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so me and my girlfriend of year and a half broke up like a month ago. It was a mutual decision and it is definatly fot the best. We are still living together and it is going o.k. Here is the problem, she has beautiful feet and they were a huge part of my life. Since we broke up she has been good about kinda hiding her feet, up until yesterday. Fresh painted toes. She has not painted her toes since we broke up. Im uncomfortable around them. Everything is still kinda new being single again. She is not hiding them any more. What do i do? deal w/ it. Ask her to cover them around me, ask her to take off the polish?(unpolished toes do nothing for me) I need advice... help!!!
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She sounds like a woman who like to push the buttons. She knows how you feel about her feet and is it sounds like she is teasing you a bit. Always a tough to know the motive of females. She could be just enjoying making you miss what you cant have or she is also missing some of the benefits you used to give her and this is her way of making you make the 1st move.
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Put them around your cock. Seriously, break up, but you live together? That's smart. Just Do It.
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first off.. not sure why she didn't paint her toes after the break up. was that part of the 'deal'?
at anyrate.. different folks recover at different rates. she's not to be expected to 'mope' around until you're good and ready to move on.
secondly... your situation really sucks.. you both share the place.
all you can do is not be nasty about her moving along at a different rate than you. i wouldn't read more into it unless she verbalizes something to you.
i'd find ways to get out the house more!!! focus on moving on yourself. it's going to be super hard missing those feet.. but just have to move along.
if you don't.. she'll have power over you.. you'll keep huring. it's not a power struggle.. but you focused on her feet.. you're handing over power to her.. and giving her the temptation to mess with your head and you'll hurt more for it.
so. do what you must to move along.. don't try to hurt her for moving on... (if she's already started).
find another set of feet to enjoy. but be cool about it.
don't rub anything in her face. be a gentleman about it.. keep the house a neutral place until one of you can move out.
if the house isn't neutral.. it's going to become hell fast!!!!!!!! so.. stay cool!!! don't push her buttons (even if she pushes yours).. be cool... and move on.
i believe.. by being cool.. you guys can be civil and even friends afterwards.. but if you get all messed up and think she's messing with you by showing her toes.. you'll create your own hell!!!! and when a woman want's to make hell for you.. trust me.. you'll burn!!!
that is all i can say. it's her toes.. she can paint them all she wants.. you can't do a thing about it.. just move on wiht life
RPM
p.s. she doesn't owe ya.. she's no longer your girl (don't wanna sound harsh though)
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thats the thing, i love my place and dont feel i should have to move nor do i want to. we had been friends for like 5 years before we starting dating and our relationship was never very passionate. we are actually living together pretty well, now this. i dont want to be w/ her and i dont want to make any kind of move on her whatsso ever, but damn her feet.
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if that is the only issue you have... then.. once you find new feet to focus on.. you'll be coping a lot easier.
i'm not saying move and leave your place. nor am I saying you should get her to move.
but.. look at it from her point of view.. she shouldn't have to hide her feet and toes from you just because you find them hot.
that is like saying to a gal.. because i love your tits.. you should not only cover them up.. but have a sports bras on.. wear only baggy sweatshirts.. because otherwise i'd get horny.
sounds stupid right.. well... you love her feet.. i'm sure they're not the only feet you'll ever love.. move on along! (sure it won't be easy.. i konw.. i had to get over my ex's feet too).. but it gets done.
so... as hard as it is.. just keep trucking. who knows.... she'll opt to cover them on her own... i won't stay super warm all year round!
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Just be friends with benefits. Problem solved.
However in my opinion...
Someone's gotta move. It'll cramp each of you in the dating arena I would think to bring home someone else to the place and still be living with the girl you were just in a relationship with.
I see the scenario of you sitting on the couch in a stained t-shirt and boxers drinking a beer, eating a bag of pretzels, trying to watch the game and she brings home her date for the evening. "Hey I'd like to introduce you to my ex boyfriend D-Wreck. Oh, and D-Wreck don't mind us we'll just be grabbing a bottle of wine and heading to my bedroom. You just do what you were doing there!"
The door closes, you hear their muffled voices and giggling, and then you hear the repetitive squeaking of bedsprings for the next few hours from her room...
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Any chance of the two of you making up? If not, why not confront her? Demand to know why she's showing off her feet to you after the two of you have broken up.
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girls who care about themselves are going to do things like get pedicures/manicures, their hair done and tanning etc whether single, taken or otherwise. of course she knows you like feet but just cuz she has painted toes and goes barefoot doesnt mean shes trying to mess with your head..i feel like i rarely see girls without polish so i dont think her having hers done is some master plan..i think us footguys gotta remember that our fondness is the minority, she might not think about her feet the way you do, even after being shown how you feel about them from y'alls relationship. Ask her to take her polish off? comon lets stop being selfish... and yeah i agree with others, move.
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Someone's gotta move. It'll cramp each of you in the dating arena I would think to bring home someone else to the place and still be living with the girl you were just in a relationship with.
I see the scenario of you sitting on the couch in a stained t-shirt and boxers drinking a beer, eating a bag of pretzels, trying to watch the game and she brings home her date for the evening. "Hey I'd like to introduce you to my ex boyfriend D-Wreck. Oh, and D-Wreck don't mind us we'll just be grabbing a bottle of wine and heading to my bedroom. You just do what you were doing there!"
The door closes, you hear their muffled voices and giggling, and then you hear the repetitive squeaking of bedsprings for the next few hours from her room...
HOW CAN YOU DEAL WITH THAT??????
I agree that eventually someone should move, whether it be you or her. However, as RPM said, you'd be best to move along and get back into the dating scene. Who knows? You may even want to do the role reversal of LeDaemon's scene above, beat her to the punch, and become your ex-gf's/roommate's "My Obnoxious Ex-Boyfriend" (I see reality tv show written all over this!). Invite a girl back to your crib, knowing that your ex-gf/roommate will be home, and then start bumping uglies in your bedroom for your ex to overhear. Guaranteed your ex will either want to 1) move out, or 2) want to get back together with you the moment something like that happens.
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I'm the opposite of you, as I prefer plain nails over painted ones, but I can work with certain colors. What broke you up in the first place? Is it possible that she misses the foot action?
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