times.
love the fact that you have a foot fetish. i understand the pain you are going through as i have been there but i say this with real seriousness. dont let this get you down, you can turn your life around much easier than you think and you can make your dreams come true.
you will also realise one day that there is much more to life than sex
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by lamp: ps. i have days when im really tired and down and i loose all perspective. its totally normall to feel down from time to time.
but if you have depression issues you must try to find ways of tackling them.
not only that but you must stop thinking you are a freak.there are millions of people with a foot fetish, just look at this forum. theres much more crazier shit that a foot fetish.
and to be honest even in my early days when i thought i was alone with my fetish and maybe thought i was a freak, i was still happy to have this fetish and the thought that i will love feet for the rest of my life truely makes me feel incredibly happy.
even if i was a freak i would be a happy one. it is diversity, love, passion and creativeness which makes life so beautifull even if it can be a dark horrible place at times.
love the fact that you have a foot fetish. i understand the pain you are going through as i have been there but i say this with real seriousness. dont let this get you down, you can turn your life around much easier than you think and you can make your dreams come true.
you will also realise one day that there is much more to life than sex
i never said anything about sex????? Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by lamp: but discovered that lack of feet wasnt the only reason for my sadness, it was actually a number of personal problems and relationship problems getting to me, i was looking to cure my problems with foot fetishm as sex makes ya feel good!
BOO-YA!!!
I hope most people realise this. From what I've discovered, humans are much more emotional than sexual, and I think emotional health is far more important than frequently getting your sexual desires filled, and I think people sometimes focus too much on the wrong thing.
Though with me I can get confused and frustrated at times, as because I'm a guy, sometimes I feel like I should be more concerned with just getting laid.
Funny thing is though, I have trouble sleeping with a girl and simply forgetting about her the next day. I get too sappy about it, which is supposed to be more of a female trait.
I still remember the first girl I had a one-night "smooch" with. I couldn't her out of my head for about a week Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
this has gotten to me mostly because i'm going back to my school in the winter.
i made a thread about this a while ago-http://www.wusfeetlinks.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=005540;p=1#000000
but i'm scared considering this is my only option for school and that people will still remember.
and it's a small school too, so if i talked to a freshmen chick just once they could be told of what i did last year and avoid me
just scared
Posted by solelvr2007 (Member # 20632) on :
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: this has gotten to me mostly because i'm going back to my school in the winter.
i made a thread about this a while ago-http://www.wusfeetlinks.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=005540;p=1#000000
but i'm scared considering this is my only option for school and that people will still remember.
and it's a small school too, so if i talked to a freshmen chick just once they could be told of what i did last year and avoid me
just scared
Well if u only called "2-3 times" & nothing else, that shouldn't have led to an altercation because u could have been making sure she was alright!!! But anyways, regarding the people u told about ur fetish... "If u polish a turd, it's still a turd..." So u could have easily been giving out vital info during "guy talk" to "polished turds" that tried to isolate u as the "campus foot guy". The info they gave u in return was probably "the norm", though still private... Just b careful who u tell things 2 even though college seems open-minded & diverse...U never know those people may have transfered or anything, but if not f*** 'em!!! Just tryn 2 help some...
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by solelvr2007:
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: this has gotten to me mostly because i'm going back to my school in the winter.
i made a thread about this a while ago-http://www.wusfeetlinks.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=005540;p=1#000000
but i'm scared considering this is my only option for school and that people will still remember.
and it's a small school too, so if i talked to a freshmen chick just once they could be told of what i did last year and avoid me
just scared
Well if u only called "2-3 times" & nothing else, that shouldn't have led to an altercation because u could have been making sure she was alright!!! But anyways, regarding the people u told about ur fetish... "If u polish a turd, it's still a turd..." So u could have easily been giving out vital info during "guy talk" to "polished turds" that tried to isolate u as the "campus foot guy". The info they gave u in return was probably "the norm", though still private... Just b careful who u tell things 2 even though college seems open-minded & diverse...U never know those people may have transfered or anything, but if not f*** 'em!!! Just tryn 2 help some...
stalkerish? i know
i'm just losing patiences with dating and shit.
Posted by LoveGirlyFeet (Member # 22706) on :
quote:Originally posted by Camille: never. therefore I'm a woman, it's 100 times harder for me to get girls' feet than for a guy. but still... that would never make me depressed. I enjoy every little moment, every secretly seen little toe, every stolen nylon stocking if i don't get to see feet for a while, it only encourages me to go out and to do something about it. if I don't get to see feet in nylons, I convince myself how beautiful barefoot girls are. and opposite. if I don't see clean feet with sweet smell, I start thinking of smelly stinky feet, and here you go...I'm all excited again!
that's me talking after a bottle of wine! I had a lovely evening with my beautiful redhair friend in blue flip-flops... I'm all horny and excited! hay, life is beautiful, don't let "lack of foot action" or how you call it make you depressed. it's not worth! enjoy what you can, and it will be so much easier to have fun.
not sure if you understand what I'm talking about. I warned you - it's that wine talking! goodnight
Camille, I know what you're saying. I wish more and more girls were like you. My wife has nice feet, and she knows how I like 'em. But she never finds the TIME to take care of them. She'll rub me with her feet in the bed and that's about it. Once in a while she'll stick em in my face (like once every couple of months or so). Damn. And I'm a busy guy here on WU's, that tells you how I love feet.
Whenever we both go out, I look at other girls' feet, and make a comment if they're really nice. She too agrees. When a girl is REALLY hot, I'll say..."mmmm, things I'd do to her". And she's reply, "No, things I'D DO to her". Though she's really shy and not into girls, she finds them attractive and yummy. I wonder if you could guide her. I would be my life-time dream cum true, if you were having your way with her feet, and I with your feet... WOWwww.. that a thought... Posted by FootLongSub Zero (Member # 19380) on :
No... I'm more of an optimist so yeah I will say that I'd feel a lil' dissapointed that I don't have foot action but I wouldn't go as far as sayin' depressed...
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if i don't get to see feet for a while, it only encourages me to go out and to do something about it. if I don't get to see feet in nylons, I convince myself how beautiful barefoot girls are. and opposite. if I don't see clean feet with sweet smell, I start thinking of smelly stinky feet, and here you go...I'm all excited again!![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
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