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I agree with Mikey P. If that happened to me, I'll pretend I never knew the lady.
If i stayed, I'll live a "numb" life like the lady would. What's the point of staying with her if you're going to sleep with another lady who's functional? I'll cheat on her daily.
So to save her the heartache, I'll end the relationship.
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Sorry this goes off topic a bit but it was a bit funny - Joe Biden spoke once and referred to someone in the crowd, and asked him to stand up so everyone coudl give him a round of applause and he's a paraplegic - never seen Biden look so dumbfounded before it was funny
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Oh well if I play around with her feet while she's sleeping, she wouldn't feel a thing...lol
Jokes aside.... I don't use the word 'love' too lightly and don't use it unless I really mean it. If I was engaged to marry, it'll be someone I would really love and commit to, hence I wouldn't back out but stay for the long haul, seriously
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If you back out, then you were never really in love. If you do love someone, then you love them unconditionally. With any and all flaws or disabilities. If you were already married, would you file for divorce??
My answer to the question is, "I would go on with the marriage. That person is still going to need someone to love and care for them."
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quote:Originally posted by sofatater: If you back out, then you were never really in love. If you do love someone, then you love them unconditionally. With any and all flaws or disabilities. If you were already married, would you file for divorce??
My answer to the question is, "I would go on with the marriage. That person is still going to need someone to love and care for them."
nobody other than your parents or whoever raised you will ever love you "unconditionally", everybody else potentially will let you down
tell your girlfriend or wife that you are quitting your job to flip burgers for a living and lets see how much they love you unconditionally
sometimes in life you have to do what is best for you, marrying and taking care of a paraplegic will greatly affect your quality of life
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I respect your opinion, Mikey. I made my comments from experience. See my comments in "Mad or Sad?" I don't know how old you are, or if you've ever been married, But I still strongly disagree. That's just my opinion.
I did at one time come home and tell my wife that I was quitting my job driving trucks and took a job delivering pizzas. She understood my reasons and stuck by me. That's what true love is.
Certainly, taking care of a paraplegic will affect your quality of life. We all make sacrifices of one kind or another for those we love. Some sacrifices are just bigger than others.
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quote:Originally posted by sofatater: I respect your opinion, Mikey. I made my comments from experience. See my comments in "Mad or Sad?" I don't know how old you are, or if you've ever been married, But I still strongly disagree. That's just my opinion.
I did at one time come home and tell my wife that I was quitting my job driving trucks and took a job delivering pizzas. She understood my reasons and stuck by me. That's what true love is.
Certainly, taking care of a paraplegic will affect your quality of life. We all make sacrifices of one kind or another for those we love. Some sacrifices are just bigger than others.
i'll be 26 in a few weeks
how long did you deliver pizzas? if it was a temporary thing it might have been a little different if you said you were doing that for the rest of your life
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quote:Originally posted by sofatater: If you back out, then you were never really in love. If you do love someone, then you love them unconditionally. With any and all flaws or disabilities. If you were already married, would you file for divorce??
My answer to the question is, "I would go on with the marriage. That person is still going to need someone to love and care for them."
nobody other than your parents or whoever raised you will ever love you "unconditionally", everybody else potentially will let you down
tell your girlfriend or wife that you are quitting your job to flip burgers for a living and lets see how much they love you unconditionally
sometimes in life you have to do what is best for you, marrying and taking care of a paraplegic will greatly affect your quality of life
Just cant agree with you on this one Mikey. Even loving unconditionally - you will still be let down by parents etc... I believe and do love my husband unconditionally - regardless of his faults and mistakes and let downs...
i don't think it is possible to love a partner unconditionally
50% of marriages end in divorce, a large amount of the rest are unhappy but just stick around because they don't have better options
the ones that truly do love their partner just haven't had any fuckups yet
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quote:Originally posted by Mikey P: i'll be 26 in a few weeks
how long did you deliver pizzas? if it was a temporary thing it might have been a little different if you said you were doing that for the rest of your life [/QB]
At 26 you haven't had a lot of "Life experience". A lot of your opinions will change with age and when you find the "right" girl, so will a lot of other thoughts.
I delivered pizzas for two years. (It was the best paying gig in this area for that long) and it actually was for the rest of Ginger's life. She lost her battle with cancer 8 months after I started delivering pizzas.
But, this isn't a plug for sympathy. Sometimes life sucks, and we have to make the best of a bad situation.
Respectfully, "Tater"
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quote:Originally posted by Mikey P: i'll be 26 in a few weeks
how long did you deliver pizzas? if it was a temporary thing it might have been a little different if you said you were doing that for the rest of your life
At 26 you haven't had a lot of "Life experience". A lot of your opinions will change with age and when you find the "right" girl, so will a lot of other thoughts.
I delivered pizzas for two years. (It was the best paying gig in this area for that long) and it actually was for the rest of Ginger's life. She lost her battle with cancer 8 months after I started delivering pizzas.
But, this isn't a plug for sympathy. Sometimes life sucks, and we have to make the best of a bad situation.
Respectfully, "Tater" [/QB]
i hope you are right
sorry about your wife
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I still am having a hard time picturing myself going through the rest of the engagement and have my fiance be crippled from the waist-down.
I posted this question because people would leave after something like this has happened. It might not happen on the day of the accident, but the days are numbered.
If it happened to a relative, you will still love them no matter what. But if it involved your fiance (notice I didn't say husband/wife, and notice the question wasn't directed towards your spouse) the story is very different.
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I'd stay with her. It would really suck, and my life would be alot less fun than it potentially could have been, but hers will be far more difficult to handle too. If I loved her enough to marry her, I couldn't let her walk that road alone and would not only stay with her but support her in everyway I possibly could in order to give her every reason to smile I could possibly create and help her get the most possible from the compromised hand she'd been dealt.
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