Hey there, I was just wondering how many of you really enjoy the attention your man or the men in your life give to your feet?
And is this something that you became used to over time? Do you really enjoy it or is it just another thing that gives you confidence?
And lastly do you ever consider it to be a threat to the rest of your body?
What I mean by this last question is that in my recent relationship my girlfriend became consciously aware of my foot fetish & felt that it meant I did not like the rest of her. Even if I tried my best to appreciate her as a whole. Maybe this was specific to her.
Not only that but previous girlfriends have never really dug it, almost as if they put up with it for sake of the relationship.
Obviously those kinda girls won't post on this forum, but you're thoughts would be interesting!
Thank you
Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
It's super-important to remember, as a guy who loves feet, to balance how much attention you pay to the feet with how much you pay to the woman overall. All women are going to need to know you're there with them, and not just their feet, or they will not only lose interest, they'll be weirded-out.
Imagine if you met a girl who was super super into your... elbows. Maybe she can give a great elbow massage, and maybe she even sucks on them for you and it may even feel really good. But if she makes her whole life about your elbows and doesn't really seem into much else, you'd lose interest rapidly. You'd simply need more from her than you were getting, and you wouldn't be unfair to feel that way.
But if she came across as happy to play with your elbows and then move onto making out with you and having other sexual interaction, I'm sure you'd accept her elbow attention, and even come to really like it because you'd know that it meant she was getting herself all charged up! Posted by ShortLivedTyranny (Member # 36627) on :
Well I actually have the oppisite problem. My boyfriend is not by any means all about feet. He enjoys all parts of my body, but I feel he pays too little attention to my feet. I'm very open and alright with his foot fetish. (obviously or I wouldn't be here)I was really expecting a lot more attention paid to my feet, and I was kinda disappointed. BUT it doesn't get to me as much as before.
Posted by Nynjastarr (Member # 36864) on :
I actually love the attention my feet get. My bf loves giving me foot massages and sucking my toes. I definitely love it. He could do it every day!! He is also good in other areas though. It usually starts with my feet but then leads into other things *smirk*.
I am not concerned about my feet taking away from the rest of my body. He still shows me affection in other ways as well. Plus, when I am not in the mood I can give him a footjob and that keeps him content. I like doing them anyway.
If all he ever wanted to do was play with my feet...I may have a bit of a problem, but luckily that is not the case.
Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
Yeh you see with my recent girlfriend I DID pay attention to all of her, we'd have sex for 3 nights in a row, then when I was in the mood for feet it would become a problem. She definately saw feet as taking away attention from her, she even said she doesn't care about her feet.
I thibk maybe this just confirms that maybe I need to find a girl who is a lot more relaxed about it. Don't get ne wrong I still want sex to be the most important thing overall, but perhaps finding a girl (like short lived tyranny) who actually wants her feet having attention paid to would make things a lot easier for me.
Throughout my entire relationship experience I've yet to find a girl that is really ok about it & that's just made me feel guilty about having this damn fetish!
Posted by Jammy (Member # 36475) on :
I've had a slight fascination with feet since I've been sexually aware (probably about 11-12) but I don't think it blossomed until I met my boyfriend and he started paying a lot of attention to my feet. Now I love it, and I think that any sexual experience without my feet being touched, licked, sucked or bitten just feels like there's something missing. It doesn't feel as passionate without my feet in the equation - and to be honest, I'd rather my boyfriend paid attention to my feet rather than the rest of me, as I'm a curvy/chubby lady and I've never really felt comfortable in my own skin for various reasons, and so my feet have always been a source of confidence.
Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
Jammy, you're a dream come true.
I don't currently have a girlfriend, but my last one enjoyed foot massages, and let me indulge in foot licking and sucking and so on.
I'm fortunate that other girlfriends have been pretty receptive to fun with feet. I'm also fortunate that I actually am interested in "all the other (regular) stuff," and so when I "move north" from the feet, it's not just to keep her interested, it's because I'm genuinely interested in that, too. So, paying attention to the "whole woman" is not a problem. I guess there are guys out there whose focus is (not necessarily through any fault of their own) so much more on feet that other aspects get less than their full due.
Lamp, I think you're close to realizing that this really just isn't the girl for you. It's not a tragedy, it's just an extremely common fact of life. If it weren't, everyone would be married to their first girlfriend/boyfriend! The fact is, we have to "go around the block" a few times to find the right one, most of the time. I think the most important thing for you to keep in mind is that you owe it to yourself to find the girl who will make you feel happy and fulfilled!
Clearly, you want foot-play, and don't want to feel like you have to pull teeth to get it from a less-than-willing girl. My advice: let her know that her aversion to fulfilling your fetish indicates to you that you're not cut out for each other, and move on.
Be patient and open and eventually you'll find the next one, and begin again to check out whether you're right for each other. Learn to enjoy the journey!
Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
Thank you pjay, I thought this time she was the one and i fell madly in love. It hurts that it didn't work out & I'm loosing faith in ever finding a good girl for me, not just because of the fetish.
I'm quite a sensetive and loving person & I keep going for girls who are quite cold emotionally.
And I do love sex too and everything else, I can't imagine a relationship without it, nor can I imagine a relationship without feet, but i guess my last gf didn't understand.
Maybe the next one will be good about it, I hope
Posted by Lyrical (Member # 6603) on :
interesting
Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
Please elaborate lyrical? ya know I just feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.
I do all the rights things, I naturally want sex, compliment my girl, yet she still saw my damn fetish as the competition against her
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
My girlfriend enjoys me massaging her feet. Sometimes, she just hands me the lotion and tells me to do it! Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
thats really cool!
Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
I think you really have to just take a laid-back attitude about it and while I don't mean "don't do a damned thing and a relationship will fall into your lap," you still have to do a certain amount of letting life take its course. Learn to enjoy the hoping and waiting for the next "right girl," and it will make the waiting more bearable.
Oh, and collect a bunch of porn that gets you off in the meanwhile! (Just don't let the next girl discover your stash!)
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