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Yeah time to bust some heads....That's just uncalled for really and if they're really your friends they'll still be there after you've given them a piece of your mind. But there's no way you just let this slide in your OWN HOME. My two cents.
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First I'd bring it up your friend- just ask him to ask his girlfriend not to bring it up in group conversation
If that doesn't work or if he doesn't want to get involved go directly to his gf and express that you'd rather not broadcast your FF so youd like it if she kept her comments to herself.
I find most people will respect your wishes if you clearly state them. If however those don't work start breaking heads...
or start telling explicit/embarrassing stories about their sex lives every time she does and then I'm sure she'll get the hint.
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Yeah busting heads is probably npt the best recourse in this matter. i would attempt diplomacy and sk them respectfully to keep your personal business yours and remind them that they are being extended a courtesy by being allowed to saty in your home until theris is ready. Just my thoughts
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I had a girlfriend who used to bring it up at parties or hanging out with friends... Sometimes it was alright, alot of the time it was embarassing. I took her aside and was honest with her that it made me uncomfortable and she stopped. You just need to be upfront, your friend and his gf might not think you are uncomfortable about it.
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: Or my other buddy who said on Sat night "get off your feet fetish sites and put on music" while I had other people over who had NO idea about my FF...
LMAO
Hey i know the feelin. i have some loud mouth friends too who i never should've told. so basically i have learned my lesson now and i tell nobody about it, except other guys on the internet who are exactly as perverted as me.
telling my friends has been a no no ever since that kind of crap started happening to me too.
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Hmmm - she is playin with you - I wouldn't sweat it. I'd say something like. " I don't like all feet, don't flatter yourself." "Their ashy, toe-up, whatever." Tell her you like her friend's feet tho. That will pique her interest. Most women just want attention. Remember that.
I think it says more about your buddy. I had been cold cocked before when everyone saw it and even the coach asked me to give the person up. Never did. Won't do it. And he wasn't a friend until I saved his ass.
I wouldn't go to Vegas with him - call him Drama from Entourage - what a cock blockin blabber mouth.
Get a camera - as a fotog you can be bat shit crazy and no one cares.
Oh and he is livin' with you - you are helpin him out and he is askin you to change the music - heeeel no! Tell me where you live and I'll take him out to the woodshed for free!
Or kick him out with her tonight. Tell him your secret and you're lifestyle is obviously too much for him/them to handle and they should leave. Gotta go!
To quote me - "violence doesn't solve everything, just certain things."
quote:Originally posted by Lyrical: Yeah busting heads is probably npt the best recourse in this matter. i would attempt diplomacy and sk them respectfully to keep your personal business yours and remind them that they are being extended a courtesy by being allowed to saty in your home until theris is ready. Just my thoughts
lighten up man. "busting heads" was a reference to OP saying "knock people out" A tongue in cheek reference at that.
quote:Originally posted by moxy: First I'd bring it up your friend- just ask him to ask his girlfriend not to bring it up in group conversation
If that doesn't work or if he doesn't want to get involved go directly to his gf and express that you'd rather not broadcast your FF so youd like it if she kept her comments to herself.
I find most people will respect your wishes if you clearly state them. If however those don't work start breaking heads...
or start telling explicit/embarrassing stories about their sex lives every time she does and then I'm sure she'll get the hint.
Hmmm.. I agree with this post.. (busting heads is funny..)
First tell them nicely that you dont appreciate that kind of talk in your place.. Also it is not for them or others to be so judgemental...
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i've lived variants of this situation. a gentle conversation usually clears things up. but sadly, not always. sometimes, more direct talk has to be used.
i've never had to bust heads, but i've had to use "reversal"... where i leaked out what they didn't want the world to know.. and when they got upset.. i gently reminded them that i asked them to keep my info personal, and that if they didn't. i'd spill some beans.. and they have no right to get upset.. they violated our contract.
but.. if it persist.. some "busting head" like limiting their access to your personal space.. ie.. tough love.. or just booting their friendship!
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only my wife knows and of course everyone here, but then everyone here understands, people that do not like feet don't understand and i really don't want to tell anyone else, just for what happened to you, it's a very slippery slope, you wish it could be common knowledge but that probably isn't going to work out.
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I like elvzz first response. i assure you, no one really cares about it as much as you do. when you jump into damage control mode or defense mode people start to think that it's bigger than it actually is. If they're trying to be funny and they're not, call em on it. Pull em aside and say "I know you're trying to be funny, but you're coming off like an ass" that should be enough. I usually shrug it off. Actually I welcome my buddies busting me on it in front of girls because it shows a couple of things: 1) I can laugh at myself 2) I can hold my own 3) I'm not ashamed of what I like or who I am
and once I tell the girls that I have standards and that i'm not sure they meet them ;o) then it's on! My buddies usually fade into the background as the group of girls and I start a convo on feet sexuality and what they find attractive. They are usually intrigued. My buddy just looks like an ass with vanilla taste. good luck! GQguy
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Friends will, for the sake of levity, exploit some of your vulnerabilities; that's to be expected. There are other personal quirks or flaws that are simply off-limits and I think that this is one. Real friends wouldn't go there.
Rather than coming to blows over it and creating a scene, I would like to recommend the use of a tazer. If properly used, it gets your message across very discreetly, even in a crowd.
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Thanks for all the great advice guys!
I guess I could and should have explained it more but I'd run outta space!
Short watered down version is I let my buddie and his g/f move in back on Sep/01/08 for a "couple of weeks" til they found a place...they just moved out two days ago...
The "foot thing" got out to my closest friends about 2 and half years ago. At first they razzed me I defended myself for my sexual interest and then it just dissapated to the odd remark..but that was just when we were hanging out with JUST US.
Now enter "Kelly"(not real name). My buddie told her..for whatever reason I don't know...so she decides that she will join in on the razzing...except she is 2 years too late!! Plus she has fat jacked up dirty feet so yeah...
My other buddy "Jason"(not real name) has an interest in feet...not a FF but just likes pretty feet. He even joined her at Wu's and posted a couple of threads showing him cumming on his girl's peds!! No one says fuck all to him though...
There is just so many elements to this story that one minute I want to just rip into her and them but then the next minute I just want to go away and say fuck them there not worth it... or as ToeTapper suggests the "friendly but subtle" approach of the taser!
Now knowing all this information care to chime in again fellas??
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