i am curious to what is the normal amount of foot fetish activity to expect in a relationship?
During the course of being a wus' forum member the last year or so i have come to learn a lot about my fetish. i now find myself a lot more comfortable with it and compare myself to many others on the forum...something i probably shouldnt do.
i am a little dissatisfied in my relationship. would probably put myself in category 4 as my girlfriend and i have arguements cos she refuses to paint her toe nails. i end up repeatedly asking for stuff cos it wont happen by itself. apparently its all my fault.
somedays i thinks things are promising, my girlfriend is happy with it. i recieve a great footjob. i forget about footjobs for a week. i stay cheerfull and then weeks pass me by of being let down.
By finding out just how many people are in a similar situation as me may just help put things is perspective. all i know is im extremely jealous of the the big guns on here who have wives that do anything and love the attention.
im stuck with a girl whom i love and who can be sweet as anything but sex is on and off. it confuses the shit out of me and im looking for a way out or an answer. i just had a terrible night of rejection and arguements and am so incredibly pissed off
[ May 31, 2008, 08:10 PM: Message edited by: lamp ]
Posted by FtLckr26 (Member # 13998) on :
I was between the first two choices. I chose the first one because I can have my wifes feet any time. When we have sex, her feet are 90% of the time involved. Sometimes we'll go a week or two without sex, but even during those days, I still get to kiss and lick her feet.
Very satisfied with my relationship. Couldn't ask for anything better.
Posted by Tiny Dave (Member # 30771) on :
I just got out of relationship where there was sex then there was no more sex nada nothing she said she she just wanted to be friends from there on.
We went from a very hot relationship to just friendship deal and marriage went out the window a fewdays later so I just caled it quits.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
i will say this.. i'm a happy camper, but i've accepted the fact my wife won't partake to the level i ever want. she's got it bad.. .meaning.. i not only like her feet, but love heels and like how she looks in heels. so.. it's not just the feet.. it's the heel wearing and hose wearing.
but.. she makes an effort. i can play with her feet anytime i want (unless she had a bad day at work). her moods don't change all that much, but some periods.. she doesn't want to be bothered.
i've changed my perspective. i'm able to get feet any time.. it could have been worse. i could be single trying to get feet altogether and not know when i'll have the next set. with me.. i've got my wife.. and she's always there.
could it be better, heck yeah.. do i fuss like i used to.. no.. makes things a lot worse.
figuratively speakin.. i'd like for her to do heels and feet things at least two or three times a week. for her (minus outings that require heels).. she'll do it once every 30 to 90 days. so.. i've come to rely heavily on outings (almost weekly) to get some satisfaction.
it's a give and take. she loves to tickle me.. and poke me. i hate it with a passion! in exchange for not being tickled..i don't pester her about heels.. but enjoy the feet.
hope all this helps you out some.
RPM
p.s. i gave up 'hating' the ones who have the girl who will do anything, but they're not interested in what she'll do. waste of my time. i just focus on what i have!
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
I opted not to answer the poll as it would skew the results. The only long lasting relationship I've been able to maintain is the one I have with myself.
To my credit, I am patient, understanding and very forgiving. Additionally, I have never denied myself sex whenever I wanted it or any other sexual pleasure I have desired. As satisfied as I am with my relationship, I have agreed that I'd like to expand it into a kinky long-term 2-way with a girl. I have been looking but candidates for such an unusual arrangement are hard to come by.
Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
interesting. thanks for your answers.
i've been battling in my head where i can improve or whether to ditch the relationship for sometime.
i still feel there is slow progress for me even if im not quite there yet. perhaps i'll never be satisfied if i dont let myself.
last night my girlfriend promised a footjob and made a huge fuss about painting her toe nails (i've been asking for months) but if i dont ask, i dont get!
we had a huge argument and now this morning she apologises and tell me tonight she will do it for me..yet now i feel like i've bullied her into it.
For me it hasnt been an easy ride but i just hope all this work and discussion with my partner pays off
Posted by Gameon (Member # 20877) on :
Not the best options in the world mate
I'm between 1 and 2. I choose 1 as when I see my GF, 3 times a week, I always get feet action but not always sex!
Always get to sniff, lick, suck, rub her feet and get to see her in heels, go shoe shopping etc and also get feet jobs regulary too!
Posted by Leila (Member # 30422) on :
have you ever asked her if it would be easier if you offered her a pedicure twice a month? cuz me i love having my feet look good, but painting my nails always takes sooo long... it's a pain in the ass to do it and something is always wrong in the end. so in the end I get around to doing it what? every 2 month? maybe even less...
Posted by babeflover (Member # 2953) on :
I didn't vote because i felt none of those describe my situation correctly. with me, i'm completely satisfy because my wife would let me have her feet whenever i want. the same goes for sexual intercourse. she also loves that her feet turn me on so much, she loves my love for her feet and keeps her feet in top condition all the time. she loves to wear sexy shoes for me.
PS: just last night(5/31), we settled down to have a few drinks before sex, she placed her lovely feet on my lap while we watch TV, and i sniffed, kissed and admired her sexy feet for about two hours. life is really good, a feet-life that is.LOL
Posted by LuckyTeen (Member # 30822) on :
100% happy , I am, I see my GF on average five times a week, everytime she requests foot worship and everytime we have sex unless one of us is ill or we are just relaxing together watching a film or out. On sunday we saw Jimmy Carr live. Hilarious!
Sometimes we don't do it but if we go too long without foot fun she starts asking again, other times if her feet come near me I will automatically start. Posted by Sole-fan1 (Member # 22623) on :
Very dissatisfied. The wife hates my foot fetish and sex, whats that? I'm heading to the strip club today to meet a dancer I have been chatting with. She is a 21yo black hottie that loves to have her toes sucked!!! If I get some pics I'll post them....
Posted by FtLckr26 (Member # 13998) on :
Lamp: what you've told us, have you told her? I know you said you've told her you want her to paint her nails and engage in foot activities, but have you explained it to her the way you've explained it to us? Maybe you should let her read what you posted, and what others have posted. Unless she's totally disgusted by foot fetish, there has to be some kind of compromise if she truly cares for you.
Posted by Tiny Dave (Member # 30771) on :
My choice in the vote was the bottom one.
Posted by oscarthemonkey (Member # 1692) on :
I'm in 100% happy in every aspect of my relationship with my wife. I consider myself the luckiest man in the world!
Posted by Uno1 (Member # 2883) on :
quote:Originally posted by Toetapper: I opted not to answer the poll as it would skew the results.
I wish more people would set these things so that you could view results without answering.
Anyway, I have a possibly extended trip planned to the UK, and I'm hoping, among other things, to find a nice relationship there . Hope I'll find the kind of nice situation that certain others here have found.
[ June 01, 2008, 02:54 PM: Message edited by: Uno1 ]
Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
tough one. i think you need to be a little more understanding to your gf. have you ever asked her why she refuses you so much? i think placing so much emphasis on feet AND sex. perhaps there are some issues with the relationship on other levels? how my wife and i connect emotionally completely affects how we are in bed.
Posted by skooter (Member # 5272) on :
In a relationship where I can have it at anytime, and on times it’s been her telling me to get down the other end of the bed.
She didn’t really understand at first but now she is well into it. She loves the role play that she doesn’t know me and I sneak into the bedroom and suck her toes and lick the bottom of her feet.
Just can beat it. She has jumped in with both feet. Excuse the pun LOL.
[ June 02, 2008, 02:36 PM: Message edited by: skooter ]
Posted by GoddessFonda (Member # 20038) on :
quote:Originally posted by lamp: interesting. thanks for your answers.
i've been battling in my head where i can improve or whether to ditch the relationship for sometime.
i still feel there is slow progress for me even if im not quite there yet. perhaps i'll never be satisfied if i dont let myself.
last night my girlfriend promised a footjob and made a huge fuss about painting her toe nails (i've been asking for months) but if i dont ask, i dont get!
we had a huge argument and now this morning she apologises and tell me tonight she will do it for me..yet now i feel like i've bullied her into it.
For me it hasnt been an easy ride but i just hope all this work and discussion with my partner pays off
OKAY HERE IS MY OPINION...IGNORE HER FEET...I KNOW IT IS HARD, BUT SOMETIMES WOMEN LIKE TO WORK FOR IT, IT SOUNDS CRAZY BUT I AM THE SAME WAY AT TIMES, SHE WILL REALIZE THAT SHE NEEDS TO PLEASE YOU IF SHE LOVES YOU, REALTIONSHIPS ARE A TWO WAY STREET, LET HER WONDER WHY YOU DONT ASK ANYMORE...AND THEN YOU PROBABLY WONT HAVE TO ASK...AT LEAST FOR AWILE LOL!
Posted by LAlegs (Member # 30367) on :
I am with Goddess - Not really into guys that reveal themselves too much - I like to be the guy sometimes. lol.
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
Meh... I was away from my g/f for about a month and just reunited with her this past weekend..she let me fuck her feet two nights in a row and were gearing up for some sex(no toots though..her rule) tomorrow. I don't agree...that's like me saying..you can't cum...it's taking a part out of sex which I don't think is very cool at all...have to have a chat before hand...or I'll just say fuck it and grab her toots and start sucking while I'm fucking! Posted by ToeLuvinFirefighter (Member # 2688) on :
I must say this was an interesting post... I would say that I am 100 percent satisfied in our relationship, both sexually and non.... I look around at many of our friends and the guys I work with and see that I am much luckier than they are.
I would say that the on average we have "alone time" 4-6 times a week. I'm very sexually driven and lucky enough to have a women who supports my needs. This has been consistant for about 10 years now...
Also lucky as Kim loves being barefoot, painting her nails and keeping them soft and hot. I never have to ask, although I may suggest a different color here and there.
During our alone times, sometimes it involves her feet but other times it does not. Just this past weekend as we were floating on the boat alone she pulled my cock out and gave me an incredible foot job right on the boat in the daylight... Things like that keep the spark alive.. And on occassion, I wish my sexual drive wasn't so high as I could leave her alone for more than 24 hours...LOL
Posted by *@LeX-RaGe* (Member # 22983) on :
I cannot complain not one bit about me and my GF, we have sex almost everytime were together and not 2 mention all the footjobs she gives..at first she was so shy about pleasing me with her feet but the more she did it, the better it got. now she sends me pics of her feet to my phone with comments like, "Your penis belongs here" or "i'll milk u dry with these"..xoxo I am FuCkinG LuCkY..! ^_^
Posted by justdaone (Member # 16096) on :
I've never had someone so open and understanding to it before! Another reason I was glad to marry her.
Posted by skooter (Member # 5272) on :
If you do find a lady that gets your fetish, it’s a god send. It makes everything in the relationship bond together. Constantly bothering someone for something they are not into or that they don’t understand just gets their back up, and god I have been in relationships like that.
It makes the relationship very hard work. Its taken me till I am 35 to find a women who takes an active part, and the sex we have if bloody great. She makes the effort to have pedicures and to French polish her toes.
Makes the effort to ask what color I would like to see her nails or am I happy with the French polish. Constantly moisturizes her feet so that they are soft for me.
It is very hard to find a women like this, but when you do find them hang on to them for deal life. I know I am not going anywhere and would never look at other women.
My girlfriend is funny, leggy and such a lovely person, and we have such a great relationship. Job done. We will grow old together and let’s just hope I am still supple enough to make it down the bottom of the bed when I am 90 LOL
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. Hope I'll find the kind of nice situation that certain others here have found.