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This question has crossed my mind many times, and I would appreciate feedback.
Say, for example, a guy has been with a girl for a period of time, whether there has been intimacy between them or not, is it unrealistic to think that if you just ask your gf to smell her feet, that she will just take off her shoes, and socks, as it may be, and let you do it. Or.. do you have to be more.. subtle, and start play via a foot massage?
I'm single now. In the past, foot play has started via a massage. Although, when I was younger, I just used to ask babysitters to smell their feet. Sometimes I had to cajole, but I got them to do it.
After I was dating a girl for a period of time, and I knew we were involved, I would just love to be able to say to her. "Honey, I have a foot fetish, since I was five years old. I would appreciate if you could please take off your shoes and socks, and let me smell your feet". I know that might sound.. gross.. but, as you are my significant other, you're the one I'm supposed to be doing this with, and I'd appreciate if you could accomadate me. ". I've discussed this scenario with my best friend. (male). He says that in his opinion, a girl should have no problem allowing me to smell her feet, but, might not love to have her feet licked or her toes sucked, due to ticklishness, etc. My feeling is, if I could get foot smelling, and even some foot licking/kissing/toes sucking, that would be good enough.
Thoughts on this? Do people think it is realistic that a girl will just bare her feet to her man, and let him smell them upon request, or, does it take more.. subtleness, like a massage, to get her into such?
quote:Originally posted by MitchC: Do people think it is realistic that a girl will just bare her feet to her man, and let him smell them upon request, or, does it take more.. subtleness, like a massage, to get her into such?
yes it is very realistic for a significant other to do so, otherwise for me personally, i could not categorize her as someone close to me. now the only time i can think that it is not realistic to expect them to bare their feet for you is when they are strangers you have just met.
however, even with strangers this can be a reasonable expectation. so considering all things, i believe that women with whom you have a close level of intimacy, i believe that they should be baring their feet for you. otherwise, reconsider how close you actually think she is to you. and with that in mind, reconsider her motives for being with you if she is not willing to bare those soles
I couldnt see myself asking a stranger to smell their feet. However, if someone I was in an intimate relationship with refused to let me smell or worship their feet, my reaction would be like "Why can I touch intimate parts of you, and not your feet?"
Hopefully, this will never happen, and whoever I end up with, will be understanding about my foot fetish.
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I understand why you would want to wait until you were 'involved' with the S/O but at the same time discussing your FF with her should be discussed a lot sooner. What I mean to say is that although I'm not sure of your definition of "involved" is in terms of time but lets say for example you mean 3 months. So at this juncture of 3 months you decide to "drop the FF bomb" and she not only doesn't let you smell the toots she is completely turned off and the relationship ends. There is 3 months GONE, whereas say by the 4th or 5th date(so within a month) sexual things will have either happened or at the very least talked about which gives you a viable way to discuss it without being completely random.
Moral of the story is that its not really fair to expect to wait say the 3 or 4 months to become involved with a woman and then spring it on her and expect that she will be alright with it because she is involved with you too, would YOU want her to say that she enjoys a certain fetish and she wants you to indulge her? Because hey, she figures that your involved so you "should" indulge her...
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It depends on how comfortable the both of you are and how you approach her with it. However, if a girl is into you, a girl is into you. The worst thing that could happen is that she says no, but I doubt it would obliterate a relationship unless it was soon in the relationship.
Just be up front. If you hide behind your fears you will never get what you want. I could walk up right now and tell my girlfriend, "I want to smell your feet" and she would indulge me. This is because she loves me and I have been up front about my fetish from the start. I don't think she gets anything from it, but she loves that I get something from it.
Its certainly not unreasonable, but I don't advise that you break the ice with asking to smell her feet; just tell her that you have a foot fetish, she will ask what she can do to get you off.
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Smelling is a little tougher because it's further out there in the foot fetish realm. If a girl asked to smell my feet i'd be a little creeped out. Why? Because they smell bad! Is that a problem for her who wants to smell my feet? No, she wants to. It's a problem for me. It is up to her to get me over the smell part. Switch roles to cater to your situation.
This is what I do:
A soon as we are kissing I might throw her legs onto my lap as I kiss her and take off her shoes. I'll check out her feet. I always say they're cute ect and why. I've heard responses from: eww gross I hate feet to....I love my feet I think they're sooooo cute!. During foreplay and sex touch her feet. Don't be weird about it. Even before sex give her a full body massage to ease her into your touch and focus on her feet. Soon she'll get used to you touching her feet. Mind you odds are NO ONE has touched her feet before so she has to get used to it. Imagine if someone was started grabbing at your feet? It'd be weird at first right? During sex toss in some toe sucking. She's heard of it before and she might even like it. Never ask. Men do(of course by gauging what they're doing). If you're kissing her feet or whatever smell them. Here's the key..your feet turn me on! And then show her! Fuck her brains out. Then afterwards smell her feet again...and fuck her brains out again. A woman wants to be desired no matter what...and good sex isn't easy to find for her either. She'll take it at any cost. Always make her cum and she'll always come back.
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Make it fun/cute. Girls dig that sorta thing. Hell, today I did a shoot with a friend I've had for years. She has never posed for me until today. For close to a decade we didn't really talk much unless we saw each other in public. For the last year we have talked online and such.
Anyhow, I was carrying her tennis shoes and socks today while we were walking to a location for a photo shoot. I asked her why her shoes were all warm. I said she must have wore them before I picked her up - knowing full well that it was because they were in my trunk and the car was hot. She said that, so I laughed and said, "oh well, they probably stink anyhow." She laughed and said they might and they're her work shoes. I said, "Nice! And smelled them." She laughed and asked if they did smell. I said a little bit, but I kinda like that. She just laughed at me.
Point of the story - kind of what I keep saying. Make it weird and she'll think it's weird. Girls like to be pampered and have fun too. Be all creepy with it and she'll think it is too.
quote:Originally posted by Patrick: Make it weird and she'll think it's weird. Girls like to be pampered and have fun too. Be all creepy with it and she'll think it is too.
this couldn't have been more well put. if you are presenting and idea to a woman she will often use your own initial reaction as a gauge by how she will also react.
own the idea and be confident. there have been so many times where i have taken creepy or perverted ideas and gotten it past would-be unwilling women simply because i presented the thoughts to them in such a way where i did not think it was creepy or weird in any way whatsoever.
now mind you, inside my head i knew the perverted stuff i was asking for was like beyond freaky for the normal person, but i at least presented it to the girl as if it was just fine (and often times even fun and adventurous LOL).
own the idea and most times, these women will be happy to participate
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blue, thanks. I've learned from my experience that one cannot plan when sex will happen. I've had some situations where its happened earlier, and some later. I'm also not one who pushes the sex button.
I talked to a girl online for a while that I thought I was going to meet up with, but it never happened. After a few conversations, I said something like "I like women's feet. Is it okay if I give you a foot massage if we get to know each other". To which she said "Yes". A couple of conversations later, something came up about how I have liked to smell female feet since I was very young. I then said something like "Would you be okay with it if I wanted to smell your feet when you came home from work?" She said something like "Yes, if you wanted to, you could smell my feet". We never ended up meeting, for other reasons, but she was cool about it.
I like what maniac said. I certainly would tell her I have a foot fetish. I couldnt hide that no way, no how. If she absolutely refused to let me play with her feet, ever, she's not the right girl for me then.
I see what Patrick means about not being creepy about it.
I'm one who relies on "gut" sometimes. I think one can get a feeling for when it the right time to ask to massage, kiss, or smell a girl's feet. Hopefully, as I'm going along, the gut feeling reaction will kick in, and it will all work out well.
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Not all women are alike...met this girl once and we were playing twenty questions in the car with a friend of mine who's her friend and the subject of feet came up. She hates feet...hates her own feet and would like NOTHING done to her feet...so as I said...every woman is different. And funny enough...you should prolly start with kissing and sucking...thats prolly a lil more acceptable than initial smelling...just work ur way into the smelling or let her know that her feet smell incredible...the smell acts as constant foreplay...and make her hear u taking deep breaths.
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Here's my experience. When my husband and I first met, he immediately told me that my feet were a turn on for him. I thought it was kinda silly at first, but then I had a boyfriend in college who got turned on by my feet too. So I really wasn't a stranger to the whole fetish thing. When the time came that me and the hubby got close and kissed for the first time, he already made his move...while we were getting passionate on the couch (kissing only), he took of my boots and socks and gently kissed the soles of my feet and sucked on my toes. I was a little tipsy at the time, but it really felt great. My feet never really smell bad so I wasn't uncomfortable with it. I think some women have insecurities about their feet, but for the most part most women are okay with it. I've talked about it with my close friends, and most of them think it's a a sweet gesture.
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Lots of great advice here. My 2 cents worth- don't wait as long as I did.
In general terms, it is a pretty reasonable expectation that the longer you date someone the more likely it is that they will agree to foot fetish activities, even if for no other reason than to make you happy.
I deeply regret waiting twenty some years to tell my wife. Similar to anyone learning something new and different she asked lots of questions about my specific fetish likes and dislikes.
She had heard about foot fetishists but really didn't know much about the extent of desires and activities that we guys are interested in. (Someone did enter she and her best girl friend's apartment- through an open window- and steal some of their dirty panties one time)
Some foot fetish activities (like sniffing feet/shoes) she just totally cannot understand at all. But because she loves me and wants to make me happy- she would do them for me. However I'm not into that.
But doing things like collecting and wearing sandals and flip-flops frequently, wearing toe rings and anklets, letting me touch, massage, suck and lick her feet she now lets me do whenever I want- and enjoy it's. (I NEVER was allowed to touch her feet earlier in our marriage because her feet were so ticklish).
In short, I've seen a total transformation of her- from caring nothing about having tons of sandals and flip-flops and foot jewelry and not letting me touch her feet- to taking excellent care of them, painting her toenails, collecting sandals and flip-flops and wearing them all the time, and letting me do whatever I want with her feet during foreplay and sex.
The million dollar question is- would she have been so accepting earlier in our marriage. I truly don't know- but I think she would have.
If you have a girl who does really love and care for you I think you'll find that she'll go to great lengths to cater to your foot fetish desires.
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myfavorite, I think for you it wasnt so odd about allowing your hubby to do things to your feet, because you already had experienced a boyfriend who had paid attention to your feet. My thought for myself is: "What happens if I meet a girl, and the only attention she's ever had anyone pay to her feet, is like, if someone such as a brother, or even signifcant other, tickle tortured their feet?" Maybe I'm being paranoid, but, it's a thought.
feetluvr, I dont know how you had the self control to wait 20 years to tell your wife. You're a better man then I am. How did you see her barefoot all that time, and make love to her, and not do things to her feet?
For myself, I would visualize getting to know the girl first, and, as soon as any intimacy starts, I would want to tell her. I'd be apprehensive about her not understanding, but I couldn't hide it. I'm also concerned about the idea of having all the other interests in common with her, but her just hating to have her feet touched, for whatever reason. Hopefully, this is just paranoia on my part, and will never happen.
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