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Posted by Mrlhf (Member # 31926) on :

I've recently had a real wake up call.
Nearly 20yrs ago after a successful tour in the US Army I returned home and met my ex I let her move in with me.For a short time we were a nice couple.She was the first woman that I was able to explore full "foot activity" with. She would let me worship her feet in any way that I wanted. That was something that I appreciated greatly.It helped being a new level to my sex life. Since I had never experienced this with any other woman, it helped me understand my love for women and especially their feet. The problem is that when we broke up I found out that she's telling everyone that she can about my "fetish" and trying to make me look like a freak!I've even had a few people question me about it (I haven't denied it). I now see that even though I wish her the best, she doesn't feel the same way
and wants to hurt me by exposing this personal side of myself. Just know that I will not run and
hide from this. I'll face it head on! If this forces me to "come out" then I will. Have any of you experienced this? What do you think?

Posted by climax (Member # 6641) on :

Although i havent, I would definatley respond the way you have, meaning I wouldnt deny it, I would hold my head up high and say "yes, I am a foot guy, whats it to ya?" and just carry on nmy business. Youll be the bigger person rather than cowering away in shame and allowing her to use something important to you as a weapon against you.

hopefully she will end up looking the fool that way.

Posted by FootLovinJazzMusician (Member # 33322) on :

I concur with Climax.

Posted by MantrAveda (Member # 919) on :

I agree with climax as well..

I've experienced somewhat the same thing, and responded in almost the exact same way as climax suggested..

The funny thing is now more and more girls like teasing me with their feet, and enjoy my fetish as well

Posted by shook (Member # 12484) on :

I think your handling this the right way Mrlhf, this might even work to your advantage, some women might hear about your foot fetish and be curious [Smile]

Posted by footster008 (Member # 26335) on :

what a bitch

Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :

I'd say:

"I sucked her toes-she sucked my dick.
What the big deal"?

This is what that jealous bitch deserves- [Nut Kick]

Posted by Smonster (Member # 4769) on :

Yeah I had a similar outing, and now I have to put up with the occasional joke about it, but I've also had my fair share of girls being interested about it too [Tongue]

So be cool about it and show people that you're not a freak and put your old gf to shame!!

Posted by Elvzz (Member # 14178) on :

All my Xs have their heads on a stick - Ed Gein

Posted by abow (Member # 21509) on :

Mrlhf you're doin the right thing, it's better to burn out than fade away, or some like that. It's the right way to deal with it anyways [Smile]

Posted by LordLucan (Member # 2130) on :

Rise above it. Living well and living happily is the best revenge.

Posted by abow (Member # 21509) on :

I agree with lord lucan. Be the mature one, just smile back in her face, that will piss her off more then anything!

Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :

It happened to me with my 1st girlfriend.

Took a very long time to clear my name.

Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :

quote:
Originally posted by Mrlhf:
I've recently had a real wake up call.
Nearly 20yrs ago after a successful tour in the US Army I returned home and met my ex I let her move in with me.For a short time we were a nice couple.She was the first woman that I was able to explore full "foot activity" with. She would let me worship her feet in any way that I wanted. That was something that I appreciated greatly.It helped being a new level to my sex life. Since I had never experienced this with any other woman, it helped me understand my love for women and especially their feet. The problem is that when we broke up I found out that she's telling everyone that she can about my "fetish" and trying to make me look like a freak!I've even had a few people question me about it (I haven't denied it). I now see that even though I wish her the best, she doesn't feel the same way
and wants to hurt me by exposing this personal side of myself. Just know that I will not run and
hide from this. I'll face it head on! If this forces me to "come out" then I will. Have any of you experienced this? What do you think?

More power to you, Mrlhf! You are courageous in your resolve to not run from the truth about yourself. You have a foot fetish. Big deal! Any of your mutual friends and acquaintances who will be put off being your friend because they now know you have a foot fetish are not worth knowing in the first place.

You might consider reminding anyone who comes to you with nasty stories she may have told them that IT SHOULD TELL THEM MORE ABOUT HER THAN IT DOES ABOUT YOU, that she is out there vindictively being a psycho-ex and spilling info about your private life!

Ask these people if THEY will now trust her with any secrets they held with her. If she'd do this to someone she formerly loved?...

Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :

quote:
Originally posted by shook:
I think your handling this the right way Mrlhf, this might even work to your advantage, some women might hear about your foot fetish and be curious

That would be the hope!! (MY hope, anyway!)

Posted by Beautifulfeetonline.com (Member # 13717) on :

Don't be embarrassed, be empowered.

Posted by Lyrical (Member # 6603) on :

I agree with Pjay. If someone would come to me with a story about an ex and what their "issue" was, my first question would be how long were you with that person after they found out and if it' more than a week then obviously they musat have gotten something out of it too. If it had been that bad, she would have run for cover as soon as she found out. yeah a woman scorned can be tough but in the end she will be the one who looks bad. I must admit I like the one about I sucked her toes and she sucked my d^%&* so what's the problem.

Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :

quote:
Originally posted by Mrlhf:
Have any of you experienced this? What do you think?

Oh most definitely know how you feel. Here is a post I had made a while back (it is cut & pasted in quotes below) about a girl who was trying to sabatoge me by exposing my foot fetish to others. She was a heartless bitch too and thought i was a weirdo with many problems just cuz i liked her feet:

quote:
Originally posted by Tyler D.:
I had some serious problems recently that backfired with respect to the idea of "having normal intimacy".

I met a girl 8 wks ago who also broke up with me recently.

Toward the end of our hookup she started to express more and more how my attachment to her feet was causing us more and more problems. And basically how I just phrased it in that last sentence was a very nice way of saying this. She had a much more harsh way of telling this to me and others around us.

She was often quoted telling me that "I couldn't f*ck" and telling her friends in front of me on the phone how "I need a foot to get hard". And she said these things in the most humiliating way possible to degrade what I liked, stating it almost objectively on the phone to her friends like "he needs me to step on his dick" or "he wants to lick and smell my feet" and saying it in a way like they should instantly understand her pain and what a sick freak I am.

And often, she personally told me that I was "too complicated". As much of a bitch this girl is, the one thing that was true about her was her blatent honesty factor and how she never hid behind a facad.

Anyway, I caught the brunt of this from her toward the end of our relationship. She's a pretty girl too and here is an image of her rolling her eyes one of the very last times I talked her into giving me a FootJob.

She really hated my perversions often due to the lack of intimacy and focus on pleasuring the male. She also hated the fact that I picked up other women (but it was a taste of her own medicine, that whore)

Just for background concerning my ability to meet her needs from a normal capacity, here are some facts:
** I gave her multiple orgasms often BTW (vaginal), when we 1st f*cked
** and 5-orgasms in one screw was my record for her.
** Things got worse when i started wanting the feet stuff too much in place of sex.
** She loved my dick though throughout
** and would rarely ever insult the little guy personally (even when taunted to)
** but usually only focused her degredations on my mind complications instead.

None of these problems would've ever happened if there was an easy way to make normal girls enjoy our kinks.

Are there any guys out there who have successful methods of taking a typical gal off the streets and getting her to sexually enjoy our (often one-sided) acts of fetishism? I am pleading to know some of the methods used out there to makes converts of these type of everyday women when it comes to introducing them to fetish.

Posted by Mrlhf (Member # 31926) on :

Thanks everyone for the encouraging posts! To add alittle more information to the subject I ended up staying with this woman for 10 yrs before I finally go out. We had 2 children together and I raised her son from birth to age 9. It took me a long time to realize that this was a person that was incapable of genuine love for anyone. By nature I'm a giver and she's a classic taker.I am now aware that you can give too much of yourself to a person and God help you if that person is unworthy of you love and trust! Be careful who you share your innermost feelings with!

Posted by PublicName (Member # 12270) on :

Happened to me too, man. Glad to see a bunch of you guys had a similar problem. The woman is a complete bitch and thinks she's better than anyone. Any idea she's ever had is hers whether she took it from somewhere else or not. And she's out to get me pretty much any chance she gets. I wasn't that great to her towards the end, but when her biggest blow to me was to tell a ton of people that I'm into feet?

Posted by zappa1968 (Member # 27279) on :

My ex 'outed' me many times whilst I was with her...I didn't care, I'm extremely happy and at ease with my love of female feet.

And I stuck with her for years because she had feet to die for...sexy size 7.5 (UK) and she always painted them sex red. [Drool]

Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :

Being attracted to women's feet is very tame compared to what else others are into!
Good luck to you!

Posted by vandandalla (Member # 33130) on :

yep happened to me 9 years ago, with an ex. We had mutual friends, and that was one of the things she told everyone, i didnt deny it, i actually just completely owned up to it, and it made me feel alot more free about it, and opening up to women that i dated later

Posted by vedd (Member # 36245) on :

i had a girl I used to date pull that, but everybody already knew about my fetish, so it didn't matter. A situation that kinda bothered me, but not much, was when a girl I know, who knows about my fetish but that I have never been involved with in any way, made sure my fetish was known to another girl that I was halfway interested in. That kinda torqued me off, but the girl already knew too, so no biggie there, either...

Posted by Martial Law (Member # 2564) on :

I had an ex of mine start taking the mick out of me at a party which I wasn't attending, imitating the footjob she gave me and saying how I was weird and the act was weird. Well. I'd feel bad but actually she's the one who gave me a footjob (which was pretty damn good) and also the people she spread it to weren't worth shit anyway. So... Yeah. Doesn't bother me.