Ok so check it. I've been kickin it with this girl for quite some time now. We've just been friends and all but we get along real well and she seems like she's really horny. What do you think would be the best approach to ask her if she wants to get nailed? I'm sure she wants it, but I dunno how to ask her about it without completely sounding like a person that I'm not. Obviously foot play would come later on, but this comes first. Any idea? Don't worry about the notion that it could ruin our friendship or anything like that. I don't think it would to be honest, it would just make her think of me abit differently. What's the best way to start the convo about it?
Posted by yrk123 (Member # 5629) on :
Rent a movie and watch it with her (sad one or romantic one). Make sure you guys are alone and sit close to her. Make a move. I swear actions are louder than words. If she's into you, she shouldn't resist. If she does, well, it's gunna be awkward. GL dude.
Posted by wrinkleheaven (Member # 25648) on :
let her know that your horny for her........not with words but with long gazes into her eyes and short looks at her body parts, if she comes to your place wear loose pants, after a while she'll know whats up
Posted by LovelyLadies (Member # 5079) on :
quote:Originally posted by wrinkleheaven: wear loose pants, after a while she'll know whats up
LoL Funny.
Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :
A foot massage might be a good ice breaker.
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Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
it's kinda odd, but i've had surprising luck in that scenario recently with a friend when she accidently bumps my boner area and it happens to be hard... real hard.
one thing can then lead to another.
maybe position yourself for a higher chance of some part of her body accidently bumping you.
it can be an elbow, buns, thighs, hand, whatever.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
You never ask a woman for sex. That just doesn't work. You lead and if she wants to follow she will. Go with the movie idea. I'd go with a funny comedy though. That way the mood is lighthearted and fun...exactly the way you want your sex to be....just an extention of the fun you were having earlier. If sex is your goal...you will fail. Fun should be your goal..and if sex makes things more fun...go right ahead. I'm going to assume you haven't gotten physical with her at all. Hold her hand,tickle her push her give her a massage. Have fun! Play with her hair, when she gives you the strong eye contact get close to her face slowly and keep chatting, if she's up for a kiss this violation of her personal space won't bother her and she won't move. Go in and give her a good kiss. Stop the kiss first though. Women love/hate that. I know I do. This make her want to kiss you more. Kiss for a while and enjoy it! If you rush...you suck and she can tell. Proceed with some heavy petting and some clothes removal.......and you're on you own. I always start with oral on her first to reward her for her good behavior so far. There you go. Now after sex with your friend things will never be the same. You gus will probably start dating pretty seriously. Be carefull! GQguy
Posted by MC Nolan (Member # 20527) on :
If she's just a friend and you want to validate going further based on sex...you'll be sorry. I'd heed GQ Guys words and tread carefully; perhaps you two were only meant to be friends (without "benefits"). I guess you wont know until you give a go.
Posted by LovelyLadies (Member # 5079) on :
Thanks for the info guys. I'll take it from here on out. Posted by imation_pc (Member # 1480) on :
Let us know what happens. You know we love to hear follow ups!
Posted by Diabolicus (Member # 7743) on :
You shouldn't just downright ask, don't degrade yourself or her. Go with what the other guy said: rent a movie, alone, sit close etc. Movies always work. Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
hey GQ Guy, a well written post !!
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
I agree with GQ. If you act "hungry", you won't get "fed". Keep it all light as you lead her. If she wants it, she will follow. If she doesn't, don't make a big deal about it.
Posted by A&F_FootDude_05 (Member # 2999) on :
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: You never ask a woman for sex. That just doesn't work. You lead and if she wants to follow she will. Go with the movie idea. I'd go with a funny comedy though. That way the mood is lighthearted and fun...exactly the way you want your sex to be....just an extention of the fun you were having earlier. If sex is your goal...you will fail. Fun should be your goal..and if sex makes things more fun...go right ahead. I'm going to assume you haven't gotten physical with her at all. Hold her hand,tickle her push her give her a massage. Have fun! Play with her hair, when she gives you the strong eye contact get close to her face slowly and keep chatting, if she's up for a kiss this violation of her personal space won't bother her and she won't move. Go in and give her a good kiss. Stop the kiss first though. Women love/hate that. I know I do. This make her want to kiss you more. Kiss for a while and enjoy it! If you rush...you suck and she can tell. Proceed with some heavy petting and some clothes removal.......and you're on you own. I always start with oral on her first to reward her for her good behavior so far. There you go. Now after sex with your friend things will never be the same. You gus will probably start dating pretty seriously. Be carefull! GQguy
This advice is very helpful in my situation of just getting feet with a close friend of mine...thanks, GQ!
Posted by Elvzz (Member # 14178) on :
LovelyLadies and GQ, excellent advice...I think any movie would work except a movie where best friends hook-up - she'll know it is a set up.
Huge Clive Barker fan - scarry works too. I used to use Halloween back in the day. My Aunt worked in a county psych ward, (you wanna see hell - go to County - Cabrini Green is/was a resort compared, anyway) and was told to carry a Derringer for protection, since patients on physchotropic drugs may not ever stop, so you have to stop them - like Michael Meyers. The chics grabbed my hand when I told them that story. Weird gory scarry doesn't work.
If you can find a victim for SAW, that will get her squirming. 1408 is pretty creepy and what woman doesn't dig John Cusak since "Say Anything."
We cannot ask - they have to start and we finish - and I tell them right after the first halted kiss that you control, "Just so you know, this will only go as far as you let it."
We are already demonstrative, assumedly stronger - give up control. And then reward them like GQ said.
Posted by painter (Member # 17343) on :
dude just dive in,but u gotta be cool. actions are way louder than words, true that, good luck!
Posted by Nylon Toe Sucker (Member # 21491) on :
Hey LL, I'm in the same boat with ya, I'm 47, been friends with this chick who is 29, she always calls me her best bud, known her around 2 years but she seems to have off and on again relationships with a few guys. I believe she has ADHD, very attractive, see and talk to her just on the fly. We did have a nice kissing session about 1 1/2 ago, we have admitted we are both attracted to each other, I've been thinking like you, to try the right moment. We met in college, both of us are back trying to get a degree in the medical field. But just reading, everybody here also will help me out greatly too, Oh Yeah, her feet really turn me on, have giving her a foot massage, been thinking about telling her about my FF, I think she would understand. Good Luck, wish me some also. Happy Holidays to all.
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
Honestly, the best you can do is be around (and available) in case the opportunity arises. Fer cryin' out loud, don't let her know that this has even crossed your mind; only two possible outcomes if that happens: 1) you lose a friend 2) she dangles the possibility of a liaison in front of you, like a carrot, as she gets you to jump through hoops to try to win something she will never let you have. Remember, the best parties are the ones that are completely unplanned and unexpected. Apologies if this is perceived as misogynistic, I can only make the call on what I have consistently observed and, sadly, experienced. Have had sex with girls who were "friends" but it always came out of the blue. Don't try to even set the scene.
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
I agree with toetapper on most points. However, I don't think any guy should "be around (and available)". Availability puts guys in "the friend zone" because the girl looks at the guy as "always being there" for her. Once that pattern has been established of always being there for her, whether if it's to help her out with something, being her sound board to talk about how other guys have been "jerks" to her, etc., it's difficult for a woman to change the way she feels about a guy. While a guy may have some sort of attraction for a girl to some degree, the guy just can't "wait around", hoping that something will just happen out of the blue.
If you want to up the chances, date other women and make sure that the female friend is made aware of that fact. Just the simple fact of being what another woman, or other women, want verifies you on a social level and your value will come up in the female friend's eyes. It's human nature to want something that we can't have or can't have that easily.
Posted by solelvr2007 (Member # 20632) on :
Hell, just pop in a porn and go from there, it's '08!!!
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by Toetapper: Honestly, the best you can do is be around (and available) in case the opportunity arises. Fer cryin' out loud, don't let her know that this has even crossed your mind; only two possible outcomes if that happens: 1) you lose a friend 2) she dangles the possibility of a liaison in front of you, like a carrot, as she gets you to jump through hoops to try to win something she will never let you have. Remember, the best parties are the ones that are completely unplanned and unexpected. Apologies if this is perceived as misogynistic, I can only make the call on what I have consistently observed and, sadly, experienced. Have had sex with girls who were "friends" but it always came out of the blue. Don't try to even set the scene.
I agree with everything but the "don't sdet the scene part". It is possible to set a scene where your female friend will see you in a more sexual light. It's tough though. And by definition if the girl you want is the "greatest" it can't be done. But here we go. Short back story: In college I had just joined a fraternity and started hanging out at our parties with all of the sorority girls. I didn't know any of them. Well I knew one. I met her as a freshman and she was a sophmore. Standard hot blond with big boobs. Anyway she was the vice pres of her sorority when I joined my frat and every girl looked up to her. I hooked up with her at the sorority house which I though was a big mistake seeing as all of the girls found out about it. I was wrong, every girl in the house seemed game to hook up with me there after. Basically get a girl that your nest girl friend looks up to be attracted to you. Seeing this will make you far more attractive than really anything else you could do. Show the girl with "status" a good time in front of the female best friend and she'll see you in a much better light. Think about it GQguy
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