I have read this a few times but I don't know if this is true...I'm curious as to what role most of you guys play. And as for you Ladies, Which do you prefer for the guy to be...Sub or Dom (during foot play) and why?...I am not a submissive person but I can play a semi-sub role during foot play...AND ONLY DURING FOOT PLAY...Some how the feet make me weak..But during sex I'm the Dom...Is that strange?
Posted by Salvy_Mic (Member # 13384) on :
Speaking for myself, I know I prefer to take the lead when it comes to sex and foot play. I'd never call myself dominant though, and I'm definitely no submissive.
Posted by Diabolicus (Member # 7743) on :
Not this guy.
Posted by scrunchlover (Member # 21542) on :
I'm not submissive, I just like feet.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
NO. Th women I hook up with won't even take me being submissive for a second.
Pretty much...submissive in my world is a fantasy. Being weak never makes the pussy wet. And as such doesn't exist in my sex life.
If I suck toes, she is getting fucked hard in the process, simple as that. And she loves me for it.
GQ
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
quote:Originally posted by DeTrOiT: Are most men who have a foot fetish SUBMISIVE?
yes indeed.
quote:Originally posted by DeTrOiT: And as for you Ladies, Which do you prefer for the guy to be...Sub or Dom
most women prefer an alpha male (which is pretty much a dominant male). and i don't necessarily mean dominant like a guy who beats a woman with a whip or something like that. i mean dominant in a broader sense.
as you can probably deduce from these two opposing forces, it does not look good for most of us who have a submissive foot fetish. my personal belief is that it sux, but it can change.
grow a set fellas. keep the dream alive Posted by temp1234 (Member # 33411) on :
I don't mind either way. Really don't like the extreme sub or dom stuff, just completely turns me off!
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: submissive in my world is a fantasy.
As in something you'd like to do but won't as it breaks the 'attraction rules'?
Posted by DeTrOiT (Member # 37598) on :
Very interesting and not what I expected (based on the perception that many have about foot guys). I'm not saying that I want to get my ass whipped, told to lick toilets, or the sole of a dirty shoe...I just like the foot play a little on the ROUGH SIDE sometimes..The percentage is lower than I expected but I'm not suprised.
Posted by Dirty Foot Man (Member # 9086) on :
I am very submissive id rather let the woman have all control and not let me have any
Posted by Rider Aldebaran (Member # 38525) on :
I would only really be submissive if shrinking technology existed, since then I'd have no choice but to be subservent.
Since it's not, I'd say that I'm more dominant, or at least inbetween.
Posted by Tom Uz (Member # 12166) on :
I used to hear that song on the radio - "Sweet surrender - is all I have to give..." and I'd think yeah must be nice. But it's a women's prerogative. Sexual attraction makes me feel like women are goddesses - but experience teaches that they're just as human as we are. So I try to channel it into ideas like submitting to love, submitting to the reality that I'm a warm-blooded animal with sexual needs... Even, strange as it sounds, submitting to equality. Because dealing with my fellow men I always have the idea I can punch him if I have to - but we have to give that up to get close to women. We have to submit to trying to please her. And pleasing her means staying strong and self-respecting. So yeah, I guess all this sounds like I'm submissive, or have an element of it - but I don't have to submit to a woman just because I kiss her feet.
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
Well it kind of is a submissive fetish if you take a step back, really, as much as some may hate to admit it...
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
Submission plays no part in my love of women's feet. As I've mentioned elsewhere, I also have a passion for bondage and I am definitely the top in that situation, as well.
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
Nothing submissive at all about my love for feet and in the way I enjoy my girlfriend's feet.
Suck her toes to "warm up" before a FJ,suck her toes while I'm balls deep in her or just plain ol' rub my dick on them. If you can see something submissive in any of the ways I just described then you can have a virtual cookie.
Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
It can be either with me. I can grab a girl by the ankles and do my thing, or I can have my nuts squished under some toes and laughed at. Both dominant and submissive can be fun for me.
Patrick
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
So what's everyone's take on the submissive/dominant thing? Is there a middle ground where both parties are equal?
Or is there always a sub/dom dynamic when it comes to intimacy?
Posted by aerodrew (Member # 2682) on :
My wife and I own a business and have 11 employess.. I'm the CEO and make every business decision, when we're at work all day I'm actually her boss. She doesnt try to "wear the pants" in the business or the family. But when it comes to my foot fetish,, things change somewhat... I really don't look at it as a DOMINANT or SUBMISSIVE thing though.. I'd describe it more like being Assertive or Passive... a power/control thing.. Her feet can easily weaken me and she knows how to use them... especially when she has me on the brink of cumming... So if I end up on my knees kissing her feet or tied up being teased by them... I'm ALL IN!!
Posted by Keyfeet (Member # 27313) on :
im not submissive, but not dominant either. i think of men and women equally, and it not fair that women dont have to sign up for selective service.
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: Nothing submissive at all about my love for feet and in the way I enjoy my girlfriend's feet.
Suck her toes to "warm up" before a FJ,suck her toes while I'm balls deep in her or just plain ol' rub my dick on them. If you can see something submissive in any of the ways I just described then you can have a virtual cookie.
You have what are considered dirty parts of the body...in your mouth. The dominance she has over you is the fact that it is an unnecessary part of sex for her...but (reasonably) necessary for you. Furthermore, if she doesn't feel like sex, she'll probably just do foot-stuff with you.
It's not a huge deal in any way, but it just is a submissive fetish really...
Posted by DeTrOiT (Member # 37598) on :
I think that the word "SUBMISSIVE" makes some of us feel like...."NOT ME!"...And "DOMINATE" sounds kind of S&Mish (I made that term up)...It seems like most of us don't want to be thought of as a "Sub"...Anyway great responses and It just goes to show how misunderstood We(foot guys) are...I wish the Ladies would have chimed in...I would love to hear what Mommie, Twisted Toes, Kara and the other ladies who frequent the site would say....Since they "REALLY" would know from their perspective....
[ April 19, 2010, 11:48 AM: Message edited by: DeTrOiT ]
Posted by Beautifulfeetonline.com (Member # 13717) on :
having a woman rubbing her feet all over your face, smelling her feet, foot adoration, foot worship, etc, etc, Yes, it is inherently submissive.
Posted by aerodrew (Member # 2682) on :
quote:Originally posted by Beautifulfeetonline.com: having a woman rubbing her feet all over your face, smelling her feet, foot adoration, foot worship, etc, etc, Yes, it is inherently submissive.
I'm not convinced... I'm the President & CEO of my company and have 12 employees... one of which happens to be my wife.. I tell people what to do all day.. There is nothing submissive about me and conversely nothing dominant about my wife. But... I love to lick the bottoms of her feet and suck her toes... Call it whatever you want but if that makes me "submissive".. I'm ALL IN!
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