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As an avid foot fetishist, I read alot, browse alot and stare at pics just as the rest of the lot, yet would not initiate a convo about feet with my newly S/O and frankly don't want to open up my can of worms quite yet. From the many posts I've read here it would seem that women are more accepting of men with such a fetish. I do not find these women. Of the few women I have met in the past, considered my interest "creepy", "perverted" or "just not right". Now, I can pound away but when it comes to my hand happening to graze her feet, I feel smacked in the head with a do-not-touch sign. Now I know what you're going to say b/c I've already read it and am not going to "kick it to the curb. I realize this is my first post and am not expecting too many replies, but maybe some one here has a better plan of action or experience to share. Thank you for your time.
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MrShrimper, First off, welcome to the forum, I'm sure you will enjoy many entertaining moments here, to say the least.
Second, I always played a little coy with it and never just blurted out my attraction for feet. You have to PAY ATTENTION to what they say and be ready to have a reply that will gently steer the conversation in that direction. All women love to talk about themselves, let them, but don't be afraid to bring up things like they have nice shoes, or if they have an anklet or something like that.
Third, if they have a negative reaction and make some comment like, feet are ugly or something of that nature, just reply that, maybe it's a 'guy thing', but you don't find ANY part of a female ugly and that you can appreciate a woman from her nose to her toes. I know, I know, sounds corny, but if you sound confident and have the right sense of humor, you can pull it off.
Fourth, offer to give a back massage and then let your hands sort of wander down her legs and to her feet, but DON'T rush and take your time and then don't linger unnecessarily long on her feet once you do get there, work your way back up her legs and keep going.
I've actually had girls sort of come to the conclusion all by themselves and eventually say, you're a feet guy aren't you? To which I would slyly grin and say, gee, you think?
This is a topic that has been covered on here, literally hundreds of times and there are always plenty of responses. Search back through the forum and read some of them as well. This is just my 2 cents worth and you know what they say about free advice, it's not worth what you paid for it. LOL
Good luck, ned
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I'm sorry to hear that you are having such rotten luck with women and they haven't been willing to indulge in your attraction to their feet.
With the description that you gave of how women have reacted in the past to your foot fetish and them responding that it's "creepy", "perverted" and "just not right", there's something else going on there. While maybe some of it has to do with "luck of the draw", I find it difficult to believe that every single woman's reaction has been that severe and polarized. However, you said that has been their reaction so I'm thinking that maybe there's something that either you're saying or doing that turns women off to the point of giving you that reaction.
As ned pointed out, the absolute wrong way to go about things is just to blurt out that you like women's feet. Personally, I never come out and say anything of the sort when dealing with women. The word "fetish" has too much of a negative stigma and cannotation in society and, because of that, it creeps people, especially women, out. Also, as ned said, if a woman reacts negatively towards her feet, or feet in general, then you shouldn't make a big deal about it, try to convince her otherwise or anything along those lines. In a situation when a woman mentions that her feet are killing her, I never force the issue. I'll offer her a foot massage and if she replies negatively, I don't attach anything to the outcome of her saying no. The only thing I'll say is that it's her loss. I know I give a damn good massage so she's the one who's losing out on the deal. I don't beg and plead for her to take off her shoes or to let me put my hands on her feet because it comes off as being too needy and desparate - both qualities which are characteristics of a guy who's "creepy", "perverted" and "not right". So, the first big thing I would say is don't treat a "rejection" to a proposed foot massage or touching her feet as that big of a deal. You have to be nonchalant and cool and not continue to insist that she'll like it if she tries it and belabor the issue. You'll get nowhere fast acting like that.
The second thing that's important is that women need to feel comfortable around you and they need to trust you to some degree before any kind of bodily contact can happen on that level. This means dropping your expectations completely of interacting with a woman just because you want to "get her feet". Women pick up on this quickly. They have a built-in radar to pick up behavior that just doesn't feel right. If it doesn't feel right to them, then your chance of getting even as far as a foot massage go down drastically. Since you mention you're currently seeing someone and, from the sounds of it, it's pretty new, then she first needs to feel that she can be comfortable in your presence and that she can trust you. There's no magic pill or formula to this other than to drop, for the time being, your expectation that you'll get her feet in your hands immediately. The only way she can be comfortable and trust you is if you feel comfortable with yourself and you have confidence in who you are. By extension, you'll also need to feel confident about your attraction to women's feet as well. The more you can treat it as no big deal and not "your dirty little secret", the more positive a woman will respond to you. If you're not treating it as a big deal, then she won't see it as a big deal when you make the move and begin to massage her feet and then beyond (i.e. sucking on her toes, licking her feet, etc.).
Having confidence in yourself and building comfort and trust, from my experience, can get you a long way when it comes to interactions with women. If you're sketchy and have a seedy motive, women pick up on it quickly and they won't trust you enough to be around you, let alone taking their shoes off and letting you touch their feet.
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I was going to help the guy out with a response, but shit you guys covered alot. Good luck MrShrimper, listen to these guys they know what they're talking about.
quote:Originally posted by MrShrimper: Topic: One man's hell
You're hell is not limited to one man, because many of us foot fetishists experience this same type of problem (if not now, then at least a few times or many more in the past). You present a very valid set of questions and concerns for the average frustrated footman.
quote:Originally posted by MrShrimper: ...considered my interest "creepy", "perverted" or "just not right".
Oh you have really hit the nail on the head with this one. I have met women in the past who think I am sick in the head or just a total freak. It is a shame that they judged me in such a way because of my love of feet. I had tried many times to be normal but it had only worked so much. I was finding out that most everyday girls out there would only treat me perfectly normal when i had kept my foot fetish completely under wraps.
Almost as soon as I had let them know I liked their feet in the past, they started to think to themselves: "OMFG, CREEP-UH-ZOID!!!!" I eventually became very frustrated of living like this.
quote:Originally posted by MrShrimper: I can pound away but when it comes to my hand happening to graze her feet, I feel smacked in the head with a do-not-touch sign.
I have felt the same way many times with g/f's in my past who's feet I wanted to touch. I have even held out for long periods of times and then tried it and they saw right through my BS and just pulled their tempting feet away in distress. The oddest thing about all of this was that I was a really great looking guy (also in phenomenal shape) back in those days with a very respectable job and promising looking future as opposed to the fat disgusting loser that I look like today with a horrible career. And the thing is that I get way more feet now than I did back then because of the insight that I am about to share with you.
Many years I spent trying to figure out a way around their disdain of my fetish and what I have found is that you have to make the woman comfortable 1st before you move in, otherwise, you might as well give her a fly swatter and say: "Hey, smack me in the head, cuz I am a dirty foot-worm."
Anyways, the comfort tactic can work pretty well with a lot of girls if you do it right. And by this I mean you really have to do it right. But also there is another way to do it too in such a way where you can still get the woman's feet, but she is highly uncomfortable with the way you are perving.
I have found the latter to also be a great way to get feet because you have basically done nothing to interfere with her natural course of reaction and this makes the experience seem much more real. The best way to get to a woman's feet and still preserve her instinctive reaction is to find a female stranger who you've just met and who you don't already know. Make her a financial offer for her feet that she can't refuse. And then you basically find a nice safe private place where you can indulge in her feet.
Once you have found that place and start licking and sniffing her feet, I can almost promise you she will let you do the touching w/o figuratively swatting you. However, if you look at her reactions, it is high probability that she will think it is creepy in her mind, but at least she is consenting to the pervertedness, which is great.
That's two different methods on how to get a woman to let you touch her feet. If one doesn't work, you can always try the other. These are the two best methods I have come across during years of research and plenty of initially failed attempts that made me driven to dramatically increase my success rate, which I have finally learned to do.
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Some women are not ready but others are. Sounds simple but still true.
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There are also alot of women out there who think its cool to be into feet, as this reveals something interesting and different about you. You are not like the average Joe, feet make you unique.
I think those women who are intolerant are weird and creepy for being so closed minded, limiting and unaccepting of anything that falls outside their 'little box'...
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Ok. So, I don't know if you fellas are still around or not, but, thanks ned land, Fate111 and Tyler D. for your insightful posts, five years ago.
After a harddrive crashed in 2009, I lost sight of this forum until today when I was able to copy data from 7 older HDDs onto this computer.
In 2010 I met a woman we'll call M. She had a penchant for feet to an extreme degree and had friends who were aware never to be barefoot around her. A friend of mine turned me on to her so I wore some casual sandals just like most of us crackers do down here, nowadays. Attempting to be nonchalant and keeping my eyes off her bare feet and in her eyes I caught her glancing downward often during a BBQ at said friends' house. It was, one would say, an impossibility considering the norm of being considered way too freaky to actually happen to a footman without some sort of joke on me. But it wasn't a joke. M has a foot fetish for mens feet and I for womens? SOLD! We've had 1 kid.
Salut!
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quote:Originally posted by MrShrimper: Ok. So, I don't know if you fellas are still around or not, but, thanks ned land, Fate111 and Tyler D. for your insightful posts, five years ago.
After a harddrive crashed in 2009, I lost sight of this forum until today when I was able to copy data from 7 older HDDs onto this computer.
In 2010 I met a woman we'll call M. She had a penchant for feet to an extreme degree and had friends who were aware never to be barefoot around her. A friend of mine turned me on to her so I wore some casual sandals just like most of us crackers do down here, nowadays. Attempting to be nonchalant and keeping my eyes off her bare feet and in her eyes I caught her glancing downward often during a BBQ at said friends' house. It was, one would say, an impossibility considering the norm of being considered way too freaky to actually happen to a footman without some sort of joke on me. But it wasn't a joke. M has a foot fetish for mens feet and I for womens? SOLD! We've had 1 kid.
Salut!
Never heard of a woman attracted to men's feet before! But anyway, my girlfriend has been very accepting of my attraction to her feet. I say take it slow. Spring is on its way, so you'll get to see her feet, soon. Perhaps you could offer to massage her feet, and see how she reacts to that.
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