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Hi everybody. I'm new to this forum and this is the first time in my life I've ever talked about my foot fetish. I've kept it a secret all my life because people find it "taboo" or "strange" or whatever you want to call it. I'm 19 years old, I live with two of my friends who are 20 and we use the same computer. The other day I went on a foot fetish site and I accidently left it open. I'm almost positive my friends saw it because they were acting all weird when I saw them later and kept hinting things about it. I really don't know why but I'm so embarassed about it I don't even like to be at the house anymore. Should I even care or let it get to me? I know it's a common fetish, but I feel like my deepest secret has been revealed and it makes me really uneasy when I think about it.
Tell me what you think.
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your new? it says you registered almost 5 years ago. lurker eh? i hope you continue to post.
but first off, if that is your biggest secret, you are one lucky dude. but i hate to break it to you. embaressment doesnt go away, it only lessens. but DO NOT let it get to you, that will drive you crazy.
jw, how do you enjoy sex if nobody knows about your ff?
-------------------- "Nina, this is my house, you work for me, and I want to suck your toes." -Big Trouble (2002) Posts: 1855 | Registered: Nov 2007
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yeah i registered 5 years ago but i'm not a lurker. I barely ever go to the forum, just contributions lol. and I still enjoy sex, I've just been too scared to tell a girl i've been with because I don't want to freak them out. idk, i wish i could not let it get to me but i can't help it.
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If you're scared of it, how can you ever please your desires? That would be like saying you're ashamed of something that makes you...you. You should never be ashamed of anything about yourself. If someone doesn't like you having a foot fetish, that's too bad for them.
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Mate, its really at first but i WILL get easier. I don't go telling my friends im into feet, its none of their buisness, id rather my friends think ive never kissed a girl then tell them my buisness, others on here are much more open but if you don't want to be then you don't have to :-)
Second of all, if you have a new girl friend or whatever, tell her that this is something that you want her to know, not any of her friends or anyone else, you telling her because you trust her, this will also make her feel really special that you trust her.
When i told my girlfriend (well actually she guessed and told me haha) but when i said, "yeah sure i really like feet" she was so happy she new what pleased me :-)
At the end of the day, if shes not got a positive look on it, then is she someone you wanna be with and will she keep you happy?
Hope some of this helps! oh and if your friends ask about that site, say it something you found in your junk email, no biggy :-)
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best to just get over it m8. accept the stigma of freaky and learn to embrace your inner perv. it will serve you well down the line. may the force be with you
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You should not be embarassed. Be proud of admitting that a girl's feet are sexy and important to you. You know that THEY have a favorite female body part. If the keep after you use it as an opportunity to educate them about the number of guys who love the many different aspects of woman's feet and footwear. I'd even go so far as touting the fact that you can better completely satisfy a girl because you give their feet attention.
I'll also second what warp said. If you find a girl who really loves you, she'll let you see and enjoy her feet because she wants to make you happy. That's exactly the case with me. My wife didn't know for years that I had a foot fetish but she immediately got on board- taking better care of her feet, wearing sandals and flip-flops and foot jewelry all the time, and letting me give attention and enjoy her feet. Didn't take long before she admitted that she really likes it all.
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I'll second what my friend feetluvr and others have said: Embrace it. Don't be embarrassed. Yes, you can have fun with it -- "Some guys are tit men, some are ass men, and some of us like sexy legs and pretty feet" -- but the minute you let on that you're embarrassed, your friends will continue to torment you with it. Because that's what friends do -- they bust your balls because they think it's funny. (It's rather immature, but that's another thread.)
But look at how many celebrities have admitted to being foot fans over the years ... it's mainstream now. It's no big deal. It's not as if you get off on wearing diapers, a Viking helmet and a duck bill. (Not that there's anything wrong with that.) You simply appreciate a well-turned heel and women who take care of themselves -- and that you love every part of a woman's body. That's all you have to say if you're ever asked about it. It also helps if you look them square in the eye and do not smile when you say it. Be serious about it.
And, besides, you can also point out that nothing -- and I mean nothing -- gets you into a chick's panties faster than a nice foot massage.
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This happened to me at your age but my first girl friend told all my mates. I spent around 2 years clearing my name by pleading igronance to the fact that I ever had an ff. I kept it under wraps with future girl friends. But recently I told my current partner and my sex life has exploded into new highs.
My girl friend is excited by ff and I'm slowly converting her. But this isn't about that, it's about saving face from your friends (which I understand). The solution:
don't admit it. Laugh it off. Imagine it never happened and by being so confident in your response, your friends will begin to question what they saw. Trust me, it works!
Keep us posted buddy.
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TS II said it best i think. it is about how you face your friends and the best way is to make it a non-issue. the bigger deal you make out of it, the bigger deal they will. if you shrug it off, they cant rib you too much. it's like when you tease someone. if they dont respond in any way, how much fun it is?
but it's impossible to act like it doesn't bother you, because it is as you discribe it "your deepest secret", which I think is the wrong way to discribe it.
Your personal sexually related desires are just that, PERSONAL and it's very human to feel uneasy when people know these details about you, because it's better to be kept privat between yourself and your partner, it's not really meant to be shared with your best friends or roommates or something, it's not casual conversation stuff, Fuck being modern and hip, we're all human and it feels like a very privat and personal thing, one which is amazing to share with you're loved one, but not with others just for fun.
so I can understand your feelings, I have the same thing, I'm around 30 years old now and i've been caught like 3 or 4 times by my best friends and close relatives, it's almost unavoidable.
They know about it, but they never bring it up, because there's no point to it! That's just what happens, people close to you sometimes learn a little too much about you in the process, haha, don't feel strange about it!
But if these guys keep acting dumb and try to make fun of it and you, it's not to be taken lightly as if it's just fun and jokes, Fuck those guys!!! laughing at people or trying to make someone uncomfortable in this way is just low!!!
LOW!!!
which is the best way to discribe those roommates behavior!!!
keep[ your head up, you're sexual desires (love for feet) are personal and if they make it into a jooke just becauyse they found out accidentally, it's just disrespectfull to you.
they have no descency or respect towards you and they're 20 years old already, damn, they're not 15 or 16 anymore, grow up!!!
don't worry about people like that!!!
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thanks guys i appreciate all the advice and understanding. lately i haven't cared or thought about it and just let it go, and they haven't said anything either. life will go on lol
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I understand your concern. You like what you like. Trying to ignore or subdue your passion is not (emotionally) healthy...that is why this site is very therapeutic--it's a great outlet. Stay grounded with your hard wiring (i.e. your feelings). You have to be durable to be a fan of pretty female feet because everyone will not understand; poke fun due to ignorance; and cause you to second guess yourself. We are unique and on a higher plane. Some just don't get it, and never will. Don't sweat them (i.e. your friend who keeps hinting.) If you have the courage (and is asked about it); say, ***with a straight face*** yes, I like pretty female feet...is that an issue? Don't be embarrass. Stay true to what you like. Stay STRONG. You are definitely not alone, just look at fans of this site. We get it, dude.
-------------------- V/R, FM9 aka Mr. Footbooty "She had real pretty feet. I was always a sucker for pretty little feet... Outside of her being pretty and hip, with a good body, her feet is what attracted me." - p. 39 of "Miles" (Davis) The Autobiography Posts: 8821 | Registered: Sep 2003
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