Right, so I have a girlfriend, been together a few months, and we are falling in love. The only problem is, for years, I've made sporadic comments to/in front of women, to arouse/excite myself. All innocent, to the bystander. For example, if I have to ring a call centre, and I get through to a female worker, I might say, "lovely weather, my girlfriend was wearing flip-flops today" or I might comment on a female co-worker's flip-flops, and remark how my girlfriend likes flip-flops, too.
Now I have a girlfriend, and the weather is so nice, I have simply found it increasingly hard not to make such comments, and have succumbed to the temptation.
Is this wrong? I mean, technically, it's getting SOME form of sexual excitement/arousal, from another woman; but there is no contact involved, and to the women, there would be nothing sexual in it. So how different is it, say, to looking at porn?
Thoughts? Anyone else do similar?
Posted by KlassFX (Member # 46337) on :
Seems to me that you are seeking connection with other women regarding your fantasies. This is normal but it opens doors, most of which are bad if you are in a monogamous relationship.
Is your girlfriend able and willing to indulge your foot fetish 100%? If not, these urges will not go away.
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
I see nother wrong with talking to other girls about their feet, and occasionally massaging them, if they'll let you. But that's as far as I'd go!
Posted by cathymules (Member # 15805) on :
It doesn't matter where you get your appetite from as long as you go home to eat. Harmless
Posted by super_strawberry (Member # 26001) on :
Thanks for your replies. Klass: it needn't go further. Merely doing this, along with having a girfriend, satisfies my urges. I haven't told my girlfriend about my fetish, but she likes foot massages, and gives 'footjobs' sometimes, so it's good on that front.
The thing is, we only see each other twice a week (overnight once), and this, mixed with my high sex drive and the lovely weather, can leave me feeling very sexual, at times.
I would NEVER go as far as kissing, or even touching, another woman; I just find it so hard, with so many feet about, not to do what I describe. To me, it seems an innocent act, in that the women would not see it as sexual, there is no contact and hence no mutual pleasure.
It's different, for non-foot-fetishers; they don't see breasts all the time, like we see feet.
Dougie: I wouldn't actually go as far as massaging, as I'd feel too much like I was engaging in a sexual act, but fair play to you for stopping there.
Cathy: great analogy.
Anyone have anything else to offer? Anyone else do similar?
Posted by super_strawberry (Member # 26001) on :
I don't wish to be self-indulgent, but does anyone else have anything to offer?
Posted by RJFoot (Member # 37988) on :
Interesting discussion. Last Friday, I had an appointment with my chiropractor and afterwards was making small talk with the receptionist (she's in her mid to late 40's, a bit on the curvy side and big boobs). There was a bit of a heatwave where I was so I started off the conversation with "It's really nice weather for flip-flops, isn't it?!"
She said it was and started talking about the different types of sandals, like wedges and gladiator ones. She then stood up, and showed me her flip-flops! I went around the desk and saw her feet, which had nice length toenails and pink polish! I was very surprised that she even did that. The thing you have to remember is that if the woman is talking and talking about footwear, chances are she is comfortable talking about her feet! If she talks a bit and then stops, best to leave the conversation at that, believe me! You will know.
Also, my girlfriend knows my foot fetish inside out and when I see a sexy pair of feet on the street, she just laughs and says "I know you were looking at her feet!". She says "it's ok!"
She trusts me and always says about other girls feet "Look, but don't touch!" It really is about how much your girlfriend trusts you. She knows I would not do anything stupid to risk our relationship. Besides, I can worship her feet anytime I like! Posted by super_strawberry (Member # 26001) on :
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