I have been divorced now for 4 years, during that time I have been looking for the right woman to spend the rest of my life with--not an easy task. So I must say I date alot and have met some pretty fantastic women that I really connected with, you know tons in common great conversation etc........THEN my foot fetish comes into play, BAM ! I don't like their feet.......I love feet so much, but sometimes I wish I didnt have this fetish
Posted by Wing-Washer (Member # 3013) on :
Sounds like foot standards are too high. I don't think foot lovers are the only ones who have this problem. I'd bet that some T&A guys have this problem as well. I wouldn't give up my love for feet for anything.
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
quote:Originally posted by Wing-Washer: I wouldn't give up my love for feet for anything.
me neither but i also would never allow my fetish to control my life and my decisions
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
Perhaps you're a little picky. Besides, if the lady's feet aren't to your standards you can help by paying for a pedicure!
Posted by wrinkleheaven (Member # 25648) on :
So "YOU" you mean to tell me that if you met the woman of your dreams and her feet were so very unatractive to you that you would still stay with her------------I THINK NOT!!!!!!!
Posted by wrinkleheaven (Member # 25648) on :
dougiezerts------------paint a female gorilla's toes and they are still a female gorilla's feet, your not getting what i'm saying here or you are not single and looking
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
you can think whatever you want, not my problem
Posted by wrinkleheaven (Member # 25648) on :
yea you have someone perhaps--------but to give advice and not totally put yourself in the other persons shoes (truthfully).........then one should hold back thier post
Posted by footaddict (Member # 28204) on :
There is nothing at all wrong with having a foot fetish...I love beautiful feet and I have always broken down that wall with lovers. Sometimes it was easy and then hard but eventually my desire to pamper and nurture their feet changed things.
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
i wasnt giving advice(you didnt ask for one), my comment reflects my opinion on the matter. i dont expect you to change your views/beliefs/habits, i just dont think its healthy to let your fetish control your life and confuse it with love for another person...i understand the part where you wish you didnt have the fetish but the fact is that you do and it will just take you potentially forever to find the perfect match.
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
A pedicure isn't just painting her toes. They also do things to soften her feet and get the dead skin and calluses off them. If you love a woman enough, the fact that her feet aren't up to your standards shouldn't be that much of a problem. And yes, I'm in a steady relationship!
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
no way, it's not a bad thing at all.
little kinky and pervy but it's all good Posted by Cain (Member # 8492) on :
I feel your pain here Wrinkle.... sometimes i just do not find women attractive because of their feet even when they are really pretty nice looking. I don't think, however, that a foot fetish is a bad thing you just need to learn to control it. But then again these ladies need to keep up their peds like our fine ladies that post on here.
Posted by octoberbaseball (Member # 20977) on :
With me as I have stated in other posts regarding feet and relationships, I feel as if a girl has a great personality then her feet and looks are more attractive to me. I wish I could say the opposite as in if a girl has a bad personality then I view her feet as ugly but I view it as a loss lol. Maybe continue to see this girl and if you begin to like her more and more then her feet will look more attractive. I'm not saying this will work 100 percent bc if I was going out with a girl but her feet were a lost cause in terms of looks and pedicures then drop it but I don't know of any girl who would make their feet look that bad.
Posted by Panic (Member # 21074) on :
its ok to be picky. I got married when I was thirty to a wonderful woman who accepts my fetish. Good things come to those with patience my friend.
Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by dougiezerts: Perhaps you're a little picky. Besides, if the lady's feet aren't to your standards you can help by paying for a pedicure!
haha if only a simple pedicure could make up for poorly shaped toes
my fetish has caused me to not be attracted to some pretty girls but it is no different than not liking a girl because her tits are small
Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :
Wrinkles: If the feet aren't up to your standard, then don't settle. Some people think a pedicure can fix it-- it won't. :bump
_fjb_
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
Some of the topics are very similar and my notions may be a little repetitious. I'll try a response from a different angle:
I'll bet that at some point you met a gal who, at first, was not appealing to you; perhaps, her voice was abrasive, for example, or, maybe, she had a mole that was distracting. As you got to know her and you found a mutual attraction growing, her voice became more musical or, when you looked at her, you didn't see so much the mole but the rest of her.
What I'm suggesting here is that you not let your fetish dictate your attraction but the other way around. As she becomes more attractive to you in total, I think that you'll find some things that you like about her feet that you hadn't noticed initially.
As for your question, I don't think that any fetish/preference is a bad thing as long as you rule it and it doesn't interfere with the conduct of your everyday activities. Don't be afraid to expand your horizons; perhaps, adding to your list of fetishes would be helpful.
Just because I prefer bourbon doesn't mean I won't enjoy sipping some Gran Marnier (as I'm doing now). Here's to you and ease to your troubles.
Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
Foot fetish a bad thing? Nope. I think having (foot) fetish gives one character. Pretty feet is one (screening) criteria used in deciding on a babe for me. Now, I don't let it be the sole (the end all, to be all) factor that decides, but it is a very, very high factor on my list. If her feet aren't exactly 100% bad ass (but, can pass a Wu screening, LOL ), I'll give her a chance; but she must bring other knockout qualities (a cutie, a bod, a juicy ass, a cool personality, smarts) to the table.
[ January 07, 2008, 01:33 AM: Message edited by: Footman9 ]
Posted by ashifechi (Member # 16477) on :
I often wish I didn't have this fetish, but I cannot change who I am.
My wife used to accept my fetish, or so I thought. She changed once we got married.
She calls me wierd and sick.
I wish I could find a woman who would accept me for who I am, including my fetish desires.
I have met quite a few women in the past who totally accpeted my fetish, but they were dominant and into things such as pain etc...
I don't mind dominance, but I am not into pain. Call me picky, but I just coldn't be with them.
Trust me, I understand it's more than finding a woman with "prefect feet." nIt's about finding a woman who will accpet you for who you are and you can feet completely free with.
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by wrinkleheaven: I date alot and have met some pretty fantastic women that I really connected with, you know tons in common great conversation etc........THEN my foot fetish comes into play, BAM ! I don't like their feet.......
I know where you're coming from- if I had to do it all over again I'd be VERY particular about her feet. Just couldn't help myself.
On the other hand I now absolutely adore my wife's feet, even though they're not perfect, because she indulges me and my fetish so adamantly and thoroughly. There's always hope that they could grow on you...(like toetapper alludes to above)
[ January 07, 2008, 07:46 AM: Message edited by: feetluvr ]
Posted by Nylon Toe Sucker (Member # 21491) on :
I'm glad that I can get so easily aroused by that part of a woman's physique beside all the other things that attract us to women, so no, like I've said on here before feet are so much more accessible, because how often are you going to see an attractive woman walking around butt naked right! Posted by oscarthemonkey (Member # 1692) on :
I can't say I got my dream feet until several years ago, and fortunately they came with my dream girl. I can't say I ever had a GF with horrible feet, most were pretty good. I have to say that It WOULD be a problem in relationships if the woman I was with had feet I really did not like. I would like to pretend that it's not the case, but.....
Posted by FootLongSub Zero (Member # 19380) on :
No Way! Feet are usually in full view and some-times sassed up with toe rings, strappy heels, flip-flops "where-as" T&A are usually covered. sometimes sassed up with g-strings, lingere which are not usually seen in public...
Consider us lucky. "Can I look at your feet?...." or "Can I look at your tits?..." which one sounds more comfortable saying? Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by ashifechi: I often wish I didn't have this fetish, but I cannot change who I am.
My wife used to accept my fetish, or so I thought. She changed once we got married.
She calls me wierd and sick.
damn
do you insult her back when she says this?
I know i would Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by Toetapper: Some of the topics are very similar and my notions may be a little repetitious. I'll try a response from a different angle:
I'll bet that at some point you met a gal who, at first, was not appealing to you; perhaps, her voice was abrasive, for example, or, maybe, she had a mole that was distracting. As you got to know her and you found a mutual attraction growing, her voice became more musical or, when you looked at her, you didn't see so much the mole but the rest of her.
What I'm suggesting here is that you not let your fetish dictate your attraction but the other way around. As she becomes more attractive to you in total, I think that you'll find some things that you like about her feet that you hadn't noticed initially.
As for your question, I don't think that any fetish/preference is a bad thing as long as you rule it and it doesn't interfere with the conduct of your everyday activities. Don't be afraid to expand your horizons; perhaps, adding to your list of fetishes would be helpful.
Just because I prefer bourbon doesn't mean I won't enjoy sipping some Gran Marnier (as I'm doing now). Here's to you and ease to your troubles.
I like this post alot. The attraction that I have for someone initially indicates nothing when it comes to a long term attraction. But if after hanging out with her awhile I find that my attraction for her keeps increasing, then I know i'm onto something good! Usually the feet thing is a trade off. Beautiful woman with so so feet or so so woman with beautiful feet. Either way after getting to know them thier physical short comings tend to become marginalized as I get to know her.
Posted by Zamora (Member # 1236) on :
For me, I am realistic with the foot fetish . I not only have a foot fetish, but my sub fetish is bastinado and tickling, which make things a lot harder. Not often does a girl, at least since the mid 90's and the revolution of footwear, reject a foot massage or foot play. Even if she is not into it, they do not mind that much. The few rejections are what they are, just few, not much different than rejections by a girl who gets turned off for any other reason, say blow jobs.
On the other hand, attraction to feet lasts forever. Feet do not change much, and if you are a sole fetish, 90% of the feet are OK and the rest can be overcome by pedicure to an acceptable standard. The ugly feet of Britney Spears and Paris Hilton do not come around in abundance.
The problem is not for the foot fetish, it is mostly with the sub fetish, if any. While sucking a girl's toes or licking her soles is not so challenging, getting her to be tickled or foot bastinadoed might prove extremely difficult.
Posted by wrinkleheaven (Member # 25648) on :
I'm not super picky--BUT, she has to have the BONER effect, you know sit down at the table and prop her bare feet up there, and if she's a cool chic and we get along good AND she's wise to the rise in my levi's that she made happen --BINGO--we have a match,,,,,,,,,,,still have not found that yet..........the search continues!!!!
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
Well wrinkles, judging from your avatar I can see the delimma. Feet like THAT are the BEST but also the RAREST! (where'd you find the pic anyway?) man if I had a woman with feet like that, I'd appreciate every single day and night of it.
Posted by scrunchlover (Member # 21542) on :
quote:Originally posted by wrinkleheaven: I have been divorced now for 4 years, during that time I have been looking for the right woman to spend the rest of my life with--not an easy task. So I must say I date alot and have met some pretty fantastic women that I really connected with, you know tons in common great conversation etc........THEN my foot fetish comes into play, BAM ! I don't like their feet.......I love feet so much, but sometimes I wish I didnt have this fetish
There are plenty of women, and at some point, you'll find someone who's feet you like.
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