Well just like everyone else here i have a huge foot fetish. I've been dating my gf for a month now and she has some of the most beautiful feet I've ever come in contact with. They are a sexy size 5 with the most perfect toes I've seen. The bad news is she hates feet in general which has kept me from telling her about my fetish. This is like torture for me and I really don't know what to do. Any advice?
Posted by oscarthemonkey (Member # 1692) on :
Belly up to the bar-if they are size five with the most perfect toes you've seen you should teach her to like them-is she likes you and you treat her feet right you'll be just fine
Posted by fatpat (Member # 4256) on :
Sounds like a soon to be ex girlfriend to me!
Posted by wvcple2003 (Member # 5268) on :
Show me a quick sole pic, with her toes spread on the other side, and Ill give you all the advice you need!!
Posted by Feeties (Member # 10561) on :
Just tell her dude, no point in hiding.
Posted by Lyrical (Member # 6603) on :
Only a month? How long will you go on and not tell her until it becomes to much and then you spring it on her and she's disgusted becuase it comes out in a way that turn off anyone instead of a converstion as you continue to learn new things about each other. How did you know that she hates feet in the first place?
Posted by dredredre (Member # 28453) on :
I appreciate all the advice. I found out she hated feet when her sister touched her with her feet. BTW her sister has pretty nice feet as well so I guess that runs in the family. She threw a huge fit and told me that she doesn't like feet. There has also been other times where she brings up her disgust about feet.
Posted by Arch_Analyst (Member # 28756) on :
DTB.
Posted by Beautifulfeetonline.com (Member # 13717) on :
I just don't know why you don't weed that stuff out before you start establishing feelings, etc. Good luck though!
Posted by curly09 (Member # 33380) on :
make her cum really really hard,then you can do whatever.win the pussy you win the feet.lol.
Posted by Spruce314 (Member # 35412) on :
Odds are you're not going to change her mind. Have only met one lady that hated feet that I know of. We didn't get along otherwise so it never became an issue.
Posted by toesucker - uk (Member # 5495) on :
Many women hate feet because they are insecure about their own feet, so many think think theirs look horrible no matter how sexy they are. Best not to mention anything about your FF yet just take it slow, offer a foot massage tell her to relax she might just like it. Good luck!
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
Maybe she caught you looking/drooling over her feet and has a pretty good idea that you have a thing for feet...or at least her feet. So maybe she is looking for a compliment.
The same way when a woman says...my ass looks fat, she wants a compliment/confirmation that it is anything but fat.
Good luck.
Posted by Dick Lipschitz (Member # 127) on :
Look, you're going to have to do something sometime or else resign yourself to being unfulfilled in this area. It's not going to magically resolve itself. She's not going to independently take the lead on this and suddenly offer them up to you.
Fortunately, you don't really have to "raise the issue" with her. Just pursue your interests calmly and matter-of-factly. Give her a foot massage while you're watching TV, or briefly suck her toes (don't fixate on them) while you're having sex, or buy her a pair of strappy heels for your next night on the town, or treat her to a massage and pedicure at a local spa or salon.
You don't have to make any grand declarations or sheepish admissions. The former is just odd, the latter makes you seem like you're asking for permission.
As the old Nike ads said, "Just do it." My bet is, as long as you don't make it a major issue, you'll be fine. In other words, don't obsess over her feet ... just incorporate them casually into your relationship.
From your posts, it appears she has more of an issue with other people's feet than her own. I suspect if you leave her with the impression that you're interested in her, and not just her feet, you'll have some success.
If she asks, of course, you'll have to be honest. Tell her that, yes, you do think pretty feet are a turn-on, and hers are no exception. Under no circumstances should you tell her you have a "foot fetish" -- that term has a huge negative connotation. Instead, simply tell her you appreciate them and that this fact is just one of many aspects that make you who you are -- that you also like cooking, smooth jazz and walks on the beach (or whatever). If pushed, you can even say it's no different than guys who really like breasts or butts ... although I wouldn't go down that conversational path unless you really need to.
Of course, if she flatly says no, you'll have to make a difficult choice: stay or go. From my perspective, life's too short not to be happy, and sex is a very important part of life, and I know how I'd choose.
Good luck.
Cheers, DL
[ May 18, 2010, 10:10 AM: Message edited by: Dick Lipschitz ]
Posted by mmmtoes (Member # 30792) on :
Good post Dick...
Posted by dredredre (Member # 28453) on :
Yes it's def a good post. She knows that I'm very into her and I'm not the type to just stare & drool over a girls feet. We've actually been talking since January and I've given her foot massages several times. What gives me hope that i can make her come around is that I'm the first guy she's ever given head to and now she loves it almost as much as I do. I'm seeing her today so I plan on making something happen. All the advice helps tremendously and I will def use it. Hopefully I will have a good update for you guys after tonight.
Posted by KingBlest (Member # 33349) on :
Good luck!!
Posted by DeTrOiT (Member # 37598) on :
That's a VERY BIG PROBLEM...Here is why...I had a friend years ago...She was absolutely BEAUTIFUL, SMART(she was in Wayne State Medical School here in Detroit...I think?)...She was an all around wholesome girl with a LITTLE FREAKY SIDE that she only showed in the bedroom...The problem was exactly as yours...SHE HATED FEET...I don't mean she was a little insecure...I mean SHE HATED FEET!...YES ALL FEET, INCLUDING HER OWN (which were flawless by the way...sigh)!...She would let me see them, but only because of my foot kink...BUT NO TOUCHING WHATSOEVER...There was nothing that I could do about it...I tried to ease her into it (and the kid has some skill with those tootsies...lol)...but to no avail... Imagine a person being the EXACT OPPOSITE of you... When we see feet, We get excited...When they see feet...THEY WANT TO THROW UP...FOR REAL!..I'm not going to tell you to give up just yet but the chances of you changing her are VERY SLIM my friend.. I would bet that if you tell her about your love of female feet, SHE WILL END IT BEFORE YOU COULD BLINK (If she really has what they deemed a "FOOT PHOBIA"...I say this because of the short amount of time that you have been with her...Good luck?
Look in the archives and there was post with a link to another site where they were blogging about HOW MUCH THEY HATED FEET?..sad but true...
Posted by MrSoleLvr (Member # 21192) on :
If she has had this issue for that long not likely it going to change even if she has the most gorgeous feet you have ever seen, it is very sad as we all know but not worth the agony of not being able to indulge!
I'd throw it out there and see what she does, never hurts to try, just be prepared for the worse case scenerio, your month long relationship is over...
Marcus
Posted by Beautifulfeetonline.com (Member # 13717) on :
And next time, sort this shit out before you start hitting that ass. Jeez Louise.
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
I don't think all hope is lost.
For one thing, she has no problem with you giving her foot massages. If she really hated feet that much, you would not have been able to even touch hers in the first place.
Although she may have said that she hates feet when your girlfriend's sister used her feet to touch your girlfriend's feet, it's very possible this may have been an emotional response. It's sort of like when a girl says, "You're so mean!" after you make a smart ass remark. Do they usually mean it? Most of the time, no. It's just an emotional response and it doesn't mean what she's saying. I'm thinking that, in this case, her remark of "I hate feet" really meant that she doesn't like other people's feet touching hers and that just creeps her out for whatever reason. Something like that shouldn't get in the way of you touching her feet, which you said you've already done via foot massages.
As Dick Lipschitz said, pursue your interests in a matter-of-fact way and don't make a big deal about it. It's really a matter of how much she trusts you and how comfortable she is being with you. You may want to spend a little more time together so she can get more comfortable with being around you before really going after what you want. Once she's comfortable, the door can be opened to you doing things you'd like to do - i.e. sucking on her toes, etc..
As DL also said, don't make any grand declarations (too creepy) or sheepish admissions (too needy and weak). From my experience, the best way is to make your attraction known through action. If you sense that she's comfortable with you, give her a foot massage and end it by kissing her toes. If you get a negative reaction from her with something like, "Ewwww, that's gross", just reply in a matter-of-fact way with the statement, "I think your feet are cute" and leave it at that. The less of an issue you make about it, chances are the less of an issue she'll have with it. Good luck!
Posted by SOLEMAN 13 (Member # 33699) on :
Hate is the closest thing to love ....or so they say: She'll come around if you do it right. Posted by DeTrOiT (Member # 37598) on :
Great Post Fate111 and D.L. I didn't read his latest post until after I posted...If. she has let you touch them...YOU SHOULD BE GOOD TO GO...She obviously doesn't have a Foot Phobia..Fate111 has it all right...DO EXACTLY WHAT THESE GUYS SAID!...
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
I agree with fate. I have never dated/hooked up with a girl that LIKED feet. They all hated them. But they were cool with me liking their feet. It sounds as though this is the category your girl falls under. No worries bro. If a woman likes you...her feet are the least of her worries.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
i won't add too much to what was so well said.. but let me share a little of my story.
i'm married. love my wife to tears.. and she loves me tons. before we met.. she wasn't big on high heels. didn't care for her feet.. swore no man would ever touch them. was tired of folks making fun of how much she sweats and the scent that goes with that. she was contemplating surgery to make her feet no longer sweat (one of her girlfriends successfully had done that)
nearly a decade later (and three years of marriage).. she's settled into what is her normal state of being. heeling on her terms.. feet action on her terms. if i don't blend it into an activity (massage) or the like, i do pretty much without. not because she's mean or anything.
in her words. "women do a lot of things just because they like how their men reacts to it being done, not because they care for it at all"
feelings are already involved.. so.. do as the others said.. play it cool and do you.. though my money is on the fact you're not going to get all the action you'd like.. especially if you want her to initiate it. but you'll get something.. like the massages you give to her.
if she's not the one.... and you're ever back on the dating market.. sort this out way before you get attached!!! not first date deal. but some time after that.
if not.. you'll have the "hayday" feeling.. the feeling of you've had your best run when you were at the peek of dating and moving torwards marriage.
i love my set up.. but it's not as good as it was when we were engaged and when we first got married (in terms of the amount of action and stuff i could do). today the connection is much much deeper. the variety a little less.. but the fun oh so much better!!!! i gave up a little. she gave up a little. we found a happy medium.
RPM
p.s. good luck with how things are.. but my other money says when she's the most self-concious about her feet.... you're getting the least action. find the times she's most likely not to care, and that's your window for the most fun.. learn to read her well.. and you'll be fine
Posted by skaramunga (Member # 11914) on :
Rock on Detriot, RPM, and Fate...follow what these guys say...
Posted by kara (Member # 36617) on :
Good advice here, especially toesucker - uk.
Unless she has some deep seeded DISGUST towards feet, she really just might not realize how her feet could be sexy.
As you said yourself, you have already kind of opened her up to new things, and I seriously think that if you play your cards right, you can open her up to being comfortable with her feet and you having fun with them.
And as Fate111 said, just be cool and casual about your desire for her to be more involved with her feet. Don't stress it to much, but also, don't be a pussy and go half way when the time is right.
The best advice I can give you is to act upon your desires in the "heat of the moment" and when you start doing that frequently, she will be more acustomed to you doing it on a regular basis.
Posted by 2nd. To God In Power (Member # 23391) on :
quote:Originally posted by curly09: make her cum really really hard,then you can do whatever.win the pussy you win the feet.lol.
This is 100% true on ALL levels.
And LOL@Arch_Analyst, I know exactly what "DTB" means. LOL
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
Hmmm. Just read Fate111 and RPM's post and I respecfully disagree.
This is a BIG deal. If your girl doesn't please you you're setting yourself up for a John Edwards/Bill Clinton/#insert adulterous male here. Very bad. Feet aren't a big deal. And we guys have something to offer too! We too often put women on pedastals when they don't deserve it. If she took care of your ALL of your sexual cravings feel free to put her on the highest pedatsal you can find...but till then don't.
"DTB" comes to mind. Thanks Arch Analyst. A guy that can't make his woman orgasm and won't go down on her because he thinks "its disgussting" deserves to be dumped. I dumped a beautiful german model partly because she was sexually selfish and didn't get into the foot thing. I could see the misery down the road. I wanted to call up other girls and fantasized about past more accomodating girl friends. If she liked me soooo much footplay wouldn't be a big deal. If it truly is then we are simply not meant to be. Not every hot chic out there is your soul(sole) mate. I've had many though(more than not) that were/are extremely accomadating when it comes to their feet. They aren't into feet...but they want to please their man.
Think highly of yourself. The saying goes "if he won't please her another man will" can also be phrased "if she won't please you, another woman will".
I bet she's hot bro. My fetish is easier to share with women I know are pretty but we both know i'm a little out of their league. If she doesn't get on board I can dump her with no remorse. Women that are very beautiful it's tougher because extreme beauty doesn't happen everyday and for fear of losing her. You won't be happy though if your sex life is always on "Her Terms". Shitty way to live bro, no matter how hot she is.
You're not married yet bro! Don't commit till she's commited to satisfy you sexually bro! Only tears and the "what could have been" feeling in your pants man.
Posted by jg24fans (Member # 18305) on :
i got married young and was my wife's first. I didn't really tell her about my foot fetish for a long time, I think I just slowly worked my way towards it. I think if you take your time and don't hit it her all at once with it you will be fine. You have only been with her a month she doesn't need to know all about your fetish's or everything about you in one month. If you think its going to be a long term relationship you have plenty of time to build up to it. I started out with foot massages and then light kissing on her feet during sex etc.. She knew I liked feet but I don't think she really realized how powerful or that i had a fetish for probably a few years into our marriage.
If she lets you massage your feet then I agree with everyone else, you will be ok with her in the long run, because if she lets you touch them and massage them then that's half the battle. But I don't think you have to tell her everything right away, take your time and work her into it slowly, there is nothing wrong or dishonest about that.
Posted by JustJoe (Member # 9641) on :
quote:Originally posted by Beautifulfeetonline.com: I just don't know why you don't weed that stuff out before you start establishing feelings, etc. Good luck though!
Well said! You and I think alike.
Posted by dredredre (Member # 28453) on :
You guys were right my girl finally came around. I didn't even bring it up I just grabbed her feet and went to work. She was totally cool with it and she seemed to like it because she started biting her lip while her eyes were closed. Thanks to everyone who posted especially Kara. It's not everyday the woman you have on your desktop writes a reply on your post. I will def get some pics and post them when I get a chance. Once again thanks for all the advice everyone.
Posted by Rae124 (Member # 328) on :
Pics plz And good work. They all come around eventually.
Posted by mfdooms (Member # 18036) on :
Satisfy her needs and you'll be fine. Every girl has a freaky side, try your best to explore them and accommodate her needs and then bring up the foot thing after a few weeks. She shouldn't be judgmental since you can be the only man who took the time to please her in ways no other man has.
I think 99% of guys with stable relationships here whose wives or girl friends are totally into the foot thing is because they're actually doing their job in satisfying their woman and not being selfish.
Truth be told, no woman really enjoys foot fetish to our extent. Whether you like it or not it's the truth, but if you satisfy her, then she will do her best to please you no matter what.
Most of those women here say they love foot guys because they're promoting their pay-sites, or because they just feed of the attention they get from guys here... they don't fantasize about guys licking their feet or using their feet instead of hands to blow guys off. sorry
Think about it, have you even been to a dating site or a club or heard any woman say "I'm strictly looking for foot guys, if he ain't got a thang for feet then I don't want him"
Wow, I've been a member for 3 1/2 years and this is my only post, lol. I joined these forums but never visited until recently!
[ May 25, 2010, 10:07 AM: Message edited by: mfdooms ]
Posted by temp1234 (Member # 33411) on :
quote:Originally posted by mfdooms: I think 99% of guys with stable relationships here whose wives or girl friends are totally into the foot thing is because they're actually doing their job in satisfying their woman and not being selfish.
Truth be told, no woman really enjoys foot fetish to our extent. Whether you like it or not it's the truth, but if you satisfy her, then she will do her best to please you no matter what.
Oh nono it does happen. My girl is like that sometimes. She LOVES her feet being rubbed and licking them really turns her on. I like to think I'm lucky like that .
Posted by REYMAN01 (Member # 38637) on :
Dl said right !!!
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
GQ, i don't mind you respectfully disagreeing with me. it's perfectly fine.
the one thing i am glad you clearly stated, being that he's not married, if he's not happy with his relationship, he can leave. settling is selling yourself short (99.9% of the time)
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by mfdooms: Satisfy her needs and you'll be fine. Every girl has a freaky side, try your best to explore them and accommodate her needs and then bring up the foot thing after a few weeks. She shouldn't be judgmental since you can be the only man who took the time to please her in ways no other man has.
I think 99% of guys with stable relationships here whose wives or girl friends are totally into the foot thing is because they're actually doing their job in satisfying their woman and not being selfish.
Truth be told, no woman really enjoys foot fetish to our extent. Whether you like it or not it's the truth, but if you satisfy her, then she will do her best to please you no matter what.
Most of those women here say they love foot guys because they're promoting their pay-sites, or because they just feed of the attention they get from guys here... they don't fantasize about guys licking their feet or using their feet instead of hands to blow guys off. sorry
Think about it, have you even been to a dating site or a club or heard any woman say "I'm strictly looking for foot guys, if he ain't got a thang for feet then I don't want him"
Wow, I've been a member for 3 1/2 years and this is my only post, lol. I joined these forums but never visited until recently!
Excellent first post. In my experience this has been the case. If a woman ever said they "missed" my foot fetish it wasn't they fetish they missed but the passion I held for them.
Posted by toesukr22B (Member # 6298) on :
"Truth be told, no woman really enjoys foot fetish to our extent"
Absolute rubbish i have been with a couple of woman that ASKED ME to suck their toes cos it turned them on so much, i did not even mention my foot thing yet. Lots of woman love having their toes sucked, lots of lesbians also suck each others toes !!!
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
Glad to hear that you went for it and things worked out well, dredredre. I thought all was not lost when your girlfriend made the comment that she "hates feet".
Posted by MrSoleLvr (Member # 21192) on :
Nicely done dredredre! Chaulk one up to converted to the foot side!
Cheers,
Posted by Fwrinkledsoles (Member # 101) on :
I don't know but I heard that guys who are into Foot Fetish are the best lovers. For me, I make sure my wife cum every time and then her feet is all mines any time I want them.
Posted by dredredre (Member # 28453) on :
Very true Fwrinkledsoles because thats basically how my situation worked out. Thanks alot Fate111 and MrSoleLvr for all the great advice.
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