Say your girl's feet got ran over by a lawnmower or she got frost bite and had to have them removed. Would you kick her and her stumps to the curb? I probably would. I know that probably makes me a jerk but I can't help it. It would probably be different if it was my wife but not some girlfriend.
am I the only jerk here?
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Posted by z80 ParaNoia (Member # 1767) on :
im a jerk too.
Posted by Gimme (Member # 6872) on :
no comments.. sorry..
Posted by ledaemon (Member # 198) on :
This was actually brought up several months ago. Perhaps CJ can use his Spidey senses to scare up a link to the old thread.
Posted by Tina Marie (Member # 3407) on :
Wow.. I feel sorry for you if you only want your girlfriend for her feet. And I will agree with you, that's being a jerk. I personally would call you something else (smiles).. each to their own though.
Posted by bobthemonkey (Member # 5876) on :
honestly i would probably put stay with her but it might put a bit of a damper on my attraction to her phisically
Posted by ChrisSlut (Member # 6745) on :
I agree with Tina, that does make u a jerk and i would call u something else also. And its totally wrong to only want a girl for her feet.If my boyfriend was like that, he would be kicked to the curb and more.
Posted by Calico Jack (Member # 2299) on :
quote:Originally posted by ledaemon: This was actually brought up several months ago. Perhaps CJ can use his Spidey senses to scare up a link to the old thread.
LOL, Spidey senses... I wish I had his abilities 'cause then I'd be slinging that web shit anywhere and everywhere, and I'd be swingin' from City Hall to the Empire State Building and wearing spandex pants that accentuate my crotchline. Hey, if Tobey can do it, why can't I? Back to the subject at hand, I do remember a thread with this same topic having come up a while back, but as I recall it was deleted not too long after it was out of the gate, so that might be the one you're thinking of.
Calico Jack
Posted by Wrinklesguy (Member # 732) on :
LOL this thread cracks me up..do you know the ODDS that something like that would happen? C'mon!
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
I've thought a bit about this issue, too. I probably would stand by her. But she would know about my attraction to feet, so she'd have to be VERY understanding. As Wrinklesguy just pointed at, the odds of this happening are very small. Having said this, I'd also like to say that I'd never date a foot-less woman. Sorry. By the way, I've heard that there are some weirdos who are attracted to women with stumps where their legs/arms used to be!
Posted by Lyrical (Member # 6603) on :
I think it depends on the nature of the relationship. But to those who thinks it's wrong to want someone just for their feet, then they would also have tp say that it would be wrong to just have a physical(sexual) relationship with someone. If you have established a friendship based on feet, then the friendship doesn't necessarily have to suffer but obviously the footplay would. If there was a deeper relationship then probably a lot of conversation would be needed to establish how to move forward from here. Let's hope though that none of us are ever faced with a decision like that.
Posted by Jak (Member # 7343) on :
Nope he aint the only jerk because ive already told my girlfriend that if something real bad permanantly injures her foot i would have to break up with her. Im not with her ONLY for her feet, but im young, and i already know i wont be with her forever anyway. But i mean why let your fetish suffer when therse a million other girls out there that could treat you just as good and with non-deformed feet? I mean how odd would that be, a man with a fetish for "perfect" feet being with a girl with deformed feet. Come on now. But if it was a marriage situation, that'd be a whole different story.
P.S. The other day my girlfriend accidently hit her pinky toe and part of her toenail had to come off, she kept asking me if i was gonna break up with her just because of that Posted by ledaemon (Member # 198) on :
quote:Originally posted by Tina Marie: Wow.. I feel sorry for you if you only want your girlfriend for her feet. And I will agree with you, that's being a jerk. I personally would call you something else (smiles).. each to their own though.
However Tina, let us say just for the sake of argument your husband had a freak accident with the wet/dry vac in the garage and his unit was removed leaving not even a stump (don't even ask what he's doing with the vac) what would you do?
Sorry, I feel like being a little ornery! Posted by Elzbennet (Member # 1234) on :
I agree with Tina! If my boyfriend dumped me because of a foot injury he should be shot with no mercy! I just cannot figure how a personīs value can rely solely on a part of her body. I am a woman with feelings! I have a personality! I have something to offer besides my feet! Sorry but i canīt understand it! The idea of a man liking me for my feet only or mostly because of them is too unpleasant, as it is strange for me knowing that a guy who i could like and that could like me as a person, would reject me because of my feet not being pretty enough for him! Itīs just a body part and thereīs so much more to offer! I just think itīs a scary idea. Kisses Kisses
Posted by vasduten (Member # 2211) on :
When I met my wife for the first time, it was as if time stopped, and there we were, just me and her. What got me were her EYES. I had a gut feeling that she was the woman I was going to marry and get old with. Sound corny? It is. True, but corny. I have never loved any other as much as I love her, except for my daughter, maybe, but that's a different kind of love. Don't get me wrong, her feet are TO DIE FOR, and I love kissing them and getting off with them, but damn... Leaving someone because they lost a body part? That's cold shit right there. Now, if she lost her HEAD, I'd have to find someone new, I'm no necrophile. If she lost both her feet, I'd have to just come here and look at Elzbennet's feet. (Not that I don't already ) Even if it was a girlfriend and not a wife, I'd still stay with her. I'd never be able to live with myself if I stooped to being so shallow and leave someone who was already having a bad day. For a fetish?!? If one's fetish gets in the way of living one's LIFE, then it's time to reassess where one is coming from and where he is HEADED. A fetish is nice, it is an added dimension to one's sexuality, but it ain't the whole sugaree. Eating pussy can get me just as hot sometimes.
Posted by z80 ParaNoia (Member # 1767) on :
let me just say that everybody has an attribute that they want in a mate. everybody..and those who don't have that attribute will simply not be accepted sexually..bottom line. the only question is whether one chooses to admit it. that attribute isn't always physical. sometimes it's social or psychological or spiritual. it doesn't mean you only want someone for "one thing". but when we seek a mate we want many things and when one of those key things is no longer a part of the person and attraction fades both people suffer....because the person who lost the attribute must suffer the effects of being with someone who is less attracted and the other must suffer the effects of being less attracted to his or her mate. it's just more merciful in the long run to break up while there is still some mutual respect, friendship and platonic love left. because if my penis fell off i would rather my woman be honest and dump me if she felt significantly less attracted....because that would free me to find someone who is totally attracted to castratos and eunichs.
Posted by Lyrical (Member # 6603) on :
Elzbennet says her feet are just a body part but that would be the same for a butt man or a leg man or a hair man or an eyes man etc. We all have our preferences for what we like from the opposite sex. Some like smiles some like eyes...Let's face it, most of us notice something about the person physically that attracts us and may encourage us to approach the person. we don't really know if the person is nice or not when we see them on the other side of the room. Had a girl tell me once after my football years that my gut was just a little to big for her. I don't recall her being concerned with my feelings or personality at that point but it did push me to lose the gut but once I was a 36 waist again I didn't want her because I knew that she would have major issues if I gained a few pounds He r buddy was digging me though even when I had my 40 incher....Waist that is ;-)
Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
It's funny how ladies will ladies would claim that a man is shallow or a jerk for this. Meanwhile alot of them wouldn't give a guy a chance or dump him if he was broke or never had money. You bring up personality, would a guy's personality matter to you if he was broke and weighed 400 pounds?
Women are just as shallow as men.
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
I agree, Mighty Mike! (Where can I see Mona's feet? ) I'd like to pose a similar question: What if your girl had only one of her feet disfigured/lost? Since she still has one beautiful foot, that wouldn't be so bad.
Posted by Plastercast to thank (Member # 827) on :
quote:Originally posted by Lyrical: I think it depends on the nature of the relationship. But to those who thinks it's wrong to want someone just for their feet, then they would also have tp say that it would be wrong to just have a physical(sexual) relationship with someone. If you have established a friendship based on feet, then the friendship doesn't necessarily have to suffer but obviously the footplay would. If there was a deeper relationship then probably a lot of conversation would be needed to establish how to move forward from here. Let's hope though that none of us are ever faced with a decision like that.
My thoughts exactly as I would'nt even wish a dilemma such as that on an enemy!
Posted by ToeLuvinFirefighter (Member # 2688) on :
No way would I leave the wife over her losing her feet to a tragic accident. But I would try having a foot girlfriend...LOL
Posted by F18Hornet (Member # 11172) on :
quote:Originally posted by Mighty Mike: It's funny how ladies will ladies would claim that a man is shallow or a jerk for this. Meanwhile alot of them wouldn't give a guy a chance or dump him if he was broke
Well said, MM. I know lots of women like that. There are too many wallet-lovers in this world. Superficiality is everywhere my friend.
I hope the question asked in this thread is one I never have to answer. Physically, on the one hand, there's more to a woman than just her feet - one loves the whole woman whilst having one's own favourite parts of her body - but on the other one could be selfish and say if a bodypart which had become part of everyday sexual activity was no longer there then one could look somewhere else.
But if I were in that situation could I leave her purely because her feet were no longer there? No, to do so would destroy not only our relationship but also her self-esteem and sense of self-worth. No-one can be that callous, can they?
I reckon most men would agree.
Tough question.
Posted by ghost (Member # 1664) on :
just from readign this thread now if im ever with a girl i'll make sure to protect her feet from anything! instead of taking a bullet for her i'll jump down and cover her feet from any danger.
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
That's the spirit! Posted by jediofthefeet (Member # 1463) on :
I was very much broken up when I heard a vehicle ran over one of Claudia Schiffer's ultra-high arched feet.
IMO, she has the highest arches of any supermodel, even Latetia Casta, who by the way thinks her feet look like sausages, so she hates them.
Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
haha I remember starting this thread
my thoughts haven't changed at all
if my girlfriend lost her toes she would be replaced by a girl with 10 healthy plump toes
it would be different if it was my wife, then I would just cheat
she would do the same to me if I told her flipping hamburgers would be my dream job so I can't say I would feel guilty
Posted by DennisIsEvil (Member # 11755) on :
quote:Originally posted by Mighty Mike: It's funny how ladies will ladies would claim that a man is shallow or a jerk for this. Meanwhile alot of them wouldn't give a guy a chance or dump him if he was broke or never had money. You bring up personality, would a guy's personality matter to you if he was broke and weighed 400 pounds?
Women are just as shallow as men.
You do have a valid point there, Man. Let's face it girls, you play the shallowness game too and you know it. At least we're admitting where we stand.
Yes I probably wouldn't feel the same for a chick if she had an accident involving her toes just the same as some girl would feel if I had an accident involving my wallet.
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
Our marriage vows (call us old-fashioned) still contained the "in sickness and in health, and 'till death do us part" vows. No way losing anything is a deal breaker. I agree with Vasduten-that would be cold shit.
Posted by nylonfootsniffer (Member # 3488) on :
Vasduten, You make a great point. I have met the woman who I love and I could never see leaving her just because something happened to her feet. I have met a woman a long time ago who did only have one foot. She was a pretty mexican girl I met on the internet, while on the phone she told me she only had one real foot and that the other one was wood, I thought she was joking, turns out she wasnt, she was in an accident and she had a prosthetic foot. I still dated her briefly, she was very cute with very long, thick dark hair (another fetish of mine is hair) But to this day I have soem of my foot friends who tease me about it, asking how i could get a footjob without getting splinters, etc..
Posted by nylonfootsniffer (Member # 3488) on :
.......Another thought. If any of your wives came down with breast cancer and had to have her breast removed, would it be right to leave her? What if you had an accident and lost a testicle or started going bald and she left you? How would you feel>?
Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
I said it would be different if it was my wife
Posted by eff (Member # 11277) on :
It's funny that most of the responses in here where someone is accusing you of being shallow are coming from women.
I agree with the previous poster that women can be just as shallow as men.
Ladies if you were with a guy and you loved him as a person, but he had the perfect body in your eyes and could give orgasm after orgasm, then one day he had a serious accident and was paralyzed from the neck down (both of you guys are only 29 years old mind you) what would you do?
See the difference in men and women is that women would "try" to stay with the man, act like they really were trying to make it work, and then file for divorce and claim, "he's changed since his accident, and he's just not the man I fell in love with". LOL.
Ladies it's nice to believe that you would stay with the man, but lets just be realistic.
Sexual satisfaction isnt everything but it plays a lot into your relationship. I doubt any of us (men and women) would marry someone that couldnt satisfy us sexually.
And when that's gone a big part of the relationship is also gone. Now some couples can work through it and stay together, some couples can find other ways of sexual satisfaction, (maybe even bring someone else into the sex) but the bottom line is that things will never be the same and it will take some adjusting.
Now my girlfriend has extremely sexy feet, and she knows that I love her feet. Is that the only reason that I'm with her....no it's not. (that's the first thing that caught my eye though ) but if something happen to her legs and feet, it would be hard to deal with, but I would try. You have to also keep in mind that she might not feel comfortable or confident knowing that she's lost something that was so attractive to me, so her attitude just might change, which is another subject that I touched on earlier.
But ladies, I understand that you would like to believe that sex isnt a big enough part of your life to make you leave your husband/boyfriend but lets just be honest.....sex is a big enough part of all of our lives (unless you're over 70) that taking that away could cause some serious problems. (not saying that you would leave, but it could cause MAJOR problems.)
Some couples have problems after breast cancer, and it doesnt necessarily have to be the man's fault...the woman could have a hard time adjusting and just push the man away. It's a lot of different things that can happen.
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
Or how about this: You're married to a rich guy, and he confesses one day that he's pretty much lost all his money. Would you stay with him, ladies? Tell the truth!
Posted by scarlet (Member # 2117) on :
If my GF lost her feet..(well you guys would lose a model, haha) i'd still stay with her.
It'd be painful enough for her to have it happen, but the amount of pain i'd cause her by *breaking up with her* after the event would be far too much for me to know about for me not to kill myself for causing it.
That, and i'd just not want to. I love her, and her feet aren't my life.
Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
It would be a challenge like any change in life, but I would adjust to the current situation. That is what a married couple should do. Life is like a roller coaster with highs and lows.
Posted by guitardrew (Member # 6635) on :
theres no all encompassing definitive answer for this situation (or any other), there are infinite variables and its a situation by situation thing. thats why it makes for such great discussion and debate.
Posted by Mona (Member # 8351) on :
one of my biggest fears,i would hate for something to happen to my feet!
luckily they have two sides hehe,if i get a scar on top,i could still use my soles on my guy:D
Posted by Lou Gojira (Member # 983) on :
So let this be a warning to all you ladies that love your man, but tend to mow the lawn barefoot...all two or three of you at best...keep those shoes on! Posted by Plastercast to thank (Member # 827) on :
quote:Originally posted by ToeLuvinFirefighter: No way would I leave the wife over her losing her feet to a tragic accident. But I would try having a foot girlfriend...LOL
Yes too be fair too you I guess you would have too otherwise you would go insane!
Posted by The Champ (Member # 14891) on :
even though this is wrong, at least these guys are honest. personally, i could never leave a special woman just becasue of a tragic accident with her feet.
Posted by Girlgotsole (Member # 14405) on :
I would stay with her. Lol. Unless you were in love with her feet. I'm in love with the girl. Sex is great with or without. However, for the times that you just wanted it, come on guys, you can handle some porn if you really have to see feet every now and again. You're in love with the girl, not the pads. Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by vasduten: If one's fetish gets in the way of living one's LIFE, then it's time to reassess where one is coming from and where he is HEADED. A fetish is nice, it is an added dimension to one's sexuality, but it ain't the whole sugaree.
Two great nuggets of wisdom. Add those to the fact that I love my wife and have pledged to be faithful to her (in sickness and health btw) my answer is a big no- I'd definitely keep her.
Posted by ozkar (Member # 13264) on :
no.
Posted by Ummmmm (Member # 15145) on :
Very compelling debate. I see both sides equally... Posted by Ticklingsolesmaster (Member # 14850) on :
quote:Originally posted by Tina Marie: Wow.. I feel sorry for you if you only want your girlfriend for her feet. And I will agree with you, that's being a jerk. I personally would call you something else (smiles).. each to their own though.
I'll fill in the blank for Tina Marie
Mighty Mike is a real ass hole jerk Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by Ticklingsolesmaster:
quote:Originally posted by Tina Marie: Wow.. I feel sorry for you if you only want your girlfriend for her feet. And I will agree with you, that's being a jerk. I personally would call you something else (smiles).. each to their own though.
I'll fill in the blank for Tina Marie
Mighty Mike is a real ass hole jerk
yes that is what she meant
and it's probably true but there is nothing wrong with that because i'm willing to bet she is every bot as shallow as me
I wonder why tina quit responding in this thread, she must have agreed with my next few posts
I wonder if any of the ladies who think i'm a shallow jerk would date a guy that was shorter than them.
i'm betting no for the most part
I already mentioned the job thing, if a girl doesn't like your job you have no chance no matter how great everything else is
i really wish tina would answer these questions
girls are far more shallow than guys, anybody who says otherwise is lying to themselves
Posted by ozkar (Member # 13264) on :
While any statement can be made, it remains worthless if it can not be supported, or at the very least least tested, with some semblence of objectivity. These generalized statements and questions thus do not warrent any contextual response. To do so would give them undue credit as being meaningful.
Posted by Plastercast to thank (Member # 827) on :
quote:Originally posted by The Champ: even though this is wrong, at least these guys are honest. personally, i could never leave a special woman just becasue of a tragic accident with her feet.
Let's just hope & prey that noe of us are ever put in such an awlful situation for the sake of the lady's in our lives & ourselves.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
what a thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
being i'm not in the situation.. it's super easy to say that i'd stay put in the relationship. i honestly believe i'd stay and find a way to be content and happy.
that being said.. though i don't agree with MightyMike's views.. i do see where they're coming from. i had a church lady who i grew up with tell me that if i'm dating a gal and something major happened to deform her.. i should dump her. mind you.. she was one who was known for giving sound advice to folks.. her opinions were highly respected. and that was her thoughts on dating that she shared with me.
people do many crazy things for love. I won't leave my gal just because she lost her feet. i will say this.. the thought may cross my mind if we've only seen each other a few days or a few weeks. there isn't enough connection to overcome the massive hurdle that may arise, but it's not really a deal breaker. i'd stick around to be there for her.. and that may be the trigger to keep the relationship going.
at any point.. if i was that shallow (as some have been accused).. i'd be shoping around for another woman. why? as i've said on other forums.. getting to my woman's feet is a bit more challenging and more work than I care for. some days.. it really annoys the crap out of me. but it's only one small part of my relationship. i can't expect it to be 100% perfect. jus wish it was some other part that annoyed me (something i'm more prepared to deal with)... instead of limited access to her feet.
i respect all points of view in the thread.. but did get me thinking real hard. i know for a fact, my lady would stay with me if anything happened. i just hope she knows i'd stay with her if anything happened to her. (i mean.. know it more than jut having heard me say it)
RPM
Posted by climax (Member # 6641) on :
simply ask yourselves, what would your girlfriend/wife or whatever do if your dick had an acident and had to be cut off, or something preventing her from being satisfied the way she loves, theres two sides to a coin ya know.
As for me, is she was my special person, no way could I leave her, she completes me and i love her, so no.
Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
I would like more female feedback in this thread
Posted by Plastercast to thank (Member # 827) on :
quote:Originally posted by climax: simply ask yourselves, what would your girlfriend/wife or whatever do if your dick had an acident and had to be cut off, or something preventing her from being satisfied the way she loves, theres two sides to a coin ya know.
As for me, is she was my special person, no way could I leave her, she completes me and i love her, so no.
In about 80% of cases you could be right to to come to your conclusion but at the risk of being perdantic I can't help thinking that a small minority of whom belive blokes only want one thing would adopt an attitude of thank goodness for that & suddenly decide that a man minus his penis is their dream-partner in an ideal world.
Posted by demonic_angel666 (Member # 6509) on :
I'd like to say that my partner is shorter than me when I'm in my heels and roughly the same height as me when I'm barefeet, he had no job, was a stoner and still lived with his parents when I first met him, I didn't run in the other direction, then again I'm not like half the shallow ladies in the world. As for if he lost his dick, lol thats what a vibrator is for, sex isn't everything and I hope for his sake that feet aren't everything either if they are then I think thats very sad and I feel sorry for you.
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
ooh, tough one, I think I'd have to introduce her to a few guys I've seen post pics on the internet and let their chemistry destroy mine Posted by canIsmellYourFeet (Member # 11183) on :
When I revealed my foot fetish to one of my best friends, he asked me this very same question. My response? Buy foot porn. Its hard as f*ck to find someone you're compatible with, will treat you right, not cheat on you, and bring out the best in you. If I ever found that, I wouldn't leave her over her loss/mangling of feet.
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