Those of you with wives and girlfriends who know or don't know about your foot fetish, you really need to change your way of thinking because you may as well not even look at other women--period! If you see feet as sexual, then as a man, you should see the rest of a woman that way too. Translation, you can't win! Compliment another woman's feet = you lose. Compliment or look at a woman whose feet you can't see = you lose.
If you only see looking at another woman's feet as cheating, how do you feel if you look at the rest of her?
Are you telling us your wives, fiances, and girlfriends are OK with you looking at other women as long as you can't see their feet? Lets put that theory to the test shall we. Go out one day with her, and openly compliment the first hot woman whose feet you can't see. Or, go out alone and do the same thing. A woman's feet are part of her, so if you compliment a woman's feet, you compliment her too. Just as if you compliment a woman on her hair, you compliment her by default. Its a packaged deal.
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I complement girls (not about feet though because I just wouldn't feel comfortable in the same way as complimenting a woman's bust or legs or whatever) because I'm a nice guy.
In fact I find it easier and they find it nicer as there's no undertone of wanting to get with them. It's just saying a nice thing.
quote:Originally posted by jediofthefeet: OK, this really has to stop.
Those of you with wives and girlfriends who know or don't know about your foot fetish, you really need to change your way of thinking because you may as well not even look at other women--period! If you see feet as sexual, then as a man, you should see the rest of a woman that way too. Translation, you can't win! Compliment another woman's feet = you lose. Compliment or look at a woman whose feet you can't see = you lose.
If you only see looking at another woman's feet as cheating, how do you feel if you look at the rest of her?
Are you telling us your wives, fiances, and girlfriends are OK with you looking at other women as long as you can't see their feet? Lets put that theory to the test shall we. Go out one day with her, and openly compliment the first hot woman whose feet you can't see. Or, go out alone and do the same thing. A woman's feet are part of her, so if you compliment a woman's feet, you compliment her too. Just as if you compliment a woman on her hair, you compliment her by default. Its a packaged deal.
Does it not just depend on what kind of relationship the two have? Three way things can get out of control quickly for many reasons. Someones feet being at the very bottom of that list I can tell you for most women.
Yes clandestine credit card charges for foot sessions with femdoms and having that show up on the wifes joint bank account is "lack of honesty"
Which is a relationship killer in the first place. But the theoretical "guilt" of looking around, men will always do that. I don't know what compels some to equate it to 'cheating'.
But if they are in strong, normal relationships where the other party - the woman - the most important party to allow them to play around, does so with consent, then what is the problem?
If that gets to far and the wife feels neglected with complements or other, she can rescind the whole agreement and assert her needs.
So I'm not sure what 'has to stop'? And where the whole seeing their feet or not seeing them comes in. I think it's about the type of relationships people have and with what people.
Generally and I do mean broadly and generally the types of posts you mention come from someone clearly 'unhappy' or 'unsatisfied' with their current relationship, so they 'would' overstep the boundaries that relationship has, and do more than just complement, massage or otherwise, their subconscious tells them to, so hence the 'guilt', as there is cognitive dissonance. One to satisfy a want, fantasy, sex drive, the second to be moral, just, true and faithful.
Posts in these forums about that help people cope with the aftermath of cognitive dissonance, so I don't believe anyone should stop or be chastised for sharing said thoughts.
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Nothing wrong with looking. That is a bit much. But if you go out of your way to drool over every girl that walks past you, especially if your girlfriend/wife is there, that's ignorant. Sorry. If your girl had a thing for guys with big arms, would you want her walking up to guys with big arms and telling them they looked good? I doubt it. It's called common sense. I think we sometimes take our own fetish too damn seriously and overthink EVERYTHING!
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I generally agree with him. Footsex with a girl other than your significant is technically cheating. I see nother wrong with looking at other girls' feet, so long as you're not blatent about it.
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For me it's all about respect. Respect for your partner, and respect for yourself. You all know here that my lovely wife embraces my foot fetish, and love of her beautiful feet. I have posted many sets on here showcasing her sexy feet. She has even posted on the board in the past. In our personal life I do pamper her, compliment her beautiful self (not only her feet), and her beautiful mind too.
She knows I look at other women especially if they have hot feet/heels showing. She will also point out a woman she thinks I would like if I do not see her first. She is just cool like that. When I do look, I simply look briefly. I do not stare, I do not oogle, and certainly do not disrespect my wife by "over doing it". I will even make comments to my wife about the other woman. Again, not rude comments like, "I'd love to taste her feet", but simple comments like, "wow, her heels are amazing", or comment about the pedicure. My wife will laugh, call me a perv, or make a positive comment after mine about the other woman.
It would be disrespectful, rude, mean to do anything else, and go overboard with the looking and comments. I would never make my wife feel second to anyone else. She is my wife, my partner, and the woman I love...she and her needs come first. Just as I would not like to be disrespected, or made to feel inferior if she were to over do it about compliments to a good looking man. And yes, we do switch roles....where she will see a man out in public and give him the once over. I see it, and cannot help but tease her about it, and make her blush. I do tend to a bit further with the joking comments as I love to make her blush bigtime. She has a "thing" for Firemen, which I use to tease her whenever possible. LOL!
She knows I always come home for "dinner", and would never step out of line on her. I am just not "that guy", and she knows this. We are quite secure in our relationship, and who we are together and apart.
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Yay for an awesomely nice post from 2swift!
It's nice to see a bit of nice once in a while.
I wish I said what he said actually because there is literally not a part of that that doesn't apply to me and my (our) relationship (firemen excluded).
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With my ex-boyfriend, I did get very mad if he looked at other girls feet, but that was also because he would get caught up lying about foot related things. Like asking MY friends if they would send pictures, or asking my sister over to "hang" out after making it clear he hates her for her personality.. Oh, and actually going out of his way to massage my friends feet when I wasn't there.
He pretty much considered it nothing since it was "just feet", sorry but if it's nothing, then you wouldn't have a monster trying to escape your pants..
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2swift speaks the truth on this. Looking only natural for both partners but having the respect for one another is what counts. Although, I must admit that 2swift and I are to very "spoiled" men when it comes to our ladies. And Kim loves firefighters too lol
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quote:Originally posted by ShortLivedTyranny: With my ex-boyfriend, I did get very mad if he looked at other girls feet, but that was also because he would get caught up lying about foot related things. Like asking MY friends if they would send pictures, or asking my sister over to "hang" out after making it clear he hates her for her personality.. Oh, and actually going out of his way to massage my friends feet when I wasn't there.
He pretty much considered it nothing since it was "just feet", sorry but if it's nothing, then you wouldn't have a monster trying to escape your pants..
Hah, been waiting for an outlet to vent this, yay.
Oh, you guys broke up?
I thought it was a little off letting - I forget who it was - have a little nibble and such of your feet lol
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