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You've got to play the game or play by yourself?
Throughout my dating life i've learned that to be successful there are games that must be played. Every so often I find a girl I like and stop playing these games thinking that she's different. Sadly i'm always reminded that I either play the game or play by myself.
What are your experiences in this? (relationship guys)Did you get the partner you wanted or did you settle for what was available? I find that settling is no problem....and the behaviours i'd exhibit with a woman i'd "settle" for are the same behaviours i'd exhibit while playing the "game" with a girl I really liked with much success.
What are your experiences?
GQ
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To win anything in life, a game of some sort must be played. It is said that it doesn't matter how you won it. What matters is that you won. Regardless of how you think she's "different" from the others you've entertained, a strategy into winning each other over is put into place.
I didn't always get the partner I wanted, but if the alternative was someone who was just as hot, I felt grateful for the time being. I don't see myself as someone who would settle down with one lady for a long time. I'd rather live the life of a bachelor.
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: Throughout my dating life i've learned that to be successful there are games that must be played....
Did you get the partner you wanted or did you settle for what was available?
I was very fortunate in that I didn't have to play many games- but then again I didn't really "play the field"/ My first GF in high school came after me. I dated her from 7th grade until our first year of college. (can you say monogamy?) Thought we were going to get married, but drifted apart amicably afterwards.
I became very good platonic friends with another girl who had a crush on me but never let me know it (or I might have acted sooner). She actually moved away to LA to finish college, moved in with a guy who she eventually was engaged to but who was verbally and physically abusive. She moved back East and during our convo's after she returned we decided to try dating since we were already great friends.
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I'm currently being kinda 'trained' how to play the game with someone I fell deeply for recently, who kinda likes me I think, but is playing serious head games that's just draining me at the moment.
Maybe I don't want her enough? I'll admit I wanted her enogh to play the game for a while. But at the same time I find myself losing touch with the rest of my life and I can grow quite resentful of that.
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quote:Originally posted by feetluvr: I was very fortunate in that I didn't have to play many games- but then again I didn't really "play the field"/ My first GF in high school came after me. I dated her from 7th grade until our first year of college. (can you say monogamy?) Thought we were going to get married, but drifted apart amicably afterwards.
I became very good platonic friends with another girl who had a crush on me but never let me know it (or I might have acted sooner). She actually moved away to LA to finish college, moved in with a guy who she eventually was engaged to but who was verbally and physically abusive. She moved back East and during our convo's after she returned we decided to try dating since we were already great friends.
Probably the best decision I ever made. I got the right one.
I think this can happen a lot and makes me a bit weary of all the dating advice out there about playing certain games. I think maybe we should take the advice as pointers and not note for note??
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