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"so what are you doing now that classes are over?"

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I think that would be too sudden. As I've said I really haven't talked to this girl yet. It was coincidence I was viewing a buddy's profile, and on Facebook profiles will say like 'so and so has 205 friends at this university.' Six random ones are displayed and she was one. I clicked on it as it looke familiar and when I realized she was in a class of mine I viewed her profile and friended her. I wanted to instant message her on AOL, but a friend of mine says I should wait until we've exchanged messages twice on Facebook. I suppose I could ask her 'how are you coming along on that take-home final?' That thing is confusing! I kinda wanna talk to her on Instant Messenger about the final and maybe just start talking from there. I just don't want to ruin any chance of something prospective that could happen.

~AF05~
 

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Posted by AFfootdude05 (Member # 2999) on :
 
I think I'm gonna send her another message on Facebook pertaining to the class that correlates to the first one...I asked her about campus classes cancelled today even though he still had material for that day...we're still responsible for it...might throw that along and from there I'm gonna just IM her about some confusing parts of the final. Thanks for helping me out here MissMcKenzie.

I'm also concerned with this being the last week of classes, if I don't make any initiatives this week I can kiss any chance of getting to know her goodbye...

~AF05~

[ April 27, 2007, 01:19 AM: Message edited by: AFfootdude05 ]
 

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Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
 
This is all to freaky for an old dude like me. Why not talk to her face to face instead of playing the internet chat game???
 

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Posted by AFfootdude05 (Member # 2999) on :
 
The only problem LeDaemon is I have just one more class with her and that's it. At least she's had an impression of me since we've been in that class all semester. I, myself, have never met people on Facebook before, although I do know some that have. Talking to her face to face will be tough now as I only have one more chance to do it (unless talking on Facebook leads to face-to-face, I'm not just some random stranger that friended her on there.

~AF05~
 

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Posted by AFfootdude05 (Member # 2999) on :
 
I've shot myself in the foot
 

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Posted by AFfootdude05 (Member # 2999) on :
 
Well maybe not I think I made a big deal out of nothing - I sent her a message regarding the class and she didn't respond to it right away, but she has. I just feel there's no way to get to know her now even though I have friended her on Facebook.

~AF05~
 

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Posted by foot_sniffer2281 (Member # 21756) on :
 
i say talk to her face to face...cant you just stop by in class and say "hiya...how are you? recognize me from facebook?", smile, and take it from there....no?
 

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Posted by AFfootdude05 (Member # 2999) on :
 
I have only one more chance to do this....in a few days we have our last class where we just turn in a take-home examination. I can't go into the class thinking with a now-or-never mentality.

~AF05~
 

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Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
 
hey footdude..just give her the trusty old "poke". It works for trying to get to know someone. I had a girl from Indiana "poke" me and from there it led to her messaging me and adding me on MSN. We talk regularly on MSN and she is a smoking girl too! But ya..just poke her and she see's it every time she logs onto facebook so therefore she will either poke you back or ignore ya...either way your on her radar. I have seen a group created called "enough with the poking already lets screw and get it over with"!
 

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Posted by AFfootdude05 (Member # 2999) on :
 
As simple as that is, it never crossed my mind..until I read your response! Thanks, Bluetoelover, I'm gonna have to work it in somewhere for sure. Right now I am trying to make a transition from the couple of exchanged messages about the class to talking to her on AOL. Any advice anyone?

~AF05~
 

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Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
 
My advice is still... unplug the computer and talk to her. See if she wants to go catch some lunch with you after class, get a cup of coffee, catch a movie, take a walk and talk across campus, check out a student exhibit in the art department, check out the band playing at the club across from the campus...

As far as "poking" goes I thought that's what you did once you finally got her back to your place after dinner... or was that "boinking?" Aw fuggit.

Unless you have the good looks of the elephant man in real life or have the charming personality of Charles Manson I see no reason to have to rely on cyberspace to meet someone you have seen in class all semester long, but haven't had a chance to talk to.

Girls ain't that scarey dude. Grow a pair and talk to her face to face... or else I'll stop over and knock you up side the head with your purse!

You're a good guy. I'm sure once you just talk to her you'll do just fine. Good luck!
 

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Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
 
your gonna make a helluva counselor one day ledaemon!
 

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Posted by Brii66 (Member # 20159) on :
 
Long time no post..

Well, I have the same problem you do, between trying to make a good impression and trying to do it quickly; except my problem is impatience. Like Blue said, poking is a friendly way to say "hello" without awkwardly butting in. Take it slow as you have to, advancing too fast will resort in rejection. Slow your roll and let it come to you. Ask her about herself, talk to her. She is a friend after all. Once you get to know her Im sure she wont be afraid of you IMing her. Panicing wont help the situation. Do what you thinks best.
 

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Posted by AFfootdude05 (Member # 2999) on :
 
LeDaemon was correct...the only problem is I had one day to talk to her in class and that day was today, but I didn't have a clear opportunty...so sad she looks even more beautiful in person than she does On Facebook Time to look on as this is now the past.

~AF05~
 

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Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
 
what about next semester?
 

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Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
 
If she is cool as you say she should be easily approachable...as in no problem to start a convo with. Keep us updated bro
 

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Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
 
haha I hope this guy isn't dwelling on this girl 3 years later like I am a different girl haha
 

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Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
 
Probably a little late. I'd try to get her to hang out as soon as possible. Preferably with friends that won't cock block you. You already like this girl way too much. You hardly even know her! Never even hung out with her. So relax. Have her "tag along" when you and your buddies are hanging out. Get her to bring her friends along and both groups can hang out and meet each other. This does a few things: shows you're a leader, of your friends and the situation(very attractive), she gets to see how you interact with your friends and her friends, the fact that everyone is hanging out makes it far less threatning for her and for you(you've got your boys around who'd better be building you up), she can see what'd it be like if you guys were dating, she also invest in your relationship by meeting your buddies and getting to know them.
Or like LaDaemon said get together with her for coffee or something. Keep it light. Save dinner for when you know a little more about her.
Whenever you message her, keep it interesting. Make the messages funny! I'd really try to avoid the transition from Facebook to AOL. I suggest Facebook-phone-meet. Or Facbook-meet. You don't want to end up in the "friend zone".
 

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Posted by A&F_FootDude_05 (Member # 2999) on :
 
Thanks for the feedback GQGuy, yeah right now I'm attracted to my roomate as she is just so attractive to me (I'm fighting the urge to not think about her like that) and find myself in a tough situation.
 

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