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I'm looking and looking but can't seem to find the right girl for me. I tried dating a few and they all had compatibility issues. I live here in Los Angeles, California. I hope to find a girl who is between the ages of 18 to 23. I'm 23 male stud lol. I also don't know how to approach girls in random places stores, library, restaurants, and etc.. I'm meeting most online. If anyone has a way they can help me it would be greatly appreciated.
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Welll what kind of things are you into? Online is less personal, and can end up getting you the wrong gal. Go to a gym, girls go there. Take up a yoga class. (Lots of girls, and feet;p) Simple things like this. I advise staying away from bars though. All relationships I've seen start there, end there as well.
It's not hard to strike up a convo. The key is to keep it light and casual. Joke around a little bit. Don't stretch it out to long at first. Also remember a smile goes a long way.
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Y'know, I really wanted to offer some good, practical, and even motivational advice (honestly, there is some to offer, in general). As I considered this, I noticed that you mentioned that you are in L.A. I have a couple of friends there and have discussed the nature of interpersonal relations amongst the populace.
Though I wish it was otherwise, all I can do is wish you great luck and say "You're on your own, Bub".
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quote:Originally posted by Toetapper: Y'know, I really wanted to offer some good, practical, and even motivational advice (honestly, there is some to offer, in general). As I considered this, I noticed that you mentioned that you are in L.A. I have a couple of friends there and have discussed the nature of interpersonal relations amongst the populace.
Though I wish it was otherwise, all I can do is wish you great luck and say "You're on your own, Bub".
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Actually Tyranny is right about the smile. Do you have the ability to smile and make good eye contact with a beautiful stranger walking past. Even better, can your ego handle it if she does or doesn't smile back? If you are able to master this skill you will have women thinking about you. Do it again next time you see them and they are bound to reciprocate. Women want to meet guys in "normal" places more than guys do. Even for the woman that isn't "looking" a smile will brighten their day.
I myself am working on this skill. It's tough! I'm good while i'm intoxicated...but having that fun vibe during the day isn't easy. But you never know when a pretty lady will pass.
I'm in your boat too. I'm not in L.A. but Scottsdale AZ probably isn't much different. I see ALOT of women. It doesn't feel that way usually but when I think about the number of women i've dated in 09 i'm shocked. I have a high "turn over rate". I'm a stud too and that is part of it. It's easy to pick up women...far harder to keep them. The root of our problem is we're "looking"! We want a relationship. Crazy. I could have a new woman in my bed every weekend yet I want one girl....but I chase them away. The moment I buy into meeting and dating lots of women thats when I fall into a relationship. Can't win!
So I say enjoy your studliness. Smile more than you do. Not like an idiot, but to show you're happy. Do guy things. Stay very active. Date lots of women. This I found to be very important. Whenever I really like a girl i'll stop dating other women. This makes me want her even more....and invariably makes her want me next. Keep on dating other chics. If she's hot...I guarantee she's got other guys in waiting. Once you see that she's all in..then you can go all in.
Go where the women are:
Go to bars/clubs. Check out the cool happy hour spot 4pm-7pm. Tons of women there. And they want to meet someone. But they don't necessarily go out at night. But most people that go do so primarily to meet someone. That's why bars/clubs cannot be ruled out.
Yoga. I'm trying this next week myself. Something different. At the very least I learn a new skill.
Library is tough. I used to study at the same spot everyday at the same time. Just routine. But I then became familiar with all of the women that were on the same routine. But go to study. Don't count on meeting chics.
Gym. Same as the library. But go to workout. Don't count on meeting chics.
Make female friends. I'm a guys guy....so it's tough. But platonic female friends know other women. I haven't had much luck in this dept though. All of them have had a romantic interest and therefore wouldn't hook me up with their friends.
Good luck bro.
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quote:Originally posted by GQguy: Even better, can your ego handle it if she does or doesn't smile back?
Oh god! I tell you one thing about being dumped from someone you have true feelings fors for.
It makes THAT kinda thing a damn walk in the park! I remember trying similar things and when a chick snobbed me, I was able to laugh about it in no time. Especially how it made me feel 1 inch tall for a few seconds. Ha ha. Still makes me chuckle Posts: 962 | Registered: Jun 2007
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Greetings from Orange County Ghafm! Really good advice from SLT. But on the other hand you're 23! Don't worry about having a relationship. Just go have fun! If you're a stud like you say you should have no probs. Having a healthy income will of course always win you the girl or being a complete douche never hurts: http://www.hotchickswithdouchebags.com/
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Hey now Ed Hardy has some nicr stuff. I like the hats and cologne but don't consider myself a douchebag.
Ahh, wish I was single again kind of... miss the days of being a player and having a different chick every two weeks.
Oh well, you'll find someone dude.
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quote:Originally posted by ghafm: I'm looking and looking but can't seem to find the right girl for me. I tried dating a few and they all had compatibility issues. I live here in Los Angeles, California. I hope to find a girl who is between the ages of 18 to 23. I'm 23 male stud lol. I also don't know how to approach girls in random places stores, library, restaurants, and etc.. I'm meeting most online. If anyone has a way they can help me it would be greatly appreciated.
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What, I kill it in L.A. I love that city. Go to Bar Sinister in Hollywood on any Sat, the fetish room upstairs is super fab. And you know there are more women than men out there. Women in L.A. are pretty agressive imho. Just watch for them staring at you, lol.
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quote:Originally posted by ghafm: I'm looking and looking but can't seem to find the right girl for me. I tried dating a few and they all had compatibility issues. I live here in Los Angeles, California. I hope to find a girl who is between the ages of 18 to 23. I'm 23 male stud lol. I also don't know how to approach girls in random places stores, library, restaurants, and etc.. I'm meeting most online. If anyone has a way they can help me it would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
What, I kill it in L.A. I love that city. Go to Bar Sinister in Hollywood on any Sat, the fetish room upstairs is super fab. And you know there are more women than men out there. Women in L.A. are pretty agressive imho. Just watch for them staring at you, lol.
LA sounds awesome.
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I wish you all the luck in the world. All I can really suggest is look for girls in places you currently go. If you try branching out then you might find the kind of girl who you don't really want.
I say this as I met my girl friend at college at 16 and we've been together since (now 25). Whereas a friend of mine thought he'd try to find someone at a nightclub and just ended up being in a string of terrible relationships with girls he couldn't trust.
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