Yesterday i took a girl back to my place to have sex, btw i am secretive about my fetish, anyway she were naked in my bed expecting me to just shove it in but i was just not getting hard, its was very embarrising as she is obviously thinking im a girl butt naked in your bed & touchin you & your limp, & obviously the more i tried it just wern't happening i were panicking, so what i did was closed my eyes while she touching me & were thinkin of all my feet fantasies lol, & that worked but i still wern't fully hard, also do any of you guys find it hard to put it in the whole? everytime im hard & trying to put it in the hole, it starts going softer as im just basically not turned on barely at all by the vagina, i just wish that i didn't have a fetish & were turned on by breasts, & pussy, is there any way to be turned on more by other things? please help
Posted by Craigy boy (Member # 3340) on :
Your fetish has become an obsession. You need should see somebody about it. Dont get me wrong, i get aroused by feet in a big way, but not to the detriment of everything else. If fact, nothing gets me going more than going down on my wife.
Posted by loveherfeettosmell (Member # 2953) on :
you are fucked!
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
All I can say is incorporate her feet into the sex act. Start with her feet as foreplay until you get fully aroused and then dip your wick in her puss! You'll have to get over the secretive bit if you want to move forward. If she's over at your place naked and ready for action I really doubt a woman is going to kick you out of the sack if you play with her feet a little bit first.
My favorite position that get the best of both is to penetrate her missionary style, but have legs bent up over your shoulders where you can easily maneuver her soles to cover your face. Ain't no lady gonna stop you in the middle of that while hearts are pounding and each are breaking a sweat!
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
I feel you dude. Happened to me a few times when I was younger. It SUCKED! One time with a sorority girl that decided to tell all of her sisters.lol. But she was just as embarassed as I was. Anyway. The solution. Stop getting off to feet on the comp. Actually hold off on getting off. Don't do it so often. You don't want to get to used to you and your computer as a stimulus.
When I went through basic 7 weeks long I didn't see one naked woman or feet. Actually there was a period where I wsn't aroused for a month(seeing nothing but naked guys will do that to a straight guy). Anyway there was nothing that I wanted more than a wet vagina. Feet? No. I still liked them but it was sex I wanted. Abstain for a week or 2. No wu's no self relief. Oh...and work out too. The next woan that comes into your bed after that doesn't stand a chance.
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
get her toes crimped over your nose. once those pheremones start kickin in, your brain can't help but cause an instant and very hard boner!!! Mine are amazing
...not to mention, she'll probably look at you like you're a freak (which is even more of a turn on)!!!
Posted by tom (Member # 223) on :
i would say eat a lot of pussy - girls love it and you can get a lot of foot sniffing oppotunities in down there.
when it comes to laying pipe - get her legs over your shoulders - that way you can sniff of lick her soles quite easilly.
Posted by Feeties (Member # 10561) on :
quote:Originally posted by ThisisMe373: Yesterday i took a girl back to my place to have sex, btw i am secretive about my fetish, anyway she were naked in my bed expecting me to just shove it in but i was just not getting hard, its was very embarrising as she is obviously thinking im a girl butt naked in your bed & touchin you & your limp, & obviously the more i tried it just wern't happening i were panicking, so what i did was closed my eyes while she touching me & were thinkin of all my feet fantasies lol, & that worked but i still wern't fully hard, also do any of you guys find it hard to put it in the whole? everytime im hard & trying to put it in the hole, it starts going softer as im just basically not turned on barely at all by the vagina, i just wish that i didn't have a fetish & were turned on by breasts, & pussy, is there any way to be turned on more by other things? please help
My opinion, "Yesterday i took a girl back to my place to have sex.. " that's your problem. If what I'm thinking is right, she wasn't your girlfriend, or a person you love. It's very different. When you love someone, and when you don't, your body totally acts differently. Furthermore, why would you just bring some girl for sex? I don't understand why people do that.... it's more than that... sex is an act of love, a bond, a communication between the one you love, why do people abuse it..
Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :
Feeties: Do you get to see alot of women's feet in church ? Is Wednesday night better viewing than on a Sunday ?
Just askin'.
_fjb_
Posted by tintin19153 (Member # 3694) on :
I really love feet,but I also love kissing a woman,nice hips,ass and thighs and legs!!!I really feel bad for guys who can only get off on feet.Most women are going to get tired of that real quick.You might want to try viagra.
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
My advice u shouldnt have to subject urself to restraint as some here have suggested. You should tell her u like feet and play with them until u get hard, then go in. If u like aspects of the fetish like i do, then ask if she has ever done stuff or will do stuff, I find speech can also stimulate.
But i understand u man, I'm also pretty obsessed with feet like that - not to the same extent though
Posted by John Matrix (Member # 20166) on :
I had that same exact problem when I started having sex with my girlfriend (who i'm still with). Sometimes she would leave her socks on and it would be very hard for me to get hard I didn't want to seem like a freak and tell her to take her socks off, so I would just rub my leg against her feet and that seemed to work.
Luckily though, eventually I told her about my fetish, and she incorporates feet into the most wild fucks ever!
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
I've been under the control of my fetish to the point that occassionally this happens to me too- but fortunately I'm married and my wife's more than happy to indulge me in foot stuff to get me going.
As Feeties said, the anxiety could be coming from the fact that it's casual sex. But if it's not, then you need to take Ladaemon's advice and incorporate her feet into foreplay and/or sex- hopefully she'll be game for it.
Posted by Wing-Washer (Member # 3013) on :
quote:Originally posted by Feeties:
quote:Originally posted by ThisisMe373: Yesterday i took a girl back to my place to have sex, btw i am secretive about my fetish, anyway she were naked in my bed expecting me to just shove it in but i was just not getting hard, its was very embarrising as she is obviously thinking im a girl butt naked in your bed & touchin you & your limp, & obviously the more i tried it just wern't happening i were panicking, so what i did was closed my eyes while she touching me & were thinkin of all my feet fantasies lol, & that worked but i still wern't fully hard, also do any of you guys find it hard to put it in the whole? everytime im hard & trying to put it in the hole, it starts going softer as im just basically not turned on barely at all by the vagina, i just wish that i didn't have a fetish & were turned on by breasts, & pussy, is there any way to be turned on more by other things? please help
My opinion, "Yesterday i took a girl back to my place to have sex.. " that's your problem. If what I'm thinking is right, she wasn't your girlfriend, or a person you love. It's very different. When you love someone, and when you don't, your body totally acts differently. Furthermore, why would you just bring some girl for sex? I don't understand why people do that.... it's more than that... sex is an act of love, a bond, a communication between the one you love, why do people abuse it..
My opinion is that if true love was required for arousal, people like Maury Povich would be out of business...
It's also my opinion that for you to frequent a website like Wu's and still ardently proclaim your opinions about sex (and frequently judge those of us here who don't share your opinion) is absolutely hypocritical.
To ThisisMe373: You may very well be overly obsessed with feet, in which case there has been some good advice already posted. However, it could also be due to a sudden change in your lifestyle. Have you been overly stressed recently, started working out hard, or changed your diet? When I'm stressed or ramp up my workout/go on a diet, my sex drive goes down for a little while - completely normal.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
a lot of advice was already given ........ i can't relate to you reaaly. feet are icing on the cake, but i like cake the same without icing.
i'm inclined to lean toward what GQguy said in addition to change in lifestyle type stressors mixed with how casual the encounter sounded.
I won't say what you should do, but for me, my lady and her needs come first to my liking her feet... that way, when i don't get feet, it doesn't bother me most times and never affects performance (heavy stress and fatique does that, but thankfully not frequently enough for her to complain).
take what i said with a grain of salt
RPM
Posted by ThisisMe373 (Member # 2340) on :
Thanks guys & yeh i do think it could be down to stress which i have been quite alot, anxiety cus i was really worried about rising to the occation, & just taking her back for casual sex not really feeling comfortable with her didnt help, because with my ex i felt comfortable with her & got easily aroused without feet, but i am seeing her again tomorrow night & do feel alot more comfortable now, & havent masterbated for 2 days & do you have any tips to try get more interest in the vagina ect, anyway guys i will let you all know how it goes tomorrow lol thanks alot.
Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
Have had a few instances with a girl or two who were so not into anything but vanilla (not even sprinkles!!!) and didn't like the feet thing, weren't into oral (done to them too, wtf!!!) and things of the like. I can say I honestly didn't get into them much either.
Now on other occassions, someone I knew liked to do kinky and creative things, I had no issues. Sometimes it depends on the girl.
Want to get into pussy again, my solution is push your face in it and eat it for a LONG time. Enjoy the taste, smell, the wetness and most importantly, getting her off. I'd have to say going down on a girl is pretty much my favorite thing.
Patrick
Posted by ThisisMe373 (Member # 2340) on :
wish getting down on a girl turned me on, ill have to try it, do u think the more i try it, ill get into it?
Posted by Wing-Washer (Member # 3013) on :
quote:Originally posted by Patrick: weren't into oral (done to them too, wtf!!!)
Wow, I thought all women liked receiving oral. What a boring, miserable sexual lifestyle - I'd definitely be turned off by a prude like that!
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
girls not into guys going down on them is far more common than you'd think! i read some stats on that years back and was shocked as to how many aren't into that. some figure going down on the guy is part of being with one so they have gotten ok or fine with the idea.
my lady isn't too into me going down on her, but she won't say no. but doesn't mind if i never do. i do of course though!
RPM
p.s. my ex wanted nothing to do with me going down on her, but she always wanted to go down on me (for those who know me well.. you know how i felt about that)
Posted by Sinnister (Member # 2394) on :
Damn! You need help.
Sorry dude.
Posted by Toesucker85 (Member # 16795) on :
quote:Originally posted by Feeties:
quote:Originally posted by ThisisMe373: Yesterday i took a girl back to my place to have sex, btw i am secretive about my fetish, anyway she were naked in my bed expecting me to just shove it in but i was just not getting hard, its was very embarrising as she is obviously thinking im a girl butt naked in your bed & touchin you & your limp, & obviously the more i tried it just wern't happening i were panicking, so what i did was closed my eyes while she touching me & were thinkin of all my feet fantasies lol, & that worked but i still wern't fully hard, also do any of you guys find it hard to put it in the whole? everytime im hard & trying to put it in the hole, it starts going softer as im just basically not turned on barely at all by the vagina, i just wish that i didn't have a fetish & were turned on by breasts, & pussy, is there any way to be turned on more by other things? please help
My opinion, "Yesterday i took a girl back to my place to have sex.. " that's your problem. If what I'm thinking is right, she wasn't your girlfriend, or a person you love. It's very different. When you love someone, and when you don't, your body totally acts differently. Furthermore, why would you just bring some girl for sex? I don't understand why people do that.... it's more than that... sex is an act of love, a bond, a communication between the one you love, why do people abuse it..
yea i agree wit feeties i enjot foot play with my friend but for me to reach my full foot fetish potential it has to be with someone im dating or in love with.
Posted by ThisisMe373 (Member # 2340) on :
yeh it must have been the nerves more than anything as we have had sex twice since then & its been great, she comin down mine again today, is goin good!
Posted by Wing-Washer (Member # 3013) on :
quote:Originally posted by ThisisMe373: yeh it must have been the nerves more than anything as we have had sex twice since then & its been great, she comin down mine again today, is goin good!
Excellent!!! Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by ThisisMe373: yeh it must have been the nerves more than anything as we have had sex twice since then & its been great, she comin down mine again today, is goin good!
Awesome dude. You're cured! No worries from now on.
Posted by elgordode62 (Member # 25252) on :
I never had that problem, but I agree that if you are having some wood problems, your fetish may be very pronounced. I would recommend a couple of ideas depending on what you wish to do. If you want to indulge your fetish, just let the girl know and see how it goes. The other is to get some counseling and see what can be done to get your mind off feet alone.
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
Glad that have finally found your groove. Nerves - "performance anxiety" - can be a big obstacle the first time out. We aren't always even aware that this concern is in play. However, if this occurs again and again, I would take take elgordode62's advice to seek counseling. Remember that a fetish is defined as the need of an object without which the sexual act cannot be completed (yes, the definition is more involved but I'm trying to be brief). Congrats on getting rid of the dead weight that was keeping you so down.
Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
counseling wouldn't work
if it did there would be no gay people
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
Fetishes aren't a gay/straight issue. You'll find them in any sexual orientation. The counseling I would suggest would be to change, perhaps, to expand the focus of the passion involved.
Shouldn't have volunteered this at this time. Should have found a bed.
Will add to this thread later, if it's important.
Posted by ThisisMe373 (Member # 2340) on :
how do you get counselling? through ur doctor? is it dear?
Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
i have exactly the same problem!
it hurts. i cant tell my girlfriend i have a fetish for feet. she hates feet!
i cant get hard unless i think about feet, Posted by Sabbath (Member # 4844) on :
I had the same problema the first time I had sex, I just relaxed, give her some oral , then started kissing her legs and feet. At this point she asked if I had a foot fetish, I said " well.. I do like your feet ". And then it was easy as pie
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
Your physician will certainly be able to recommend counselors. Additionally, most communities have some form of (and I hate to use the term...sounds far worse than it is) Mental Health Services. Yep, sounds awful.
People don't have a problem visiting a masseuse/masseur because their back aches. Neither should anyone be afraid to go speak with a good conversationalist - who really listens - to discuss the topic they know best...In this case, You. The discussion can be as general or as specific as you like. No personal judgments. You might leave examining your thoughts a little more closely but you'll leave feeling pretty good about yourself - as you should, anyway.
It's not hard to find. Well worth the time.
You may also find that you have no problem that a small application of bourbon can't fix (this last statement is not approved by any recognized organization other than, perhaps, the Bartender's Guild).
I do take your concerns seriously but couldn't resist the last paragraph.
Posted by bruce4c5nf3d6 (Member # 20195) on :
I don't normally post on this board, but I am almost a doctor, just finishing med school, so hopefully that gives me some credibility lol
anyway
I had the same problem, and you'll be relieved to know it's very easy to fix, all you gotta do is stay away from the computer, it's very easy to treat the computer like getting a "fix" and great websites like this one can become your primary means of arousal, what youve gotta do is revert to the state where just thinking about a woman's feet gets you hard, where you dont need to see a picture, then rooting her will not be a problem, if you wanna be good at sex with women without fetish stimulation you can be, just tone down masturbating to once a week maximum, and only look at foot fetish sites once every 2 weeks, there is a such thing as too much of a good thing, do that and she'll be a very happy woman, remember her pussy is much better designed to stimulate you than is your hand or her feet, and abstinence will not only prime you for sex psychologically, but you'll become far more sensitive physically, you may not even need to think of her feet to get hard, but if you do, it'll probably make it better, I have a girlfriend and she doesnt know I have a foot fetish, but I dont care, I play with her feet enough, and the sex is amazing, remember the mind is powerful enough to do anything you want it to do, so just be a tough legend and stay off the pics
its very easy to get addicted to websites when you have a foot fetish
also, dont worry about therapy, it'll just make you feel more uncomfortable, just do what ive said, and you'll be fine, trust me on this
it's a simple problem, with an even simpler solution (do nothing) lol
hope that helps
Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
to be honest... i dont think its a big problem.
its just we really really really like feet buddy!
im obcessed. i think of feet for most of the day and foot fetish related surfing is at least twice a day!
its fine in my oppinion. but we need to find people that appriciate this in our lives.
Posted by Karas (Member # 23934) on :
I have to agree with the future doc btw. Conrats on that (I'm almost ready for my R.N.). The mind is the biggest sex organ and it all starts and end in the mind.
Posted by painter (Member # 17343) on :
ahahhaha getting it into the whole, brotha thats sumthing u gots ta figure out on ya own, thats a fucking nature thing man.be cool
Posted by wrinkleheaven (Member # 25648) on :
Retrain your mind, no more web site pic's, think of it this way----when it's summer we see lot's of bare feet some good some bad and we get SELECTIVE, but when the winter comes and all the barefeet are gone, the first girl to pull her boot off at the coffee shop and expose a bare foot no matter how it looks makes us hard!! Also stop whacking it----if you cant, go to the sex shop and buy a pussy, the kind that suctions to the floor and fuck that when your horny, this will train your mind that the pussy is the way to relief and not your hand
Posted by ThisisMe373 (Member # 2340) on :
had sexy yesterday & didnt wank 5 days prior to it or look at pics & yes it was incredible i were going mad i were so horny & i wernt interested in here feet just wanted to fuck lol thanks alot guys really appreciate it!!!
Posted by Wing-Washer (Member # 3013) on :
quote:Originally posted by ThisisMe373: had sexy yesterday & didnt wank 5 days prior to it or look at pics & yes it was incredible i were going mad i were so horny & i wernt interested in here feet just wanted to fuck lol thanks alot guys really appreciate it!!!
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Wow, I thought all women liked receiving oral. What a boring, miserable sexual lifestyle - I'd definitely be turned off by a prude like that!
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it hurts. i cant tell my girlfriend i have a fetish for feet. she hates feet!