HI, I would like advice on how to seduce my husband with my feet. I found out a few years ago that my husband, then my boyfriend, has a foot fetish. He was writing to girls on Myspace, telling them he was in love with their feet, and that he would drop everything at a moments notice to come massage their feet. At the time, I was unaware of his fetish, and felt hurt that he had gone outside of our relationship to satisfy his desires. I told him then that I thought his fetish was interesting, and that it might be thrilling to me, once I got over these other girls. He responded by saying that he didn't expect me to ever get a thrill from it or to be turned on by it. Since then, and as before this happened, we continue to have what I feel is a boring and very infrequent sex life. I have asked him about his fetish, and tried to do things to spice up our sex life, since then, because I am dissatisfied, but he tells me that this is not what he wants from me. What he says he wants from me sexually is routine and familiarity. However, I know that my feet attract his attention. I have gotten pedicures, and try to show him my bare feet whenever I can, and I noticed him looking at them once or twice. He is abroad this month, and just yesterday I sent him a picture of our cat curled up and licking my feet, and he texting me saying, "that's my job." Although he has never licked my toes, just the idea of this gets me turned on, and when he gets back home in two weeks, I want to seduce him. I'm sorry if this message is too lengthy. Anyone have any advice?
Posted by jamaicanfeet (Member # 16678) on :
One popular was is the whole footsie under the table. Invite him out to dinner...a nice restaurant...one with long enough table cloths...and one that you can use your foot to reach his crotch. Start by playing with his ankle and slowly work your way up his leg...play with his knee...move to his inner thigh....then slide your foot into his crotch which should b hard by now. Tell him you like how his hard cock feels under your foot....then tell him you'd love to know what it feels like between your feet..and you want to know the feel of hot cum between ur toes...I guess u can ad lib the rest Posted by reamow (Member # 37306) on :
Feetathome: Your husband is lucky to have a wife so able to string together a well written consideration; as your abilities on this front puts many a Man/person to shame.
Now for the advice: Foot guys can't be told what to take an interest in, we arrived here on our own. If anything, hide/conceal your feet but don't make them easily accessible. I don't mean deprive him but make him do the seeking THEN let him have what he wants. After all, at that point he will be under your feet and this is a dynamic to be dually enjoyed.
Posted by Diabolicus (Member # 7743) on :
Suspicious post it suspicious.
Posted by chaz36 (Member # 21412) on :
"I have asked him about his fetish, and tried to do things to spice up our sex life, since then, because I am dissatisfied, but he tells me that this is not what he wants from me. What he says he wants from me sexually is routine and familiarity." Obviously that is not what you want! Post some pics of your feet here on Wu's and let everyone see them and no doubt you will not only get a thrill from doing it, but compliments and flattery do wonders for your attitude. Being sexy is 90% attitude. Who knows, your husband might venture onto the site and see what he has right in front of him. If that doesn't do it, shoot me a message and I'll be happy to help you out personally!
Posted by Beautifulfeetonline.com (Member # 13717) on :
quote:Originally posted by Diabolicus: Suspicious post it suspicious.
agreed
Posted by feetathome (Member # 38978) on :
Thanks guys, for the responses. They're much appreciated.
reamow, I like what you said, and I think my husband would appreciate that dynamic, because he's definitely the type that can't be told what to be interested in. A slow seduction where he is tempted, and has to do the seeking, is what I'm hoping to do. I was napping on our bed one afternoon before an appointment (just a few days before he left town), and had my socks half pulled off, which I do sometimes in my sleep. My husband pulled my socks off, and tickled my foot for a second before he got me up to go to my appointment. Unfortunately, it didn't go any further than that. I only hope I am able to tempt him enough, that he will take things further soon.
jamaicanfeet: I would love to do that, and I hope we get to that point soon. Once recently I put my bare feet between his legs while sitting across from him at a restaurant, but he barely noticed them. I didn't touch him, however. I hope we get to the point where he would enjoy that, and if so, I will start more slowly, and at his ankles. )
chaz36: You're right, attitude is everything, and I could use some work in that area. It's also a bit exciting that you guys might want to see my feet, which I do think are a little cute. However, until I know that my husband would like it, I'd rather keep my feet just for him.
Posted by jkluvsfeet1984 (Member # 30704) on :
I'm calling bullshit on this one.
Posted by catsman (Member # 10269) on :
quote:Originally posted by jkluvsfeet1984: I'm calling bullshit on this one.
Agreed. I was born at night, but not last night. This is complete b/s.
Posted by Dick Lipschitz (Member # 127) on :
Thirded, or fourthed ... whatever the count is now.
Cheers, DL
Posted by feetathome (Member # 38978) on :
Post Preview I'm not sure why so many of you are calling my question bullshit. It's frustrating, although I suppose it doesn't matter that much. I know you're all strangers and I am a stranger to you, and perhaps I will never break through to my husband. Honestly though, I learned more from the few responses I did receive here then I did from the 4+ hours of foot fetish erotic stories and videos I looked at online this week. I'm not even sure why so many of you think I would post a BS story like this. What other reason would I have to ask this question, other than to ask this question? But then, perhaps the same reason why you think I'm full of BS is the same reason why my husband continues to not share this with me either. Perhaps he thinks I'm full of BS, too. All I know us that I'm very frustrated, my marriage is on the rocks, I love my husband, and I love the idea of having an awesome sex life with him, but as it is, he has these desires and feelings and I am shut out of them. Yes, I was completely naive about his foot fetish when we first started dating. I didn't know that such a thing as foot fetish existed. If I had, then I might have picked up on some clues when I first met him, but I didn't, and now we're stuck in this place where my husband has put up all wall between us, and I just want to break through it. I found this forum when I was looking at foot fetish porn for ideas and understanding, and I thought, wow, I'd love the chance to ask some real men, who I assume like feet as much as my husband does, about this, because I assumed you guys would understand him much better than I do right now. Anyway, again, this is another comment that I feel has gone on too long. All my best to you all.
Posted by kara (Member # 36617) on :
Well, I will say this. It sounds like you are very open to your husbands fetish, but I guess he might be shy (embarassed) by it in person, even though through texting or online conversations is open to it. Is he a shy guy in social circumstances? If so, it really might take a very abrupt approach from you to get him "out of the closet"
Try surprising him during "routine and familiar sex" by involving feet when he is in the moment. That might unlock the first door for you.
Posted by feetathome (Member # 38978) on :
Thanks, Kara, and yes, you're right, he is extremely shy, although as you mentioned, he has not been so when he's online with women he doesn't know. I appreciate your advice. I so much hope he "comes out of the closet" soon. Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
I'll play along.
So your b/f at the time was messaging girls on Myspace about their feet, but yet did not tell you(his g/f) about his love for feet. That should have been a big red flag to begin with.
Now that you are married he shows little to no interest in your feet. You say he has a huge love for feet but yet still shows no interest in them.
First, he is either getting foot play somewhere else, or he just is not into your feet.
Second, if he hid such a major part of his life to you his g/f but yet had no problem telling girls on Myspace then you guys have more problems then just how to turn him on...
Posted by feetathome (Member # 38978) on :
Yes, you're right, bluetoelover. It's actually overwhelming me how right you may be. I don't know what to say, in my head, everything I'd say sounds like a weak argument at best. When the Myspace stuff happened it was a big red flag. But at the time, when I found out, he told me he was sorry, and that he loved me, and that he'd made a mistake. And yes, you're right, we do have more problems than just me turning him on. And yes, he may be getting foot play somewhere else, I don't know. But I also know that he has shown more interest in my feet this last month, and sex in general, than he has in the last few years, and that we've begun to talk about our problems and have both committed this year to begin trying to work through them. This is just one part of our relationship, but it's one that I hope soon, we'll be able to share together more fully, and enjoy, and have a lot of fun with. This is the first time I've ever been on an online forum like this. And I'm surprised how quickly this conversations has become so deeply personal. It's real, though, and you are right about alot, and that's not BS at all. Thanks for your comments.
Posted by Brek (Member # 28601) on :
Keep your feet looking good, and wear sexy shoes to tease him with. If he has a foot fetish, he'll come around.
Posted by ajantis (Member # 10394) on :
I don't get it. To have married, presumably you both loved each other to the extent that he'd be comfortable enough sharing almost everything about who he is with you... right?
What kind of boy-friend (or *husband*, for that matter) cyber-fucks other women? You married someone who cheats with other women online and doesn't feel comfortable enough with you to bare his true self to you? I don't get it.
Posted by Lucky 7 (Member # 38927) on :
This is Bull if he is out of town and and has a lap top send him some pic's of your cute feet. As far as soxs half way off he should be kissing them to wake you up. My wife gave me note pads with her foot prints on them,don't give up the ship. JG
Posted by 2nd. To God In Power (Member # 23391) on :
LOL feetathome, pics of YOUR feet & toes, or the whole thing never happened.
Posted by feetathome (Member # 38978) on :
ajantis: As far as I now, what my husband did on Myspace a few years ago when we were dating, has not occurred since then, and all I can say is that I believe that everyone can make mistakes. But, yes, when it first happened, I was disgusted that the man I loved was texting other women online about his sexual desires towards them. I was also surprised that he felt such a strong attraction to their feet. And yes, I considered what he was doing as cheating, although my husband would disagree. And no, I don't know why he did what he did. But I also believe that he doesn't do it anymore. Right now, I'm just trying to have an intimate and fun relationship with the man I chose to marry, and a big part of this is our sex life. Since he loves feet, I'd like to remind him that my feet are quite nice, which is something he told me on our first or second date. Not perfect, he said, but still really nice. My hope is that what you guys call footplay will become a regular part of our life together.
JG: Thanks again. And I hope you're proud of me because actually, I have sent him two pictures of my feet in this last week. One was of his cat holding my foot and licking my toes, to which he responded with, "that's my job". And the second was of his cat curled up sleeping with my feet, to which he responded with a Both of those comments gave me a thrill, and just the idea of seducing him gets me excited. Unfortunately, at this point he doesn't lick my toes, and he hasn't mentioned anything about those photos, or my feet or about sex to me at all, other than those two brief comments in response to my pictures. But, as reamow mentioned in an earlier comment, I can't tell him what to want, I need to let him do the seeking, and then let him have what he wants when he wants it, which will hopefully be my feet! Btw, I love the note pad idea.
Posted by feetathome (Member # 38978) on :
Brek: Thanks, I will keep my feet looking good, and I can certainly try to wear shoes he likes. One cool thing that happened was a few weeks ago when he was home for a few days. We were in the airport and I was wearing sandals. I brushed my toes against the side of the escalator, and he made a comment about how I was polishing my toenails. So, I know he's noticing them. )
Posted by Mrlhf (Member # 31926) on :
Feetathome let me apologize for some of the "less enlightened" people of the forum. Until you give me a reason I'll believe anything you say. As to your questions, i've never understood how people can date each other for years, marry and build a relationship without revealing these parts of themselves. I'm sorry but your husband should've let you in on this a long time ago! I would never marry a woman without knowing that she accepted my foot fetish. You've been great in trying to make him feel at ease. Frankly the way he's acting has me confused! I would love it if my women did the things that you do. If you really love him ( I believe you really do!) continue doing what you're doing. Keep your feet exposed and beautiful as much as possible. No man with a true foot fetish will be able to resist for long! Good luck!
Posted by Lyrical (Member # 6603) on :
Well I will say that on this forum, we tend to be very direct. I know that many times until we come to grips with our fetish we tend to hide it especially from those we care about because for so many years there hads been such a negative stigma attached to those who admire the pretty feet of a women.
While in reality it is not strange at all, it has taken many years to become as mainstream as it is so far. Maybe he feared that you would reject him if he opened up. yes we can be of the opinion of questioning why he would hide that but i think the above statement potentially helps to explain a possible reason. it is easier to many people to be open with someone when you do not really have to share the same space with them, i.e. myspace or some other social network.
If he is showing more interest maybe he is getting the feeling that ot would not turn you off and hopefully this may be the beginning of great new experiences for you and your husband. Good luck to you both!!
Posted by feetathome (Member # 38978) on :
Mrlhf: Thanks so much for the vote of confidence. I can definitely keep doing what I've been doing, and I will. )
Lyrical: Thanks for the luck, and the insight. I've read elsewhere on these boards about a negative stigma that was once attached to foot fetishism, and I think my husband probably feels this. He grew up in a very small town, full of ignorant and close-minded people. And it didn't help at all that when he and I first started dating, I didn't pick up on what I now realize were obvious signs that he had a foot fetish. I hope that he will open up to me about this soon. I'm already eagerly anticipating these great new experiences you mentioned.
Posted by Tom Uz (Member # 12166) on :
quote:Originally posted by feetathome: . . . negative stigma . . . attached to foot fetishism . . . I think my husband. . . feels . . .
A fair number of guys feel conflicted about their fetish. Maybe because he cares so much about you he's afraid of seeming weird to you. That would explain why when you found out, rather than welcome you to his fetish he said "I'll stop." He thinks if he has true love he shouldn't need feet. But how long can that last? If he can believe that you really think this'll be a plus to your relationship he'll probably be a happier man, but it takes patience. Do you ever go shopping together? What if you happen to pass a shoe store and ask him to help you pick out some sandals - it gives him a guilt-free reason to stare at your feet for a while. Maybe he'll see them in his dreams.
Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
I won't insult, but this is why some people make the bullshit call:
Many times when someone comes in here and their first post is an article's worth of text and it captures many things that only a foot lover knows, it usually ends up being a guy behind the keyboard just pleasuring himself to the replies and the fantasy he cooked up.
We've had a few here and they happen all over the web. Many of us tend to chat with one another and make some introductions and small chat before letting loose with a ton of information.
So if you're real, awesome and welcome. If not, oh well, it isn't hurting me any.
Patrick
Posted by feetathome (Member # 38978) on :
Tom Uz: What you're saying rings true to me, as have a few other responses I've received, and I can't tell you how grateful I am for your perspectives. I can feel insecure, and when I do, it exacerbates everything between me and my husband. For example: I took Kara's advice in an earlier comment and made what I thought was a bold move yesterday. I sent my husband a picture of the bottom of one of my feet, trying to make it look all wrinkly and cute, along with a text asking him if he liked my foot when it looked that way, and he texted back, "Always!". Wow, that gave me such a thrill. It was amazing. Unfortunately, I coaxed out of him, that my pic excited him sexually, and then, this got me so excited, that I sent him a few graphic texts about what I wanted to do to him, and what I wanted him to do to me....... He promptly freaked out, and immediately withdrew from me again. But, I know I can do this better next time, and I would have never felt bold enough to try something like that without the support I've received here. I'm so grateful for that. Lastly, I love the casual shoe shopping idea. I will definitely do that! Thanks again.
Patrick: Thank you for explaining the BS comments. I can now make more sense of them. For better or worse, I didn't think about propriety or inappropriateness before I posted on this forum. I just let go with everything on my mind, every intimate detail, without thinking first. Thanks for offering me the benefit of the doubt. And thanks even more for the welcome. Posted by 2nd. To God In Power (Member # 23391) on :
LOL This is some funny stuff. Here we have this feetathome person with these long and foolish posts and hasn't YET shown her feet & toes. LOL
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