You're going out on your first date with a girl. Do you ask her to take her shoes off and let you look at her feet right away, or wait a little while? (Assuming you've never really seen her feet, except in shoes, up to that point!)
[ June 14, 2008, 07:34 PM: Message edited by: dougiezerts ]
Posted by Wing-Washer (Member # 3013) on :
different situations == different game plans
Posted by FtLckr26 (Member # 13998) on :
Like every female I've gone out with, I won't ask to see her feet. I'll wait until she bares them. Usually its while she's at home, being comfortable walking around barefoot. I didn't get to see my wifes feet until after 2 months of dating. I went to her apartment and she had just gotten out of the shower and was walking around barefoot. Couple minutes later she put on socks.
Posted by justdaone (Member # 16096) on :
I usually just waited for the opportunity. Sooner or later you're bound to see her feet!
Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :
If I think I'm/we [are} interested in a LTR, I'll definitely wait. If I really don't see possibilities, I'd probably go for broke and at least try for some foot action. Anyway, I voted the 2nd choice.
_fjb_ Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
ask up front. save ya both time
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
I saw my girlfriend's feet--even touched them a bit--long before we started dating. We worked in the same office together, so I often saw her with her shoes off.
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
Responses 2 & 4 were so similar that I had some difficulty choosing. Finally went with 4.
I have to admire Tyler D. for his boldness and brevity. It is not that I'm shy but just can't bring myself, somewhere between the shrimp cocktail and the French onion soup, to say, "O.K. kick the shoes off and put those peds on the table, I wanna see how long this night is going to last".
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
To which she says, "It's going to be a short night for you, buster!: Posted by A&F_FootDude_05 (Member # 2999) on :
Had to go with the first option Douglezerts presented and it isn't just due to the importance of the feet, and the idea of waiting till later you like her and her feet are SHIT but it's more about being bold and letting her know your feet thing - not necessarily calling it a fetish - from the getgo. The great Calico Jack lived by that idea.
Posted by footgirl0226 (Member # 29201) on :
Well if feet to you are like a turn on like breasts to someone else- act as such. Would you tell a first date to see her breasts?
Just saying... Then again - like Tyler said - you could just save time lol
Posted by dicklipschitz (Member # 127) on :
I've mentioned this before, but I went for broke on our first date. We had worked together for a while, so our date actually was me making dinner at my apartment. She came in and kicked off her shoes. She had the cutest feet -- pretty red nail polish. I noticed that she had done so, and she noticed me noticing, and she asked if it was OK. I said, "It's quite OK ... you have very pretty feet," and then went back to chopping the green peppers.
Later that evening, after dinner, while we sat talking, she swung her legs onto the couch, near my thigh. I said, "Swing 'em up here, in my lap," and then proceeded to give her a foot rub. She said, jokingly, "You're a foot guy, aren't you?" I smiled, laughed, and said, "Yeah ... what's your point?"
We've been together for 18 years.
By the way, you'll notice that I used the same approach -- honesty -- in the thread about being caught staring at women's feet. The worst that can happen is that the woman won't be interested in talking to you anymore. The best that can happen is, well, pretty damn good. You just have to be charming about it ... you can't be creepy.
Cheers, DL
Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
I voted for wait a little bit, until it feels right. It would seem to me that the only way I might see a girl's feet on the first date would be if we started dating in the warm weather, and she wore sandals or flip flops on the date. How would it look to a girl I barely know, and am trying to get to know, if I asked to see her feet on the first date? If that doesnt scream :"foot fetish", I dont know what does. It would also likely creep out some people, and make them not want to date you again.
Say, for example, I started dating someone in the winter, and we were comfortable at her apartment, and had engaged in some intmacy, kissing, etc, even if not sex, then maybe at that point it might seem like the appropriate time to start "feeling her out about the feet". whether by offering her a foot massage, or broaching the subject, etc, but first date, unless it happened in the summer, and she was wearing sandals that exposed her feet already, no way.
Mitch
Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
none of the above. i dont ask cause i dont.. or didnt.. date women because of their feet. as far as asking them to take their shoes off.. no wonder so many ppl see us as freaks. i wouldnt ever ask a woman to pull her pants down so i could see her cootch nor take her top off to see her boobs.. why is it any different especially to US?
Posted by Foot Lover Of London (Member # 2420) on :
Voted on the "Depends on the situation2 But it was a close call between that and wait until it feels right...I normally wait until I invite them around to my place for dinner. Normally pop there shoes or heels off shortly after arriving.with a reply "my heels are killing my feet" then I may reply with i like your polish etc. And leave it until a little later to bring up the subject again...
Posted by AliasnameTO (Member # 29734) on :
I'd say don't ask, wait until she bares her feet. For me it's easy, as I'm just out of hs in Florida, and all the girls my age are pretty much barefoot/flip-flops ALL the time. If you get to a point where she's barefoot, just casually start tickling and massaging her feet. After enough of that you can confess that you have an affinity for feet. I did it, and it turned out that my gf had a fetish too! It was great, but we never did anything with it before breaking up.
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It was great, but we never did anything with it before breaking up.