So what's the best way to describe your fetish for pretty feet? Just this weekend I described it as a "weakness" for pretty feet to a new woman i'm seeing Kat. Last weekend I described it as a "thing" for pretty feet and mentioned that I gave the best foot massages to Syd. But only to chics with cute feet. Then I further let her know that she had to earn the massage. I've done it countless ways but these are the most recent. Here is one other: " I hope you don't have bear paws for feet or our relationship is over before we start" The above statement works well with women that have good self esteem and take care of their feet. It also helps if she like you too.
How do you guys break that ice? For me it's important to gauge what her attitude is like toward one of my passions early on. There are always plenty of fish in the sea. Especially in Scottsdale AZ and Tempe!
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: How do you guys break that ice?
depends on the scenario or the girl, but say for a stranger in a parking lot who I've followed out of walmart:
"curious maam, where do you get your nails done?"
or a more direct approach:
"hey gotta question, what size shoe do you wear?"
two great icebreakers to get women to pose their feet privately for your perversions (after you get a quick chance to explain the off the wall questions).
Posted by High_Arch_Analyst (Member # 28756) on :
I usually just say I like feet, or have a little thing for feet. I just leave it at that unless they probe me for details.
Rarely will I just offer up such info unless the context of the conversation warrants. It comes off way more natural and appropriate then.
The hi my name is "insert name" followed up too soon with I have a thing for feet bit is a sure fire way to be labeled a creep more often than necessary.
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
I wait until I feel that she is very comfortable with me and has some sense of my character; only then do I mention it and I'm very frank about it. I've never brought it up in casual conversation.
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
I'll have to take notes from you guys if the day comes that I'm ever single again. Like when I'm 94 and I outlive my old lady! Grabbing a notepad... Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
GQ, i love how you call it a thing or a weakness. i think the word 'fetish' conjures ALOT of negative thoughts. i told one potential swinger playmate that i had a foot fetish and my wife told me after that i should say i have a preference or i like pretty feet and that telling a girl that i have a foot fetish can come across a little creepy.. and she is 110% understanding and encouraging about it.
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
Just be happy LaDaemon that you are out of the dating scene. Its not as glamorious as these studs make it out to be. At least you have a steady and safe flow of foot activity right where you are now !!!
Posted by DownUnderFeet (Member # 31117) on :
I have always just said I appreciate pretty feet and only mention it is sexual when I plan on getting into their socks. It is not something everyone needs to know. It has never just come up in conversation either. Maybe someone can steer me towards girls who readily talk about that stuff because I haven't found them.
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
quote:Originally posted by ozboy: Just be happy LaDaemon that you are out of the dating scene. Its not as glamorious as these studs make it out to be. At least you have a steady and safe flow of foot activity right where you are now !!!
Definitely wasn't knocking it. I have been out of the dating scene for 18 years now. It does make a guy like myself wonder how foolish I would appear to have to thrust myself back into that after being married for a long while.
Two of my buddies are recently divorced and one is married again to a 20 something and the other is dating a 20 something. Their new gals ain't hot at all either. Just young. That reminds me of the line from a movie: "If she was any younger you'd be dating sperm!"
Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
quote: getting into their socks
classic foot fetish vocabulary! thanks!
Posted by longhitter04 (Member # 2391) on :
GQ, I couldn't have said it better. Perfect delivery!!!!!
Especially adding that she has to earn the foot massage.
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: There are always plenty of fish in the sea.
I know this is an old topic and all, but that statement makes me feel like asking, are all the fish the same? As in, am I deluded if I feel that one girl is somehow special?
Posted by catsman (Member # 10269) on :
Actually they start the conversation with asking me what do I like about women, and I turn it to what I do not like, and that is unkept or not cared for feet, and then I'll say I LOVE well cared feet....and that is usually a turn on for them, knowing that a guy appreciates the effort they make to take care of their feet.
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
I might make a compliment on their feet--"Nice toenails"--and if they ask if I have a thing for feet, I'll come clean!
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
I don't randomly blurt shit like that out to someone I don't know or have just met. Guys here wonder why they get bad reactions or they call the woman close minded when they don't like the comment. Randomly saying "cute ass" or "I have a thing for tits" is basically what your saying...so why do guys seem dumbfounded by girls that give bad reactions?
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by DeadGoon:
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: There are always plenty of fish in the sea.
I know this is an old topic and all, but that statement makes me feel like asking, are all the fish the same? As in, am I deluded if I feel that one girl is somehow special?
Yes. There are 100's of thousands of women in the world you can fall in love with. All of them have feet. We delude ourselves into thinking at times that one woman in our tiny part of the globe is it, when that isn't the case. Just my opinion though. Believing that one other person is their soulmate makes it so though. GQguy
Posted by AliasnameTO (Member # 29734) on :
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: Yes. There are 100's of thousands of women in the world you can fall in love with. All of them have feet. We delude ourselves into thinking at times that one woman in our tiny part of the globe is it, when that isn't the case. Just my opinion though. Believing that one other person is their soulmate makes it so though. GQguy
I have to disagree. Although yes, I believe there are thousands of women in the world who could fall in love with any one of thousands of men. But the problems come in locating them, and the chances that they will fall in love with you. It sounds pessimistic, but I'm very selective of whom I'd consider for a serious relationship. Being as far from an "average guy" as you can imagine, I'm only attracted to comparatively unique girls as well. I'm not saying they have to be really freaky, just not your typical Jane Doe.
Although pretty feet are not a real priority for me in looking for a gf (unless they're really unacceptably heinous), telling somebody you like feet in some way or another seems to me like a make-or-break scenario. They'll either appreciate the fact that you're open with them and feel flattered by the compliment, or think of you as a weirdo and decline. The ones that decline just based on that are probably too shallow in their judgment, and it would not be a fulfilling relationship anyway.
Posted by Bootman (Member # 1280) on :
quote:Originally posted by GQguy:
quote:Originally posted by DeadGoon:
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: There are always plenty of fish in the sea.
I know this is an old topic and all, but that statement makes me feel like asking, are all the fish the same? As in, am I deluded if I feel that one girl is somehow special?
Yes. There are 100's of thousands of women in the world you can fall in love with. All of them have feet. We delude ourselves into thinking at times that one woman in our tiny part of the globe is it, when that isn't the case. Just my opinion though. Believing that one other person is their soulmate makes it so though. GQguy
well put GQ. Glad somebody sees this in as broad a sense at it should be.
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
Alright then. So I guess the best solution to get over it is to meet as many girls as possible then?
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by pedactor: with that said, that's why i like traveling, because things are fresh and new.. plus the girls seem to notice me more when im out of state...
Hey thanks for reminding me about that It's true! You're in a different environment and everything else is behind you. It seems to work.
Posted by cs (Member # 9338) on :
the term "foot fetish" is in the general lexicon. You can use euphemisms if you'd like, but every time I've told a girl I "have a thing for feet" they've responded "oh, you have a foot fetish!"
Here's what it comes down to, if you make the chick comfortable first, you can skip the euphemisms, if you don't make the chick comfortable, your verbiage hardly matters.
Posted by footpimp2005 (Member # 27107) on :
I wouldn't just blurt shit out but I would say that confidence plays a HUGE part in her reaction. For me, I wear my foot fetish like a badge of honor, dude! U Can't catch AIDS or any other STD from sniffin on toes, brother...lol...
But on the REAL, women love confident men and once you get up the courage to embrace your fetish, let her know. Along with that, act as if you could care less if she likes it or not - that shows moxy and tells her that there are PLENTY of other ladies out their that will appreciate your love of feet.
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Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
quote:Originally posted by DeadGoon: Alright then. So I guess the best solution to get over it is to meet as many girls as possible then?
Any old-time traveling salesman will tell you that you've got to knock on a hundred doors to get one to open - a thousand for one to let you in and that's where you make your sale.
Start knockin', man...you never know if it is the 1st or the 1000th door that will let you in.
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
quote:Originally posted by cs: the term "foot fetish" is in the general lexicon. You can use euphemisms if you'd like, but every time I've told a girl I "have a thing for feet" they've responded "oh, you have a foot fetish!"
Here's what it comes down to, if you make the chick comfortable first, you can skip the euphemisms, if you don't make the chick comfortable, your verbiage hardly matters.
My heartiest agreement. I've said this many times here, if you allow a woman to get to know you, your character & nature, your eccentricities are perceived as a part of your make-up and become immaterial or an invitation to adventure.
Sorry about the double post. Haven't figured out how to do two quotes in one post...I'm old and incompetent, OK?
Posted by Toesucker85 (Member # 16795) on :
Lmao!!! DeadGoon's avatar is funny as hell! lol
Posted by Toesucker85 (Member # 16795) on :
if i want them to know i have a foot fetish i just send little hints as i get to know her. like for instance a friend is resting her feet in a chair at work i walk by and pinch her toes and smile and she giggles. some girls will begin to ask u foot q's if u give them enough foot play and thats one of the ways i use to break the ice. but make sure that u guage that she is the playful open-minded type first before making any physical moves.
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It's true! You're in a different environment and everything else is behind you. It seems to work.