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How often do you guys in relationships have sex and/or masturbate? I used to mb about once a day and when I got into this relationship about 9 months ago I really cut back because we'd have sex 2-3 times a week. Now she is real busy (kids, school, work) and we only have sex maybe once every 2 weeks. I try not to masturbate (I guess I feel guilty or something), but if I go more than a couple days, I can't sleep good at night. Now I'm back to once a day or so, unless I know shes coming over. But now she's into this surprise thing, where she will just show up so I hate to do it not knowing if she will come over or not (even though she has only done this once). I had done it once and she came over and I still was able to perform, but why do the females have to have all the power for when to have sex? Sometimes I'll have to sleep next to her when she doesn't want to and she sleeps in the nude and I get real horny, sometimes I can get her going and sometimes not...
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Bob- I'm pretty much in the same boat as you in many ways. Sounds like our sex drive is about the same, our partner's sex drive about the same, and when we'll actually get sex being a real unknown or roller-coaster.
Especially since I began working at home (alone) a few years ago, I've been an almost daily masturbator.
My sex drive is pretty high, I wake up with a woody every morning, which my wife rarely does anything about (sometimes she will let me pleasure myself- usually with and onto her feet) And with the abundance of incredible foot pictures here at Wu's (and elsewhere) it's been very difficult for me to abstain from MBing. So almost daily, usually in the morning when I was horny as hell, I'd rub one out to some foot pics, and be able to "recover" for sex that night if my wife desired it. If I thought my chances were particularly good for sex on a given night, I'd abstain in order to really show her a good time. I've felt very little guilt from doing this, as I have always been able to satisfy her completely when having sex.
Addressing your situation- I feel for you man- there's no way I could go 2 weeks without MBing if I was getting no sex during that time. No question that the "surprise" thing makes it that much worse.
I'm assuming that since you posted this here on WU's that you're a foot guy. Of course I don't know if you've shown or told her how much you're into feet, but my suggestion would be (if she knows) to ask her if she'd be up to letting you play with and use her feet to stimulate yourself when she's not interested in full-blown sex.
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My case it's not so far from urs guys, i got married a year and half ago, we have a lot of sex, in the week, sometimes 3 or 4 times, some weeks just once because we have or she has a lot of work and she just don't get home in the mood so i respect that, but man let me tell you i mtb almost daily i think it's healthy, and also sometimes my wife helps me, or she even tell me that i can play with my self whenever i want, so i don't feel guilty at all, i think men are so fucking different than woman, we get horny mostly every freaking day so why to denied our nature, man it's = sex all the time probably that's why some men sometimes cheat on their wifes, not because they don't love them, but because they're just tired to wait for the wife to be in the mood for sex..............
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I think I am the same, I only have sex with the Mrs once a week, sometimes less. She does let me play with her feet when she cant be bothered to go for full blown sex but I tend to pnly do this sometimes becuase I still feel sort of wierd doing it and her just looking at me (we have been married for two years so im not sure this will go away).
Anyway needless to say I wax my pole everyday, sometimes several times (I work from home) and I am ususally able to perform if it is a "shag the mrs night". She ofcourse doesnt know I masterbate, she has asked me a few times, I just deny it.
Maybe she knows, I dunno
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Yeah, I'm starting to get a little discouraged. Its been at least 3 weeks and she has her kids again this weekend. Pisses me off because we go back to school next week and we'll both be real busy. No fun at all on our 2 week break! We both mentioned the idea of her bringing her youngest to stay the night (hopefully on the couch)when she doesn't have the older girls, but she always has an excuse. Hey Feetluvr, yeah I'm into feet and she knows it and doesn't mind. I often kiss them and tried a footjob once, but it didn't seem to work (it does take me awile to "finish" sometimes with everything except masturbation). I suggested I do something with her feet once when she did'nt want to have sex, but shes either into it when she's horny or shes not. But she has given me a bj a couple times which is cool. Now I mostly just like to look at her feet or massage them a little when we make love. Funny, she doen't look like alot of these "models" on the foot sites, but is'nt bad looking and her long legs and feet usually get me hard instantly while pictures take a little while.
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i think my situation really sucks.... and after explaining it.. i'll add my 2 cents on it.
1- due to my religious up bringing.. masturbation for me isn't something i do or feel inclined to do. though my lady wonders why I don't. and for the record.. i'm not making any value judgement here. it's just the way i am.
2-my lady isn't always in the mood to let me enjoy her feet. and i can't tell when she's in the mood. but i'm lucky, she's opened up a lot about my love of her feet.
3- due to points raised in item one.. i'm waiting until i'm married to have sex.
ok.. now that i've shared....
man.. i feel your pain!!!! i really do!!!!!!! my lady is hot and every time i see her... it drives me nuts. to her.. she's not all that hot and can't understand why i'm all hot and bothered.
plus.. she's concerned that i'll always be in the mood when we're married and i'll wear her out.
what i've taken away from all of this.. we've got to talk.... and we did... and we've agreed that we can meet each other part way. she's letting me closer to her feet more often.. i can touch more often.. and she's warming up to me enjoying their scent more often.
ok.. it doesn't take care of the urge to make love or get release.. but i'm living with it until we get married. she now is fully aware that my sex drive is a slight bit higher than hers, but I now also understand that it appears that way because to her, she is trying just as hard to save herself for marriage as I am. so.. with fingers crossed... when we're married.. our libido will be about the same.
plus.. i've made a point of letting her know clearly.. i am a strong believer in getting a babysitter once a week so we can date each other after we tie the knot. though she was initially hesitant, she's warmed up to the idea.
i know this post isn't too related to the initial topic.. but thought i'd share some light that will help you with coping with the waiting period.. i've been waiting for a long long long time!
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my ex used to let me rub one off on the sides of her thigh when she wasn't in the mood.....instead of just masterbating, I got to play with feet, titties, and all while getting one off too........it was great!
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