As in, do you get turned on, perhaps even by TALKING about feet, to women? Or other things?
For example: it can turn me on, even throwing "feet" into a conversation with a woman. Like, I might mention how "my ex used to go clubbing, and take off her shoes and walk barefoot home" into a conversation. Or, if I have to ring a call centre, I might, if it's a female worker, add the topic to the conversation, by saying "the weather is getting nicer, isn't it? My girlfriend was even wearing her flip-flops, today".
It seems innocent to the other person, but turns you on.
Also: if one was to do this, whilst in a relationship, would this be wrong? I mean, it's saying something, to turn yourself on, to another woman. But, in the woman's mind, it's innocent, and no contact has been made. Is it any different to looking at porn, for example?
Posted by Talos (Member # 39913) on :
What's worse is when you're at work trying to get things done and a coworker who knows your foot fetish, comes up to you and says she's painting her toes purple today. Totally messes up my train of thought and I'm like putty for a few minutes.
Cheating? Depends on how secure the relationship is. Sex and love are two different things but what it really comes down to is trust.
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
I love to hear women talk about their feet, toes, soles, etc. and do get aroused by it but am very guarded about leading a conversation down the "foot" path due to the fact that they may pick up on my fetish- and most of the women I talk to are at work. For example: say I complemented their polish or footwear- no biggie, unless they come back with some other comments, start showing me their feet, wiggling their toes etc. If things got too hot and heavy I'm afraid I might have a hard time hiding my arousal. I'm sure that my wife would indeed consider it a form if cheating if she ever caught wind of it which is why I rarely do it.
Posted by hyperion (Member # 39397) on :
I do the conversation thing sometimes. It's fun, and marriage is not a prison where she cuts out your tongue.
You breathe the air exhaled by a hot chick. Not cheating. There's your morning chuckle.
This kind of stuff matters much less than being an overall good husband, there for your wife and especially your kids.
Posted by khorryn (Member # 46150) on :
I agree with hyp, if it's just an innocent comment (especially considering that the other parties involved in the examples you gave weren't even aware of your intentions) I really don't see how that can be taken as cheating.
I am pretty lucky that I'm in a very open and honest relationship with my boyfriend so we can freely just tell each other things like this without any sort of consequences. He loves to point out guys and girls he thinks are hot to me when we're out at restaurants and such. (And we generally have similar tastes, so I enjoy it) If it's something you feel comfortable talking about with your significant other, maybe you should ask them how they feel about it? Honesty is always the best policy, IMHO... but that might be something you get as you get older (I am 32 ).
Posted by super_strawberry (Member # 26001) on :
Any more thoughts? Wanted to bump this thread, as am still with this girl, we are getting closer, and I like her, and hence haven't engaged in any non-sexual-but-sexual talk with other women; yet can't pretend I haven't missed doing so like crazy.
Posted by NorcalfeetStudios (Member # 732) on :
Depends on what you feel inside, do YOU feel like it's bad is the main question. On an external level, talking about "feet" in a non sexual way with another girl you have no plans to "cheat" on your g/f with, then no it's not. Look inside for your answer as with most things in life.
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