So, I've been seeing this girl for the past few weeks, drop dead gorgeous.. Amazing feet, BUT I'm discovering there's trouble afoot (no pun intended)
She knows about the foot fetish, but.. well I'll let this AIM conversation do the talking
ME (9:40:48 PM): hey Auto response from HER (9:40:48 PM): out call or txt
ME (9:41:00 PM): you just left like 2 minutes ago ME (9:41:00 PM): lol ME (9:41:07 PM): but yeah.. while im still thinking about it ME (9:41:24 PM): its something i do enjoy, like a lot ME (9:41:56 PM): idk, hopefully u can work with it ME (9:42:02 PM): lol ME (10:01:00 PM): think about it i guess
HER (10:01:09 PM): hmmm yea i dont know
ME (10:02:19 PM): what makes it weird for u though? ME (10:02:41 PM): just the fact that u dont particularly like ur feet?
HER (10:02:50 PM): it just is its like me asking to finger ur ass its just not normal
ME (10:03:21 PM): ew ME (10:03:22 PM): lol
HER (10:03:29 PM): seee
ME (10:03:40 PM): thats totally different though ME (10:03:42 PM): lol
HER (10:03:47 PM): no its not
ME (10:03:52 PM): penetration.. aghhh i dont even wanna think about it
HER (10:04:08 PM): its the same for me with feet
ME (10:05:06 PM): ok well like.. i wouldnt have a problem with u *touching* my ass, thats all im doing ME (10:05:08 PM): lol
HER (10:05:40 PM): ahah no i dont liek doing that lol
ME (10:05:48 PM): lol well im just saying ME (10:06:14 PM): its just what happened like the first night we hung out, that wasnt bizarre
HER (10:06:37 PM): what happened?
ME (10:06:53 PM): when i was playing with ur feet, it wasnt anything weird
HER (10:06:59 PM): yea it was
ME (10:07:22 PM): ugh ME (10:07:27 PM): u didnt enjoy it at all?
HER (10:07:36 PM): ummm not really
ME (10:08:02 PM): i think u just have a mental block about this or something
HER (10:08:18 PM): no i think i just dont like it
ME (10:08:37 PM): :-\ ME (10:10:37 PM): i think its more odd that theres like an entire part of your body u dont want touched
HER (10:11:01 PM): no not really HER (10:11:10 PM): im sure there are places u dont want to be touched
ME (10:11:16 PM): nope
HER (10:12:07 PM): idk its that i dont like it
ME (10:12:59 PM): why do i feel like u were ok with it like a week ago?
HER (10:13:12 PM): umm i wasnt
ME (10:13:50 PM): ok
HER (10:13:58 PM): but im gonna go to bed im tired and ill ttyl HER (10:14:01 PM): goodnight hun
ME (10:14:03 PM): well ME (10:14:08 PM): real quick though
HER (10:14:10 PM): ?
ME (10:14:36 PM): if u think its something thats going to be impossible for u to work with.. then idk ME (10:14:42 PM): just think about it
HER (10:14:52 PM): what if it is
ME (10:15:17 PM): im not sure
HER (10:15:34 PM): what do u mean ur not sure
ME (10:16:27 PM): its almost something i need, it would be like eliminating kissing to you ME (10:16:38 PM): maybe not to that extent
HER (10:16:39 PM): are u serious
ME (10:17:19 PM): its definitely something thats important to me on a certain level ME (10:18:01 PM): just give it some thought, i feel like its such a non-issue, im kind of surprised youre so like.. against it
HER (10:18:15 PM): well im surprised u are so for it
ME (10:18:51 PM): i guess the best way to say it would be that like ME (10:18:56 PM): we all have our quirks ME (10:19:17 PM): and i can function sexually without it ME (10:19:23 PM): but it makes it that much better for me ME (10:19:34 PM): really ME (10:19:57 PM): so just give it some thought i guess, i would appreciate it
HER (10:20:22 PM): yea but i really dont think im goign to change my mind
ME (10:20:34 PM): and in practice, i think its a lot less weird than youre imagining it to be
HER (10:20:47 PM): i just dont like it HER (10:21:04 PM): ugh this can go on forever HER (10:21:16 PM): and i need to get to bed so ill ttyl
ME (10:21:17 PM): yeah ME (10:21:23 PM): alright goodnight
HER (10:21:30 PM): night night
ME (10:21:33 PM): text me tomorrow
HER (10:21:39 PM): k, night babe
is away at 10:21:56 PM.
ok, so to explain, we hooked up the first night we met, I was PISS drunk and I played with her feet, which she seemed totally cool with
the next night we went over to my friend's house & watched a movie, we were both laying on the couch, she had her legs up over me and I played with her feet then, she seemed cool with it then too
help me out guys, I want to be able to play with this girl's feet, what's the problem?
Posted by FTPHANTOM (Member # 47) on :
Well sence you done let the cat out the bag,the only thing I can tell you is not to let her feet be the main focus,you gotta like the whole chic,not just the feet.I know how it is we all like feet here,but you gotta please her the nonfoot person way,or mix it up. Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
Mixin' it up a bit is key.
Posted by Wrinklesguy (Member # 732) on :
i'd be like "NEXT"..plenty of fish in the sea bro..don't let one woman fuck you up or make YOU compromise!
Posted by Ummmmm (Member # 15145) on :
Takeoffyoursocks:
Dude, you have to have an excrutiating and amazing patience with this lassie. When you see her next, DO NOT BRING IT UP! In the proverbial words of a salesman, "The next one that talks, loses" What I'm saying is, act like the conversation never happened. Do what you normally do. Whenever you have the chance to touch her peds, do so in a casual way, like lay your hand on the top of her foot. Don't stroke it, rub it, or even kiss it. Just let it lay there. Her reaction will tell you what's up. If she brings it up, don't defend yourself or sell her on it. Just ask her to explain. Give her a forum. Do not rebut! Just listen. Again, this will tell you if she's worth pursuing. Posted by tootsylover (Member # 4584) on :
Yeah it definitely sounds like you have your work cut out for you with this girl and her feet...especially seeing how she stated over and over again in your IM conversation that she doesn't like feet or you playing with them.
I know I probably wouldn't be able to handle a relationship with someone who was so dead-set against me doing stuff with her feet...it would suck having to sneak around behind her back all the time and do stuff like sniff her shoes or dirty socks while she's not looking or even smell/play with her feet while she's asleep.
But then again I've never had a girlfriend so I am pretty much just going on conjecture here.
Posted by scarlet (Member # 2117) on :
lol to closed minded immature girls.
i'd go find someone else.
Posted by punkluvsfeet (Member # 9970) on :
ask her to give u a Cleveland steamer or a alabama hot pocket and then see how weird she think u are
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by FTPHANTOM: ...the only thing I can tell you is not to let her feet be the main focus,you gotta like the whole chic,not just the feet.
As others have said, it sounds like you're going to have an uphill battle with this gal. Even more frustrating, but necessary, is what FTPHANTOM said- you need to not go straight for the feet all the time and let them be the main focus, at least not yet.
Posted by zappa2001 (Member # 1726) on :
She let you massage her feet on two occasions and let you know she wasn't ok with it in an IM conversation.
As far as I'm concerned any chance you had with this girl is over with. She's letting you know that she's ok being friends but not ok being with you in that way. I believe she was ok with the foot massage when it was just a "foot massage"(unless she's a total idiot and can't tell a person to stop doing something they don't enjoy), but now that there are connotations that come along with a guy with a foot fetish giving a foot massage... she's letting you know she didn't enjoy it.
The other advice in this thread I agree with. I only agree with it if I thought this girl was going to give you a chance. The way I read that IM, it seems like she's telling you there isn't one.
Posted by takeoffyoursocks (Member # 15425) on :
Thanks for the advice everyone
It sucks because we're both really attracted to each other, we had sex within a week of knowing each other, but obviously this presents a big problem
The first time we had sex I didn't introduce any foot-related shenanigans, but I've since let her know that I wanted to
Wrinklesguy: I'm almost to that point bro
Ummmmm: Best advice I've heard, really appreciate it
punkluvsfeet: I laughed pretty hard at that.. You're right though, and I feel the same way, it's like of all the things to be considered "weird" feet would be pretty low on the scale
Anyway, my parents are going away for a few weeks on Sunday, so she'll be staying over.. We'll see how this turns out
Again, really appreciate it guys
Posted by takeoffyoursocks (Member # 15425) on :
dashboardfeet88: you're definitely right about not wearing out the subject, that's a sure fire way to end it real quick
Posted by Wrinklesguy (Member # 732) on :
LMAO @ Cleveland Steamer omg!She would head for the timber on that note! HAHA
Posted by catsman (Member # 10269) on :
I'm 47y/o, and I've seen lots of brush offs, and dude, she is starting the process of dusting you. Sounds like she is looking for a reason to say adios!
Posted by vineofthorns (Member # 1313) on :
well if shes under or near like her early 20s this is probably very common if your just recently hookin up wit her.please dont get mad,but to me it appeard as tho you were pressuring her into it.thats the worst thing you could possibly do wit youngins lol.DO NOT bring the foot thing up to her again,she knows what you like,and now its her turn to either react @ somepoint or not,and your best bet is to sit paitently n hope for the best.i have a friend who when we were younger(we were like 17,18 @ the time)was repulsed by feet including her own.now that we are in our 20s she finally got into wearing sandles n open toed shoes,pedicures etc.and she acually asks me what colors she should have her nails,or what shoes would look best,etc so in my opinion its a maturity isuue right now.but maturity issues or not if yall together for a wile dont be suprised if she goes along with it eventually out of love
Posted by DennisIsEvil (Member # 11755) on :
So let me get this straight she lets you play with her feet twice and now she's telling you she hates feet? No offense but I think you got everything you're gonna get out of this one. Move on because it sounds to me like you found yourself a GRADE A neurotic.
Posted by takeoffyoursocks (Member # 15425) on :
catsman: you know, I kinda get that impression too :-/
vineofthorns: she's 20, and you're right, I felt kind of like a dick after I talked to her, I told her today that I was sorry for pushing the subject
DennisIsEvil: she's a former stripper, so yes, she's a little bit loopy.. a friend of mine once said "they're either strippers because they're crazy or crazy because they're strippers"
definitely seems to ring true
Posted by Ummmmm (Member # 15145) on :
quote:Originally posted by takeoffyoursocks: catsman: you know, I kinda get that impression too :-/
vineofthorns: she's 20, and you're right, I felt kind of like a dick after I talked to her, I told her today that I was sorry for pushing the subject
DennisIsEvil: she's a former stripper, so yes, she's a little bit loopy.. a friend of mine once said "they're either strippers because they're crazy or crazy because they're strippers"
definitely seems to ring true
Dude, You brought up the subject when you SHOULDN'T have... Not to worry, there is hope. She's a stripper, which means you have the advantage. However, odds are you will fall off your horse because, at age 20-something, we guys are still too immature (the little head does the thinking instead of the big head), and that's a sad part of life. Ok, the ball is in your court... Posted by Sinnister (Member # 2394) on :
What is the problem here?
Is she like the last woman on earth or something? Girls that sexually narrow are very few and far between. Next?
Posted by takeoffyoursocks (Member # 15425) on :
Ummmmm: I'm going to do exactly what you said and see how that goes, it seems like the most logical thing right now
Sinnister: I know, I know, I feel like I should just cut my losses and say "see ya later" but we're both very attracted to each other, she has great feet and I'd like to see if I can work on this
Posted by Neo (Member # 1891) on :
Is your real name "Sisyphus"? Sound like an uphill battle. Even if she starts letting you enjoy her feet, isnt it more fun to partake of a womans feet when she actually enjoys it, instead of "tolerates" it? No one wants to be tolerated rather than enjoyed.
Posted by feetpies (Member # 10542) on :
Uh, hey guys...?
Sometimes what women SAY and what they do or want are not the same things.
Many women will SAY they don't like anything sexual with their feet... but you can still turn them on by messing around with their feet. If you ASK them about it (or any other "strange" things.. like teasing their ass a bit...)they'll SAY they don't like it. But when you do it they like it.
EVERY SINGLE women I have ever touched around her asshole has LOVED it. 100%... and there have been more than a few. But if you ask them later about it they'll say it's strange. But (trust me) they like it when you do it. (Shoving a finger inside might be a different story... but as long as you are gentle...)
So she sounds like she's in the same category to me.
Posted by scarlet (Member # 2117) on :
quote:Originally posted by feetpies: Uh, hey guys...?
Sometimes what women SAY and what they do or want are not the same things.
Many women will SAY they don't like anything sexual with their feet... but you can still turn them on by messing around with their feet. If you ASK them about it (or any other "strange" things.. like teasing their ass a bit...)they'll SAY they don't like it. But when you do it they like it.
EVERY SINGLE women I have ever touched around her asshole has LOVED it. 100%... and there have been more than a few. But if you ask them later about it they'll say it's strange. But (trust me) they like it when you do it. (Shoving a finger inside might be a different story... but as long as you are gentle...)
So she sounds like she's in the same category to me.
Sounds like you didn't read the conversation. This girl is obviously not in the same category. There are plenty of feet hating girls out there.
Posted by FTPHANTOM (Member # 47) on :
my wife is one of those foot hater's
Posted by takeoffyoursocks (Member # 15425) on :
quote:Originally posted by FTPHANTOM: my wife is one of those foot hater's
how do you get around that??
Posted by iluvfeet4me (Member # 12488) on :
I have read some pretty good advise in my opinion in this thread. I would have to agree with the others...Just let things happen if you really dig this chick and let things happen. Don't sweat it...My wife wasn't into feet until I revealed my fetish to her and now she totally digs it and likes that she can please me with her feet. I think you just have to open that door and let time take its course.
Good luck! Don't let her go just cuz of this.
My opinion
Posted by takeoffyoursocks (Member # 15425) on :
Just wanted to update everyone and thank you for your advice, I really do appreciate it
She was supposed to come over tonight but she texted me saying she "didn't feel up to it"
and that "we need to talk"
I think we all know what that means, but I'll let you guys know what happens anyway
Neo: you're absolutely right, and that's the mentality I've adopted.. it's just so much better to be with a girl who ENJOYS what's going on, rather than just tolerates it
thanks again, guys
Posted by ilikesoftpeds (Member # 9269) on :
quote: She was supposed to come over tonight but she texted me saying she "didn't feel up to it"
and that "we need to talk"
I think we all know what that means, but I'll let you guys know what happens anyway
Sounds like she is moving on herself. Don't bother with her anymore.....she is lame. There are much better girls out there......
Posted by takeoffyoursocks (Member # 15425) on :
Well, it happened
She told me that we needed to talk on Sunday night, didn't end up happening until last night.. Long story short, we broke up (although we weren't even really "dating" lol)
I even asked her flat out if the feet thing bothered her, she said "a little"
We just didn't mesh on so many levels though, I think it's all for the best
Anyway, I'm hanging out with a girl a friend of mine used to hook up with tonight, met her on Sunday night when plans with this other girl fell through
Let me tell you, amazing legs (some of the best I've ever seen) and great feet to match
We'll see where that goes..
Posted by The Champ (Member # 14891) on :
im sorry about what happened man. i hope this new girl is everything you want out of a woman
Posted by takeoffyoursocks (Member # 15425) on :
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