I was wondering my gf accepts the idea of my fetish for feet but she has seen all of the pictures and videos I've taken of other womens feet and she would rather I delete them all and only take pics of her feet? I don't know if I should or not. She also wants me to stop visiting the sites as well. Should I?
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
I suppose the right answer is "yes" if you care about her and her feelings. May depend on how serious you are/will get with her. My answer is couched with uncertainty because I'm a relatively happily married man who's been, unbeknownst to my wife, lustily looking at other women's feet since I was a teen and a member here for years- both things I find virtually impossible to stop. I will say this though- if my wife let me enjoy AND photograph her feet I would find it easier to curtail my other activities.
Posted by PublicName (Member # 12270) on :
Option 1)get an external, move it all there, hide the drive and delete it all from your pc. save it for another time cause you won't need it for quite a while while you're taken. it's basically "your things" so if you want to keep them you can, but it's better for you to move them somewhere you're not going to be accessing them regularly(your pc). sooo in this case you still have all of your "stuff" and you can get to it when you want, but it's out of the way on another drive you don't keep connected to your pc. you should also keep this somewhere your girl isn't gonna be snooping around in. i.e a safe if you have one or a place where you keep personal things you don't want people looking through.
You're respecting her wishes, yet still keeping something you did in the past. since you took videos/pictures I'm going to call it your "work" so you might as well keep it. It really isn't a big deal if you ask me..no different than looking up some pornographic material or checking out a magazine. It's just gonna be in your "stash" or whatever, I honestly think every guy has one whether they want to admit it or not.
Option 2)Delete it all and forget about it. Respecting her wishes completely. Just remember you won't get it back, if you're absolutely okay with this, go for it.
I don't think it's a "Should I?" but a "Can I?" and that's a question you need to ask yourself. Do you view any of this on a regular basis? Forums/sites I don't see as a big deal, to be honest. Having a huge stash on your PC might be. I have one and I don't even know why because I go online for most of what I do anyway. If I see something I like a lot I just save it.
Posted by Salvy_Mic (Member # 13384) on :
Yeah, I'm with Public Name and his option No. 1. Put it all on a flash drive and just stash it somewhere, out of sight and out of mind after you delete it all from your hard drive. I've long considered what I'd do if I ever entered a relationship where it became an issue. I can't delete all the stuff I've acquired since I actually paid for some of it. Especially the customs because those aren't cheap. But I've already backed up all my important stuff on one flash drive, so in a second, I can wipe my PC and stash the flash somewhere else.
Posted by tyvianc (Member # 40624) on :
Man, just back up everything, since you said that you paid for some of the stuff. It's impossible to stop to be honest, because we see feet everywhere. I'm not saying her request is a little unreasonable, but meet her halfway, and just stash it. Take plenty pics of her feet while you can too. I do agree with you that if she let's you do both of photographing and enjoying her feet, it will be easier to curtail your other activities.
Posted by DeuceBigglo (Member # 1326) on :
Delete old gf feet.keep visting sites. Women always want you to change to what they think is best. Then the y get bored.!!!
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
Thats a red flag right there man. I could see if she came and jumped on ya wanting to have sex and you deflected her and said nope, gotta go look at footie porn then yes she would have a case! But as long as your choosing footie porn over her then I don't see what the problem is. I wouldn't delete it, and hiding it is not going to be the best option either. She finds that external hard drive after you said you deleted everything then what? She either ends it or loses all trust in you(as in, if your lying about footie porn what else are you hiding/lying about). Hate to think that way but thats what most women think like...
Posted by reamow (Member # 37306) on :
No, send them to me!
In all seriousness, stash them on some hard drive in some folder path that will be your secret. Meanwhile, take her up on her offer to foot model for you(don't forget to share on Wu's). Most importantly, improve on your efforts to cover your own tracks ON ALL FRONTS.
[ January 19, 2012, 02:57 PM: Message edited by: reamow ]
Posted by Goddess Melanie (Member # 40802) on :
quote:Originally posted by footman3445: I was wondering my gf accepts the idea of my fetish for feet but she has seen all of the pictures and videos I've taken of other womens feet and she would rather I delete them all and only take pics of her feet? I don't know if I should or not. She also wants me to stop visiting the sites as well. Should I?
Showing your girlfriend photos you shot of other women you've dated is a bad idea. Same goes for foot photos, fuels nothing but jealousy. How is it that she has "seen" all this unless you showed it to her or left it in a very conspicuous place?
Not having trust in a relationship is unhealthy as well, as in your stuff is off-limits within reasonable scrutiny or doubt of real infidelity. Text Messages, Cell Phone Pins, Email accounts, Computer folders filled with personal or private photos.
Posted by Fwrinkledsoles (Member # 101) on :
My first wife was upset with my foot fetish of other women pictures in my collection. Now, I have found a wife (my third one) who don't care and encourage me. I have a few pictures of her mother I took 10 years ago. I would say, your fetish is not going away from experience with my first wife I use to try and hide my collection and once in awhile she found them. However, she is only a girl friend. I say keep looking until you find a girl friend or wife who understands. Because, I think you shouldn’t have to throw away you collection or hide your pictures or videos as a grown man. Be yourself, stand your ground and remember most of us guys who love ourselves some women feet are very nice guys. I can bet she is happy in the bedroom with you. Having a foot fetish is a form of fore play in which most women want because we stick it in and because once we stick it in and explored, that it. Posted by Peter, Peter (Member # 40235) on :
NO, even if she is your girlfriend. Like the previous callers have already said, "it depends on how serious". But she needs to understand, these are just photos. As long as they don't take your attention from her (because this is woman want, attention) then it shouldn't be an issue.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
This is why you never show your woman your foot stash.
You must delete it. Why?
Feet turn us on right? Ok. So for the normal T&A guy he'd have pics of his ex's T&A. Ok. Situation reverse...and your girl had pics of her ex's..how would you feel? Not so good. You see to her these are more than just pics of feet...these are pics of feet that you may miss, that you've had, that you may still LOVE. They could even be perceived as better than hers by her!
Now if these were just pics accumulated from the net over time i'd say keep them! Every dad in America had his stash of playboys underneath the bathroom sink. Every guy has some porn on his comp...what's wrong with a bunch of faceless non explicit pictures below the ankle? If a girl friend wanted her own porn collection....what guy would be against that? It's impersonal and has nothing to do with competition.
GQ
Posted by National (Member # 8568) on :
This starts out well enough.
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: Feet turn us on right? Ok. So for the normal T&A guy he'd have pics of his ex's T&A. Ok. Situation reverse...and your girl had pics of her ex's..how would you feel? Not so good. You see to her these are more than just pics of feet...these are pics of feet that you may miss, that you've had, that you may still LOVE. They could even be perceived as better than hers by her!
Which leads right into ...
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: This is why you never show your woman your foot stash.
I agree with all of that.
But I don't agree with deleting it. At least not now. If he wants to delete it, it should be done because he feels he has grown out of touch with them, not because he had to jump to order when someone pointed a proverbial gun to his head. Besides, what if the relationship breaks off? He'll just have pictures of her feet and not anyone else's whose feet might've been sexier. Starting a brand new collection after amassing a large one that has been deleted is a bit exhausting, I think.
He should put those pictures somewhere, lie to her by saying that all the pictures are gone and pretend that all is well.
Besides, who's to say that she no longer keeps in touch with her ex-boyfriend/s and other men who want to get in her pants? I'm not saying that she WILL do something with any of them, but hey ... you never know.
-- National
Posted by National (Member # 8568) on :
quote:Originally posted by reamow: No, send them to me!
In all seriousness, stash them on some hard drive in some folder path that will be your secret. Meanwhile, take her up on her offer to foot model for you(don't forget to share on Wu's). Most importantly, improve on your efforts to cover your own tracks ON ALL FRONTS.
Exactly!
Posted by aerodrew (Member # 2682) on :
No way I would delete them. That belonged to you "before" her so they should be there "after her". And statistically speaking there will be a "after her".
Meet her half way and save them external. But as far as not visiting sites? Even you're even considering that you might as well stick a fork in you... You're in for a miserable relationship.
In perspective.. My new GF tells me she doesn't want me to watch Football on Sundays or I can't eat steak because she's a vegetarian or I couldn't visit foot sites... All about the same... Not happening and she would have to go.
Posted by Scotty7493 (Member # 13127) on :
quote:Originally posted by footman3445: I was wondering my gf accepts the idea of my fetish for feet but she has seen all of the pictures and videos I've taken of other womens feet and she would rather I delete them all and only take pics of her feet? I don't know if I should or not. She also wants me to stop visiting the sites as well. Should I?
I think you should kick that b*tch to the curb.
She'll probably dump you one day and you'll be left with NOTHING and feeling really stupid.
Find a way to hide it. It's pretty simple nowadays with portable HD's and whatnot.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by aerodrew: No way I would delete them. That belonged to you "before" her so they should be there "after her". And statistically speaking there will be a "after her".
Meet her half way and save them external. But as far as not visiting sites? Even you're even considering that you might as well stick a fork in you... You're in for a miserable relationship.
In perspective.. My new GF tells me she doesn't want me to watch Football on Sundays or I can't eat steak because she's a vegetarian or I couldn't visit foot sites... All about the same... Not happening and she would have to go.
So if your wife kept a box with pictures of ex....you would be cool with that? I know for us it's just feet...but that's the way she'll see it.
But as for censoring what sites you visit..that's a whole nother ball game.
Perhaps i'm alone...but when I date a chick I don't want to see any signs of the new guy around. If I do....then I have one foot out the door because I know her heart isn't in it. I think deleting the pics of the ex's is a small price to pay. If it were his whole collection of wu's pics and pay sites ect...again that's different.
GQ
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
As everyone has said back your stuff up and stash it, but leave a copy of them on your HD. When she drops by call her to your computer and show her that you are done with the old pics since she's the only woman for you and delete your folders on your HD right in front of her! Voila! Deceptive maybe, but effective. Just don't forget to set that browser history to clear when you shut down after looking at foot porn and all will be fine.
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Posted by hyperion2424 (Member # 39397) on :
I would suggest that in any relationship, boundaries and rules are negotiated and not imposed. Clearly she feels threatened by the porn. On the other hand, it's part of your private life and not subject to her involvement. If she wants to impose control on that and you don't want her to, y'all have some negotiating to do. Good luck dude! -hyp
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
Not candid-related, but I deleted all my stuff a while back. It was kind of liberating actually...
Posted by JustJoe (Member # 9641) on :
quote:Originally posted by Andy-Laa: Not candid-related, but I deleted all my stuff a while back. It was kind of liberating actually...
Amen to that...I know the feeling.
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