Broke up with my "significant other" about three months ago now and of course, like everyone else here, foot play was a big part of our sex lives both during and not during sex.
Since the break up, I have been hooking up with some chicks but have been on a few dates with at least two girls of the bunch that I have already hooked up with. The one girl (of those two) when I arrived at her house last week to pick her up (this being date number 5), she opened the door and "CHA CHING", I saw what her feet looked like for the first time. My internal reaction mimicked the following;
Already, I can give a rats behind if I ever see this girl again...in fact, our date was about 5 days ago now and I haven't reached out to her and she hasn't reached out to me. The irony of it all is that she actually has a pretty smokin body (works out, nice dark hair, about 5'6, 120 lbs, OK personality at best) and I assume that most guys would slay this girl in a heartbeat. MOST guys...
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I just can't do it...I can't. I have learned from this experience that I HAVE TO BE attracted to a woman's feet if I am going to be in any sort of relationship with her. Even if it was a fling, if the choice was up to me, she would HAVE TO have nice feet. Why be in a relationship with a girl who's feet I'm not attracted to even if she HERSELF is attractive...I might as well wait for a girl who is attractive (or relatively attractive)but has feet to die for!(and that I get along with of course...)
Open Ended:
Would anyone on this board trade looks for killer feet?? I think I would...actually no... I KNOW I WOULD!
What if the connection was there, personalities both clicked, but her feet made you ......what do you do then??
Posted by LegsofLA (Member # 37440) on :
Some people go around drinking tea and never realizing they like coffee - at least you know what you like - just stick with it. We cant exactly change who we are unless we work hard at it your fetish may evolve into other things which will being up issues later, or you may evolve together. But for what it is worth I select my mates by their feet/toes.
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
I with you on this bro, I feel the same way. I struggled to adapt to my finace despite the fact that she excelled in every aspect apart from her feet. With time her feet grew on me. But I hear you bro. My advice if you can get a chik with feet that are acceptable...
Posted by Turm (Member # 1048) on :
It sucks, but at least you've discovered this fairly early before you've made any serious commitment/attachment.
If I was with a girl who was great in all levels but had sub-par feet, I would always be checking out other women's feet and wishing I could get them, which would be an unhappy state indeed. Therefore I would endeavour to get with girls who's feet I liked. Not always easy to do this though...
Posted by Selestiel7 (Member # 37804) on :
Hey Skaramunga!
I totally agree with you. I can be walking around and see a bunch of totally amazing girls, as you said, good bodies, beautiful, nice hair or whatever, but if i look at their feet (if wearing flip flops or something), and they are not what i'm attracted to, i don't even look twice.
If a girl had bad feet but had everything else, my initial reaction would be to not go there, i wouldn't want to :/
Posted by ucflyeah (Member # 32674) on :
I was in love with a girl who didn't love me back, and her feet were bordering on gross. When I think of them it makes my broken heart not as heavy. YES, must have nice feet from now on....
Posted by temp1234 (Member # 33411) on :
I'll never be into feet that much. Wow. For me it's;
1. Personality 2. Looks 3. Feet
I'm not going to dismiss what could be the best girl for me ever just because of her feet. That said my opinion of what constitutes a good foot is probably against what everyone else likes (dont like nail polish, toe rings etc. natural beauty for me which is always very hard to find)
Posted by Drunk_24-7 (Member # 21781) on :
quote:Originally posted by Turm: It sucks, but at least you've discovered this fairly early before you've made any serious commitment/attachment.
If I was with a girl who was great in all levels but had sub-par feet, I would always be checking out other women's feet and wishing I could get them, which would be an unhappy state indeed. Therefore I would endeavour to get with girls who's feet I liked. Not always easy to do this though...
Exactly. You could probably do it because if all the other area's of the relationship are in good order you could probably stick it out, try and convince yourself that you're being selfish by focusing too much on her feet and attempt to make it work. However you'd be lying to yourself and in turn lying to her as well. You'd never have your most desired wish fufilled to it's fullest and find yourself always looking outside the relationship for other feet to either have or at the very least fantasize about. That will ultimately create distance and possibly resentment between you and your partner which will eventually become problematic no matter how solid all the other aspects of the relationship are.
I once dated a girl who was toetally down with my foot fetish and wanted to endulge it all the time. She was cool with every aspect from massages to worship to smelling to trample to foot jobs and back but her feet just weren't that attractive and I found myself void of any passion for them before too long. She was totally cool and an awesome girl, fairly attractive overall, but I just didn't find her feet sexy enough to meet my standards and to keep things going would have done no good for either one of us.
My fiance now was actually anti-feet when I met her, but her feet are to fucking die for. Getting to have my way with them was a great challenge that I enjoyed from day one. She's a total Goddess from head to toe and a super cool and very open minded and amazingly perfect woman in every aspect of her being. I've since converted her mainly by sucking her toes during sex to open the door and then barge right through that open door into all the other foot related activities that I'm into. We're not to the point where foot fetish stuff is like her favorite thing in the world or she's trying to endulge me in foot play 24/7 but she's very accepting of my foot fetish needs and more than willing to endulge them making every foot related encounter a super exciting treat and an experience so fucking phenominal I could never take it for granted. Now the awesome pics or hot foot fetish related videos I see online don't make me wish I was the guy in the picture or the video or I had the girl from the picture or the video, but instead make me think of how hot it would be to experience that same scenario with my fiance at her glorious and flawless feet, the most beautiful feet in the entire universe. They just give me grand new ideas or situations to try and recreate with her and when she's in the mood she's totally down with doing anything you could ever imagine which allows me to take a foot fetish fantasy that I could see online and then live it out in a far hotter, far better and more awesome real life experience than I could ever imagine in my head while masterbating. The passion I have for my fiance, the attraction, the sex, the love, the friend, the partner and the all around woman of my dreams cannot even be expressed in words and therefore my foot fetish is only a small part our overall relationship, but because that part of our relationship is so rewarding and fufilling for me it helps all the other parts continue to strengthen and grow accordingly in a way that you cannot fake or settle for or except but instead want, need, desire and enjoy working at every single second of every single day. I think that if I wasn't attracted to her feet the way that I am it would be like taking a key block out of a Jenga tower and cause alot of other areas in the relationship to fall apart based on one of my main needs being unfufilled and that's no way to live.
For me it was a classic case of less is more. All the foot play in the world is not going to be enough or nearly as awesome if you're simply settling for the feet that are endulging that play. When you find a pair of feet that blow your mind as well as some other things, even if you don't have your way with them all the time, it's way better and you appreciate each experience more and more. Also it allows you to focus more on the entire woman instead of just the feet by ensuring that you're creating a fun and exciting experience for her each and everytime, thereby giving her reason to want to give you more and more of the foot action you so badly crave and desire. I can attest to that first hand. My Fiance knows under pretty much any circumstances she can make me melt for her with a little bit of dangling and a wiggle of her gorgeous toes. The lusty attraction I have for her irresistable feet makes me need this relationship more than life itself and keeps me motivated to making sure she is always happy, fufilled and satisfied to the point that our relationship is something she needs just as badly each and every day. If I didn't find her feet as sexy as I do, or she wasn't willing to use em as eroticlly and alluringly as she does, I can't imagine things being as perfect as they are for either one of us.
Now my fiance is so beautiful from head to toe there's no sacrifice that needs to be made as far as looks for feet, she's total perfection from top to bottom and inside and out. How I ever landed her, I still often wonder to this day, but I try not to question it and instead enjoy it and do my best to convince myself I've earned it somehow. So in this case there's no trade off, and I wouldn't recommend going out with a girl who has feet to die for but you don't find attractive overall either. In my opinion the bottom line is that you should never settle. I mean if you're drunk and partying and a chick's an easy lay for a one night stand or something and you're not in any sort of relationship, then go to it, but when you plan to settle down, it shouldn't be with someone you think you could get by with in life and someone you think is good enough for you, it's gotta be someone you can't imagine yourself living without, yet have no idea how you ever managed to be good enough for to begin with. When you find yourself in that situation and experience that sort of love, it's time to settle down and dedicate your life to building that relationship and enjoying it for the endless rewards that it's sure to grant you. If that's the kind of happiness that you're looking for, and you have a foot fetish but are not attracted to the girl's feet that you're dating, you are not going to find the happiness you need and deserve no matter how solid everything else is. It'd be like trying to build a house without a foundation. There's really no sense wasting your time with a relationship consisting of anything more than a fling or two if you're single and there's nothing better to do.
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
Question I have is were her feet just in need of a pedicure or was there something really nasty going on like fungus, hammer toes, or bunions???
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
At this point in my life, if something were to happen to my wife, I'd be much more particular about a gal's feet than I was with hers. Don't get me wrong- I think they're very sexy and she makes me very happy with them. But I think great feet would be a necessity for any new woman in my life.
Posted by catsman (Member # 10269) on :
I'm 51 and very experienced with a diverse row of lady friends in my life and I can say that without forthought that there is no way I could have had a serious relationship with any of them if their feet were unattractive to me. Borderline gross feet, as someone in this thread described, would send me running to the nearest exit, freaking pronto! Unkept toes are the ultimate turnoff.
Posted by skaramunga (Member # 11914) on :
Most definitely my fellow foot friends most definitely...It makes me feel good knowing that all of you guys got my back on this one...
@ LaDaemon
Well, she came to the door and instantly the first thing i saw was that she wasn't wearing any shoes, so right way I looked down. First thing i noticed, BAD SHAPE. The shape of them I was just like her toes just didn't look right they didn't have a nice symmetry to them. And her feet were too lean for my taste...not to mention she had a TERRIBLE case of pigeon toes
And believe me when I say this, it just KILLED my night and me even entertaining the idea of pursuing this girl any further.
@ Everyone else
I completely agree that if your gonna have a one night stand and your lookin for some action, you know what, maybe what her feet look like are not that important...although id probably still look knowing me
Now if she is going to be RELATIONSHIP material then I HAVE TO BE like literally salivating over her feet. I have to look at her feet and just pop wood (which I was able to do with my ex)....it should make me want to rip her shoes off like an animal and work my way up! But that's just me...
Someone also mentioned that "if I'm attracted to her feet then I'm more attracted to her, I can focus on other areas of her, makes the relationship better" (I think it was Drunk_247)
And I COMPLETELY AGREE with this. If I'm attracted to her feet, then her stock just tripled in my book! Because then I don't have to worry about it...it just makes her that much hotter in general, and it will also make me into other parts of her that much more. Im going to want to know about her, click with her, BANG HER!!
But the feet HAVE to be there man...they gotta be there...or I'm not!
YOU GUYS ROCK!
Posted by Beautifulfeetonline.com (Member # 13717) on :
i'm the same way, i could never be with a girl with ugly feet, or feet that I construed as ugly.
Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
Good feet are a must (for the short and long haul). I mean, it IS an important variable in my equation. If you have to look at her everyday, she must have the areas that truly attract you up to par. But, if she's a temporary speed bump or something to do, I don't get too bent around the axel. Do what you have to do to get by and move on (to your point of true interest).
Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
LaDaemon, clear out your PM box a little bit. Posted by skaramunga (Member # 11914) on :
@footman9
"But if shes a temporary speed bump or something to do I don't get too bent around the axle"
Haha..that's a good one. There's really no point in getting too bent out of shape over it especially if she's a "for the time being" type of girl. Agreed.
Posted by Chris91 (Member # 30100) on :
My ex-fiance had very sexy feet. Originally I wasn't what I would call, into feet, prior to her I was attracted to a woman's feet, but I never made it my priority to look at them or check them out upon initial contact with a woman.
During my relationship with my ex, I fell in love with not only her, but her entire body. I loved her feet, and the thing that got me attracted to them was when she would wrinkle her soles during the intense moments of sex, that was hot. I used to play with her feet on the couch watching movies, giving her massages, etc...
Now that I no longer have her, it's tough to find a woman to date who has similar-type feet as hers. I know I will never find another woman quite like her body, hair, butt, feet, etc...but I will admit, of the girls I've been on dates with post-ex, none of them really had sexy feet. Some of them did have sexy feet but I wasn't really attracted to them physically as a whole.
So to comment on the original poster, I think feet are just one thing of the entire picture, at least for me. If the girl has a smoking body and then has unattractive feet...well it's no different from an ugly woman having smoking hot feet...I think you have to have the entire package or not.
I'm picky to begin with when it comes to what kind of women I'm attracted to, so having nice feet just adds to the pickiness, but I don't think it's a bad thing at all. We're human, we're men, we know what we want, so why shouldn't we be able to seek out what we want?
Let me also add that if I can't hold a conversation with a woman who has the entire picture of what I am attracted to...there's not much going to happen in the future with that woman.
Posted by DeTrOiT (Member # 37598) on :
There is nothing to talk about if the feet are ugly...I MEAN SHE MAY AS WELL HAVE A PENIS!...I know,i know...I have issues...But i have always had a lot of fun and all of my friends had pretty feet...Why even get yourself into a situation where you fall for a girl with ugly feet..THAT WOULD BE LIKE A CURSE FROM GOD 4 ME...My wife and i were very good friends infact like best friends since i was in the 7th grade...1 day we were riding home from school on the bus and i just had 2 know what her feet looked like...she had on some yellow flats and there was a Little toe clevage showing...I couldnt take it so i just ripped her shoe off of her foot and i knew at that moment that i was gonna marry her...That was 1986...She already had everything else that mattered...Cute,Smart,great looking mom, and a good structured family life but....i had 2 see those feet...THEY WERE AND ARE STILL BEAUTIFUL!!And we're still together...And Im still with her and still happy!...ASK TO SEE THE FEET EARLY..DONT WASTE YOUR TIME OR HERS IF ITS REALLY IMPORTANT 2 U....
Posted by skaramunga (Member # 11914) on :
@Chris91
"So to comment on the original poster, I think feet are just one thing of the entire picture, at least for me. If the girl has a smoking body and then has unattractive feet...well it's no different from an ugly woman having smoking hot feet...I think you have to have the entire package or not."
That's a good point Chris...having the whole package definitely is key...
@Bondo
"Hopefully you can have it all: looks, personality, and nice feet. Based on the title of this thread and the philosophy of the Laws of Attraction (which I firmly believe in), attract into your life a woman who has all of the things you want."
Yes, excellent point. A lot of the times I feel like you attract certain people into your life based off of the energy that you put out! Sort of like the old adage "misery loves company".
If you put out the wrong vibe then you will get the wrong people.
Something with feet I feel like. If I already know what I like, what I want, what turns me on, etc. then why not look for that, attract that, be patient, and see results!
@Detroit
"ASK TO SEE THE FEET EARLY..DONT WASTE YOUR TIME OR HERS IF ITS REALLY IMPORTANT 2 U...."
Yes I'm the same way!! Get it over with early. That way you don't get in deep with the girl and end up getting crushed in the end!
I feel like I'm more willing to compensate and give a little slack on other parts of the girls body. BUT I WILL NOT COMPENSATE ON THE FEET!!!!!
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......what do you do then??
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her toes just didn't look right they didn't have a nice symmetry to them. And her feet were too lean for my taste...not to mention she had a TERRIBLE case of pigeon toes ![[Eek!]](eek.gif)
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