Is it really all about feet? Or is it all about finding a partner/companion? Would you rather have one woman in your life that you really connect with, or a new woman every week that indulged in your fetish?
I think we'll recieve many differing answers within this very diverse group.
Perhaps our foot fetishes have several different origins in our psychology?
GQguy
Posted by ToeLuvinFirefighter (Member # 2688) on :
That is a hard question to answer for me.. As Kim is both my sole mate, wife and best friend. As well, she has awesome feet with nice wrinkled soles, nice aroma and loves foot play to every degree. I guess I was lucky in finding both.
Posted by Feeties (Member # 10561) on :
Definitely finding a partner/companion. If it wasn't, I wouldn't be with a lady 5000 miles away that I was only able to see once in real life so far.. (Who is also my first girlfriend, I am 20.) I'm not a player. I have no desire to have many girls. It doesn't excite me to teach someone who I am ever other day. It's tiring already. lol
Posted by Michael P (Member # 1922) on :
new woman every week
if you ate your favorite food every day for the rest of your life, it wouldn't taste so good after awhile
just because you think somebody is "the one" today doesn't mean you will think the same 5 years from now
Posted by jg24fans (Member # 18305) on :
Thats tricky, because I seriously doubt that i would carry on a serious relationship with a woman with ugly feet or who was grossed out about the fetish. That being said I dont need feet to enjoy myself with a woman, but it defintely adds to it. Luckily I have been with the same woman for almost 20 years and she likes the foot play, but if something would ever happen my new partner would defintely have to have decent feet and not be put off by it.
Posted by vanderfeet (Member # 8733) on :
quote:Originally posted by Michael P: new woman every week
if you ate your favorite food every day for the rest of your life, it wouldn't taste so good after awhile
just because you think somebody is "the one" today doesn't mean you will think the same 5 years from now
I've heard that analogy before and it never made any sense to me. I can't remember the last time I felt a spiritual or romantic connection to food.
Posted by Michael P (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by vanderfeet:
quote:Originally posted by Michael P: new woman every week
if you ate your favorite food every day for the rest of your life, it wouldn't taste so good after awhile
just because you think somebody is "the one" today doesn't mean you will think the same 5 years from now
I've heard that analogy before and it never made any sense to me. I can't remember the last time I felt a spiritual or romantic connection to food.
the point is no matter how much you like or love something, it has the possibilty to get old and lose it's appeal over time
the divorce rate is at about 50%, not to mention the amount of couples that feel trapped in their marriage, so i'd say a lot of people lose this "spiritual or romantic" connection you speak of
Posted by Danielle Moore (Member # 34633) on :
If we bring the divorce rate into the equation, then you need to examine why it is high? Personally I believe it is high because people settle. Speaking from experience, Women especially are in such a rush to get married, have children etc, that we settle on the first man that comes along. That's why we attach ourselves to men so quickly. It's in our programming. Men on the other hand get involved in a relationship and settle in nicely, find their comfort zone and then feel obligated to take the next step, Marriage. After all, the grass is green :-)
Fast Forward 5 Years and VOILA, grass is no longer green, it's greener at the neighbors house, so logically a Divorce emerges. Why? Because the man settles, the woman is in a rush to get married, especially as she ages. Both people in the marriage settled and didn't have the time, patience or courage to find their soul mate/sole mate...lol If we ALL took the time to get what we wanted in a partner and not settle, in my opinion the divorce rate would be lower because the grass would always be green in your own yard.
What I am trying to say is, if you have a foot fetish, then don't settle on a woman that doesn't support you with it. It's part of you and whoever you are with, needs to accept it as part of you.
So date all you want, but in the end, when you choose your partner, make sure he or she supports everything about you, including your foot fetish. Otherwise, you might as well fast forward 5 years and save yourself thousands in legal fees.
Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
quote: What I am trying to say is, if you have a foot fetish, then don't settle on a woman that doesn't support you with it. It's part of you and whoever you are with, needs to accept it as part of you.
conversely, dont settle for a woman because she is indulgent in your fetish.
quote: the point is no matter how much you like or love something, it has the possibilty to get old and lose it's appeal over time
that is something with which i vehemently disagree. if you dont settle, if you take your time, if you truly wait and find the right person for you, you have a good chance at finding someone who wont 'bore' you over time.
then again, maybe i am the wrong person to speak about this coming from a married couple who swings. i do know though that being with other people has only reinforced what it's like to be with each other.
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
Danielle,
quote: If we bring the divorce rate into the equation, then you need to examine why it is high? Personally I believe it is high because people settle.
At the end of the day EVERYONE settles on one level or another. There is no such thing as a "perfect" match. Each partner has certain characteristics that we need them to have, but they may be lacking in one or two areas, thats life. Relationships fail because people stop working on them period. Relationships require maintenance to continue to flourish. The divorce rate is high now days because people are selfish and only care for number one.
I have a massive foot fetish, I'm crazy about girls feet and toes. For me pretty feet, footjobs and a partner who is dextrous with her toes are the essence of what I require in a life partner. My current girlfriend is a wonderful person. she is pretty, kind and supportive of me in every way including my love of female feet. However she doesnt have nice feet and I dont enjoy FJs from her. Yes I have settled in this regard but she has some many many other wonderful qualities.
How do I deal with this ? I get a foot fix from a foot session once in a while to keep me going. Is this wrong ? I dont think so, we do what we can to survive. To push this girl out the door beacuse her feet are ugly isnt an option now. To go without a foot fix also isnt sustainable, hence the situation.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by ozboy: Danielle,
quote: If we bring the divorce rate into the equation, then you need to examine why it is high? Personally I believe it is high because people settle.
At the end of the day EVERYONE settles on one level or another. There is no such thing as a "perfect" match. Each partner has certain characteristics that we need them to have, but they may be lacking in one or two areas, thats life. Relationships fail because people stop working on them period. Relationships require maintenance to continue to flourish. The divorce rate is high now days because people are selfish and only care for number one.
I have a massive foot fetish, I'm crazy about girls feet and toes. For me pretty feet, footjobs and a partner who is dextrous with her toes are the essence of what I require in a life partner. My current girlfriend is a wonderful person. she is pretty, kind and supportive of me in every way including my love of female feet. However she doesnt have nice feet and I dont enjoy FJs from her. Yes I have settled in this regard but she has some many many other wonderful qualities.
How do I deal with this ? I get a foot fix from a foot session once in a while to keep me going. Is this wrong ? I dont think so, we do what we can to survive. To push this girl out the door beacuse her feet are ugly isnt an option now. To go without a foot fix also isnt sustainable, hence the situation.
My mom and dad married when my mom was 21 and pop 25. Grandma and granddad married when she was 18 and he was 26. The marriages that lasted from generations ago didn't last because they found the one. The gender roles and the concept of team play were stronger then as they are now. Divorce was not an option back then. Now it is.
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
One girl Posted by Danielle Moore (Member # 34633) on :
There are obviously more than one reason as to why a marriage fails. I was simply pointing out one that related to the foot fetish enthusiast.
Is it wrong to go outside the relationship to get a fj from a model or someone other than your partner? I think that question is only answered by the relationship itself and the boundaries that both people in the relationship are comfortable with.
In having said that, if your current GF wouldn't approve and you are doing it behind her back, then you might want to examine your relationship and your expectations of a relationship. How long can you or anyone go behind their partners back to get a FJ session from a model before your partner notices? If she was to find out, how much pain would your actions be inflicting on her? Is it worth it? If she is not comfortable with you, as her trusted partner, going elsewhere to get a FJ and you can't live without it, then perhaps the possibility of you 2 being incompatible exists.
I am not saying this is the case, I am just simply pointing out a possibility in your situation that you might want to think about.
I have stayed in relationships in the past because it was comfortable and I thought I would be happy if I could grow to like his quirks. The thing is, if you notice his or her quirks in the beginning of a relationship, then 5 years later, they will destroy you and the relationship. Time is better served searching for someone that is more compatible from the start.
More Food For Thought.
Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
quote: The marriages that lasted from generations ago didn't last because they found the one. The gender roles and the concept of team play were stronger then as they are now. Divorce was not an option back then.
agreed 100% GQ. they (not specifically your 'rents and grand'rents) stayed together exactly because divorce wasnt an option. in a way, its been a good option. in a way its been bad. good because now women (or men) are not tied down to an abusive, selfish, or just a bad spouse. it's been bad because it also is a quick easy fix for a problem which is typical in our society. if it's hard to do, it's not worth doing is our motto it seems. why put time and effort into working thru a marriage and communicate when you can cut your losses and fine a new model. we are a society demanding immediate gratification and it has extended to our relationships.
Posted by zappa1968 (Member # 27279) on :
Is it really all about feet?....for me yes!
Posted by Michael P (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by Danielle Moore: If we bring the divorce rate into the equation, then you need to examine why it is high? Personally I believe it is high because people settle. Speaking from experience, Women especially are in such a rush to get married, have children etc, that we settle on the first man that comes along. That's why we attach ourselves to men so quickly. It's in our programming. Men on the other hand get involved in a relationship and settle in nicely, find their comfort zone and then feel obligated to take the next step, Marriage. After all, the grass is green :-)
Fast Forward 5 Years and VOILA, grass is no longer green, it's greener at the neighbors house, so logically a Divorce emerges. Why? Because the man settles, the woman is in a rush to get married, especially as she ages. Both people in the marriage settled and didn't have the time, patience or courage to find their soul mate/sole mate...lol If we ALL took the time to get what we wanted in a partner and not settle, in my opinion the divorce rate would be lower because the grass would always be green in your own yard.
What I am trying to say is, if you have a foot fetish, then don't settle on a woman that doesn't support you with it. It's part of you and whoever you are with, needs to accept it as part of you.
So date all you want, but in the end, when you choose your partner, make sure he or she supports everything about you, including your foot fetish. Otherwise, you might as well fast forward 5 years and save yourself thousands in legal fees.
I agree oftentimes people settle, but not always
sometimes the spark just dies
Posted by Michael P (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by nusuth:
quote: What I am trying to say is, if you have a foot fetish, then don't settle on a woman that doesn't support you with it. It's part of you and whoever you are with, needs to accept it as part of you.
conversely, dont settle for a woman because she is indulgent in your fetish.
quote: the point is no matter how much you like or love something, it has the possibilty to get old and lose it's appeal over time
that is something with which i vehemently disagree. if you dont settle, if you take your time, if you truly wait and find the right person for you, you have a good chance at finding someone who wont 'bore' you over time.
then again, maybe i am the wrong person to speak about this coming from a married couple who swings. i do know though that being with other people has only reinforced what it's like to be with each other.
how do you know somebody won't bore you over time? the perfect person today could be the wrong person 10 years from now
and yeah this coming from a swinger does kinda make this comment surprising, but i think being a swinger is the way to go
i don't think there is anything natural about only having sex with one person for the rest of your life
Posted by franktherabbit (Member # 31005) on :
I think I'm lucky in that my girl loves when i play with her feet. If she hated it, then I dunno. I probably wouldn't leave her but I'd try and convince her. I love her to bits.
Overall I think the happiness from a really good relationship would cancel out any foot stuff. The love of a good woman... its worth more than anything.
Posted by Tom Uz (Member # 12166) on :
It used to be all about making a family. People talked of staying together for the sake of the kids. Then everybody decided that was wrong and it became all about the relationship of the couple, and the kids' lives would have to revolve around that. So then if I decide to order my life around my fetish I've shrank my world a step more. From 3 (or more), to 2, to 1. What'd that song say? One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do. The more I satisfy myself the less chance I have of anything new. A good personal relationship can be like a garden - it gets you to try things. And I've never felt tired of having Spring come every year just because it happened last year and the year before.
Posted by PrimeFootWorship (Member # 26591) on :
The love part wants a companion and perfect match but the lust wants new feet all the time. very hard to answer but I would take companion. I would like to take time to get as many beautiful feet as possible and may be theres a chance to grow out of it. there's just more worth involved with someone you love and hopefully she supports the foot fetish thing.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
Alot of interesting points here. I think that many of our foot fetishes here are based on security. When we were children laying at our mothers feet was both liberating(not on thier lap) but also safe. When we "get" feet now it's attached to sexuality but more so security. How many of us that have gf/wives spend most of the time with their feet just rubbing/holding/caressing them? I know I do. I love breast alot but that love is more sexual than my love of feet. Feet in my lap is the most relaxing thing ever. When a woman sits on my lap though thoughts turn to sex. feet make me feel secure and comfortable...almost like a baby and her favorite blanket.
So when I posed the question I was asking if having a woman in the position where she is comfortable enough to give you her feet the end game? Or is it simply the feet that we want? Having a woman that is willing to indulge in our fetish means she's into us.....hence security. Or is it simply having the feet that does it for us? Could weekly foot sessions with the model of your choice be all that is needed to fulfill ones fetish desires. I think our group will be divided between the two camps. Hence my conclusion that our foot fetish has numerous origins. Not just the one mentioned above. Interesting!
GQguy
Posted by Uno1 (Member # 2883) on :
Finding a partner.
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
I've noticed that my girlfriend's feet arouse me like no other pair of feet can! So I guess it's only her that I really care about.
Posted by canIsmellYourFeet (Member # 11183) on :
Damn that's a good question. I'd settle for new girl once a week for, say...two years? THEN one girl for the rest of my life.
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(Who is also my first girlfriend, I am 20.) I'm not a player. I have no desire to have many girls. It doesn't excite me to teach someone who I am ever other day. It's tiring already. lol
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